There are so many false binaries in grief that make the experience more painful than it already is. From forced gratitude to sweeping your sadness under the rug, none of it would be necessary if you started using the word ‘and’ more in your everyday life. Learn why I believe ‘and’ is one of the most magical words we can use in grief, how ‘and’ makes room for everything you feel, and how you can begin embracing the power of ‘and.’ Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachin...
May 27, 2024•11 min•Ep. 261
My Mom Goes On client Stephanie Hester-Rodriguez lost her husband in October 2021 after he contracted COVID. She went from living her happiest, best days to being thrown into the depths of grief. Hear how her husband’s death ripped up the foundation of her life, shook her faith, and her process of rebuilding a life she loves. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/260...
May 20, 2024•40 min•Ep. 260
Early acute grief often brings with it a sense of chaos and so many questions about what’s normal or what to expect. This time tends to feel like a roller-coaster for new widows because what they’re really looking for is reassurance, and I believe having accurate information and tools makes it easier. I’m sharing my answers to five of the most common new widow questions, and introducing you to Grief Essentials: my new pilot program for those of you navigating early grief. Get full show notes and...
May 13, 2024•27 min•Ep. 259
How are you doing? This is one of the most common questions widows are asked, and if you dread it, you’re most definitely not alone. Hear why widows loathe being asked how we’re doing, and some different options for answering this question the next time you’re asked. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/258
May 06, 2024•15 min•Ep. 258
Do you believe that there’s some sort of false binary where you’re either grieving or done with grief? This is just one of the myths so many people have bought into about grief, but we know that grief never ends. Learn why you never have to worry about being done with grief, and how it’s possible to love your life and create post-traumatic growth, even if you grieve your loss forever. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/257...
Apr 29, 2024•10 min•Ep. 257
My client, Wendy Alcanter, is a mother of three who lost her husband to suicide three years ago. She joined Mom Goes On as a busy mom and ER doctor, discovered the tools that helped her create a life she truly loves, and she’s here to tell us about her grief journey. Wendy shares her experience of early grief, how the tools she learned in Mom Goes On have supported her, and what her life is like now. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/256...
Apr 22, 2024•41 min•Ep. 256
Most people are walking around wondering if they’ve reached acceptance in grief, as though it’s a place. This feeds right into the narrative that grief ends. But we know that it doesn’t. Learn why acceptance is not a place but rather a choice we make over and over, and how you can begin thinking about acceptance as a constant opportunity. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/255...
Apr 15, 2024•9 min•Ep. 255
Do you worry that if you no longer felt pain about your person’s loss you’d lose your connection to them? Join me this week to hear why your pain has nothing to do with your connection to your person, the difference between thoughts that create pain and thoughts that create connection, and what happens when you confuse pain with connection. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/254...
Apr 08, 2024•12 min•Ep. 254
What is your relationship with pleasure? My guess is that you don’t truly believe your pleasure is a priority, but grief is a phenomenal opportunity for you to reassess where and how you can have a better quality of life. Hear how most of us don’t prioritize pleasure, why pleasure is especially important in grief, and what you can do to create more pleasure and joy in your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/253...
Apr 01, 2024•16 min•Ep. 253
When do widows need a life coach? I’ll be honest, I struggle to answer this question, not only because I don’t know what you need, but also because I’m not in the business of telling people they need a coach. Hear why asking this question is entirely unhelpful, and ask yourself questions instead about what you want next in life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/252...
Mar 25, 2024•16 min
There’s nothing like spousal or partner loss to make us reassess our priorities and get back in touch with what we truly want. But what do you do when you decide you no longer want to pursue something, and you’ve got that voice in your head saying, “Don’t be a quitter, you should or have to do this?” Hear why you might be struggling to give up on something you no longer want, and discover four questions that will give you a renewed sense of clarity around your decision. Get full show notes and m...
Mar 18, 2024•13 min•Ep. 251
So much of what we’re experiencing - from the roller-coaster of emotions and what we believe is or isn’t possible for us - feels so true, doesn’t it? However, just because it’s there as the content of your experience doesn’t mean it’s what you’re limited to. That’s because you are the context, not the content, and this week, I’m sharing a new perspective on widowhood that might break your brain in the best way possible. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrist...
Mar 11, 2024•12 min•Ep. 250
The common widowhood experience often ranges from a lack of enthusiasm about life and going through the motions to apathy and waiting for the afterlife. What I haven’t observed very often in my world is what I see as the potential for an uncommon widowhood experience, and I’m walking you through it today. If you want to start viewing grief as an opportunity to deeply connect with what you want and value, join me as I unlock the possibilities for your uncommon widowhood experience. Get full show ...
Mar 04, 2024•21 min•Ep. 249
I don’t know that we’ll ever reach the bottom of the list when it comes to myths about grief, but I have six more to share with you today. Grief is a subjective experience that is unique to each of us, and it’s impossible to do it wrong. Hear six universal myths about grief that simply aren’t helpful and how to be the authority on your own grief experience. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/248...
Feb 26, 2024•15 min•Ep. 248
There are many ideas out there about what grief should look like and how we should handle it. Most of these ideas are myths, and believing them doesn’t help you on your grief journey at all. I share six of these myths, explain why they aren’t true, and share insights on more helpful ways to look at your grieving experience. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/247...
