Have you ever caught yourself feeling happy and then immediately started to worry about it? What does it mean? Is it safe to feel good? Are you doing something wrong in grief? Hear what’s going on, why it makes sense that happiness sometimes feels scary for widows, and what you can do about it. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/232
Dr. Lucy Kalanithi is a physician, storyteller, and widow of Paul Kalanithi, the author of the New York Times Bestseller, When Breath Becomes Air . She’s dedicated to helping others choose end-of-life experiences that best align with their values, but, more than anything, she’s a widowed mom. Hear Dr. Lucy’s experience of losing her husband Paul, her insights on the surprising manifestations of grief, and what it means to live a life that includes pain and suffering. Get full show notes and more...
Does it feel like every other widow’s relationship was all roses… and yours wasn’t? The truth is there are all shapes and sizes of widowhood experiences. I debunk the myth of perfect relationships, and show you how to start letting go of the emotional weight that is feeling like a widowhood outcast. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/230
When I let go of the story that I wasn’t supposed to be a widow, it helped me create the space to choose what I wanted to make of it. Listen in to hear why the same is possible for you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/229
The fear of forgetting our person is one of the deepest natural fears we face in grief and as widows. Hear why the fear of forgetting them isn’t a problem and my favorite strategies for preserving the memories you want to keep. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/228
Anna Sale is an interviewer and the host of the award-winning podcast, Death, Sex & Money , where she has mastered the art of listening and offering space for being listened to when we go through hard things. She offers what she has learned from all the interviews she has conducted on tough topics that are hard to talk about, and how we can make these conversations easier. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/227...
Creating more time is technically impossible, but we can use it in more intentional ways that add value to our lives. You want to treat your minutes, hours, and days in ways that matter to you, so join me today to learn 5 ways you can create more time for yourself. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/226
Grief is individual, unique, and impossible to mess up or get wrong. Contrary to what we've been taught, it also doesn't come to an end. That’s why I love the dual process model. Hear what the dual process model entails and how it provides a framework for avoiding grief on purpose. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/225
I love watching the clients who come into Mom Goes On not knowing what to expect. Alexis Cuthbert is one of those people. Hear Alexis’s journey of navigating grief and widowhood, and the revelations that have transformed her life since being a part of Mom Goes On. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/224
“I don’t know” is a phrase I’ve taught many widows to avoid using in their lives. Learn whether your “I don’t know” story is serving you or holding you back, and hear why it’s sometimes useful not to know, and how to make peace with not knowing. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/223
Eleanor Haley and Litsa Williams are the founders of "What’s Your Grief" and professionals working in the field of grief and bereavement, supporting people through the sudden and unexpected death of a loved one. After their own losses, their guiding principle has been to identify what is lacking in grief support and to fill those gaps. They are here this week to share nuggets of wisdom to assist you on your grief journey. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkri...
One piece of advice that is often offered to widows is, “Don’t make big decisions in the first year.” While I recognize that making decisions in grief is a nuanced issue, I’m not a fan of the notion that we can’t trust ourselves to do big things in grief. I address how to make decisions in the first year, or when big decisions have deadlines. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/221...
As widows, we don’t want other widows to struggle in the way we have. I asked my community for any advice they have for other widows, and I received hundreds of responses. If you’re feeling alone in widowhood, join me this week to hear how applicable these pieces of advice are to just about any experience of grief. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/220...
Widowhood is undoubtedly a tragedy that can make us feel like our lives are over. My Mom Goes On client Erica Lee felt totally unprepared for her husband’s passing. Her life shifted, and she’s here this week to tell us all about her journey of navigating widowhood without a template. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/219
You know that phrase, "Time heals all wounds," right? While it's a phrase that has become commonplace, it's not that simple, and it has some unintended negative consequences. Tune in to find out what they are, and the real role of time in grief. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/218
If we polled all the widows in the world, most of us would agree that we’ve experienced regressing in grief. While it’s easy to believe you’re stuck or no longer doing as great as you once were, this thought is not helpful. Hear why we get to this place in grief, how the notion of regressing in grief is a lie, and a better way to approach yourself when you feel this way. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/217...
