This week I talk about fear. Fear plays a significant part in any conversation about why someone has not moved forward towards their dreams. Fear of failure Fear of embarrassment Fear of judgment and other people's opinions. But is fear really the problem? In this episode, I talk about what fear is and whether what you think is fear is actually fear. Stick around to the end, where I share my fear checklist, designed to let you know if you're feeling fear or the other thing I reveal in this episo...
Oct 06, 2022•26 min•Season 2Ep. 33
Overwhelm. That's the subject of this week's show. Or, more specifically, what you can do to cut through the overwhelm and keep it moving. Now, I don't know about you. But when I was in BigLaw, I'd often get into the office just feeling like I didn't know where to start. There was so much going on, so many competing demands coming at me from different quarters. And the thing about overwhelm is it stops you in your tracks. It leads to or can be confused for procrastination, But overwhelm is signi...
Sep 29, 2022•22 min•Season 2Ep. 32
Are you an all-or-nothing type of person? Go hard or go home? That can be great in short bursts and help you push forward, like the turbo boost in a race car. But the thing about an all-or-nothing approach is that over time, it ends up with you doing nothing. Why? Because maintaining that same level of intensity day in and day out over a long period isn't sustainable. So by focusing on maintaining that level of intensity, you don't get to where it is that you want to get to because you give up a...
Sep 22, 2022•26 min•Season 2Ep. 31
Growth and transformation are not linear. I recently got a new tattoo representing a caterpillar's change to a butterfly. The tat reminded me of the transformation I've made since leaving BigLaw. But just as a caterpillar can't become a butterfly without going through the messy chrysalis stage, I couldn't make the transformation in my life without going through a similar stage, what I call the messy middle. Yet, the thing I didn't realise, and that always hits me square in the face when I think ...
Sep 15, 2022•26 min•Season 2Ep. 30
How often do you tell yourself that you don't have a choice about something? I used to do it all the time, especially when thinking about leaving BigLaw. I'd say things like: 🚫 I don;t have a choice 🚫 I can't leave 🚫 I'm just stuck here for the rest of my career. 🚫 I've made my bed, and now I have to keep lying in it. Have you ever said these things to yourself? Well, this episode is for you! You have a choice. You always have a choice. Even when it doesn't;t seem like you do, you do. You ma...
Sep 08, 2022•19 min•Season 2Ep. 29
In this week's episode, I talk about a conversation with a friend. We were having a conversation and talking about what I've been doing in terms of coaching, the content I've been sharing., and that I'm looking to do more speaking events. And they said I wouldn't want you speaking in my organisation . I laughed! They meant it in the nicest possible way. And it was a little bit tongue in cheek. But the general gist was that everybody would want to leave if I spoke at their organisation and to the...
Sep 01, 2022•18 min•Season 2Ep. 28
Let’s talk about balance. Balance is something that comes up a lot when you're working in a high-pressure, high-stress, corporate job. Work-life balance (or the lack of) is often discussed, but have you considered balance more generally? In this episode, I share ⚡️what balance means to me; ⚡️why balance is important; and ⚡️why balance is an ongoing journey, not a destination. It all starts with a story about a see-saw… ___________________________________________________ Links: 🚀 Get my book, Th...
Aug 25, 2022•16 min•Season 2Ep. 27
So, I f**kd up a little here. If you've been religiously listening to the show or are a recent binge listener, you'll recognise that I've talked about this subject before! I only realised that after recording the episode! I debated whether I should delete this. But here's the thing, I don't have a perfect marketing strategy for the show. I know what I want to share, but I never know exactly when I want to share it. Which is why I've ended up recording the same show twice! Yet, although the topic...
Aug 18, 2022•20 min•Season 2Ep. 26
Are you self-sabotaging? Are you talking yourself out of doing what you want before you've even started? Are you allowing the thoughts, opinions and agendas of others to influence what you do instead of trusting and believing in yourself? Well, now's the time to stop! And in this episode, I tell you how. It will require some unlearning, but it will be worth it! ______________________________________________________________________________________________________ Want to grab yourself a free audi...
Aug 11, 2022•18 min•Season 2Ep. 25
How do you react in times of stress and discomfort? Do you have tools and strategies that support you, or do you default to longstanding habits that don't serve you? Recently I was accused of something that wasn't true. And even though it was easy for me to prove it wasn’t true, the experience left me shook! Fortunately, I had tried and true tools to get me through it, tools I've previously shared on the show. In this episode, I share how I used those tools in real-time to help you understand th...
