How can you tell if you really like yourself? It's probably something you don't think about because you just assume that you do. But, according to an American sociologist, at any given moment, 80% of the world doesn't like themselves. I'm a little scared of the answer, but I need somebody to do research on what the number would be for women. Do you think it's higher or lower? This morning I found myself thinking, 'I really like myself'. That's not the first time I've had that thought, or even my...
Jun 11, 2019•9 min•Ep. 63
In this week's episode of the podcast I am going to take a look at what hope is and why you should care. I got a question on Twitter the other day that I decided to answer here on the podcast in addition to responding directly. The question was, "With all the stuff that’s going on how do you stay hopeful about everything? It feels trivial to be concerned with my stuff when there’s so much happening in the world." Short answer : I see you and I hear you. The weight of all the mayhem in the world ...
May 31, 2019•10 min•Ep. 62
I know you want to take control of your career and remove fear. With all the rapid changes in the workplace it's natural to experience some fear. Will the company stay profitable? Will you be able to continue to progress and move up the organization? Are you going to be replaced by a robot? We delve into these questions and more in today's episode of the podcast. Many of my coaching clients are accomplished, mid-career women who: Are worried that the changing workplace seems to be leaving them b...
May 24, 2019•1 hr 13 min•Ep. 61
If you change the content you see, your life will improve. You may not realize it, but you are ‘bathed’ in content every day. And the content you see affects you in many ways. If you expose yourself to a lot of negative content, you will experience anxiety and self-doubt frequently. In fact, absorb enough negative content and you will start having epic levels of self doubt. But, if you bathe yourself in positive content, your life will improve. For the purpose of this discussion, anything that i...
May 17, 2019•13 min•Ep. 60
I thought LinkedIn was a place to post your resume if you were actively looking for a job. And that's all I did, check in every 4 years or so and make a half-hearted attempt at keeping my resume updated. Usually I would hop on there when I started getting a bunch of email notifications that people were congratulating me on a work anniversary for a company I'd left several years before. I’m comfortable not knowing everything and I love finding people who I can tap into for specific expertise. And...
Apr 30, 2019•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 59
What if the things you have always believed aren't true? What if it's within your power to do and believe new things? This is your introduction to the startling power of 'what if'. I know how strongly we hold our beliefs. I’m not necessarily talking about limiting beliefs, I’m speaking in more broad terms. We are a nation that questions a lot of things but what we believe, we REALLY believe. And to our credit, it's hard for us to shake off things that we believe in strongly. There are certain th...
Apr 16, 2019•14 min•Ep. 58
Many women struggle with what other people think of us. That mis-placed focus is very common even though you know how dangerous it can be to base your self-esteem on the way someone else chooses to treat you. However, the danger is magnified when abuse comes from the closest possible person--yourself! You need to know how to get out an abusive relationship with yourself. This is definitely a Big Girl Panties episode as we take a deep look at whether we've created an abusive relationship that we ...
Apr 06, 2019•16 min•Ep. 57
In the last episode of the podcast, I talked about how to increase your self awareness. In this episode, Tai Goodwin visits with me to continue that discussion, but from a slightly different perspective. Tai teaches us how to live a life aligned with who we really are. Tai's business focuses on entrepreneurs who are building businesses, but the importance and benefit of being self aware is relevant for all of us. Being willing to take the steps to move into what you want has been a theme on the ...
Mar 11, 2019•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 56
Why do you live where you live? Why do you love or hate the job you have? What motivates you to get up in the morning? What has led you to this point in your life? These are all questions that many women can't answer. They don't have the self-awareness to know who they are. They don't know why they've made the choices they've made or why they struggle with certain things. In fact, many people who lack self-awareness find that they aren't happy but they don't know why. It's this generalized anxie...
Mar 04, 2019•17 min•Ep. 55
Are you ready to stop making excuses? Many of us had big dreams early in life. I think young women are the best dreamers in the world! When we're young it's a time of limitless dreams and possibilities. Want to be a firefighter and a ballerina? Done. Want to be a mermaid who flies through the water? No problem. Whether our dreams were big or small, as life started to happen, we put some of our dreams on a shelf. Your dreams are still living somewhere in your mind but you don't think about them a...
