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I'm sorry, I just have to have like, I just need to interject a little bit of fun into our day. Do you not think this is so fun? No, I know, but we need to change up some of the vibe like every once in a while, because it's just like, welcome back to we can do hard things. Here we are again. Can you start us off in a new shaky up kind of way? Yeah. Okay. Here we go. Everybody hold on to your little hats. All right. Welcome. Welcome back. Welcome. Welcome back. Here we are.
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Today we have your friend Abby Wamba was and me sisters out. I know all of the sister fans are so upset when she's not here. And what I want to say to you is join the club. We are also upset that she's not here because who is going to know facts during this conversation. Who's going to understand history and things like, I don't know facts.
We can't even think of a fact of what she's brought to the table because we just we lean on her so hard for them. We really do. So let's see if we fall because we have no one to lean on but we'll just talk about feelings. How about that? How are your feelings today? I as you know, I am overwhelmed. I am overwhelmed. I was laying in bed this morning wondering.
If there's just because I keep thinking that we're just in a phase. Like since the beginning of the year, we have had so many hard things happen to people around us. And to us. Because we have five or just, down here, we had about five or just five times, two or five times how we are saying, the story is dichotania. kind of stunned by it all, just trying to respond appropriately and lovingly and hoping that
it's just a phase. We've been saying like 2024. Yeah. But this morning I was thinking, so I'm almost 50. I actually wrote this out to my new friend, Celice. I love very much, but she checked it on me and I told her just what I have told you, Pod Squad. And then I told her that I've been wondering if this is just what life is when you're older. If there's a phase of adulthood that's building, where you're like building and building and building. And then there's a very short phase of
just enjoying what you built. And then is the next phase losing? No. I don't believe that. I talk to my therapist about this yesterday and you know what we came to. So our world gives us these unspoken rules. It's a fallacy that we are handed when we are children. That if you work hard enough, if you do good enough, then bad things won't happen to you or your people. And I think that that kind of way of thinking is capitalism and all of it. But it also kind of keeps us safe.
It keeps us safe in some ways and it hurts us and others. So the expectation that life is supposed to be butterflies and roses. And when hard things come, they will be fleeting. And you will then return to your normal life. And what I've learned, and not just my therapy, but over the course of the many months since I've gone through quite a bit of struggle, is I was trying to talk to my therapist yesterday about this. Like, okay, maybe I'm getting it wrong. Maybe my expectation of
things not being so hard or crisis coming. Maybe that's the issue. And she listened and she said, yeah, you know, that sounds like a very Buddhist way of thinking of surrender to what is, etc. And I believe that that's a beautiful way to live. I really think that that's something to aspire to. But what she did say, and mentioned to me yesterday, that I'm going to be sitting with all day today, is when there is crisis fatigue, you start to get confused. You don't know how to make decisions
or whatever. And something that I am working on is acknowledging that this just fucking sucks. And like saying it out loud and actually having the moment you acknowledge it's something sucks, is the moment that then you can also have sincere compassion for yourself around the sucky thing, around the crisis, around death. Do you mean not just jumping into action? Yeah, because that's what we've been, that's what I think that I've been doing. I'll speak for myself.
You know, my brother dies or whatever it is. I'm just like, okay, what do we need to do to get through this? And I think I've been skipping the piece where I really acknowledge that this sucks. That's interesting. I'm just thinking, I'm just talking about this yesterday on the couch.
When we found out about Amanda's diagnosis, I immediately figured out our calendar, how we were going to get there, when we were going to get there, who was going to watch the dogs, who was going to whatever, and I came upstairs, told the kids to sit down and presented what happened, and then presented the calendar and presented the plan. And then looked at them and their eyes were just so big. And they said, can we talk about what happened? Yeah.
