In this episode, Libby talks about repair, how essential it is to having secure relationships, and outlines the steps for how to make a good repair. *From Libby: to my listeners who have been following this podcast for awhile, this is to replace the episode "If You Break if, Fix It" - which was pulled, because it didn't say what I wanted it to say. I'm much much happier with this version, which is VERY different. -------------------------------- SHOW LINKS Ed Tronick's Work on Repair Study...
May 19, 2020•37 min•Ep 29•Transcript available on Metacast Libby shares her most important advice for people who are breaking up or on the brink (and even if you're not) -- slow down. --------------------------- SHOW LINKS Breaking up on Valentine's Day Normalizing Non-monogamy interview on Relationship Transitions Download the Peaceful Relationship Transitions Playbook Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback.com Sign up for an intro coaching session at http://talktolibby.com...
May 05, 2020•23 min•Ep 29•Transcript available on Metacast Libby gives some sex advice for your long-term relationships. It's good. Just listen. ---------------------- SHOW LINKS Watch the Movie: Friend with Benefits 7 Ways To Make Practicing Affirmative Consent Sexy 27 Alternatives to Asking "Is This Okay?" -------------------------- Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback.com Sign up for coaching at http://talktolibby.com...
Apr 24, 2020•41 min•Ep 28•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, Libby talks about disruption and offers a 5 step process to move through it more easily. -------------------------- MORE READING 3 Vital Skills for the Age of Disruption How to Find Meaning in Suffering -------------------------- Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback.com Sign up for coaching at http://talktolibby.com...
Apr 15, 2020•34 min•Ep 27•Transcript available on Metacast A quick update on why Libby took down last week's episode on repair, and what she'll be doing instead.
Apr 06, 2020•7 min•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, Libby gets real about what COVID-19 means for polyamorous people, but how it's also teaching all of us an essential lesson about our relationships - which is that autonomy is an illusion. We need that lesson right now. But we also always did. -------------------- Sign up for the Relationship Survival Skills class: https://libbysinback.com/survival-skills/ Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback.com Sign up for coaching at http://talktolibby.com...
Mar 24, 2020•38 min•Ep 25•Transcript available on Metacast Things look pretty different in the world today than they did two weeks ago. Libby has a message for everyone as we face down new and challenging circumstances. ----------------------------------- Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback.com Sign up for coaching at http://talktolibby.com
Mar 17, 2020•29 min•Ep 24•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, Libby talks about keeping your attention and energy toward what's really important. ------------------------------------- SHOW LINKS Kimchi Cuddles The comic I referenced Download the Relationship Vision Worksheet ------------------------------------ EVENTS WHERE LIBBY IS PRESENTING Atlanta Poly in Atlanta, February 29, 2020 Southwest Love Fest in Tucson, April 3-5, 2020 RelateCon in Boise, April 24-26, 2020 ----------------------------------- Find Libby on the Web: https://libb...
Mar 06, 2020•23 min•Ep 23•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode Libby talks about how to navigate things when metamours don't want to be friends. -------------------------------------- EVENTS WHERE LIBBY IS PRESENTING Atlanta Poly in Atlanta, February 29, 2020 Southwest Love Fest in Tucson, April 3-5, 2020 RelateCon in Boise, April 24-26, 2020 ----------------------------------- Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback.com Sign up for coaching at http://talktolibby.com...
Mar 03, 2020•52 min•Ep 22•Transcript available on Metacast Learning to hold space for people you love is an essential relationship skill. In this episode, Libby breaks down what holding space is, why it's important, and how to practice it. ------------------------------- SHOW LINKS What it Means to Hold Space for Someone by Heather Plett 11 Ways to Hold Space for Someone by Reaca Pearl -------------------------------------- EVENTS WHERE LIBBY IS PRESENTING Atlanta Poly in Atlanta, February 29, 2020 Southwest Love Fest in Tucson, April 3-5, 2020 RelateCo...
Feb 27, 2020•22 min•Ep 21•Transcript available on Metacast Taking a time out is so important when things get heated or uncomfortable. However, there are more useful and less useful ways to take a time out. In this episode, Libby lays out how to take a time out in a way that enhances, rather than disrupts, connection. -------------------------------------- Black Poly Pride : June 4-7, 2020 in Washington, DC Terry Real's 10 Commandments of a Time Out -------------------------------------- EVENTS WHERE LIBBY IS PRESENTING Atlanta Poly in Atlanta, February ...
Feb 20, 2020•25 min•Ep 20•Transcript available on Metacast The most essential skill to having healthier relationships. -------------------------------------- EVENTS WHERE LIBBY IS PRESENTING Atlanta Poly in Atlanta, February 29, 2020 Southwest Love Fest in Tucson, April 3-5, 2020 RelateCon in Boise, April 24-26, 2020 ----------------------------------- Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback.com Sign up for coaching at http://talktolibby.com...