Dec 21, 2018•9 min•Ep. 54
You can probably think of lots of reasons why your career may be stuck, or not moving as quickly as you'd like. The need to overcome limiting beliefs to grow your career probably isn't one of them. Here are 4 steps to overcome limiting beliefs and grow your career: * Gently Examine Your Limiting Beliefs * Reframe Your Limiting Beliefs * Challenge Your Limiting Thoughts * Start Keeping a Journal Shownotes can be found at allegrasinclair.com/053
Oct 04, 2018•6 min•Ep. 53
Believe it or not, how you feel about your body is an important ingredient in being confident. How confident can you feel if you're walking around in a body you hate? Or if you don't hate it, you spend a lot of time 'talking smack' about it. That works against your natural confidence. Are you wondering how to love your body? The first step is to accept your body right now. In this episode we discuss what can you do to accept your body just the way it is. Show notes available at: allegrasinclair....
Aug 20, 2018•7 min•Ep. 52
Breakthroughs are one of the joys I find in working with my coaching clients. They will tell me things that they've been working on, or new skills they have been trying out at work and how it worked really well for them. When they tell me their good results, they kind of gloss over them and race past the breakthroughs that make me want to jump up and down and cheer. Often my clients miss the smaller moments of how their lives are changing and how they're improving. And I delight in slowing them ...
Jul 02, 2018•8 min•Ep. 51
I can't wait for you to get into how yoga can lead to radical self care. Today's guest is fiyah! When Rev. Shelley visited her first yoga studio, she crawled away. While she had been interested in yoga for a long time, the reality of being ‘othered’ in her first attempt to learn yoga stopped her in her tracks. Her perception of a yoga afficionado didn’t look like herself and this was borne out by the behavior of the people at the first studio she visited. Being ignored by the majority is common ...
Mar 06, 2018•57 min•Ep. 50
I am going to give you the best morning routine to avoid feeling like a victim. Lately I’ve been hearing from a number of clients, friends, family who are feeling like victims. They feel helpless in the face of what’s going on in the world, difficult relationships with friends and family, dissatisfaction with their jobs, and more. Why? Because they feel like all day long all they do is deal with the crap that’s getting thrown at them. And by the end of the day they feel beaten down and frustrate...
Feb 20, 2018•14 min•Ep. 49
So many women are stuck because they are asking permission to live fully. Is it ok if I shine? If I speak in a meeting? If I leave this bad relationship? We have this yearning for someone to tell us that we’re ok. IN TODAY’S SHOW WE DISCUSSED: What a classic good girl is and what her life looks like. The danger in following the rules and following a path that’s not really your own. What happens when you don’t have focus. Why she thought a referral to a life coach meant she was a hot mess. If you...
Feb 13, 2018•34 min•Ep. 48
Most children know how to punch fear in the throat. When we're 5, we handle fear like a ninja. As we get older, we forget these skills and start letting fear push us around. Today we're going to look at 10 lessons from a five-year-old so that you can punch fear in the throat now. "Real self-confidence is not a lack of fear. It's acknowledging the fear and trusting yourself anyway. " Here are the 10 lessons I discussed in this episode: Stop Saying Yes When... Be Fearless Ask for Help Believe You ...
Feb 06, 2018•16 min•Ep. 47
Lee McDonough stops by the podcast to drop some major clarity insights and heaps of encouragement. Her coaching philosophy fuses the principles of Acceptance & Commitment Therapy, Energy Leadership, and mindfulness in order to help her clients excel at their work, feel in control of their careers, and transform their lives. In this episode we talked about the challenges people have gaining clarity and then being brave enough to take the steps and move into what they see. Gaining clarity is o...
Jan 26, 2018•37 min•Ep. 46
Self care is powerful for every woman because it’s one of the most overlooked means of changing our lives. It's also one of the most effective tools you can use to improve the lives of the people you love. No, I’m not sleepy, I said self care is something you do for people you love. Sounds backwards, I know. This conversation about self care begins with the idea that putting yourself last is not noble. THIS EPISODE COVERS: Why we neglect ourselves The best way to take care of others The definiti...
Jan 12, 2018•13 min•Ep. 45
So many people (especially celebrities) seem to be working with a life coach, but they don't usually tell you why they made that decision. Don't you wish they would? You probably need more information to decide if working with a coach is something you want to do for yourself. In this episode I'll provide more information. Life coaching is a relatively new career. Because it's so new, it can be confusing to figure out what a life coach really is and whether or not one would help you. Here's a qui...