Aug 04, 2022•32 min•Season 2Ep. 24
Life isn't all sunshine and roses. And sometimes, no matter how much you strive to live life Lit! 🔥 , external forces come along and knock you off your game. So what do you do? Do you buy into the positive vibes only toxic positivity BS? Er, Hell No! In this week's episode, I share my 3 part framework to work through the 💩 so you can get back to living Lit!🔥 _____________________________________________________________________________________________________ Want to grab yourself a free audio...
Jul 28, 2022•19 min•Season 2Ep. 23
You know you want to make a change to your situation. But you're telling yourself that you'll change when a particular thing happens. 💲 When you've saved enough money 💲 When you get your bonus 💲 When the right thing comes along But waiting, without knowing why you're waiting, is a surefire way to ensure things never change. In this episode, I share the questions you need to ask yourself to ensure you retain your power and make change happen. ___________________________________________________...
Jul 21, 2022•26 min•Season 2Ep. 22
How many times have you told yourself you can't do something? Or told yourself that the thing you dream of doing isn't possible for you? If you're anything like I was, many, many times. And in doing so, you've continued to stay stuck and play small. In this episode, I tell you why these things you tell yourself are fiction. Stories that, like fairytales, have no evidence to support them. I also share what you can do to reframe your thoughts and stop these fictional stories from holding you back ...
Jul 14, 2022•23 min•Season 2Ep. 21
Should you stay or should you go? 🤔 When you know where you are isn’t where you want to be, but you don’t know what you should do to change that, this question can keep you running around in circles. Maybe all that’s needed is a subtle shift in how you work, some additional support, a stronger set of boundaries, a change in attitude and intention. Or Maybe you really do need to burn 💩 down and start again. How do you know which is right for you? 🤷🏿♂️ In this week's episode, I share three si...
Jul 07, 2022•27 min•Season 2Ep. 20
Confidence is believing you can figure things out and get the thing done. But sometimes, hiring a professional is the best way to get things done. Sure, you can save money by taking the time to figure it out and do it yourself. But what you save in cash, you lose in time, and last time I checked, you can't make more time. In this episode, I talk about: 🚀 how to know when to hire a professional and when to do it yourself; 🚀 why I refused to remove the tree stump from my garden (this is not as r...
Jun 30, 2022•25 min•Season 2Ep. 19
When you set out to make a change. When you do what you need to do to create the life you want. When you're working to move from a life of lethargy to a life that's Lit! You're changing a part of who you are to become either more of who you are or to become something that you want to be. And that's great. But change is hard! So, to keep moving forward ⚡️when every obstacle is telling you to stop ⚡️when your mind is telling you to fall back into old habits and ⚡️when all you wanna do is stay in y...
Jun 23, 2022•25 min•Season 2Ep. 18
You have a big dream. There's something exciting you want to accomplish. But the thought of taking action scares you to the point of paralysis. So a year later, you're still stuck in the same place you don't want to be dreaming of the thing you want to do. Sound familiar? That was me until I came up with the concept of courage stacking—a way to build the courage to allow you to start and continue taking action. In this episode I share with you: ✅ what the art of courage stacking is; ✅ how courag...
Jun 16, 2022•27 min•Season 2Ep. 17
When was the last time you did something new? When we're successful at one thing we can get stuck in our ways, and remain in our comfort zone for fear of embarrassment or failure. But growth comes from doing new things, from trying new things, from shocking ourselves with new experiences and challenges. In this week's episode, I share ⚡️how a change in workout routine led to a new discovery; ⚡️giving in to my curiosity led me to coaching; and ⚡️how one 60 minute consultation call with me can lea...
Jun 09, 2022•20 min•Season 2Ep. 16
We all know what's like, right? We have a ton of stuff to do, sit down to do it, and then we do everything else but the thing we meant to do. Procrastination is real y'all. And in this episode, I'll be sharing the three reasons you procrastinate and what you can do to counter that procrastination. And just in case you're wondering, the reasons don't include your competence, work ethic or ability to do your job. 💯 __________________________________________________________________________________...
Jun 02, 2022•23 min•Season 2Ep. 15
Do you crave external validation? Nothing wrong with that, we all want to be loved. But if you rely on external validation to do the thing. to make the changes you know you need to make, you'll always remain stuck in lethargy. Why? Because reliance on external validation will either drive you towards what you think you should want (to get the validation); or pull you away from what you do want (to avoid losing validation). In this episode, I share why relying on external validation is incompatib...