Feb 19, 2024•15 min•Ep. 247
Over the last hundred years, there have been several different grief theories developed by experts to help people understand the bereavement experience. Some of them are strongly criticized and don’t speak to most widows’ experiences. I’m detailing the main grief theories in recent history, the criticisms of them, and how having an understanding of them benefits you on your own grief journey. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/246...
Feb 12, 2024•26 min•Ep. 246
In a world where Valentine’s Day is shoved down our throats, let’s approach it consciously together this year. We get to be the boss of our experiences, so how are you going to take back Valentine’s Day for yourself? Join me on this episode as I dig into the narratives we’ve been sold about Valentine’s Day and share my love letter to you as my way of acknowledging this day. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/245...
Feb 05, 2024•14 min•Ep. 245
Have you stopped taking action on something you said you wanted because you’re experiencing a lack of motivation? What if I told you there is no motivation required to create what you want? Learn what happens when we believe we need motivation, why we don’t have to solve for a lack of motivation, and what becomes possible when you decide motivation isn’t required. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/244...
Jan 29, 2024•11 min•Ep. 244
No goal makes us more worthy as humans, but it is incredibly fun to let ourselves go after the thing we want most. Learn the best way to create what you want as a widow, and how to truly believe that everything you want is possible and available to you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/243
Jan 22, 2024•25 min•Ep. 243
If self-care feels terrible, it’s probably a sign that you’re doing it right. Self-care is not a luxury, indulgent, all about spas and vacations, or a sign that you’re not grieving “right.” Hear how self-care feeling terrible is a green light to keep going, not a sign that you should stop, and three strategies for improving your sense of self-care. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/242...
Jan 15, 2024•23 min•Ep. 242
Your life has taken an unexpected turn you didn’t ask for. You mastered game 1, and you’re now in uncharted territory in game 2, but you can definitely win at this game too. I share the top seven ways we hold ourselves back from winning at game 2 so you can set yourself up for this next chapter of your life. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/241
Jan 08, 2024•16 min•Ep. 241
Losing your person is a big deal, and it’s challenging to grapple with this new life you didn’t choose. How can we appreciate this seismic shift that’s happened in our lives, and is it even possible? Learn what the metaphor of game 1 versus game 2 means, and why it’s a useful way to think about this next chapter of life you’re currently in. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/240...
Jan 01, 2024•14 min•Ep. 240
What would it be like if you never believed the “should” thoughts in your brain? What if, every time one appeared, you simply replied with, “No thank you”? I’m no longer interested in entertaining “should” thoughts, and I believe we can intentionally choose what we want without them. Learn how to embark on a should-free year in 2024. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/239...
Dec 25, 2023•9 min•Ep. 239
Whether you have lost your spouse suddenly or lived in anticipatory grief for a long time, like my client Darlene Barnett Carter, there is no easy way to cope with the loss of someone you love. Darlene was desperate for support after her husband’s death, but she had some reservations about how coaching might affect her faith and the true benefits of group coaching. Hear Darlene’s journey through widowhood, the revelations she experienced inside Mom Goes On, and how her life has shifted since. Ge...
Dec 18, 2023•54 min•Ep. 238
Most people have heard of the five stages of grief, but we need to stop talking about it. The idea of the five stages of grief was first suggested in 1969, but grief theory has come a long way since then. Discover why the five stages of grief are not reflective of your experience as a widowed mom and why it’s okay that we never reach “acceptance” in grief. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/237...
Dec 11, 2023•19 min•Ep. 237
Widows are constantly being told that we’re supposed to be grateful and that we should count our blessings. We’re being sold the idea that gratitude is the “fix,” and I don’t buy it. Hear why the gratitude trap is problematic, how it might be doing you more harm than good, and the difference between true gratitude and forced gratitude. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/236...
Dec 04, 2023•17 min•Ep. 236
Are you either a widowed mom wondering where the heck her self-confidence went or a coach (or aspiring coach) who’d like to feel confident coaching grief? If so, this week’s bonus episode is a quick must-listen. Tune in and learn about two time sensitive offerings you’ll probably want to be on the list for! Click here to sign up for my free, live workshop: www.coachingwithkrista.com/rocksolid/
Nov 29, 2023•8 min
You probably understand this intellectually, but there is no right or wrong Holiday experience. That includes your family’s traditions, what other people expect of you, and even how you think your spouse might have wanted you to spend the Holidays. If any of it doesn’t feel aligned with you, this episode is your invitation to rewrite the rules of your Holiday experience. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/235...
Nov 27, 2023•22 min•Ep. 235
The loss of Paula’s husband left her deep widow fog, feeling like nothing was grounding her, only wishing she could be where he was. She was terrified of surrendering to her emotions in fear of falling into a downward spiral with no way out, but she found the support she needed. Hear Paula’s experience of widow fog, the realizations she had about life after losing her husband, and the whirlwind adventure she went on with her children. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.co...
Nov 20, 2023•46 min•Ep. 234
When was the last time you worried about crying? On one hand, I get it. None of us wants to cry, especially in public. But on the other, I want us to stop using our tears against ourselves in ways that don’t help our grief. Discover why we feel the need to apologize for our tears, how it doesn’t hurt anyone else but us, and how to be unapologetic about your tears. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/233...
Nov 13, 2023•27 min•Ep. 233
