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Were You Raised By Wolves?

Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos. When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.” Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.” --- Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

Episodes

Holiday Break: Feeling Obligated to Babysit, Serving Sliced Lemons, Fixing Friends' Typos, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about feeling obligated to babysit for a neighbor, serving sliced lemons at a buffet, fixing friends' social media typos, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? C...

Sep 02, 202429 min

Holiday Break: Verifying Wedding RSVPs, Hogging Restaurant Gift Certificates, Using Hosts' Expensive Bath Products, and More

This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about verifying wedding RSVPs, hogging restaurant gift certificates, using hosts' expensive bath products, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QU...

Aug 26, 202430 min

Getting Passive-Aggressive with Tissues, Tossing Spoiled Food, Calling Out Rudeness, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about putting used tissues in someone's shoes, throwing away spoiled food, telling people they're being rude, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: If you’ve asked someone to not leave tissues and paper towels around the house, is it OK to then put th...

Aug 19, 202431 minEp. 237

Spitting Watermelon Seeds, Behaving While Bowling, Throwing Spoons on Airplanes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating watermelon properly, behaving while bowling, throwing spoons on airplanes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Watermelon A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Bowling QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to make guests pay for dinner at a wedding reception? What can I...

Aug 12, 202454 minEp. 236

Demanding Gift Cards, Meeting up With Childhood Friends, Sticking Fingers in Wine Glasses, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about demanding gift cards for housewarming parties, meeting up with childhood friends unwillingly, sticking fingers in wine glasses to remove bugs, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to demand specific gift cards for a housewarming party?...

Aug 05, 202434 minEp. 235

Experiencing Finnish Saunas, Leaving Long Voice Notes, Raining on People's Parades, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle experiencing saunas in Finland, leaving long voice notes, raining on people's parades, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Saunas in Finland A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Voice Notes QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do you politely shut down people who are tryingn to rai...

Jul 29, 202445 minEp. 234

Knocking on Doors, Handling Overbearing Mothers-In-Law, Cleaning Supermarket Floors, and Much More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about knocking on doors, handling overbearing mothers-in-law, cleaning supermarket floors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: After knocking on a door, what is the appropriate amount of time to wait before knocking again? How do I handle my overbea...

Jul 22, 202428 minEp. 233

Summer Break: Wearing Hats, Behaving on Boats, Remembering Song Lyrics, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle wearing hats, behaving on boats, remembering song lyrics, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Ha...

Jul 15, 202446 min

Summer Break: Telling Cooks They're Terrible, Leaving Cash on Tables, Handling Wet Laundry, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about telling cooks they're terrible, leaving cash on tables in restaurants, handling strangers' wet laundry, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267)...

Jul 08, 202435 min

Sequencing Cream and Jam on Scones, Glancing at Smartwatches, Scowling at Strangers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle putting cream and jam on scones in the correct order, glancing at smartwatches, scowling at strangers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Putting cream and jam on scones A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Picnics QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to look at a smart wat...

Jul 01, 202435 minEp. 232

Saying "You're Welcome" Unprompted, Cleaning up After Squirrels, Asking Wedding Guests to Bring Ice, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about saying "you're welcome" unprompted, cleaning up after squirrels, asking wedding guests to bring ice, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I get my parents to tip servers more than 10%? Is it rude to say "you're welcome" to a person who d...

Jun 24, 202433 minEp. 231

Stealing Parking Spaces, Closing Bathroom Doors, Arriving Late to Classes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle stealing parking spaces from coworkers, closing bathroom doors, arriving late to classes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Napkin placement when setting the table A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Networking events QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about a new col...

Jun 17, 202441 minEp. 230

Escaping Unwanted Potlucks, Avoiding Teenaged Guests, Opting Out of Thank You Notes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about escaping unwanted potlucks, avoiding teenaged guests, opting out of thank you notes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should a man wait for a woman to extend her hand first before offering a handshake? How do I get out of my boss' potluck l...

Jun 10, 202427 minEp. 229

Using Bouillon Cups, Surviving Book Clubs, Changing Plans on Guests, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using bouillon cups, surviving book clubs, changing plans on guests, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Bouillon Cups A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Book Clubs QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to invite extra people to an outing without informing the original guests...

Jun 03, 202441 minEp. 228

Memorial Day Break: Sending Wedding Cards to Exes, Being Polite to Smart Speakers, Asking People for Favors, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle sending wedding cards to exes, being polite to Siri and Alexa, asking people for favors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EP...

May 27, 202441 min

Faking Wedding Start Times, Asking for Gifts Back, Clipping Nails in Church, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about faking wedding start times, asking for gifts back, clipping nails in church, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to put a fake start time on a wedding invitation? What's the polite way to tell someone "when" to stop pouring wine? Ho...