May 26, 2022•21 min•Season 2Ep. 14
When you think big, big things can happen. But only if you have the courage to take action to make them happen. In this episode I talk about two big things that happened to me recently; how they required me to tap into my courage; and I share one thing you can do to build the courage to take action and do the damn thing. _____________________________________________________________________________________________________ Links: Download the Confidence Journal Get my book, The Triple C Method®️ ,...
May 19, 2022•19 min•Season 2Ep. 13
If you want to change your life, it's on you to do that. If you want to ditch that life of lethargy, it's on you to do that. If you want to live a life that's lit, it's on you to do that. Waiting for things to happen, isn't going to make them happen. And no one can truly save you but yourself! _________________________________________________________________________________________________ Links: Download my free Confidence Journal Get my book, The Triple C Method®️ , at Amazon , Barnes & No...
May 12, 2022•18 min•Season 2Ep. 12
Do you think you lack confidence? Do you say you're not a confident person? Do self-doubt and a lack of belief in your abilities hold you back from getting after what you want? In this episode, I talk about: Confidence, as seen through the eyes of Kanye West in the Netflix documentary, Jeen-Yuhs. how I let my almost Kanye-esque levels of confidence be depleted to the point I lost confidence in my dream, and one tool I used to boost my confidence to the level where I could write a book (and how y...
May 05, 2022•20 min•Season 2Ep. 11
Values are one of those things talked about a lot by various people, particularly coaches. We talk a lot about values, what are your values? how do you find your values? And you may not really know why. Why is that important? Why do you need to know your values? I never really thought about it. I mean, we all think that we have values, but how often do we sit down and intentionally think about what our values are at that particular moment in time? In today's episode, I answer those questions abo...
Apr 28, 2022•22 min•Season 2Ep. 10
This is a public service announcement! If you have something to say, say it. If you have a question to ask, ask it. And if you have something that you want to do, do it. Say it. Ask it. Do it. In this week's episode share how this PSA could have helped me write a book sooner; could have helped me leave BigLaw quicker; and can help you get out of the funk you're in and move forward towards your lit! life. Listen to the end to hear details of how I can help you implement this PSA in your own life ...
Apr 21, 2022•18 min•Season 2Ep. 9
What does it mean to be a dropout? And more specifically, a BigLaw dropout? If the term conjures up negative images of someone lazy, undisciplined and unmotivated, this episode will reframe those thoughts in an instant. This week I talk about - why being called a dropout is a badge of honour; - how leaving BigLaw unleashed my long-suppressed creativity; and - where the term 'the BigLaw dropout' originated. Links related to this episode Read The Rhyme of the BigLaw dropout The Triple C Method®️ i...
Apr 14, 2022•15 min•Season 2Ep. 8
If you don't embrace failure, you're always going to go back to that state of analysis paralysis of waiting for that perfect moment when you have that perfect plan to take that perfect first step. And that doesn't exist. Perfect doesn't exist. In this week's episode, I talk about the two faces of perfectionism and how they're holding you back from getting what you want. I also share my tips for overcoming perfectionism and just doing the damn thing! ______________________________________________...
Apr 07, 2022•28 min•Season 2Ep. 7
My book, The Triple C Method® , is the book I wish I'd had when limiting beliefs and fear of the unknown kept me stuck for five years. To celebrate the opening of the preorder window for the book, in this episode, I share - why I wrote the book; - the bonus available to you when you preorder (you're gonna want this!); and - the book's introductory chapter. Preorder the book and get the preorder bonus by heading to: https://www.iamryanspence.com/triplec Join my mailing list at: https://www.iamrya...
Mar 31, 2022•23 min•Season 2Ep. 6
In this week's episode, I share my three-part framework for achieving your goals and, in almost the same breath, talk about why the goal isn't really the point. Confused? All will become clear when you listen to this episode where I also talk about: - why the process is more important than the result; - how attending Steven Bartlett's Diary of a CEO Live influenced my decision to record this episode now rather than later; and - why whether you achieve a goal or not doesn't define you. __________...
Mar 25, 2022•30 min•Season 2Ep. 5
In episode two, I talked about what The Triple C Project is. I broke down the three C's, clarity, confidence and courage. And I talked about why this podcast is a project. But if you listen to the intro, you'll notice that I talk about why this podcast is helping you gain clarity, confidence and courage. And the reason why is so you can live life lit! Living life lit is something that I talk about a lot, I talk about it on my social media, I talk about it on my website I've spoken about it in po...
Mar 14, 2022•15 min•Season 2Ep. 4