Oh, Tish said, so when are we going to talk about our feelings? Yeah. She literally said that. So that is, yeah, yeah. Well, because we are in crisis fatigue. Yeah, in crisis fatigue. And the analogy in my brain is like, I feel like I'm in a boxing ring, and the hits just keep coming, and I can't figure out how to Bob and weave away from the
heymaker that keeps coming towards my face. So today, I'm going to sit and be powdery about the things that have happened, and then really lean into this compassion and this like sweet love girl in here that wants somebody else to fix it and make it better. Because like as adults, we have to do the fixing and making it better ourselves, but there's also this part of us that's like, oh, I don't want to. I'm scared. I'm sad. I'm mad. I'm angry. Whatever. So that's where I'm at today.
I think that both of the things are true. I think that both of what we are saying is true. I think
that while I hear you saying, no, that's not what life is now, I don't believe you. I actually do think in my heart that when you hit a certain age, I guess if you're lucky enough that the previous ages haven't been all crisis and sadness, you do hit a certain age where people do start getting sick and people do start dying and relationships do start ending and the way you see the world changes so much that your rose colored glasses are gone and you actually see
things for as painful as they are. So what I'm trying to figure out is how to have and both. I know that I can't fight against the current of what life is. So insanity would be holding my breath until the loss stops because it's not going to stop. That's not life. Right. So what I do feel committed to doing is figuring out how to do this phase of life where there is so much loss, where there is so much caretaking, where there is so much shock and pain and with some dignity
and peace and power and joy and softness and not bitterness. Yeah. I mean, I think that that's
probably what I don't want. I hear what you're saying and correct me if I'm wrong here, but I feel like what we're saying is we don't want to lose our humanity and the things that are really sad because I think that when I look out and talk to my parents and folks who have lived longer than me and us, there's a part of me that feels like so much trauma happens, especially in the older years like this, that it makes them become a little bit cold-hearted, like as a defense mechanism.
Sure. I get that just stiffening yourself. Yeah. I mean, I want to do that right now. I want to be like cold-hearted and I want to not feel at all. Hard and not softened. Yeah. And I think that what we're saying is we want to be able to get through what other, this is a new phase or forever phase like whatever. It's like accepting that what is is and also not losing our humanity so that we stay open to all the emotions that it brings. It just feels like so a lot. Like it's
all of my emotions are just at the tips of myself. And that's rare. I don't know if that's like my therapy and getting like more in touch with myself, but I think it's rare to have so much. I feel like I'm an exposed group. Yeah. I suspect that it's beautiful. What? This time. I suspect that it's like before we're just adulting, adulting, adulting with flashes of humanity when something happens. Yeah. We're climbing. We're climbing. We're building. We're put it in a row. We're hustling
or whatever. And then every once in a while there's a moment of true humanity or love. And it feels like now that's reversing. Yeah. That actually through no choice of our own. We are in the humanity and the gritty, painful love of it all the time with flashes of remembering to adult. Yeah. You know, and that's got to be more true to the bone of what it means to be human. So anyway, that is what I'm thinking about.
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You know what's really weird is that I read these questions that we're going to read today from the pod squad and I think we should go straight to Becky because well we'll see why in a second. Hi, this is Becky. I recently went through a divorce and I feel like I'm doing really well like a logically, but I feel like I have all this dust trapped in my body, all this grief pain and rage from a lot of things in my life and I don't know how to get it out and I feel like I exercise
and I'm in therapy and I read books and listen to books and podcasts and all I do all this stuff, but I feel like it's still stuck in my body and I was wondering if you had any ideas on how to process grief pain and rage all these shameful emotions to move them through our bodies so we can operate in a less way downway in the world and just get on with our best lives. I love you to do and keep it up. Goodbye. Okay, so when I read this this morning, first of all hi, Becky,
I was thinking babe about our visit. So Andrea Gibson and Megan Falley just came to visit us for a few days and it was beautiful as one might expect it to be and Megan was talking to me about how she has this new thing where whenever she's feeling a big feeling which Megan is dealing with her partner Andrea's cancer diagnosis and a lot of I can imagine fear and beauty and sadness and she does this thing now where when she notices an overwhelm of feeling she actually lays down on
the floor and just lays there for a minute. Okay, now I find this to be brilliant because she said that the reason she does it is because if she doesn't lay down on the floor and stop herself, she knows herself and she will start wiping down the counter. She'll start putting away things. She'll start organizing. She'll start doing an action that is distracting from the feeling
