I’m thrilled to share a deeply insightful conversation with my mentor, Africa Brooke. Africa’s latest book, “The Third Perspective,” dives into the complex realms of self-sabotage and censorship, and in our discussion, we unpack the significance of moving beyond binary thinking in today’s society. In this episode, Africa and I explore the evolutionary roots of societal pressures to conform and the vital importance of brave expression and embracing nuance, especially amidst the increasing intoler...
Aug 13, 2024•1 hr 4 min•Transcript available on Metacast I'm celebrating my 20th wedding anniversary with my husband Greg by having him on the podcast today! We’ll be diving into the ups and downs of our relationship, how we’ve navigated the challenges brought on by the early pandemic, and how we’ve grown individually and together over the past two decades. So, grab your favorite beverage, get cozy, and join us for an intimate conversation about love, life, and ADHD. We’ve both learned so much about compassion, communication, and the importance o...
Aug 06, 2024•1 hr 3 min•Transcript available on Metacast Dyslexia expert Natalie Brooks joins me today to dive deep into the interplay between ADHD and dyslexia, exploring the importance of recognizing multiple neurodiversities. Natalie shares her personal experiences with dyslexia and sheds light on its overlap with ADHD. Get ready for an enlightening conversation that uncovers the challenges and triumphs of living with multiple neurodivergencies. Natalie critiques common misconceptions about dyslexia, particularly the notion that dyslexic individual...
Jul 30, 2024•51 min•Transcript available on Metacast Andrea Ashley is the host of the Adult Child podcast. She's blazing the trail in recovering from addiction and Complex PTSD. Andrea and I dive into a heartfelt conversation about the intricate web of ADHD, trauma, dysfunctional families, and Complex PTSD. Andrea shares her powerful personal journey, from growing up in a dysfunctional family to her profound realizations about trauma and healing. Reflecting on her past, Andrea discusses her mother’s alcoholism and how she was unfairly scapego...
Jul 23, 2024•1 hr 2 min•Transcript available on Metacast For the longest time, I denied having any trauma, but through therapy and a ton of research, I’ve come to realize its significant impact on my life and my ADHD. In today's episode, I discuss what trauma is and provide definitions and resources, especially focusing on Complex PTSD and its links to ADHD. One of the key takeaways is understanding how our experiences and the way we handle them can shape our mental health. For example, proper support and validation can prevent traumatic outcomes...
Jul 16, 2024•46 min•Transcript available on Metacast In today’s episode, I’m joined by the woman who trained ME as a coach, the incredible Sara Fisk. Sara helps people pleasers stop avoiding difficult conversations, and let me tell you, we GET INTO IT on this episode. From understanding ADHD symptoms in adulthood to dealing with perimenopause, this conversation covers it all. We also explore the concept of being an “ex good girl,” focusing on self-care and moving away from people-pleasing behaviors. Sara shares her reflections on her Mormon upbrin...
Jul 09, 2024•1 hr•Transcript available on Metacast Special shoutout to @adhdwithjennafree on IG for the term 'local sober'. Research shows that people with ADHD are at high risk for alcohol dependence. In this episode, I open up about the struggle of using alcohol as a nightly aid to combat insomnia, anxiety, and emotional overwhelm, only to realize the negative consequences it had on my sleep and overall well-being. Reflecting on my experience during Dry January, I discovered the extent of my cravings and how they misaligned with my v...
Jul 02, 2024•43 min•Transcript available on Metacast What if mastering your emotions could radically improve your relationships? Join me as we explore the powerful impact of emotional regulation on our personal and professional connections. Living with ADHD often means dealing with intense feelings that can lead to explosive reactions, affecting how we relate to those around us. By becoming more self-aware and learning to self-soothe, we can reduce conflicts and develop healthier and more fulfilling relationships. We'll discuss how understand...
Jun 25, 2024•38 min•Transcript available on Metacast Discover the distinct difference between neurotypical and ADHD brains in terms of ranking priorities, and understand why learning to prioritize relationships can drastically improve your social life. Navigating relationships with ADHD requires a strategic approach. Imagine categorizing your relationships into three tiers to better manage your emotional and social capacity—that's exactly what we'll discuss. I'll share my experience in identifying the top five mutual relationships t...
Jun 18, 2024•41 min•Transcript available on Metacast Living with ADHD can often feel like navigating a minefield, especially when it comes to relationships. Impulsivity, distractibility, memory issues, and struggles with self-reflection can create a myriad of obstacles. In this episode, I share personal anecdotes to illustrate how these ADHD symptoms impact our ability to build and maintain strong connections. One key takeaway is the importance of understanding our unique brains. By doing so, we can improve our relationships by fostering deeper co...
