Talking points: integrity, mindset, values The manosphere is chock full of high value this, high value that. Alright, fine. But what is that really? A lot of the conversation centers around wealth and social status. There's way more to it than that. (00:00:00) - Intro (00:02:45) - Do you have solid internal structures around self-leadership? (00:04:58) - The biggest challenge every man will face (00:07:10) - On impulse control and freedom, and just how difficult they are (00:10:30) - What makes ...
Sep 28, 2023•14 min•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: masculinity, anxiety, presence, parenting, relationships, spirituality I'll let the podcast do the talking; this was a wide-ranging, thoroughly enjoyable conversation with John! This is a brilliant episode to dig into if you want digestible, knowledgeable talk around managing anxiety, creating healthy dialogue in relationships with partners and kids, and much, much more. Check the timestamps! (00:00:00) - Intro and John’s defining moment (00:05:52) - Why do you think men have a p...
Sep 25, 2023•1 hr 26 min•Ep 458•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: gratitude, fitness, social media, mindset If you knew me in my 20s, you would NOT have expected much of me. I was aimless, hated myself, and was not coping well at all. And I'll won't mince words, it was a long, bumpy road to where I am now. But these 8 practices didn't just help, they radically changed my life. Seriously. This is the mini-episode for you if you're feeling stuck or frustrated with where you're at in life. (00:00:00) - Intro and where I started (00:08:24) - Create...
Sep 21, 2023•40 min•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: existentialism, self-loss, therapy, Kierkegaard, culture, responsibility, anxiety Just before (like, literally just before) six days of solitude in Scotland, I had the immense privilege of chatting with Sara Kuburic, the brilliant existential therapist and new author of It’s On Me: Accept Hard Truths, Discover Yourself, And Change Your Life, coming out tomorrow. Not sure what existential therapy is? Well we get into here, plus a multitude of other things, like facing what YOU are...
Sep 18, 2023•1 hr 9 min•Ep 457•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: solitude, contemplation, mindset By the time you hear this, I’ll be way out on the Isle of Skye, the home of my ancestors, for some intentional solitude. This kind of deliberate aloneness is something I think every man needs, but doesn’t really attempt. Listen in for a reflection on what and why I’m doing this, and why it might help you too. (00:00:00) - Intro (00:01:35) - For years, I didn’t like being alone (00:03:35) - I believe every man needs SOME responsibility and distract...
Sep 14, 2023•16 min•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: workouts, form, nutrition, fitness The last time Ron was on the show, he shared an incredible story of overcoming adversity, and crafting a life of resiliency. I wanted him back on the show to discuss some foundational aspects of getting fit and eating right, something Ron has spent most of his life working on. Bear with us; we had some audio troubles but you should hear everything loud and clear. This is a great episode to listen to if you're starting out on your fitness journey...
Sep 11, 2023•55 min•Ep 456•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: addiction, masculinity This mini-episode is a bit of a departure in style, but the topic is deeply important to me. Most men have an uncanny ability to push forward despite intense pain and suffering. That can be a blessing in times of hardship, but it can also turn on you. (00:00:00) - Intro and the skill of being silent about your suffering (00:02:40) - We look down on men for doing this, but oftentimes it’s a blessing (00:03:33) - The curse is this (00:05:03) - “There’s a hung...
Sep 07, 2023•13 min•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: masculinity, fatherhood, culture The man himself! Larry Hagner of The Dad Edge joins me to talk all things fatherhood. Deeply grateful to finally have Larry on the show and to dive DEEP with him on so many topics. This is a great episode to listen to if you’re searching for insight on how to maintain some level-headedness is what seems to be a tough time to be a parent. Check the timestamps for some of the depth-oriented questions we covered! (00:00:00) - Intro Larry’s defining m...
Sep 04, 2023•1 hr 16 min•Ep 455•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: libido, anxiety, sex drive Having a high libido isn't all it's cracked up to be. In truth, it can be surprisingly difficult to navigate, can impact relationships, finances, you name it. This week, a look at where high libido can come from, and some ways to navigate it effectively. (00:00:00) - Intro and my own issues with high sex drive (00:02:39) - Indicators that high libido might be becoming problematic (00:05:49) - But what causes high sex drive? (00:06:49) - Grief, anxiety, ...
Aug 31, 2023•18 min•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: grief, loss, anxiety, helplessness Every so often, I'll have an anonymous guest on the show to give listeners a glimpse into what men's work at ManTalks is really like. This is going to be a three-parter, so stay tuned for more. This man is someone I've known for a while through his participation in ManTalks, and he's come to me looking wanting to feel more in charge of his life, and more able to handle when life, business, or relationships take a hit. Behind much of it is ungrie...