Apr 20, 2017•7 min•Ep. 44
This episode is a wild ride that you will probably want to take twice. We start our conversation with the one thing Kim Coles would like to pour into women’s heads. In this episode we examine: * Permission to live out loud * Permission to live a good life * Permission for radical self care * Permission to be the best you ever And perhaps most importantly, it's permission to be who you are. So many women are stuck because they are asking permission to live fully. Is it ok if I shine? If I speak i...
Nov 16, 2016•49 min•Ep. 43
It's a lot easier to say I can't, than it is to say, I'm scared. But that's precisely what we are really saying when we hide from success and ignore new opportunities. The goal of today's show is to provide understanding of how 'I Can't' damages you. If you fall victim to a negative 'I Can't' attitude, it can poison nearly every aspect of your life. It can affect your business plans, career goals, and even personal relationships. Oh, the horror! In today's show, I take aim at 'I Can't' and provi...
Nov 02, 2016•11 min•Ep. 42
When you think about improving your self-esteem, it's natural that you would look inward for areas to improve. But, instead of looking inside for all the reasons you're not more confident or successful, today let's look at your environment. Changing your environment can boost your self-esteem. Low self-esteem and a lack of confidence can be caused by a number of things. While it’s true that there are internal things that cause low self-esteem, there are external factors that also contribute to l...
Oct 19, 2016•7 min•Ep. 41
A lot of people talk about reframing situations, but not a lot of people know how to do it. Today we will look at 7 situations and explore how to reframe negative situations. I have been blogging lately about self talk, to be clear, I am talking about the inner sound track of your mind. Unfortunately, a majority of people have a negative sound track that plays over and over in their head. That means, your inner critic (I call mine Wilhemina, or Willie) has easy access to you and always seems to ...
Oct 05, 2016•11 min•Ep. 40
So many of us think that success is hard and failing is easy. Wrong! It’s a lot harder to be unsuccessful. Why? Because getting stuck and STAYING stuck requires you to adopt behaviors (turn them into habits) that take a lot of work to create and maintain. Today, let's take a look at the top 3 reasons why women get stuck. Show notes are available at allegrasinclair.com/039
Jul 20, 2016•12 min•Ep. 39
Today is one of those days in which a gigantic lesson revealed itself when I was least expecting it. It's funny how often that happens. In the midst of a tough day, full of grief and disappointment, I had a relevation that I just had to share. In This Episode... Back from a hiatus, this first episode of the new season of the Your Confident Self Podcast is small but mighty. Just like the gigantic lesson inside! I wasn't expecting to find anything deep on this day and I definitely wasn't expecting...
Jun 22, 2016•7 min•Ep. 38
In this episode you'll discover: How an unsexy profession led me to helping others see the fabulous within themselves How you know when it's time to make some sort of leap/change and what boredom has to do with it Why I am so afraid of being bored Steps you can take to stop being comfortable and why you want to do that How to exercise your courage muscle to get past fear The ways you can steal the power away from fear The unique power that entrepreneurs possess What do you do if you hate marketi...
Dec 19, 2015•41 min•Ep. 37
How any sleep mistakes are there?! Today I'm chatting with a delightful woman who works predominantly offline but is building a fabulous online presence as well. Dr. Tracey Marks shares the biggest sleep mistakes you are making that you could easily avoid. Dr. Marks is a psychiatrist and focuses on working women who are too tired, busy, stressed out, etc. Those women who are Beyond Burnout. She helps women devise strategies to recover from “burnout” and live healthier lives for themselves and th...
Dec 08, 2015•40 min•Ep. 36
The holidays can be lonely for a lot of people. There, I said it. Now we can stop pretending that everybody MUST have the same holiday experience. That's a holiday lie. A holiday truth is that you can have the holiday you want, IF you're willing to show love . What do I mean? Let me tell you a story. This is the Fable of the Christmas Songbird or how showing love can transform you. WHY ARE THE HOLIDAYS LONELY FOR SOME? Some people are lonely because they're single. Some people are lonely because...
Dec 01, 2015•9 min•Ep. 35
Have you ever wondered how some women make all the right connections? Have you ever wanted to get better at making connections with people and stop simply exchanging business cards that you lose or forget about while they gather dust in the drawer? I’m talking about meaningful connections! It’s so critical to make the right connections when building your business. Today, my fabulous guest, Dr. Sandi Eveleth, shares precisely how she does that, and how you can do it, too Show notes are available ...
Nov 24, 2015•50 min•Ep. 34