It is 100% unequivocally devastating to lose a loved one. That’s your primary loss in grief. However, you might have also noticed knock-on effects of things you would not have otherwise lost in addition to your loved one. These are called secondary losses. Join me this week to understand why we need to normalize secondary losses in grief and learn three things you can do to support yourself when you notice one emerging for you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingw...
When so many things are changing in your life, trying to gain clarity about what you want can be extremely challenging. Cindy Arcuri is a career and executive life coach who went through Mom Goes On. She went from being stuck to finding a sense of clarity about what she wants for the next chapter of her life, and she's here this week to shed light on what your future can hold. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/215...
Are you good? Or are you stopping at good enough, rather than dreaming big and chasing the next chapter of life that you really want? I invite you to consider what it would feel like to allow yourself to experience greatness, and explore my process for transitioning from good to great. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/214
My guest this week is Corinne Crabtree, a brilliant example of not only someone who is an expert at teaching weight loss but also a woman who has developed mastery in figuring out how to create everything she wants one step at a time. Hear Corinne's journey of creating an eight-figure coaching business and how you, too, can begin making your dreams a reality. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/213...
Getting everything that’s swirling around in your mind out on paper can be incredibly helpful. However, it can also be extremely problematic, specifically for widowed moms who are past acute grief. If journaling is cementing stories in your brain that don’t feel good to you, it’s time for a different approach, and I’m teaching you the alternatives on this episode. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/212...
Many widowed moms believe there’s an inherent right or wrong way to navigate challenging days like Father’s Day. Hear my top three do’s and don’ts for navigating Father’s Day, and why it’s a beautiful opportunity for you to let what feels right grow and change year by year. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/211
Vulnerability is a term that’s thrown around a lot these days, but actually being willing to be vulnerable, authentic, and to ask for what you need especially in the midst of grief, is something to be commended. Hear the realization Dani Nyman had that she needed support in widowhood, how she’s given herself permission to ask for help and be vulnerable, and what’s changed in how she takes care of herself now. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/210...
Have you ever imagined alternative scenarios that could have prevented your person from dying? Going down the path in your mind of the would’ve, could’ve, should’ve things that have happened in the past is not logical, and yet, it’s extremely common in grief. Hear what counterfactual thinking in grief looks like, why it’s a normal experience, and what you can do when you notice it happening for you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/209...
Kara Loewentheil is a Master Certified coach and a powerhouse feminist confidence coach, and we recently had a conversation on grief, patriarchy, and post-traumatic growth over on her podcast. Hear my insights on the various theories of grief and what I find most helpful, our socialization and the role of the patriarchy in shaping our experience of grief, as well as how post-traumatic growth plays a part in the grieving process. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coaching...
A few years ago, I would never have been able to give myself the opportunity to receive good things. Maybe like me, you have lots of “shoulds” and rules about investing in your own pleasure. Hear why it’s essential for us to learn to receive while grieving, the reasons you might find this challenging, and strategies you can try to increase your ability to receive in grief. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/207...
I have a unique vantage point as a coach. I get to see the entire transformation of my clients, and former Mom Goes On member Cindy’s was stark. I watched Cindy go from the depths of despair to finding hope for her future. She’s sharing what her grief journey looks like, and how she challenged the tools inside Mom Goes On to get what she needed from the program. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/206...
We have so many Automatic Negative Thoughts (ANTs) in grief, and we can spiral downward in them very quickly. Whether it’s that you won’t ever be happy again, no one understands you, or you’re just not doing it right, we often don’t even see them as thoughts. We just believe them. Hear why your grief ANTs matter, and how to begin acknowledging them for what they are. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/205...
How often do you find yourself inclined to please other people? Valuing other people’s validation more than you trust your own inner wisdom is a miserable place to be. To offer her wisdom on this topic and a process to stop people pleasing, I’m speaking to Master Certified coach and expert on people pleasing, Sara Bybee Fisk. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/204...
So often, widows attribute anything good that they once felt to their person. Whether it’s your happiness, satisfaction, fulfillment, joy, or confidence, I get it because I did it too. I offer in the most loving way possible, that it wasn’t them. It was always you. Get full show notes and more information here: https://www.coachingwithkrista.com/203