Jun 11, 2024•49 min•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, we’ll explore what masking is, how it impacts our relationships and self-perception, and why it’s so crucial to create spaces where we can be our authentic selves. For those of us with ADHD, masking often means hiding or downplaying our symptoms to fit societal norms or meet others’ expectations. This behavior is frequently learned from caregivers who, sometimes with the best intentions, teach us to conform. But while masking might help us navigate certain social situations, it ...
Jun 04, 2024•45 min•Transcript available on Metacast Welcome to the episode where we dive into making vacations enjoyable and low-stress, especially if you have ADHD. Today I’m sharing my personal experiences and practical advice on how to manage ADHD during your travels. Here’s what we cover: 1. The Importance of Rest and Planning Ahead Learn why it’s crucial to balance relaxation with careful planning. Tips on making decisions in advance to minimize stress in unfamiliar environments. 2. Avoiding Overload Discover strategies to avoid sensory and ...
May 28, 2024•38 min•Transcript available on Metacast Today we delve deep into the complex and often misunderstood relationship between diet and ADHD symptoms. I’m bringing you a topic that’s close to my heart, sparked by my own journey and curiosity about the potential of nutrition in managing ADHD. But, as we’ll explore, it’s not as straightforward as it may seem. I’ve always been fascinated, and admittedly a bit skeptical, about how what we eat impacts our mental health, especially when it comes to ADHD. With a rise in functional medicine practi...
May 21, 2024•34 min•Transcript available on Metacast I’m back with another “everything but the kitchen sink” podcast episode. Honestly, I was struggling with my capacity to create content for the podcast. So, I’m honoring the capacity I have. Because ADHD is all about meeting yourself where you’re at, right? If you’re looking for tips and tricks on improving your life with ADHD, I might steer you to the other 250 podcast episodes we’ve recorded. This one is more of a wild look into my mind at the moment. So, buckle up. I’m sharing some hot takes o...
May 14, 2024•35 min•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, the incredibly amazing Brooke Schnittman joins us. Brooke is one of my favorite colleagues and I'm so happy to introduce her to you. She’s the founder of Coaching With Brooke, an ADHD & executive function coaching company for students and adults. Brooke and her team help kids and teens with ADHD by educating them on the 'why' behind their struggles and providing executive function coaching. Coaching made a huge difference in Brooke's life, so much so that...
May 07, 2024•56 min•Transcript available on Metacast This episode is going all in on a spicy topic. That’s right, we’re talking about sleep. Or for some of you ADHDers, lack of sleep. Do we know it helps us live a healthy life? Of course. But the practicality of getting ourselves to bed at a reasonable time is so hard. Before we can figure out HOW to improve our sleep though, we need to understand WHY sleep is hard for us. Trouble sleeping isn’t a symptom of ADHD, but the symptoms of ADHD (impulsivity, hyperactivity, time blindness, etc.) make it ...
Apr 30, 2024•1 hr 4 min•Transcript available on Metacast What if you could change your life in 7 minutes? I’m here to tell you it’s possible. In fact, I’m doing it myself. It’s called The 7-Minute Principle, and it’s the idea you can do anything for 7 minutes. Here’s an example. A former student of mine had drama around doing the dishes. For years and years, she HATED doing them. One day, she decided to time herself. It took her 7 minutes. All of the drama dropped immediately because - let’s be honest, you can do anything for 7 minutes and it’s not th...
Apr 23, 2024•19 min•Transcript available on Metacast They are baaaaaaack! Everyone’s favorite psychotherapists, Helen Villiers, and Katie McKenna, are back to finish the conversation on emotionally abusive behaviors they see in parent-child relationships. They quite literally wrote the book on this topic. These two brilliant ladies co-authored You're Not the Problem: The Impact of Narcissism and Emotional Abuse and How to Heal. In this podcast episode, we’re diving even deeper into the impact of narcissistic parents and the role past trauma c...
Apr 16, 2024•1 hr 3 min•Transcript available on Metacast We’ve had some truly amazing guests on the podcast lately, and our most recent guest is no exception. Dr. Layne Norton is an evidence-based nutrition coach and self-proclaimed 'nerd who lifts heavy things.' He has a Ph.D. in Nutritional Sciences, 4 USA Power Lifting National Titles, and 1700 clients in his coaching program. His resume is stacked, to say the least. But being diagnosed with ADHD at age 6, Layne has had to overcome some serious challenges both in his personal and professi...
Apr 09, 2024•53 min•Transcript available on Metacast You might remember psychotherapists Helen Villiers and Katie McKenna from episode 200 where we talked about toxic relationships and their impact on ADHDers. You may also know their podcast called In Sight: Exposing Narcissism . Well, since we last visited, they’re ALSO co-authors of You're Not the Problem: The Impact of Narcissism and Emotional Abuse and How to Heal . I’m honored to have these two incredible ladies back on the podcast to discuss some of the emotionally abusive behaviors the...