but when she lays down on the ground, it's her way of telling her body. We have something to process right now and we're going to focus on it and process it so it can move through us and I was listening to her thinking oh my god is laying down on the floor because I've seen this before. Like this laying down on the floor moment that people are doing and having. Is it like
the new I'm going to go smoke a cigarette? It's like the healthy dramatic punctuation of it. It used to be you'd see the character go smoke a cigarette or when they had something deep to process. That was like the signal of depth because that was the way the big cigarettes advertised in our. To feel that way right. But is the laying down on the floor the new I have something deep to process moment because when she's laying down on the floor you're literally putting yourself
out of commission to do anything to distract yourself. Your hands can't reach anything, your legs can't move. I feel like it's not everyone says exercise exercise and that's not it for a lot of us. Like exercise is an energetic release of energy but it can also turn masochistic and be this like I don't know that it's processing feelings. I mean all the time. Yeah for sure has a function of that for me. It's almost like a moving meditation where I if I'm moving I'm not now
in my head thinking. But I hear what you're saying about megens. It's almost like a positive way of saying I give up and laying down. It's like I have something to do. Yeah. Oh there's something to do right now. It feels like so embodied. Like I feel something rising in me and it's my body signal that we have something to process and so I'm going to give myself a moment to do that. It's like don't jump in the pool right after you eat. Don't move around the house right after
you have a big feeling. Also what did she say? She says I'm becoming less of myself. Yeah she's just everything she's so cool. She'll lay down and say I need to become less of myself. And I'm like that is so smart. It's a timeout. It's an adult timeout. But it's like a time in. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Yeah. Because we're always timeouting ourselves. Yeah. That's what Becky's trying to get away from. Yeah. She's trying to time in. I will tell Becky this one thing.
When I think about why I love painting, it's not really because of any result because the results are not anything to write home about. It's not that. I think that the reason I love it the most is because I am doing this because I am processing feelings. When I spend time painting, I notice that I am more stable, clear. Maybe whatever Megan said less of myself. Maybe it's more of myself. I don't know. But that time is different than any other time for me. It's like my hands are moving.
But I'm not thinking thinking. And it's not like writing where I'm forcing some kind of meaning onto the page. It's just it feels like a passive surrender so that I can process. It's emotional digestion. It's like a digestion system kicks in. And I notice things come up that I haven't dealt with and they process through. And I wonder is there like a state of like peaceful flow that people can get into where that is happening where it's like the emotional digestion
kicks in. I think walks, painting, walking, and writing when I'm not doing it for an audience. Yeah, I mean, I think that there's a lot of other avenues in which people in the world tried to work through some of their grief, pain, anger, shame. Obviously you have talked therapy. One for me that really works is IFS. Using the IFS approach, internal family systems has really helped me
really work into the grief, the pain, the anger, the shame. We've had Hillary McBride on this podcast before talking about psychedelics and that's been scientifically researched and proven to really get into some of this stuff. And more than anything, as these crises come to us now, like we were just talking about, I'm having a weird experience around them. I feel more like a
no-aid and sad and all of the things. But it's like I feel solid. Like the thing about this whole experience in the last couple of months is I don't feel like I'm losing my shit. Right. But what's the annoyance? Well, like, oh, this is like a new crisis we have to deal with. Do you know what I mean? Because you're experiencing it as a constant interruption. Yes. Yeah. And I think what my problem is is I'm trying to figure out how to
quell that annoyance. If I'm always expecting easy, breezy sailing, whenever a storm comes in, I'm like, oh gosh, rather than actually being a sailor going, oh, this is the way the world works. And sometimes storms bring real wind that can move us faster. So Becky, I don't have answers
for you. But what I do know is the first step in dealing with all of these big things that you're dealing with is for me, I sometimes jump over it and try to fix it through all of this stuff, through running, through exercise, through books, through podcasts, through therapy, all of that. And like, sometimes I think we just haven't even accepted that that shit happened. We're already moving into like taking care of it mode. So maybe you get to give yourself a
compassion day. I don't know. Yeah. I mean, the word emotion is energy and motion, right? It's like there's something inside me that is swirling. And the idea is that that thing needs to keep swirling, keep swirling and then be released. Who knows if that's even true? Yeah. Right. But I do think that there are things that we can bring into our lives that allow a container for that. I mean, I think art for me is it. And not just creating it.