Aug 28, 2023•48 min•Ep 454•Transcript available on Metacast Fair warning, a focal point of this episode is suicide. Talking points: therapy, self-help, masculinity More men than ever are actively seeking help. They're going to therapy, they're working on themselves, they're doing "the work". I know because they come to me and people I know—either in the coaching or the therapeutic industry—by the thousands. And yet a significant percentage of them don't come out it "helped". Many don't come out at all. To be clear, I am NOT saying therapy as an industry ...
Aug 24, 2023•16 min•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: success, achievement, addiction, cycling, athleticism, personal development Kevin Miller is a powerhouse. More than that, he's deeply humble and intentional in what he does after a lifetime of hard work and the pursuit of excellence. I sat down with him last week to dig deeper: what makes drive "drive"? What's the meaning of really going beyond your limits? What really, truly drives you, and where are you going with that? You know, just light conversation. (00:00:00) - Intro and ...
Aug 21, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Ep 453•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: masculinity, culture, misandry Look, this is a charged topic. It’s also deeply complex, and it deserves serious attention MINUS the immediate rush towards dismissals, name calling, and blame games. I’d love to get your take on this topic too. Feel free to message me on Instagram or comment below. (01:16) - Intro and how society tends to react to men’s issues (05:37) - What systems could use changing, and their current impact on men (10:59) - When you bring this up, it’s easy to g...
Aug 17, 2023•18 min•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: addiction, culture, history, enlightenment, Zen, purpose, non-duality The ManTalks Podcast has grown exponentially over the last couple years, so for all you newcomers, I like to release a sort of cross-section or "best of" episode to showcase what the podcast is all about—after all, I have talked to some brilliant and varied experts over the years! This time, the themes are the widest ever: addiction and enlightenment. I chose this to demonstrate my love of the scientific and th...
Aug 14, 2023•1 hr 10 min•Ep 452•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: boundaries, independence, relationships, nice guys Yeah, it's a somewhat controversial title. It's also a challenge. Many, many men bend over backwards to prevent a partner from ever feeling disappointed, and when they inevitably do feel disappointed (because that's life sometimes), they spiral. Listen in. (01:15) - Intro and why I'm talking about this (03:05) - Caveats (04:42) - Why this is important (07:09) - I'm not saying don't have wiggle room! Men, join me for an intense, d...
Aug 10, 2023•9 min•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: anxiety, suicide, mental illness, neurology, culture, psychology This was SUCH a thorough and enjoyable interview. Always a pleasure to get the practical yet caring advice from Dr. Kennedy, someone I’ve known for a long time. If you or someone you know has been diagnosed or deals with anxiety, this is THE episode for you. We cover all the ways anxiety, the body, and the mind are connected, where to begin helping yourself (or others) with those anxious feelings, what the therapy a...
Aug 07, 2023•1 hr 15 min•Ep 451•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: dating, relationships This one is quick and to the point, friends. Is there REALLY a decline in great partners, mates, dating prospects, whatever you want to call them? Or...is the issue more complex than we think? Listen in. (00:00) Introduction and perceived decline of viable mates (02:12) The choice paradox and expanded dating pool (04:34) The consequences of the choice paradox (05:53) Is there still a decline? Other ways the dating world is impacted Men, join me in an intense...
Aug 03, 2023•9 min•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: anxiety, 12-step, addiction, personal growth, energetics, belief, money It’s been over six years, but I finally got my friend David back on the show! We cover a ton of ground here, but the core of this episode is limiting beliefs. This is an excellent episode to dive into if you’re searching for a unique look at what they are and how they’re overcome. (00:00:00) Intro and Dave’s defining moment (00:07:51) Do you believe people need to hit rock bottom in order to grow? (00:12:50) ...
Jul 31, 2023•1 hr 14 min•Ep 450•Transcript available on Metacast A solid chunk of my job is helping men get free from porn addiction. It was also something I struggled with for years. Lately, there's been a slew of questions coming at me surrounding porn usage and addiction, so here are seven reasons why it's so damn hard to quit. If this resonates and you're looking for some free extra resources, DM me on Instagram with the word "QUIT" for a free guide. (00:00:00) Intro and reason #1: dopamine (00:02:51) Reason #2: nervous system conditioning (00:05:00) Reas...
Jul 27, 2023•13 min•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: masculinity, dating, relationships, patriarchy, balance This is a hefty one, folks. The legendary Dr. Glover and acclaimed coach and writer Tony Endelman sat down with me to analyze the shifting roles, needs, expectations, and environments that men find themselves in. This is a great episode to listen to if you'd like a frank but broad-minded lens to look at the male experience with. A lot of what Dr. Glover, Tony, and I talk about are things we've seen again and again in clients...