Feb 18, 2020•36 min•Ep 19•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, Libby offers an idea on making upcoming difficult situations smoother, easier and more connecting. ----------------------------------- EVENTS WHERE LIBBY IS PRESENTING Winter Poly Wonderland in West Virginia, February 13-16, 2020 Atlanta Poly in Atlanta, February 29, 2020 Southwest Love Fest in Tucson, April 3-5, 2020 RelateCon in Boise, April 24-26, 2020 ----------------------------------- Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback.com Sign up for coaching at http://talktolibb...
Feb 12, 2020•16 min•Ep 18•Transcript available on Metacast Libby answers a listener question about navigating sharing a home and sharing that home with other partners. --------------------------- SHOW LINKS Couple Privilege: having it doesn't necessarily make you an asshole (but it might) by Amy Gahran 5 Reasons Couple Privilege Doesn't Exist by Lola Phoenix 'why do couples stop having sex?' is the wrong question by Emily Nagoski Navigating Difficult Conversations ----------------------------- EVENTS WHERE LIBBY IS PRESENTING PolyLiving in Philadelphia,...
Feb 06, 2020•34 min•Ep 17•Transcript available on Metacast Libby explains the theory of attachment styles and what they might mean for your relationships. (All of this stuff is Googleable, y'all, if you want to know more. ) ------------------------------------------------ Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback.com Apply for your free intro session at http://talktolibby.com
Jan 28, 2020•24 min•Ep 16•Transcript available on Metacast Libby talks about what to do when we don't feel seen by the people we love. ------------------------ SHOW LINKS Feeling Understood — Even More Important Than Feeling Loved? https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/evolution-the-self/201706/feeling-understood-even-more-important-feeling-loved Neural Bases of Being Understood and not Understood: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4249470/ On Feeling Understood and Feeling Well: https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC2652476/ Lonelin...
Jan 21, 2020•30 min•Ep 15•Transcript available on Metacast Libby answers her first listener question on the show, where a listener asks, does it always make sense to disclose potential dealbreakers before the first date? ------------------------------- SHOW LINKS Page Turner on Ambiamory: https://www.kinkly.com/youve-heard-of-polyamory-but-what-about-ambiamory/2/17832 Dating with HIV: https://www.redbookmag.com/love-sex/relationships/a48131/dating-with-hiv/ I'm a Sex Worker and Dating is Awkward: https://www.huffpost.com/entry/im-a-sex-worker-and-dating...
Jan 16, 2020•16 min•Ep 14•Transcript available on Metacast Libby talks about when you should tell potential partners that you're polyamorous or nonmonogamous. ------------------------------------------------- EVENTS WHERE LIBBY IS PRESENTING PolyLiving in Philadelphia, February 7-9, 2020 Winter Poly Wonderland in West Virginia, February 13-16, 2020 Atlanta Poly in Atlanta, February 29, 2020 Southwest Love Fest in Tucson, April 3-5, 2020 RelateCon in Boise, April 24-26, 2020 ----------------------------------- Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback....
Jan 14, 2020•23 min•Ep 13•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, Libby talks about ghosting, what it is, why it sucks, when it's justified, and how to cope. Libby also offers a kinder alternative to ghosting. --------------------------------- SHOW LINKS Comic on Ghosting by Hell is Other Women: https://www.facebook.com/hellisotherwomen/posts/557199481702112 ---------------------------------- EVENTS WHERE LIBBY IS PRESENTING PolyLiving in Philadelphia, February 7-9, 2020 Winter Poly Wonderland in West Virginia, February 13-16, 2020 Atlanta Pol...
Jan 07, 2020•37 min•Ep 12•Transcript available on Metacast Using a real, raw story from her own life, Libby talks about the day-to-day, minute-to-minute practice of gentleness in relationships. ----------------------------- Show Links Harvey: https://www.imdb.com/title/tt0042546/ My favorite article about Fred Rogers: https://www.nytimes.com/2019/11/19/magazine/mr-rogers.html ----------------------------- Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback.com Sign up for coaching at http://talktolibby.com...
Dec 31, 2019•23 min•Ep 11•Transcript available on Metacast Libby talks about the two magic relationship ratios uncovered by scientific research conducted by the Gottman Institute and some implications for polyamorous relationships. -------------------------------- The Magic Conflict Ratio: https://www.gottman.com/blog/the-magic-relationship-ratio-according-science/ About the 20:1 Ratio: https://psyedges.wordpress.com/2014/06/22/51-2/ -------------------------------- Find Libby on the Web: https://libbysinback.com Sign up for coaching at http://talktolib...
