Aging. Wondering what do I do and where will my life lead me? It's happening to all of us. One of the biggest questions is "When the time comes, where do I find a community that is welcoming to me as an aging, retired gay man, without the fear of having to hide back in the closet?" Loren Ostrow, the founder and developer of Out Palm Springs shares how he and his organization is changing retirement living for the LGBTQ community. This insightful conversation might surprise you of the things you a...
Nov 04, 2022•38 min•Ep 197•Transcript available on Metacast You have this burning desire to do your own thing, start your own business, be your own boss. Great. Awesome. Then the challenges arise and instead of walking away from a job, you just built yourself a job that you can't get away from. Stefaan DeVreese candidly shares the in's and out's of being a gay man in mid-life who is building a business, and the resilience it takes to be a titan in your own world. Listen for great tips and advice of how to start that side hustle or full blown business as ...
Oct 28, 2022•42 min•Ep 196•Transcript available on Metacast Living life is messy. Messy, messy, messy. Now add to it being a gay man, and Lord help us, it can get real messy. Helping us undo some of that mess when we think it is impossible is Author Britt East, sharing wisdom from his book "A Gay Man's Guide To Life." Listen up and you just might learn something that you need to. About Britt BRITT EAST is an author and speaker who uses his experience, strength, and hope to challenge and inspire change-oriented gay men to get down to the business of impro...
Oct 21, 2022•45 min•Ep 195•Transcript available on Metacast It's too late to come out. It's too late to find a relationship. It's too late to find my passion. BULLSHIT! You can come out of the closet of your life, regardless of what that closet is, even when you think it is impossible. These five tips will help you see the thought - "too late" - in a whole new way. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The third Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about bu...
Oct 14, 2022•9 min•Ep 194•Transcript available on Metacast Seems non-monogamy is more and more common as gay men try to find themselves in their relationships in a way that works for them as individuals and as a couple, or even a thruple. So how do you make it all work when Monogamy isn't the way. Polyamory expert Kitty Chambliss joins us today to give you great insights on how to thrive in your relationship when the typical just isn't going to cut it. About Kitty A born-and-raised Philly girl with nothing more than passion, a laptop and a dream, I’m pr...
Oct 07, 2022•44 min•Ep 193•Transcript available on Metacast We guys over 40, should have so much figured out in life, like how not to get our "buttons pushed" by other people. Ok, that is probably not 100% true, but we should have a way to combat that, right? No matter where you are in your station in life, people are going to get under your skin, and sometimes it will harbor there for weeks and months on end. I know, and I am sharing first-hand how to combat this "button pushing" syndrome in real time, with real issues, so that you can find real peace o...
Sep 30, 2022•11 min•Ep 192•Transcript available on Metacast Imagine going from being an active member of one of the most well known evangelical churches in Houston - Lakewood Church - yes that one...to becoming a drug addict, dealer, being homeless and serving in the armed forces. Talk about polar opposites, but it is his reality, his story, and his journey to be himself as a gay man. De'Vannon Hubert shares his journey of life beyond struggles and near catastrophe. About DeVannon De’Vannon Hubert is the author of Sex, Drugs, and Jesus, a memoir about hi...
Sep 23, 2022•43 min•Ep 191•Transcript available on Metacast What does it mean to be masculine? Who defines it? What does it matter? These are all the big questions we're asking on 40 Plus: Gay Man, Gay Talk Podcast today with fellow Life Coach Travis Stock. He brings his own unique insights into the world of masculinity into play to make you go, "Hmmm? What does masculinity really mean?" About Travis Travis helps you find what creates balance in your life by first seeking acceptance of what is. He helps you connect to your truth in the moment, so that it...
Sep 16, 2022•43 min•Ep 190•Transcript available on Metacast There's a lot of shaming going on around how people do their most intimate relationship(s). You get shame for wanting monogamy. Shade gets thrown if you are in an open or polyamorous relationship. Shame, shame, shame for how you choose to live your life. Well it's nobody's business and here's some tips on dumping the shame. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The third Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren'...
Sep 09, 2022•9 min•Ep 189•Transcript available on Metacast First it was HIV and AIDS, now Monkeypox. And the LGBTQ+ community, and more specifically gay men are being called out as the source of these issues. Really? Are we truly going to do this again? Not if we take the right stands and the right health approaches to addressing these issues. Jill Baker, FNP-C helps gay men find the right focus for their health in a nurturing approach to HIV, AIDS, and Monkeypox by taking a holistic approach for thriving with these diseases. About Jill Jill Baker, FNP-...
