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Were You Raised By Wolves?

Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos. When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.” Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.” --- Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)

Episodes

Taking Flowers From Funerals, Giving Guests Plastic Cutlery, Asking About People's Weight, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about taking flowers from funerals, giving guests plastic cutlery, asking about people's weight, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How can we politely let a waiter know we aren't interested in hearing them perform the specials? Is it acceptable fo...

Mar 04, 202429 minEp. 217

Eating Soft Boiled Eggs, Getting A Professional Massage, Being Judgy at Airports, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating soft boiled eggs, getting a professional massage, being judgy at airports, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Soft boiled eggs A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Getting a professional massage QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do you respond to "I appreciate you"? What...

Feb 26, 202445 minEp. 216

President's Day Break: Commandeering Televisions, RSVPing to Facebook Events, Returning Shopping Carts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about commandeering televisions, RSVPing to Facebook events, returning shopping carts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit...

Feb 19, 202433 min

Dressing Your Personality at Weddings, Helping People Who Trip, Giving Money to Cashiers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about "dressing your personality" at weddings, helping people who trip, giving money to cashiers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What does "Dress Your Personality" mean as a dress code on a wedding invitation? What should you do if you see a st...

Feb 12, 202427 minEp. 215

Thanking Emperors for Tea, Traveling With Pets, Stealing Wipes at the Gym, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle thanking emperors for tea, traveling with pets, stealing wipes at the gym, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Finger Kowtow A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Traveling with pets QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What direction should you face in an elevator with two opposite doo...

Feb 05, 202446 minEp. 214

Using Squeegees in Showers, Stopping Judgy Comments, Asking Strangers for Wedding Cash, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about using squeegees in guest showers, stopping judgy comments about travel plans, asking strangers for wedding cash, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: If a host provides a squeegee in their shower, is a guest obliged to use it? What can I do to ...

Jan 29, 202429 minEp. 213

Numbering Floors, Making Others Uncomfortable, Picking Teeth in Public, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle floor numbering around the world, making other people uncomfortable, picking teeth while in public, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Floor numbering A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Making other people uncomfortable QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I say when peo...

Jan 22, 202449 minEp. 212

Objecting to Marriages, Watching Strangers' Luggage, Asking for More Chairs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about objecting to marriages, watching strangers' luggage, asking for more chairs, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How should I handle my sister-in law who doesn't think I should be married to her brother? How should we respond to strangers aski...

Jan 15, 202429 minEp. 211

Eating Napoleons, Using Annoying Email Phrases, Looking Nice on Subways, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating napoleons, using annoying email phrases, looking nice on subways, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Napoleons A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Problematic email phrases QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to eat in a hair salon? Should we offer to pay for colle...

Jan 08, 202452 minEp. 210

Holiday Break: Following Dress Codes, Copying Roommates' Décor, Clearing Plates, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle following dress codes on invitations, copying roommates' décor, clearing plates in restaurants, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw...

Jan 01, 202442 min

Holiday Break: Grabbing Fresher Milk, Escaping Unwanted Reunions, Returning Bad Sangria, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back soon with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they answer listener questions about grabbing fresher milk in supermarkets, escaping unwanted reunions, returning bad sangria, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or v...

Dec 25, 202328 min

Inviting Dogs Into Your Home, Lowering Gift-Giving Anxiety, Crashing Birthday Parties, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about inviting dogs into your home, lowering gift-giving anxiety, crashing birthday parties, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: The holiday office party is at my boss' home...should I bring a gift? How should I react to someone wanting to bring the...

Dec 18, 202341 minEp. 209

Watching Kalle Anka, Receiving Compliments, Bringing Empty Containers to Restaurants, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle watching Kalle Anka in Sweden, receiving compliments, bringing your own empty food containers to restaurants, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Kalle Anka A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Receiving compliments QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to bring your own empty ...

Dec 11, 202344 minEp. 208

Licking Yogurt Lids, Calling Stores for Help, Running Out of Dining Chairs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about licking yogurt lids in public, calling stores for help, running out of dining chairs, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it ever appropriate to lick a yogurt lid? Was it rude to call a store from inside the store to ask for assistance? Do ...

Dec 04, 202332 minEp. 207

Sending Holiday Cards, Finding Bear Skulls, Dropping Umbrellas, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle sending holiday cards, finding bear skulls, dropping umbrellas, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Iced Tea A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Holiday Cards QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I handle being seated in a restaurant next to diners having an unpleasant conversa...