May 20, 202426 minEp. 227

Getting Things Monogrammed, Behaving at Brunch, Requesting Graduation Money, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle getting things monogrammed, behaving at brunch, requesting graduation money, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Monograms A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Brunch QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: When you have an extra ticket to a performance, is it rude to send a group text to...

May 13, 202443 minEp. 226

Removing Shoes on Airplanes, Exiting Weddings Early, Welcoming Guests In, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about removing shoes on airplanes, exiting weddings early, welcoming guests in, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What are your thoughts on removing one's shoes on an airplane? How do you handle a friend who wants a friendship more than you do and...

May 06, 202426 minEp. 225

Enjoying Petit Fours, Visiting New York City, Tracking Down Perishable Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle enjoying petit fours, visiting New York City, tracking down perishable gifts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Mignardises and Petit Fours A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: New York City Etiquette QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I respond to unsolicited encouragement ...

Apr 29, 202445 minEp. 224

Stealing Hotel Rooms, Escaping Dinner Parties, Grabbing Costco Canapés, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about stealing hotel rooms, escaping dinner parties, grabbing Costco canapés, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do we do if another couple we're traveling with does something rude at the very start of our vacation? When gifting someone a phot...

Apr 22, 202431 minEp. 223

Discovering Letitia Baldrige, Handling Airport Pickups, Brushing Teeth at the Office, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle the biography of Letitia Baldrige, handling airport pickups, brushing teeth at the office, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Letitia Baldrige A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Airport Pickups QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to brush and floss your teeth in an offic...

Apr 15, 202444 minEp. 222

Cordially Invited: Sara Jane Ho

Nick and Leah have cordially invited Sara Jane Ho, host of "Mind Your Manners" on Netflix, to chat about her new book, how long to leave a strangers' laundry in a dryer, swapping place cards, and much more. Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com MORE SARA JANE HO: Official Website Her new book: "Mind Your Manners" "Mind Your Manners" on Netflix Her skincare line: Antevorta Labs YOU ARE CORDIALLY INVITED TO... Support our show through Patreon Subscribe and rate...

Apr 11, 202422 min

Spring Break: Passing Salt and Pepper, Asking for Pickles, Running Into Acquaintances, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle passing salt and pepper, asking people if they're going to eat their pickles, running into acquaintances at bars, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or vi...

Apr 08, 202450 min

Cordially Invited: William Hanson

Nick and Leah have cordially invited William Hanson, one of Britain's most trusted authorities on etiquette, to chat about his new book, the correct way to eat an omelette, his feelings about Australians, and much more. Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com MORE WILLIAM HANSON: Official Website His new book available for pre-order now: "Just Good Manners" The English Manner, the UK's leading etiquette training institute "Help I Sexted My Boss" Podcast THINGS ...

Apr 04, 202432 min

Sharing Burgers in Restaurants, Splitting AirBNBs Fairly, Inquiring About Lip Filler, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sharing burgers in restaurants, splitting the cost of AirBNBs fairly, inquiring if someone's had lip filler, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should you share a burger with someone in a restaurant? What's a tactful response if someone wishe...

Apr 01, 202427 minEp. 221

Eating Baguettes in France, Spitting Wine at Tastings, Returning Gifts to Guests, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating baguettes in France, spitting at winery tasting rooms, returning gifts to guests, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Baguettes in France A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Tasting Rooms at Wineries QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What can be said to in-laws who are expec...

Mar 25, 202443 minEp. 220

Loitering Around Toasters, Being Embarrassed by Employees, Picking Strangers' Teeth, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about loitering around toasters, being embarrassed by employees, picking strangers' teeth, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the etiquette regarding using a communal toaster at a breakfast buffet? What do I do about my employee who embarra...

Mar 18, 202432 minEp. 219

Identifying Salt and Pepper Shakers, Using AI for Thank You Notes, Walking Up Escalators, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle identifying salt and pepper shakers by their holes, using AI (Artificial Intelligence) to write thank you notes, walking up escalators, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Salt and Pepper Shakers A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Using Artificial Intelligence (AI) in Etiquette...

Mar 11, 202450 minEp. 218

Taking Flowers From Funerals, Giving Guests Plastic Cutlery, Asking About People's Weight, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about taking flowers from funerals, giving guests plastic cutlery, asking about people's weight, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How can we politely let a waiter know we aren't interested in hearing them perform the specials? Is it acceptable fo...

Mar 04, 202429 minEp. 217

Eating Soft Boiled Eggs, Getting A Professional Massage, Being Judgy at Airports, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating soft boiled eggs, getting a professional massage, being judgy at airports, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Soft boiled eggs A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Getting a professional massage QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do you respond to "I appreciate you"? What...

Feb 26, 202445 minEp. 216