It is not the events in our lives that shape us - it is what we believe about those events. It is what we make it mean in our life. How do we find our way out of the excruciating emotional pain of loss to move ahead in our life? The coaching thought model that I teach sets the path. Join me as I begin to take you all deeper into coaching tools and self coaching. email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Find out more about Widow Coach Certification at http://widowcoaches.com...
Nov 03, 2017•38 min•Ep. 35
"I need the strength to make it through it, and to make something of myself" was the sentence that jumped out to me on the prayer request that had been forward to me. It is what you need. The strength to make it through - and then a way to make something of yourself. A way to make the emotional journey MEAN something. A way to contribute - a way to do work in the world that actually feels fulfilling. That is what widow coaching is all about. email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Find out more about...
Oct 26, 2017•18 min•Ep. 34
I shared a free online workshop last week on one of the many tools I teach in my widow coaches certification course. I had emailed out the introduction chapter of my next book, The Widow Coach, and received back so many wonderful responses that I wanted to share a tool with everyone. On this episode, I am teaching this for my listeners that did not catch the free workshop. It is all about how to understand what the true facts are in your life compared to the story your tell yourself about them. ...
Oct 01, 2017•42 min•Ep. 33
Most widows have experienced that moment with something right out of the blue catches you off guard, reminding you of your loss. A sweet reminder does not have to overwhelm us with depression and sadness. It all depends on where your head is at when it catches you. Listen in to discover how you can move past the pain into sweet remembrance. Email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Learn more about Widow Coaches Class at http://widowcoaches.com...
Sep 06, 2017•29 min•Ep. 32
The lesson that gets sent straight home to our hearts over and over. Why do we still not get it? When we lose our spouse, we immediately realize how previous every moment with them was. Perhaps we wish things had been a little different. Maybe that we worked less or were less preoccupied with ouir own “busy-ness” of life. We wish there had been more “down time” to spend kicked back with our husband or wife. It’s really an old story, isn’t it? Are you a widow who feels deeply that there is no tim...
Jul 26, 2017•25 min•Ep. 31
Hitting the "pause button" on grief because you throw yourself into work or put all your energy into making sure your kids are okay will eventually catch up. You can pause grief, but that is not healing. The grief eventually turns up again. So how to feel better, right now. I share one of the first things I teach in Widow Coaches Class. It is being able to separate out story from fact, and how to take a look at your own story and see if it is serving you. If it's not, then it's time to start see...
Jun 04, 2017•26 min
After becoming widowed, is it possible to love your life again? It might seem impossible - you feel like you'll never wake up with excitement and want to jump right out of bed. I want to share with you exactly how this happened for me. It is how I found meaning in my life again and began to love my life and love my work. Listen in as I share my story. You can reach out to me in email at joann@joannthelifecoach.com If you are interested in Widow Coaching Class, go to http://bit.ly/widowcoaches...
May 05, 2017•1 hr 7 min
We talk about feelings a lot in widow coaches certification training. Most widows come to me because they want to know how to escape their feelings - the pain is overwhelming. Instead they learn how to really feel their feelings so they can process them and release them. It is important to not separate from your feelings but to honor them. If you are interested in learning how to life coach widows, please reach out at this link http://bit.ly/WidowCoaches Email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com...
Apr 21, 2017•19 min
I got a beautiful letter from one of my Widow Cast podcast listeners who has found comfort and hope in my podcast since his husband passed away just a few months ago. It totally came to my attention how completely under served widows of same-sex marriages and partnerships are. All widows feel isolated, but how much more isolated the LGBT widow must feel? So I reached out. How could I not share this platform for every widow on the planet. Graciously, Rebecca Kendrick sat down with me to share her...
Apr 10, 2017•36 min
It was my pleasure to give a free hour long class online this past Thursday. It was about how to find yourself again after your spouse is gone - how do you decide what it is you actually want and how do you create that? You are going to be so surprised by the process - it is completely reverse of what we normally think we have to do. AND it's fun. So join me on this podcast and become the woman you were meant to become. If you want to get on my email list so that you know the next time I offer a...