Tissues favorite movie in the whole world is inner stellar. And so we have to watch it all the time. And it's like 400 hours long. And so two nights ago, we watched it. And this is like in the middle of all of these crises. And I cried so hard at my seventh viewing of inner stellar. And yes, it's a very deep movie. And it's about love and everything and death and time. And it's just shit. But I was crying so hard. And like having this double consciousness of, oh, I don't know,
like all the crises kept coming in my real life. I haven't cried about any of them. But these experiences that we can put on a movie that taps into something that's tangential to our thing. And that allows a release. Yeah. It's like this is about everything, right? And so I truly believe that that is one of the reasons why we need and love art. Because it offers us a safe container to release. And the process, the hard feelings that maybe in like a conversation.
Yep. Yeah, because I actually don't have to solve Matthew McConaughey's problem. He's, I don't know where I'd begin with time, space, continuum, whatever the hell is happening there. But like I don't have to get out a piece of paper and make a calendar for Jessica Chastain and Matthew McConaughey to like, there's no logistics to handle. In our lives, we get to skip to
logistics all the time. But in art, we just have to sit there. We can't solve it for them. And so we are forced to feel it in a safe way, which is why I often avoid deeply feeling movies. Because I know what's going to happen to me and music and all the things. I'm like, I need to be ready. When I walk up the stairs and Abby has a dull or tish or I can't do it. Like we need to prepare for this processing. It can't just be sprung upon us. So I'm trying to get those streams
for Tishy. Yeah. I'm trying to do. Anyway, it would be very cool for all of us to figure out. And why isn't that a part of wellness? Like this whole wellness world. Like where the hell is the processing of emotion in all of it? It's like green juice doesn't do that for us. Red light therapy does not process our, we need focus. We need focus upon emotional health. I think that's what therapists are trying to know. But like therapy is all brain. Look, I am, you know, there's many
kinds of therapy that also deal with the body. Yeah. I just think for the majority of people, it's talk therapy, talk therapy, talk therapy, which for me is just more hamster wheel stuff. I think that therapy is where we dredge up all the things that we're going to have to go process on our own. Yeah. It's not the processing. Oh, I think that that's interesting what you just said. It's like accepting real accountability and responsibility for actually having to do the
personal work yourself. Yeah. It's like Becky, I love you. And I hope that this sounds loving and sweet. But maybe there's probably no exercise or therapy or book or podcast, even this one that you can find that's going to actually do the work of processing it. All of this stuff. Maybe it's just like you. Yeah. You can't outsource the processing of emotion. Socks, I wish we could. But like you really do have to actually go through it and process it.
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to your sports episode. One and something you said resonated with me that the word agony and agony of the seat sounded hyperbolic to you when you were a kid. And it just reminded me I was thinking about as a high school basketball player. I always wanted to win. I cared about winning and I tried my best every game. But I don't remember ever feeling the emotion or emotional anguish of losing until one bus ride home after a loss when our male coach ripped into us for
enjoying the ride. We were talking, laughing, even though we had walked the game. After he yelled at us, we spent the rest of the ride sitting silently, doing for being cast by. So my question is, perhaps this question is for Abby, if you ever remember a time when you were taught to feel this anguish in relation to sports. And it's a thing. Okay, thank you so much. I listen to your podcast every week. I really enjoy it. That is such a fascinating question, Lindsay. Is the agony of
defeat inherent internal or is it something we're taught that we're shamed into? It's good. Abby, what say you? Both. Okay. I think every person is kind of based on their circumstances, the relationship they have with their competitiveness is individual. Mine, because of the family I was raised in, and because of the energy and the dynamics and the readings of how I felt like my family system worked, I knew that I was going to be seen as a valid person if I excelled at something.
