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Were You Raised By Wolves?

Nick Leighton & Leah Bonnemawww.wereyouraisedbywolves.com

Editors’ Notes: “I want to give everybody the tools to solve their own etiquette problems,” says Nick Leighton, cohost and producer of Were You Raised by Wolves?, a weekly podcast in which he and cohost Leah Bonnema look into the many sticky social situations we all face. “With each of the questions that we get, from the bonkers to the ordinary, I always try to take a step back and ask, ‘What are the bigger principles here?’ I'm always looking for topics that help us make a larger point.” In each episode, Leighton, a two-time Emmy Award-winning journalist, and Bonnema, a comic/writer, share practical advice on how to navigate a wide range of situations, from the serious to the whimsical—whether they tackle interrupting excessive talkers, establishing healthy boundaries with coworkers, or the proper way to eat Cheetos.


When they developed the show in 2019, Leighton and Bonnema had one goal in mind: to have empathy for other people. Their informal conversations tackle a mix of personal topics, viewer questions, and the occasional historical fact with warmth and positivity and humor. Leighton views this approach as an antidote to a lot of the negativity he sees in the online world, while Bonnema thinks the show’s premise is a natural fit for her situational style of comedy. “A lot of my comedy is about events where I’m like, ‘What just happened here?’ or where I embarrass myself,” she says. “And, ironically, all of these fall under the guise of etiquette, where you either feel aggrieved or you feel like you committed some sort of social crime. I just loved the topic.”


Leighton and Bonnema credit the show’s ongoing success to their work ethic. They haven’t missed a single week since they launched the show, which recently hit a new milestone: 100 episodes. But what they value the most, above all else, is how they've built a community of listeners from all backgrounds. “We have conservative grandmothers in Tallahassee to nonbinary chefs in Seattle and everybody in between,” he says. “Because who among us has not experienced an etiquette crime? This is universal.”


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Etiquette, manners, and beyond! Join Emmy® Award-winning journalist Nick Leighton and acclaimed comedian Leah Bonnema ("Late Show with Stephen Colbert"), the perfect odd couple, as they try to make the world a nicer, more polite place and offer up practical advice to help you smoothly glide through any situation. Please listen and follow! (We'd send you a hand-written thank you note if we could.)


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Episodes

Wearing Hotel Robes, RSVPing with Explanations, Waving on Rural Roads, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about wearing hotel robes outside hotel rooms, giving explanations for RSVPs, waving on rural roads, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to wear a hotel robe from your room to the hotel pool? Should I give an explanation on the RSVP card for...

Aug 29, 202225 minEp. 153

Going Camping, Being Uninvited to Weddings, Giving Gift Cards, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle going camping, being uninvited to weddings, giving gift cards, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: V/r in emails A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Camping QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should I still go to the rehearsal dinner after being uninvited to a wedding? Should you wri...

Aug 22, 202239 minEp. 152

Harvesting Office Cilantro, Returning Dirty Aprons, Painting Nails on Airplanes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about harvesting cilantro at the office, returning dirty aprons, painting nails on airplanes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about a coworker who picked all the cilantro in our office garden? How do I decline to say hello on speaker...

Aug 15, 202227 minEp. 151

Slurping Ice Cream Sodas, Shopping at Farmers Markets, Finding Silver Linings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle slurping ice cream sodas, shopping at farmers markets, finding silver linings, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Ice cream sodas A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Farmers markets QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it weird to ask guests to make their beds with hospital corners...

Aug 08, 202240 minEp. 150

Giving People Shopping Lists, Receiving Mysterious Gifts, Ruining People's Weddings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about giving people shopping lists, receiving gifts from mysterious senders, ruining people's weddings, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I tell people I don't want to shop for them on my vacation in Milan? What do I do about a gift from an ...

Aug 01, 202228 minEp. 149

Behaving In Group Fitness Classes, Being Nosy About Engagement Rings, Littering in Rome, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle behaving properly in group fitness class, being nosy about people's engagement rings, littering in Rome, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Holding glasses at cocktail parties A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Group Fitness Classes QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I say ...

