Do you have a friend who always has to follow up your bad day with “It could be worse”? Are you the one who has a hard time just listening when your loved ones need to vent? Both of these scenarios are examples of toxic positivity: when a positive mindset goes too far and makes you feel like having (and sharing) bad feelings isn’t allowed. Today’s guest Whitney Goodman is an expert on toxic positivity. She is the radically honest psychotherapist behind the Instagram account @Sitwithwhit as well ...
Mar 24, 2022•23 min
Are you endlessly, compulsively doing things for all the people in your life? Do you find that giving to people at work and home leaves you exhausted by the end of the day? If you answered yes, you might be a chronic overfunctioner. On today’s episode, I’m going to help you understand why you always seem to give too much of yourself and how you can start creating more balance in your relationships. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/388 Learn more about your ad choices. Vis...
Mar 22, 2022•20 min
Today I’m interviewing New York Times bestselling author, health and fitness expert, and former neurosurgical ICU trauma nurse Tana Amen. If the name seems familiar, it’s because she’s married to recent guest and friend of mine Dr. Daniel Amen. We talk about her recent memoir The Relentless Courage of a Scared Child , she shares how she broke the cycle of abuse and poverty she was born into, and we dive deep into the ways that we can heal ourselves. Find the show notes for today's episode at ter...
Mar 17, 2022•31 min
How much fear and anxiety do you experience every day? Do you think of yourself as a chronic worrier? In today’s episode, I’m going to help you understand the roots of your fear and anxiety and share some steps that you can take to have less stress and more joy in your life. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/386 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Mar 15, 2022•20 min
Today I’m interviewing dietician, entrepreneur, model, and actress Melissa Boloña about what it’s like to own her business, Beauty and the Broth. We talk about her transition from acting to entrepreneurship, how she manages the daily stress of her responsibilities for her company, and how the health benefits of bone broth can extend to your mood too! Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/385 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Mar 10, 2022•23 min
Do you struggle with repetitive negative thoughts? We all experience some degree of negativity when it comes to our thoughts and feelings, but if it is frequent or intense, it can get in the way of your highest potential in your life, in your career, and in your relationships. From a psychological perspective, an exaggerated or perseverating pattern of thought not based on facts is a cognitive distortion . It is our emotional brains convincing us to believe negative things about ourselves, other...
Mar 08, 2022•19 min
Today I’m bringing you a special episode with repeat guest Dr. Daniel Amen. Dr. Amen is a world-renowned psychiatrist and brain health expert who hopes to end mental illness by revolutionizing how it is treated. Just like any other organ, the brain doesn’t work well when you don’t take care of it. Dr. Amen shares seven ways you can change your behavior now for a healthier, happier brain, as well as the substances and habits you might want to avoid. Find the show notes for today's episode at terr...
Mar 03, 2022•30 min
Are you running on empty? Are you so depleted that you’ve found yourself pulling back from your relationships and the things that used to inspire you? If you feel desperate to replenish yourself in some way and you could use some tips, then this episode is for you. In today’s episode, you’ll learn the difference between being stressed and burned out (‘cause they’re not the same), how to pinpoint what drains you the most, and 3 strategies to help you bounce back from burnout. Find the show notes ...
Mar 01, 2022•19 min
Today I’m chatting with my great friend and New York Times bestselling author Gabby Bernstein about the inspiration behind her newest book, Happy Days: The Guided Path from Trauma to Profound Freedom and Inner Peace . This book is Gabby’s most profoundly personal. It sparks a conversation about how trauma creates harmful patterns of self-protection and how we can escape them, as well as the healing power of being a better parent to ourselves and our children. Find the show notes for today's epis...
Feb 24, 2022•36 min
Have you ever met someone you would describe as an “old soul” or seemingly older than their years? You might be describing someone with high emotional maturity. Investing time and energy into growing your own emotional maturity is well worth it. When you learn how to master your emotions you have a deep understanding of yourself, you are able to flex your empathy muscle in a healthy way, and you are more competent and calm in stressful situations. Listen to today’s episode to learn more about yo...
Feb 22, 2022•17 min
Today I’m excited to share an interview with Michelle Chalfant. She is a therapist and coach who created a model called the “adult chair” to help adults recognize immature aspects of their psyche and live more emotionally healthy lives. We’re talking all about what you need to do to live a healthier, happier life, including how to be more self compassionate and how to recognize triggering experiences as opportunities for healing. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/379 Learn...