If I excelled at this one thing that I felt really naturally gifted at. And so it wasn't conscious then, but my competitiveness was absolutely due to the attachment issues that I had as a young child. And the way that I might not have handled it that well, but then I was able to transfer that competitiveness, that feeling like my life actually depended on it, because I do think that there was a part of me that really felt like my life depended on it. That as I got older, I didn't
go back because it was affirmed in what I was doing in sport. That competitiveness actually is really good for outcomes. Being really competitive is really good for success. Right, but what she's saying is an important part of competitiveness, feeling absolute agony and misery after you lose, because I have seen you, Abby, secretly say to me, when one of our kids loses something, and then is okay, is laughing with their friends, is whatever.
You have said to me that makes you nervous, that they don't have what it takes to succeed, because they are not crushed and destroyed after a loss. Yeah, because in my experience in professional sport, that is kind of one of the things that allows some athletes to rise and others to not. I think that there is this emotional component in this vulnerability about being competitive that some people embrace in other athletes don't.
And I'm not judging other athletes. I'm just saying that if you wanted to do this thing at a high, high level professional sport, it's almost a requirement for entry, that you need to have a competitiveness, a self-assuredness. This matters to me mentality
in order to really succeed. Now, the players in my mind, mentally speaking, because at that level, even in high school basketball, everybody's decent enough, they can dribble-ish, they can shoot-ish, but when you get to the professional ranks, what are the things that you can set yourself aside and apart from other players with? Everybody's strong, everybody has the basic abilities,
everybody has certain qualities, and mentality is like this one piece. I would also put emotionality and emotional intelligence in that bucket of mentality, even though I know that they're kind of separate. It's just like in the sport world, we talk about it as sports psychology. If they can have more access to themselves and that vulnerability piece and that competitiveness, because really what is competitiveness? What is it? Isn't there a form of this? To me, it feels like
it's old thinking. This idea that there must be a purgatory of misery that is a manifestation of humiliation, and that you must prove you're suffering after a loss, feels to me that it is rooted in the old belief that shame is motivating. I don't know anything about sports, but I do know about people in motivation, and I don't think that that... It would not be healthy. I'm telling you. Yeah, I'm not saying it's healthy.
But so does screaming at a kid. That works until they're broken, and they spend the rest of their lives trying to recover their humanity from that. So I'm not saying it doesn't work in the short run. Yeah. But is it possible for a human being to work their ass off for what they want, come to a field, give everything they have to give, lose, then gather up their people, and find peace and joy, and yes, maybe even some laughter, having known that they laid it all out on the field.
I don't know. I don't know because I never experienced that. I can't speak to that. I would like to think that that's possible. But what I know from listening to some of the best athletes in the world, the Michael Jordan's, the Kobe Bryant's, all of my former national team players, we knew we were going to survive the event. But there was a part of us that felt so bad. And it wasn't like, I felt bad about myself. I felt like I let everybody down, and I didn't do my job. And if I did
my job, we would have won. And there is a motivational component to that. And so do I think it's 100% healthy? No. Do I think it's required for professional sports or even sports in general to need to be competitive and successful so that you can be successful? No. I do think that there are people out there that have a healthy relationship with their craft, that they can go to the office, essentially play, win or lose, and then go home to their families and have a normal existence.