Jul 25, 202235 minEp. 148

Leaving Items Behind, Using Postcards for Wedding Thank You Notes, Talking Loudly on Airplanes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about houseguests leaving items behind, using postcards for wedding thank you notes, talking loudly on airplanes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it OK to do a house sweep for forgotten items before a houseguest departs? Do I have to offer cha...

Jul 18, 202223 minEp. 147

Eating Soup Dumplings, Navigating Airport Security, Waving While Driving, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating soup dumplings, navigating airport security, waving while driving, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Xiao Long Bao (小籠包) (Soup dumplings) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Airport security QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do you have to put your fork down between bites? ...

Jul 11, 202240 minEp. 146

Second Helpings: Attending Polo Matches, Inquiring About Missing Invitations, Receiving Outrageous Emails, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! This week, Nick and Leah are enjoying a well-deserved break, but they'll be back next week with an all-new episode. In the meantime, here's one of their favorite summer episodes from the archives in which they tackle attending polo matches, inquiring about missing invitations, receiving outrageous emails, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw...

Jul 04, 202234 min

Sharing Combs at Gyms, Hijacking Hiking Plans, Starting Toilet Paper Rolls, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about sharing disposable combs at the gym, hijacking hiking plans, starting toilet paper rolls, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about someone at the gym putting used combs back into a communal jar? What do I say when someone asks if ...

Jun 27, 202230 minEp. 145

Eating Pizza, Singing Karaoke, Criticizing Cultures, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating pizza the right way, singing karaoke in groups, criticizing other cultures, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Pizza A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Karaoke QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How do I clarify whether or not I'll be paid to paint at a friend's wedding? Is ...

Jun 20, 202236 minEp. 144

Removing Shoes at Weddings, Opening Neighbors' Mail, Being Empty-Handed at Potlucks, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about removing your shoes at wedding receptions, accidentally opening neighbors' mail, showing up empty handed to potlucks, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's the time limit for letting a friend know it wasn't appreciated that she showed up e...

Jun 13, 202220 minEp. 143

Throwing Parties for Disliked Bosses, Taking Responsibility for Dryer Lint, Cleaning Rugs Late at Night, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle throwing parties for disliked bosses, taking responsibility for dryer lint, cleaning rugs late at night, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Where to keep your hands while eating in France A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Walking tours QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do we have...

Jun 06, 202237 minEp. 142

Going to Drive-Thrus Near Closing Time, Asking for Drink Refills, Throwing Parties During Weddings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about going to drive-thrus near closing time, asking for drink refills, throwing parties during weddings, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What is the etiquette for ordering from a drive-thru that's about to close? How do I stop my friends from cr...

May 30, 202222 minEp. 141

Drinking Tea with Milk, Wearing Bright Colors At Funerals, Parking In Someone Else's Spot, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle drinking tea with milk, wearing bright nail polish to funerals, parking in someone else's reserved spot, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Drinking tea with milk A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Dressing rooms QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about a friend who wa...

May 23, 202235 minEp. 140

Taking House Tours, Backing Out of Dinners, Attending Surprise Weddings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about taking tours of peoples homes, backing out of dinners you don't want to go to, attending surprise weddings, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Do you have to take a tour of someone's home if invited? What's the appropriate reaction when someon...

May 16, 202222 minEp. 139

Enjoying Escargot, Traveling with Co-workers, Sharing Hot Tubs, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle eating escargot, traveling with co-workers, sharing hot tubs, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Escargot A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Traveling with co-workers QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Are there rules about getting into a hot tub that's already occupied? How do you...

May 09, 202233 minEp. 138

Singing Along During Musicals, Flipping Over Wine Bottles, Using Dirty Bathrooms, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about singing along during musicals, flipping wine bottles over in buckets, using dirty bathrooms, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: When is it appropriate to sing along with a musical performance? What do I do about my mother who would prefer nume...

May 02, 202224 minEp. 137

Passing People in Theaters, Removing Shoes in Homes, Using Coasters Properly, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle passing people in theater aisles, removing shoes in people's homes, using coasters properly, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Passing people in theaters A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Taking off shoes in people's homes QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do you do if ther...