Nov 27, 202351 minEp. 206

Holding Subway Doors, Sending Preprinted Cards, Using Recycled Vases, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about holding open subway doors, sending preprinted thank you cards, bringing your own vases to flower shops, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the etiquette for holding open subway doors? Is it tacky to give a thank you card that has "Tha...

Nov 20, 202328 minEp. 205

HOLIDAY BREAK: Obeying Little Signs, Coordinating Pot Lucks, Buying Concert Tickets, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle obeying little signs, coordinating pot luck dinners, buying concert tickets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTEN...

Nov 13, 202347 min

Eating Raw Oysters, Behaving at Concerts, Tipping With Lottery Tickets, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating raw oysters, behaving at concerts, tipping with lottery tickets, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Raw oysters A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Concerts QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to leave winning lottery tickets in addition to a tip at a restaurant? E...

Nov 06, 202351 minEp. 204

Requiring Marriage Certificates, Reimbursing Acquaintances, Taking New York Taxis, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about requiring marriage certificates, reimbursing acquaintances, taking taxis in New York, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What should I say to my friend who doesn't think a partner of seven years warrants a wedding invitation? What is the prop...

Oct 30, 202332 minEp. 203

Using the Correct Fork, Passing on Invitations, Traveling With Dogs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using the correct fork, passing on invitations, traveling with dogs, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Using the correct fork A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Scams QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about a friend who didn't recognize me in a restaurant? Is it rud...

Oct 23, 202346 minEp. 202

Breaking Apart Bananas in Supermarkets, Sending Wedding Invitations Via Text, Bailing on Dinners in Paris, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about breaking apart bananas in supermarkets, sending wedding invitations via text, bailing on dinners in Paris, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is telling someone "I hope you have the day you deserve" rude? Are you allowed to break apart banana...

Oct 16, 202326 minEp. 201

HOLIDAY BREAK: Eating Croissants, Pretending Not to Notice, Missing Plumbers, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle eating croissants, pretending not to notice, missing plumbers, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCH...

Oct 09, 202349 min

Very Special 200th Episode Extravaganza

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this very special 200th episode extravaganza, Nick and Leah revisit their favorite moments from the past hundred episodes and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Ice Cream Sodas A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Boats QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How soon is too soon to ask someone if they're going to eat their p...

Oct 02, 20231 hr 7 minEp. 200

Keeping Hot Sauce for Guests, Decanting White Wines, Hanging Coats on Airplanes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about keeping hot sauce for guests, decanting white wines, hanging coats on airplanes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do I have to keep hot sauces on hand for guests that I will not personally use? If I see a colleague at a coffee shop, should ...

Sep 25, 202333 minEp. 199

Buttering Bread Properly, Going on First Dates, Ringing Bells for Service, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle buttering bread properly, going on first dates, ringing bells for service, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Bread and Butter A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: First Dates QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I let friends and family back home know I'll be vacationing nearb...

Sep 18, 202347 minEp. 198

Replacing Lost Gloves, Arriving at Parties Too Early, Commandeering Other People’s Dates, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about replacing lost gloves, arriving at parties too early, commandeering other people's dates, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about my future mother-in-law who wants to crash my fiancé's bachelor party? Who is responsible for repl...

Sep 11, 202334 minEp. 197

HOLIDAY BREAK: Celebrating Bidet Day, Living in Dorm Rooms, Withholding Pony Rides, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle using bidets properly, living with others in dorm rooms, withholding pony rides from guests, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.co...

Sep 04, 202341 min

Dining Late in Spain, Taking Care of Pets, Using Toilet Bowl Brushes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle dining late in Spain, taking care of pets, using toilet bowl brushes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Dinner Time in Spain A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Pet Sitting QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Why are toilet bowl brushes so common in European bathrooms? Is it rude t...

Aug 28, 202344 minEp. 196

Throwing Surprise Parties, Using Revolving Doors, Responding to Rude Texts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about throwing surprise parties, using revolving doors, responding to rude texts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to throw a surprise party for someone in their own home? What's the etiquette for entering oversized revolving doors? As...

Aug 21, 202324 minEp. 195

Crashing White House Weddings, Stealing Flowers From Neighbors, Charging Phones In Public, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle crashing White House weddings, stealing flowers from neighbors, charging phones in public, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Judith Martin and the Nixon Administration A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Repetition QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK for my neighbor to tak...

Aug 14, 202348 minEp. 194