Apr 01, 2017•35 min
Faith. It is an emotion. It is a feeling. It is a thought. For some, acting with faith means to act in accordance to their belief of god. That means, they are acting according to what they believe; and what we believe is *always* what we are thinking in our mind. What if you are not devoutly religious? Can you still act with faith? Of course, you do it every day. You act in alignment with your beliefs, which are formed by your thinking. Today's podcast teaches how you can put faith into play in ...
Mar 10, 2017•19 min
When widowhood is still new and you are in a fog, not wanting to think or do anything, how do you begin to take those first steps forward? Listen in on those first few steps and how to look into your own future after becoming widowed. Email Joann: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com Widowed: http://bit.ly/Widowed
Mar 05, 2017•24 min
Last week I spoke about new love being a possiblity. Of course, the relationship you had with your spouse is not something that could ever be duplicated. But apparently the heart can open and grow. This week I bring you a special interview with Barbara Kenyon who coaches divorcees, widows, and widowers who are ready to find someone special in their life again. You can reach Barbara Kenyon at barbara@kenyoncoaching.com Email Joann: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com...
Feb 17, 2017•42 min
You think you’ll never love again or even think about being with another person in such a close relationship again. I surely have felt that way over the last couple of years. I couldn’t even imagine at my time in life making all the compromises to share space with another person. I only wanted to find my best self and learn to stand on my own two feet. I was always fiercely independent and individualistic anyway. We both were. I bet you also know how completely unique your relationship was with ...
Feb 10, 2017•27 min
WE know all too well that our emotions are all over the place and cannot be “neatly” categorized. I’ve talked about how all these emotions can actually “muddy up” your feeling of grief. We think that all those emotions are grief – but no. So then, how do you process all those emotions? You can find Widowed on Amazon at http://joannfilomena.com Email Joann: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com This podcast is brought to you by Joann The Life Coach Podcast Productions....
Feb 03, 2017•25 min
Don't be afraid to look at your life as it is right now - that is the starting point for deciding what new beliefs you might want to have about yourself and about your life. When we hide from ourself by staying in a stuck place, it is a form of checking out on your life. Widows and widowers even have a high rate of suicidal thoughts - the ultimate checking out on life. Today I share how powerful it is to muster the courage to look at exactly where you are and what you need. This podcast is broug...
Jan 26, 2017•31 min•Ep. 23
Did you marry when you were older and maybe he had grown kids from a prevrious marriage? Or is it just your in laws that you now feel a little "estranged" from? So often we think of those step-kids and grandkids as "his kids" and "his family" instead of our own family. So we lose touch and lose any possible support from them. It is our thinking that has gotten in our way of continuing those relationships - and just at a time when we need that bond more than ever. Today's podcast talks about this...
Jan 14, 2017•24 min•Ep. 22
Do you feel guilt that you didn’t do enough for your spouse? Guilt perhaps for a medical decision you made for them. Guilt for backing THEIR decision. Guilt for not immediately thinking of them when you wake in the morning. Guilt for feeling the first twinge of happiness or pleasure after they’ve pasted. The guilt that assails us when we think something like, “well at least I don't have to do wash twice a week anymore” or “How nice that the kitchen stays clean.” Guilt over selling their car, rel...
Jan 07, 2017•19 min•Ep. 21
If you are a new widow, this episode might not be something you are ready to hear yet. If you listen, do keep your mind open to this possibility in your future. For those of you who, like me, have been widowed more than a year; this might resonate. December 29th marked the end of two years as a widow for me, and as this date approached, there was a shift in my heart. I want to share this with you. The stories I share here might sound like little things, but listen on. They run much deeper. There...
Dec 31, 2016•35 min
We are at that time of year that can be so very painful to experience after your spouse has died: Thanksgiving, Christmas, Hanukkah - Kwanzaa - your holidays celebrations. But being alone doesn’t have to equal lonely. Some tips for your holiday, as well as permission to spend it exactly as you wish. Email: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com/widowed/...