Apr 02, 2024•1 hr 3 min•Transcript available on Metacast I’ve been married to Greg Carder for almost 20 years years. This man is the only one for me! But when I tell you we couldn’t be more different... He's calm, steady, and methodical, and he doesn't mind mundane tasks like laundry. I mean, COME ON! Through a lot of trial and error combined with years of ADHD research on my end, we’ve learned a thing or two about how to be a good partner. More specifically — how to be a good partner to someone who’s neurotypical when you have ADHD. I’ve co...
Mar 26, 2024•36 min•Transcript available on Metacast Every once in a while, I struggle to know what to do for a podcast. This was one of those episodes. So, I decided to take questions posted in the FOCUSED Slack by our community members and answer them publicly. And you know what? This ended up being so much fun. Because those of us with ADHD are very similar. We’re human beings with ADHD brains. And that is a common experience that just binds us together. So, I know reading these questions and answering them will be helpful for you. We’re coveri...
Mar 19, 2024•41 min•Transcript available on Metacast I’m beyond excited to share this episode with the one and only Oliver James. At 35 years old, Oliver is learning how to read for the first time. You might have seen him on TikTok, Good Morning America, The Rachael Ray Show, or NPR, where he’s shedding light on functional illiteracy. After being diagnosed with ADHD and OCD as a child, Oliver spent most of his life struggling to keep up both in and out of the classroom until a string of bad choices found him in prison. On the other side, Oliver co...
Mar 12, 2024•1 hr 6 min•Transcript available on Metacast I was diagnosed with ADHD when I was in college. While I’d like to think that was like 5 years ago, it was actually a lot longer. It was much harder to get a diagnosis back then. In fact, the ADHD diagnosis process was different 5 years ago when I started my podcast. It’s 2024 now, and I’m thrilled to say it’s easier than ever before for adults to get an ADHD diagnosis. This isn’t me saying it’s easier to FOOL clinicians into falsely diagnosing you. I mean it’s easier for people who have ADHD to...
Mar 05, 2024•42 min•Transcript available on Metacast The I Have ADHD Podcast is a clear, concise, and FUN podcast for adults with ADHD. Host Kristen Carder is an ADHD expert who has been supporting ADHDers for over a decade. Kristen began working with ADHD students in 2012 and transitioned to mindset coaching for ADHD adults in 2019. Let's just say she entered the ADHD field long before it was a trending topic on TikTok. Join Kristen to learn about how ADHD impacts every area of your life...from the boardroom to the bedroom...and how you can ...
Feb 29, 2024•2 min•Transcript available on Metacast This week, I blew up at my son. At the time, I felt justified (don’t cross mama’s boundaries) but the more I sat with the situation, I knew I was in the wrong. The whole thing made me feel ick and got me thinking about the “right way” to apologize. Note: These are tips for apologizing in a perfect world. If you’re activated, feeling defensive, or in self-judgment mode, it’s going to be way harder to put these into action. Here’s the thing: Being human is hard. We all want safe, connected relatio...
Feb 27, 2024•32 min•Transcript available on Metacast I’ve got something incredible to share with you. As an adult, you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do. Did you know this?! Pause. Breathe. Let that soak in. Many of us grew up in situations where we didn’t feel we had autonomy or the right to self-govern. We didn’t feel like we were in charge of our lives. So, in adulthood, we struggle to recognize that we have control over what we say yes and no to. Why is this a problem? Because, as adult ADHDers, it takes us so much mental and emot...
Feb 20, 2024•36 min•Transcript available on Metacast If you’ve ever wanted a look inside the brain of Kristen Carder, this episode is for you. Buckle up, it’s going to be a bumpy ride. Maybe it’s the fact that I’ve been sick or that I’ve just got things I want to say that don’t fit into a topic we’ve covered on the podcast lately… but this episode is going to be me dumping the contents of my brain for all to see (or…hear?!). So, find a comfy spot on the couch, grab your beverage of choice, and let’s chat! In this episode, I’m sharing about…How it’...
Feb 13, 2024•33 min•Transcript available on Metacast If you’ve ever wanted a sneak peek at what happens inside FOCUSED, this podcast episode is for you. I recently added a new course to my group coaching program called How to Build Self-Trust Even with ADHD. It’s been so impactful I had to share a coaching call we had on the topic. Self-trust is hard for those of us with ADHD. If you feel alone, I encourage you to listen to this coaching call. It will help you understand yourself better. Whether you grew up with parents who interrupted your abilit...
Feb 06, 2024•1 hr 5 min•Transcript available on Metacast On the latest podcast episode, I had the absolute honor of talking with my business and life coach, Breian Elliott, about the topic of saying sorry. We’re digging DEEP into why we feel the need to apologize so much when we should be saying sorry, and why it’s detrimental to constantly be in sorry mode. Spoiler alert: When you’re apologizing and haven’t done anything wrong, you’re actually putting the other person in an uncomfortable position. Brien’s breaking down the 6 different types of “sorry...
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