I wasn't one of those people. And that could have been part of your greatness. And I can't for certain say it was or it wasn't. What I have a hunch about is that the kind of way that I experienced loss and the kind of way I experienced failure, because I do think that we get the word failure wrong is I was able to transfer that into fuel and into a way of motivating myself to think about things differently, to be better. Do I think that there are some people who can dance
around after losing a game, a really big one? Yes, I do. I do. I do. And do I also have like an old school self in here that thinks that's wrong? Yeah, I do think at times maybe that behavior isn't right. And I also have the awareness to say that might not be correct, that thought, that thought might be an indoctrinated thought of how people should be. My only experience is having gone through it, acting really sad after a loss or really disappointed. Acting you said,
you said acting. Well, no, being really sad. All I know is when I watch our youngest who plays very competitive with the soccer, when she and her teammates have played a game and they've left it all out in the field and it's just amazing how they the vulnerability of how hard they try and how they show up for each other on that field and they pour it all out and they lose. And then I watch them walk, you know, they meet with their team, they have their post-mortem
meeting. And then when they are walking towards us after the game and I see her with her friends and they are laughing, I feel so grateful. I feel like, oh, they're going to be okay because I sometimes feel like the price of greatness is too high. Like, I feel like we look at people who achieve the highest in wherever they are and we think that is success. But I wonder if some of the people who achieve the most greatness are the people who are the most threatened. Their self is most threatened
by any sort of loss. Like, you, you're so devastated when you lost because your attachment to your family felt based on whether you won or lost. Like, when I see a kid who leaves it all out on the field and then is able to understand that was a game and now it's done and I am still a whole person deserving of connection and joy and no matter what happened on that field. I think it's an end both. I do hear you and I do agree with you. I think that that feels like a
healthier relationship with game, with sport. I also think it takes an extraordinary amount of courage and bravery if you do have competitiveness in you to be actually outwardly upset. Yes, I hear that. And especially a young teenage group of young women, young girls. I think that the desire to want to jump over this sadness and into a normal life again happens too quickly only because they don't want to stay in the pain of the discomfort.
And so I think both things can be true at the same time here. I don't necessarily think my way was the healthiest way. I also don't think that Emma should look to the way that I did things. And I don't think that I should project on to her the way that I did things. Is that the answer? Is it like whatever way you feel is the right way? What is not right is to look at a bunch of kids and say you are not experiencing this right.
So you should be full of agony. That's right. Or what I'd be more prone to is if my child came to me in agony, I wouldn't be able to handle it. And so I would be like, you should feel proud. You should feel happy. You should feel connected. So not shitting on anyone's feelings post loss
and allowing them to experience whatever they experience. I think that it's so important because rather than a coach standing in front of this crew on the bus, shaming them into silence for the rest of their ride home, a better coaching move would be girls are talking laughing, you know, and the coach comes back and says, hey, I really want to talk. I don't want to ask you guys some questions so that I can understand what you're feeling.
You know, we just lost and maybe I'm old school here, but I'm sad and disappointed and upset. And I want to know more why you all feel like you're happy and or mid or whatever. You know, like maybe the new coaching model is to invite everyone to talk about how they're feeling so that they can also understand and acknowledge if they are just jumping over this
ad part. Yeah, that's good. I don't know how I would do that necessarily. You guys are all happy, go lucky right now and back in my day and I don't want to project on you, we would be sitting in silence. I just want to make sure that we're not missing this huge thing that just happened,
that we're not missing this huge emotion that actually really benefits us. Yeah. I think that worry about the pain of it, worry about our children being sad, we all parents try to like fix it for them or whatever, but really having them move through the sadness and sometimes, you know, as I get it as a teenager, you don't really know how to process some of this stuff. And so sometimes you learn, oh, if I just pretend to be happy, then I'll just inevitably be happy. But it's the
process of winning, dealing with that. It's also the process of losing, dealing with that. And that's their journey. And they will become who they need to become based on the wins and losses and based on how they learn how to handle those wins and losses. And it's the job of a coach, a job of a really good coach, to be in touch with what the players are feeling. And not just telling them, not to drive the feeling, to guide them, to be the bumper, you know, to bowling alley, to be the
bumpers, to be like, hey, I don't know, are we getting a little bit too off the lane here? Let's talk about it. It's interesting because it feels like what we keep ending on. You know, I'm always looking for a theme, babe. It feels like what this episode keeps being about is that the answer is never how we should be feeling. That we keep asking ourselves how we should be feeling when really the only thing we can ever do is acknowledge how we actually feel and process it with other
people. What you keep saying and what we keep coming back to is not living outside in. On what should this look like? And are my feelings matching the picture I have in my head of how this is supposed to feel? Or do I not start with the map outside of myself? Do I actually start with the compass? Is it, I acknowledge how I actually feel and start there? And allow the other people in my life to do the same. And so it's not about how you should feel. It's about how do you feel.
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