Dec 26, 2019•15 min•Ep 10•Transcript available on Metacast Holiday bullsh*t getting you down? Libby makes the case for how a little self-compassion can go a long way. ------------------------------- Show Links Mapping Your Love Workshop in DC: https://www.eventbrite.com/e/mapping-your-love-tickets-77746210007 Winter Poly Wonderland: https://cfnc.us/winterpoly/ Poly Living: https://www.lovingmorenonprofit.org/conferences/polyliving/philadelphia/ The Gottman Institute on Contempt: https://www.gottman.com/blog/this-one-thing-is-the-biggest-predictor-of-div...
Dec 24, 2019•18 min•Ep 9•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, Libby talks about love languages and how understanding your love language and the love languages of those that you love can transform your relationships for the better and help everyone love and appreciate each other more fully. ---------------------------- Mapping Your Love Workshop in DC : https://www.eventbrite.com/e/mapping-your-love-tickets-77746210007 Winter Poly Wonderland: https://cfnc.us/winterpoly/ Poly Living: https://www.lovingmorenonprofit.org/conferences/polyliving...
Dec 19, 2019•28 min•Ep 8•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, Libby talks about compersion, what it is, where it comes from, and makes the case that we don't have to feel it to be good polyamorous people, and what to do when we don't. ---------------------- Mapping Your Love Workshop in DC : https://www.eventbrite.com/e/mapping-your-love-tickets-77746210007 Winter Poly Wonderland: https://cfnc.us/winterpoly/ Poly Living: https://www.lovingmorenonprofit.org/conferences/polyliving/philadelphia/ More about the Karista Commune: https://en.wiki...
Dec 17, 2019•30 min•Ep 7•Transcript available on Metacast Sometimes you just need to complain and get something off your chest. Here's a tip on how to do that in a way that might be easier for others to hear and help make things better. -------------------------------------- Show Links Feedback Wheel Handout: https://docs.google.com/document/d/1W0rbu1nWTYOdQNl4gvdgPWTuLBWKCjcOol_8AUoTZi0/edit "The Story I'm Making Up": https://www.businessinsider.com/brene-browns-biggest-life-hack-is-a-simple-phrase-2015-8 Schedule a Free Coaching Session: http://talkt...
Dec 12, 2019•13 min•Ep 6•Transcript available on Metacast Let's talk about why it's so important to be willing to put things on the line in your relationships, to stand up for what you want, and confront issues - before they get too big to deal with. -------------------------- Show Links: Brené Brown's TED Talk on Vulnerability: https://www.ted.com/talks/brene_brown_the_power_of_vulnerability Daring Greatly: https://www.amazon.com/gp/product/1592408419 Domestic Violence Hotline and Website: https://www.thehotline.org/help/ Solvable vs. Perpetual Proble...
Dec 10, 2019•32 min•Ep 5•Transcript available on Metacast Learning how to listen better is so important to being a great partner, friend, parent, child, coworker, etc. In this episode, Libby offers some advanced tips on how to be an awesome listener. Show notes: How Curiosity Makes You a Better Partner: https://greatergood.berkeley.edu/article/item/why_curious_people_have_better_relationships ------------------------------------ To contact Libby, email her at libby@libbysinback.com or find her on Facebook at https://facebook.com/libbysinback. If you'd ...
Dec 05, 2019•17 min•Ep 4•Transcript available on Metacast When you're trying to make a change, do something different, learn a new skill, what can help set you up for success? My answer? The right mindset can help a lot. Malcolm Gladwell's book Outliers: https://www.goodreads.com/book/show/3228917-outliers On Deliberate Practice: https://lifehacker.com/what-mozart-and-kobe-bryant-can-teach-us-about-delibera-1442488267 To sign up for a free coaching session in December: https://calendly.com/libbysinback/one-conversation...
Dec 03, 2019•16 min•Ep 3•Transcript available on Metacast In this episode, Libby shares concrete steps for creating a healthy emotional boundary between you and your partner, so that you don't react to, take on, or take responsibility for your partner's difficult feelings.
Nov 28, 2019•15 min•Ep 2•Transcript available on Metacast Why is it that some monogamous couples who open upend up blowing up their existing relationship while others don’t? Libby offers one idea that you might not have heard. Show links: The Most Skipped Step when Opening Up a Relationship [ https://medium.com/@PolyamorySchool/the-most-skipped-step-when-opening-a-relationship-f1f67abbbd49 ] John Bowlby and Attachment Theory [ https://www.simplypsychology.org/attachment.html ] The Gottman Institute on "Turning Towards" [ https://www.g...
Nov 26, 2019•35 min•Ep 1•Transcript available on Metacast 