Apr 25, 202233 minEp. 136

Eating Chocolate Truffles, Breaking Up With Gym Partners, Giving Up Your Window Seat, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about eating chocolate truffles, breaking up with gym partners, giving up airplane window seats, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What's the proper way to eat a chocolate truffle? Do I have to invite someone to my birthday party if I was invited t...

Apr 18, 202222 minEp. 135

Enjoying Aperitivi, Behaving at Dog Parks, Gifting Towel Racks, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle enjoying an aperitivo in Italy, behaving at dog parks, buying towel racks, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Enjoying an Aperitivo A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Dog parks QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should I buy my friends a towel rack? Should I say something in elevat...

Apr 11, 202231 minEp. 134

Crashing Open Houses, Demanding Wedding Photos, Stealing Hand Lotion, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about going to neighbors' open houses, asking newlyweds for their entire wedding photo album, using hand lotion without asking, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: I'm selling my house...is it rude for my neighbors to come to my open house without te...

Apr 04, 202221 minEp. 133

Pressing the Flight Attendant Call Button, Eating Drippy Sandwiches, Throwing Bags in Cafes, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using the flight attendant call button, eating drippy sandwiches in public, throwing bags in cafes, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Furoshiki (風呂敷) A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Using the flight attendant call button QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is there a proper way ...

Mar 28, 202232 minEp. 132

Ordering Appetizers Without Asking, Buffering in Restrooms, Borrowing Bathing Suits, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about ordering appetizers for people without asking, buffering stalls in restrooms, asking to borrow bathing suits, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Is it rude that my father-in-law orders appetizers for everyone at the table without asking anyone...

Mar 21, 202218 minEp. 131

Meeting Royalty, Calling Out Lazy People, Malfunctioning Umbrellas, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle meeting Queen Elizabeth II, calling out lazy people, handling malfunctioning umbrellas, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Meeting the Queen A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Being a Plus One QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: The person who gifted us a wall calendar is coming ove...

Mar 14, 202234 minEp. 130

Turning People Orange, Ordering Extra Courses, Clipping Nails in Public, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about turning people orange with bath bombs, ordering extra courses at meals, clipping nails in public, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: Should we let my mother-in-law know that her gift turned my husband orange? How do I thank my mother-in-law wh...

Mar 07, 202223 minEp. 129

Drinking Turkish Coffee, Behaving at the Gym, Returning Holiday Cards, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle drinking Turkish coffee, behaving at the gym, returning holiday cards, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Turkish coffee A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Going to the gym QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: How should I handle someone rudely returning our annual holiday card? Shou...

Feb 28, 202235 minEp. 128

Declining Double Dates, Gifting Unwanted Jams, Bailing on Weddings, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about declining to go on double dates, gifting unwanted jams, bailing on weddings with no warning, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: My husband would rather not socialize with my friend's husband...what do I do when asked to go on a double date? Ho...

Feb 21, 202218 minEp. 127

Using Mourning Stationery, Talking While Chewing, Fixing Flat Tires, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah tackle using mourning stationery, talking while chewing, fixing flat tires, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com EPISODE CONTENTS AMUSE-BOUCHE: Mourning Stationery A QUESTION OF ETIQUETTE: Bragging QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: A friend is hosting a party in my home...what's my role during this event? How ...

Feb 14, 202234 minEp. 126

Mistaking Customers for Employees, Forgetting Previous Introductions, Washing Dishes Before Returning, and More

Etiquette, manners, and beyond! In this episode, Nick and Leah answer listener questions about mistaking customers for store employees, forgetting you've been introduced before, washing dishes before returning them, and much more. Please follow us! (We'd send you a handwritten thank-you note if we could.) Have a question for us? Call or text (267) CALL-RBW or visit ask.wyrbw.com QUESTIONS FROM THE WILDERNESS: What do I do about strangers in stores mistakenly thinking I'm an employee and asking f...

Feb 07, 202221 minEp. 125
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