Sep 02, 2022•45 min•Ep 188•Transcript available on Metacast Now we're being blamed for Monkeypox, and of course, there's threats that Gay Marriage could be overruled just like Roe vs. Wade. So how do you stay positive, and vigilant as a gay man? Here's some ideas to safe and sane. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The third Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about but should - careers, finances, sex, love, health, coming out - all that stuff that we t...
Aug 26, 2022•9 min•Ep 187•Transcript available on Metacast One of the most common things men tell me in our coaching sessions is, "I'm just not happy. I have no purpose. I've lost my passion in my career." I get it, it's tough. So let's change all that or at least start that journey. John Thorpe, real estate broker and expert, found his passion in real estate but took it even deeper to help build LGBTQ roads in the industry. Today he shares how he keeps his passion alive and also how he fully embraces being himself in the workplace. About John John Thor...
Aug 19, 2022•39 min•Ep 186•Transcript available on Metacast It WAS my birthday, and it WAS great. That's why today, I want to share 10 things with you gay-man-to-gay-man, that I feel are some of the greatest lessons I've learned from my 59 years on this planet. They've changed my life, made me a better man, and continue to kick my ass when I need it most. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The third Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about but should -...
Aug 12, 2022•16 min•Ep 185•Transcript available on Metacast Loneliness is an epidemic that is growing by the day. Gay or straight it is causing huge amounts of mental health issues. For gay men, the isolation and lack of connection often compounds our isolation. You just want to cry, "Hear Me!" That's exactly what Adam Lippin, founder of HearMe.App has created. A way for anyone, anywhere to connect to someone who is trained just to listen to you. A way to connect. A way to be heard and seen. Today we explore his company, his reasons for bringing this app...
Aug 05, 2022•39 min•Ep 184•Transcript available on Metacast One of the things many gay men struggle with the most is finding their passion and purpose. Landing in that career that truly lights them up. But what if it was as easy as getting clear, taking the first step, being unafraid of change, and then taking the leap? It can be that simple, even though it won't be easy. Scott Gatz, founder of Q.Digital, the media company behind GayCities, Queerty and LGBTQ Nation, takes us on his journey of navigating his career, fatherhood, and the never ending pursui...
Jul 29, 2022•48 min•Ep 183•Transcript available on Metacast Whether it's showing up on a gay vacation, hitting the bars on the weekend, or walking into work, it can be petrifying to show up in your world as a gay man. So how do you not let being petrified hold you back from living your best gay life? Take a listen and find the three step process I use to full be myself in the world. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren'...
Jul 22, 2022•12 min•Ep 182•Transcript available on Metacast I'm going to be an actor. No wait, I'm going to be a Broadway star. Nope, I'm going to be a financial planner. Ay yes, I'm going to run a talent agency and be a coach. Sounds like this guy doesn't know what he's doing...but he does. Michael Novin has leaned into his life fully, brining each experience to life and building upon by constantly saying, "If you can, you must!" Today we explore the can and must of navigating the ever changing landscapes of shifting careers and being a gay man over 40!...
Jul 15, 2022•48 min•Ep 181•Transcript available on Metacast Ever feel challenged to live an inspired queer life? Feeling aimless and not sure what is next? Fellow Queer coach Darren Stehle challenges us to take a deeper step into self-mastery, ideation, and the journey of inspired action to live our most powerful lives as gay men over 40. You'll learn useful techniques for bringing your ideal life to life. About Darren Darren Stehle is a thinker, writer, host of the Think Queerly Podcast, and a Neuro-Coach. He helps queer solo creatives and leaders go fr...
Jul 08, 2022•44 min•Ep 180•Transcript available on Metacast As men we want to take care of our bodies...we really do...even when we don't do it. But oh my goodness me, if our man junk - PENIS - stops working the world has come to an end. Yet, we don't take our sexual health as seriously as all the rest of our health...BUT WE SHOULD. Helping us dive into a candid conversation about sex, penis health, our libidos, and growing into our sexual health at all stages of life is Brian "Uncle B" Ayers - a men's sexual performance coach to get us back to be an ama...
Jul 01, 2022•51 min•Ep 179•Transcript available on Metacast Aging and losing our parents is inevitable. Losing ourselves and having no life doesn't have to be inevitable. As much as you love your parents, don't forget that you are part of the equation and you need to take care of you and have your life so that you can take care of them. Let's explore the right balance of making room for you and for them as we all age, after 40. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom ...