Dec 16, 2016•24 min
Widow weight gain - a return to emotional eating. Emotions and feelings? This is the basis for issues with overeating. As a widow, especially if you've already struggled with weight issues, you may find that the scale has headed upwards again. No only am I a widow and professional life coach, I'm a certified professional weight loss coach. Find out more! You can email Joann at joann@joannthelifecoach.com Want to jump on the phone with me? Go schedule a time we can talk at http://talktojoann.com...
Dec 09, 2016•29 min
Just the thought of being widowed equals “destitute widow” in our mind. In times of yore, the word widowed and destitute were almost synonymous. Falling prey to financial drama will indeed hold you back. Find the mindset to turn financial fears around! Read WIDOWED http://bit.ly/Widowed Get on a call with me: http://talktojoann.com Website: http://joannthelifecoach.com...
Dec 02, 2016•31 min
Happy Thanksgiving from Joann of Widow Cast and the book, WIDOWED. This special episode is recorded live about 3,500 miles away from my broadcasting studio - coming to you unedited. For Thanksgiving, I wanted to reach out to all of my listeners to share a story of how finding gratitude not only for what you have had and what you have right now in this present, but also for where you need to be can support and help create that future for you. It is my wish that you find a lot to feel thankful for...
Nov 24, 2016•15 min
Are you ignoring the pain of loss, pushing it down, telling yourself “I’m okay, I got this?” This is a definite trend in the sisterhood. We think we can just tie on our red cape and push forward. But all that bottled up emotional pain is going to push right back in ways you cannot even imagine. Continuing on even in the best of circumstances is not necessarily the same as thriving on life. Start by learning the difference in how you look at what you are feeling. Reach out in email to Joann@joann...
Nov 20, 2016•36 min
We’ve talked about not comparing divorce to becoming widowed as these are two very different circumstances - not the same thing at all. But what happens when after divorce, your ex passes away? Is it rehashing the old feelings? Why are you so devastated all over again upon their death? Join me as I break down this phenomenon. Email feedback: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com Website: http://Joannthelifecoach.com Jump on a call with me: http://talktojoann.com...
Nov 12, 2016•16 min
Don't miss out on life. Why does one widow stay stuck for years and lose even a decade plus of living, and another widow uses the pain and fear to push forward? One widow is not smarter, better, more emotionally stable than the other. One widow does not have more supportive friends, more financial income, more social contacts than another. Both widows are deep in grief. So what happens? Where is the click? Find out in this episode. Reach out at http://talktojoann.com to jump on a call to find ou...
Nov 04, 2016•29 min
Not only do we experience that huge shock of stress with the loss of our spouse, there are a tremendous number of secondary losses. Be aware that these compound and can even affect your health. Today's episode discusses a famous stress units scale and helps you assess where you are in your life currently, along with the various compounding stresses we face as widows. You can schedule a discovery call with me at http://talktojoann.com Download the free worksheet with the Holmes Stress Scale at ht...
Oct 28, 2016•19 min
There were key insights and experiences in my first year as a widow that helped me strike out and rebuild a life for me. This is why I wrote WIDOWED - to share that journey and some of what I discovered along the way that helped me. Today I share a little taste of WIDOWED with you. Email: Joann@JoannTheLifeCoach.com Get WIDOWED for free at http://joannthelifecoach.com/widowed Schedule a discovery call with me at http://talktojoann.com...
Oct 21, 2016•17 min
Today my book, WIDOWED, is live on Amazon.com in Kindle Format and I'm offering it for FREE for the next 3 days. Details in this brief announcement. Event registration: http://lifefromtheauthorcastle.com Book web page: http://joannthelifecoach.com/widowed/
Oct 13, 2016•4 min
Have you had someone say to you, "I'm not widowed, but I'm divorced and . . . ." There is never any good to come from comparing. Death and Divorce are not the same things, so why are we comparing them? In this episode, I also share about writing and the launch of my book, WIDOWED. Oct 13th, you can check Amazon for Joann Filomena, Widowed, to find a free download! Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/widowcast/ Email Joann at: Joann@joannthelifecoach.com...
Oct 07, 2016•17 min
