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Were You Raised By Wolves?

Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnemawww.wereyouraisedbywolves.com

Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos.


When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.”


Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.”


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Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)


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Episodes

Sending Wedding Cards to Exes, Being Polite to Smart Speakers, Asking People for Favors, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle sending wedding cards to exes, being polite to Siri and Alexa, asking people for favors, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: "Il Galateo" by Giovanni della Cassa A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Riding in cars QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should I send a card to my ex who is...

Mar 27, 202335 minEp. 178

Tossing Food at Hotels, Sharing Discount Tips, Entering Without Knocking, and More

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Mar 20, 202320 minEp. 177

Passing Salt and Pepper, Asking for Pickles, Running Into Acquaintances, and More

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Mar 13, 202344 minEp. 176

Correcting People's Grammar, Declining Expensive Invitations, Sharing EV Charging Stations, and More

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Mar 06, 202320 minEp. 175

Throwing Bridal Showers, Losing Lasagna Privileges, Contacting Noisy Neighbors, and More

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Feb 27, 202339 minEp. 174

Second Helpings: Cutting Lines, Answering Phones, Picking Berries, and More

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Feb 20, 202337 min

Taking Calls on Treadmills, Discarding Broken Freezers, Surviving Middle School, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about taking phone calls on treadmills, discarding broken freezers, surviving middle school, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: At the gym, is it considered rude to be on a phone call while on a treadmill? We were gifted a broken freezer...how do we...

Feb 13, 202322 minEp. 173

Eating Cake With Ice Cream, Behaving in Movie Theaters, Cutting Nails in Public, and More

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Feb 06, 202334 minEp. 172

Returning Dirty Handkerchiefs, Reading Office Emails Aloud, Getting Permission from References, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about returning dirty handkerchiefs, reading office emails aloud, getting permission from professional references, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's proper handkerchief etiquette? What should I do about a coworker who reads all his emails ou...

Jan 30, 202323 minEp. 171

Eating Rambutans, Using QR Code Menus, Paying For Free Theatre, and More

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Jan 23, 202335 minEp. 170

Sharing French Fries Fairly, Doing Dishes Incorrectly, Inviting Enemies to Parties, and More

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Jan 16, 202318 minEp. 169

Eating Off Trenchers, Butting Into Conversations, Serving Instant Coffee, and More

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Jan 09, 202337 minEp. 168

Second Helpings: Giving Red Envelopes, Reseating in Theaters, Cancelling on Friends, and More

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Jan 02, 202338 min

Second Helpings: Tipping at the Holidays, Ordering Too Much at Drive-Thrus, Begging for Gifts, and More

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Dec 26, 202238 min

Blasting Holiday Lights, Announcing Weddings in Holiday Cards, Reciprocating Expensive Gifts, and More

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Dec 19, 202227 minEp. 167

Surviving the Holidays, Running in Cemeteries, Using Enormous Napkins, and More

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Dec 12, 202235 minEp. 166

Picking the Correct Utensil for Mac and Cheese, Spelling Like an Australian, Lingering Past Closing Time, and More

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Dec 05, 202225 minEp. 165

Double-Dipping in Fondue, Ignoring Grandchildren, Squeaking at the Theatre, and More

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Nov 28, 202237 minEp. 164

Enjoying Fancy Hotel Baths, Waking Snoring People, Returning Caning Jars, and More

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Nov 21, 202224 minEp. 163

Toasting in Hungary, Dining Alone, Regifting Host Gifts, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle toasting with beer in Hungary, dining alone, regifting host gifts, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Toasting with beer in Hungary A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Dining alone QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude to regift wine back to the original giver? Should I wait...

Nov 14, 202231 minEp. 162

Asking for Doggie Bags, Sharing Train Outlets, Bringing Your Own Water, and More

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Nov 07, 202227 minEp. 161

Enjoying Tuscan Bread, Handling Difficult Bridesmaids, Avoiding Gate Lice, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle enjoying Tuscan bread, handling difficult bridesmaids, blocking the boarding process at airports, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Pane Toscano (Tuscan bread) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Book clubs QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I handle a friend who doesn't tak...

Oct 31, 202237 minEp. 160

Verifying Wedding RSVPs, Hogging Restaurant Gift Certificates, Using Hosts' Expensive Bath Products, and More

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Oct 24, 202227 minEp. 159

Eating Sushi Properly, Donating Items to Charity, Arguing During Zumba Class, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating sushi the right way, donating items to charity, arguing during Zumba class, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Sushi A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Donating items to charity QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should my daughter bring a gift to a last-minute birthday part...

Oct 17, 202235 minEp. 158

Second Helpings: Being Late for Surprise Parties, Sending Provocative Selfies, Lighting Candles, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle being late for surprise parties, sending provocative selfies, lighting candles, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONT...

Oct 10, 202241 min

Escaping Excessive Birthday Plans, Updating Professional References, Sharing Phone Chargers, and More

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Oct 03, 202221 minEp. 157

Celebrating Bidet Day, Living in Dorm Rooms, Withholding Pony Rides, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using bidets properly, living with others in dorm rooms, withholding pony rides from guests, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Bidets A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Dorm Rooms QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Are you obligated to talk to fellow passengers on an airplane? Sho...

Sep 26, 202234 minEp. 156

Sending Electronic Birthday Cards, Telling People You're Moving, Making Voice Calls on Airplanes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sending electronic birthday cards, telling people you're moving out of state, making voice calls on airplanes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do if I've overheard an unkind conversation about me? How do I stop a friend from sendi...

Sep 19, 202221 minEp. 155

Enjoying High Tea, Overcoming Terrible Handwriting, Tipping for Gas in New Jersey, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle enjoying high tea, overcoming terrible handwriting, tipping for gas in New Jersey, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: High tea versus afternoon tea A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Driving QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do you overcome terrible handwriting? I forgot a fam...

Sep 12, 202239 minEp. 154

Second Helpings: Enjoying Peking Duck, Borrowing DVDs Without Returning Them, Flaunting Office Ice Cube Rules, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite episodes from the archives in which they tackle eating Peking Duck, borrowing DVDs without returning them, flaunting office ice cube rules, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com ...

Sep 05, 202242 min
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