Jun 24, 2022•11 min•Ep 178•Transcript available on Metacast You're not late to the game, nor have you wasted too much time. You're simply showing up out of the closet when it best fits for you and your life. Now start being comfortable and proud about that. Here's a few tips for embracing your late in life, coming out journey! Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about but should - careers, finances, sex, love...
Jun 17, 2022•8 min•Ep 177•Transcript available on Metacast You do not, do not, do not, need someone elses validation to make your 40+ gay life complete. If you think you do, then that is why so many things are out of balance for you and your life. Let's change that by stepping up to the plate and validating yourself, then anything coming from outside of you is just the icing on the cake. Take a listen and learn how to give yourself that validation. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, we gath...
Jun 10, 2022•8 min•Ep 176•Transcript available on Metacast It's PRIDE month, but PRIDE should be something as a guy over 40, you should have in yourself all year long. Every day, in every way. But what do you do when you question that PRIDE in yourself, and buy into the crap of "I have nothing to be proud about in my life"? You listen to this short little podcast about building up your pride and truly loving your 40+ gay self - every minute of every day! Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, w...
Jun 03, 2022•9 min•Ep 175•Transcript available on Metacast A sports-phobic single gay dad faces his longtime insecurities about jocks and athletics when his son lands a spot in a competitive NYC travel soccer league. Does this sound like a nightmare, reality, or a new TV Sitcom. All of the above and it is all brought to you by writer, journalist and hopeful TV Writer of a new sitcom - looking for a home - Bradley Jacobs. No he's not looking for a home but his sitcom, "One of the Guys," to bring laughter, empathy, and understanding to the life of gay par...
May 27, 2022•39 min•Ep 174•Transcript available on Metacast Many of us as gay men grew up always doing what was expected of us, trying to fit in, compartmentalizing our lives and never letting anyone see the side of us that unacceptable. We end up feeling isolated and alone, but we do what we do to be successful by every other external measure until the pain becomes to great. In his new book, No More Neckties: A Memoir in Essays , Dr. Loren A. Olsen, MD, flings open the doors and reveals he wasn’t always a good boy. While not always noble and admirable, ...
May 20, 2022•58 min•Ep 173•Transcript available on Metacast We've all been there and you are NOT alone. Friendzoned! It isn't fun and it can truly screw with your confidence and cause you to lose hope in ever finding a man and being in a relationship. But fear not gay men, there is life after being Friendzoned and here's how to move forward. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays aren't talking about but should - careers, fina...
May 13, 2022•12 min•Ep 172•Transcript available on Metacast You want a man, you feel like you need a man (even though you don't) yet, are you making room for a man in your life? Once we hit our 40+ lives as gay men, we may not be making room for a man in our life, and that harsh truth is what we are exploring today plus some ways to open up that door and make room in your life for Mr. Man. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 6:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gay...
May 06, 2022•8 min•Ep 171•Transcript available on Metacast What do you do when you just can't find the way to make money doing your passion? You just keep doing it on the side until you find the way. Is it difficult? Challenging? Worth it? Yes, yes, and yes. Tom Brickman - known as The Frugal Gay - shares his insights on how to make money and live your passion as a guy in your midlife, without screwing everything up. About Tom Tom Brickman 39, Married dog dad from Dallas TX. Recently retired from 9-5 to work on Real Estate full time (18 doors) a resale ...
Apr 29, 2022•45 min•Ep 170•Transcript available on Metacast We all screw up. We all are too hard on ourselves and not in a good way. And, we all find it really hard to forgive ourselves. Well time to put that crap aside, and give yourself a spoonful of forgiveness and move on beyond whatever has got ya hung up. Here's a few tips how to practice The Art of Self-Forgiveness as a gay man. Join Our Live 40 Plus Gay Men, Gay Talk Chats The first Monday of each month at 5:00 p.m. Pacific, we gather together on a zoom chat to talk about the stuff us gay gays ar...
Apr 22, 2022•10 min•Ep 169•Transcript available on Metacast SHOULD, ought to be banned from the english language. Or at least from the gay man's talk. Because when we should all over ourselves, we don't have much fun. You should do this, you should do that, you don't get much done if you are SHOULD-ing. Instead start doing. Here's 10 Things Gay Guys Over 40 Can Start DOING to improve their lives! Hey Guys, Check This Out! Are you a guy who keeps struggling to do that thing? You know the thing you keep telling yourself and others you’re going to do, but n...
Apr 15, 2022•14 min•Ep 168•Transcript available on Metacast 