Jul 24, 2023•1 hr 11 min•Ep 449•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: isolation, masculinity, rationality, validation A woman on Instagram DM'd me a great question a while ago: what do I need to know about men that I might not understand? Well, I came up with five ways to understand the average guy's lived experience. Enjoy! (00:55) - Imagine having few or no close friends (03:27) - Imagine overindexing rationality and logic (05:37) - Link your sense of self-worth to productivity (07:36) - Imagine getting 1/10th the validation you normally do (11:5...
Jul 20, 2023•17 min•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: motivation, resiliency, transformation, Mt Kilimanjaro, Kona marathon, family secrets, doubt, shame I'm proud to have known Bonner for some time now, thanks to him being a member of the Alliance, my private men's group. But the reason I wanted him on the show is to share his powerful story and how he's alchemized his life and his troubles into something that serves others. Many others, as you'll find out when you hit play. I strongly recommend checking this one out if you or some...
Jul 17, 2023•1 hr 15 min•Ep 448•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: maturity, parenthood I get asked this question a lot, so here's an honest, off-the-cuff response. I get why a lot of people choose not to, but I think there are also some powerful reasons in the other direction. Listen in. 02:17 - Bringing children into a troubled world 07:09 - The importance of the human spirit 14:15 - How parenting matures you 20:11 - There are beautiful moments in parenting Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Sel...
Jul 13, 2023•24 min•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: addiction, sex, porn, narcissism, relationships, therapy I've yet to meet a man who hasn't struggled at some point in his life with porn addiction. I was one of them. But is sex addiction any different, and is it more or less complex? I sat down with Dr. Doug Weiss, himself a recovered sex addict (37 years and counting!) to get some insight. This is an ep to listen to if you're looking for more insight on a pervasive problem for many, many people. One that can heavily impact rela...
Jul 10, 2023•1 hr 8 min•Ep 447•Transcript available on Metacast It's not easy. It's not simple. It's not comfortable. It's definitely not fun. But it's good for you, and in times like these may be one of the most important skills to cultivate. Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build brotherhood with a powerful group of like-minded men from ...
Jul 06, 2023•13 min•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: anger, relationships, finances, birth, mental health, masculine/feminine dynamics Delighted to have the frank yet eloquent honesty of Christine Hassler on the show. This episode is a top choice to listen to with your partner if you're looking for some relationship advice that combines practicality, spirituality, and much more. [01:02] - Christine's defining moment. [07:59] - Christine on women and anger [12:23] - How Connor and Christine define ego. [15:25] - Women and anger. [28...
Jul 03, 2023•58 min•Ep 446•Transcript available on Metacast There are a LOT of relationship tips and tricks on social media. Lots of traps too, and this one is possibly the worst. Dig in, dear listener. What's your take? Would love to hear your thoughts on Instagram (or check the YouTube video)! Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditation | How To Lead In Your Relationship Build b...
Jun 29, 2023•10 min•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: relationships, IMAGO therapy, emotional intelligence, social media, attachment theory, conflict, sex, intimacy, artificial intelligence Deeply grateful to have sat down with Nick last week to chat about all things relationships. Nick is, frankly, one of the best in the biz, and his compassionate yet no-nonsense approach has helped a great many people. If you’re interested AT ALL in levelling up your intimate relationships, this is an episode to listen to. Strongly recommend you l...
Jun 26, 2023•1 hr 17 min•Ep 445•Transcript available on Metacast I didn't always have it figured out. There are times even now when I still feel lost. But after relentless work and coaching thousands of men over the years, there are a few ideas that have risen to the top and truly helped me and others overcome that feeling of being rudderless. Pick up my brand-new book, Men's Work: A Practical Guide To Face Your Darkness, End Self-Sabotage, And Find Freedom: https://mantalks.com/mens-work-book/ Check out some free resources: How To Quit Porn | Anger Meditatio...
Jun 22, 2023•17 min•Transcript available on Metacast Talking points: anger, inner critic, passive aggressiveness, shame Haven't done one of these in a while! Every so often I'll have an anonymous guest on the show to give listeners a glimpse into what men's work at ManTalks is actually like. This time, my guest is already familiar with what we do, so I dive right in. If you're the kind of person who has difficulty standing up for themselves, or can't seem to control negative self-talk, this may be a helpful episode to dig into. We talk a lot about...
Jun 19, 2023•42 min•Ep 444•Transcript available on Metacast 