Feb 17, 2022•28 min
Do you feel like you are the only person in your life who knows how to do anything correctly? Have you ever asked your partner or your teenager to do something, and they come back with “But you do it so much better…” or “I don’t know how…” OR wait so long to start that you just end up doing it? What if the people in your life are pretending to be less competent than they are to get you to do more than your share? Let that sink in. If you are overworking, overdoing, and, if you’re honest, resentf...
Feb 15, 2022•20 min
Do you ever feel like you are too busy to create the life you really want? A lot of us always feel like we’re playing catch-up, but it doesn’t have to be that way. Today’s guest, Tanya Dalton, shares strategies that can help all of us live with intention by making truly fulfilling goals and sticking to them. Plus: Tanya shares the story behind her brand new book, On Purpose: The Busy Woman’s Guide to an Extraordinary Life of Meaning and Success. Read the show notes for today's episode at terrico...
Feb 10, 2022•35 min
How often do you find yourself bummed out on Valentine’s Day? I can tell you, as a psychotherapist for 25 years, whether you’re single or in a relationship, Valentine’s Day has a way of setting us up for disappointment. Every year post-Cupid, I would prepare myself for the aftermath because my therapy practice would be full of people who were sad, lonely, or angry over what did or did not go down on V-day. What if you asked for what you really want? What if you decided to fulfill your own desire...
Feb 08, 2022•19 min
Today I’m interviewing Serena Dyer Pisoni. Her father, Wayne Dyer, passed away a few years ago. If you don’t know him, he was a big influence on my life and work, and I know he also touched the lives of many others. Serena recently co-wrote a book called The Knowing with her sister Saje, all about processing and learning from the many losses that they were going through during that time in their lives. In today’s episode, Serena shares the tools and strategies she developed to make her way forwa...
Feb 03, 2022•30 min
Do you find that you attach unusually quickly to people, whether in friendships or romantic relationships? Do you stay in relationships that you know are bad for you because the thought of being alone scares you more than staying in a bad relationship? Or do you repeatedly find yourself in relationships with unavailable people? If you answered yes to any of these questions, you might have abandonment issues. In this episode, I’m helping you recognize the signs of abandonment issues in adult rela...
Feb 01, 2022•14 min
Before the pandemic, I was always a gym person. I liked the social aspect of meeting up with my gym friends, and I never imagined that I could motivate myself to work out at home. That changed when I found today’s guest, Michelle Briehler. She is a Youtube workout leader and certified health and life coach who has helped thousands of people, including my sister and I, stay fit and feel good about themselves without going to the gym in person. Michelle shares how she started leading remote workou...
Jan 27, 2022•25 min
Do you feel like you’re continually struggling in relationships with the same self-absorbed, controlling people? It could be in your romantic relationships, friendships, family, or work relationships. Maybe you keep finding yourself with narcissistic partners even though after your last breakup you swore, “never again”... Or you get a new job and, sure enough, you end up with the same version of your last bully boss. If you’re nodding your head yes, trust me, you are not alone. Looking into our ...
Jan 25, 2022•20 min
I started out wary of astrology, but over the past decade, I have become increasingly open to the perspective it can offer on our individual struggles and the shifts we see in society as a whole. My change in perspective is thanks in part to Ophira Edut, a good friend of mine who is one half of the celebrity astrologer duo the AstroTwins. I invited her today to chat a bit about what astrology tells us to expect from 2022, and the entire decade ahead of us. She also shares a special elemental hor...
Jan 20, 2022•33 min
When you are in a conflict do you clam up and go silent? Do you run away and avoid it at all costs? Or maybe you explode and escalate it? Listen to this episode to learn the top four most common communication in conflict issues that people experience. Plus, you’ll get some tips and scripts that you can use when you find yourself in a heated situation. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/370 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Jan 18, 2022•19 min
Real Love Revolution season is in full swing, my people, and that means I’ll be teaching all month long about how to raise your love vibe and create vibrant, lasting love in your life! One of the foundational pieces of my body of work on healthy love is the love blueprint. Your love blueprint contains information to help you understand the conscious and unconscious ways you currently relate to love. This learned behavior is not your fault, but understanding it now is your responsibility– especia...
Jan 11, 2022•21 min
I’m excited to share my interview with Alex Banayan, author of The Third Door: The Wild Quest to Uncover How the World's Most Successful People Launched Their Careers . After a decade of interviewing very successful people, he shares what he has learned about approaching success by thinking outside the box. Read the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/368 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Jan 06, 2022•40 min
Have you ever wondered why you attract the people you do romantically? Do you find yourself dating a version of the same person over and over again...only to eventually be disappointed and frustrated? Or maybe you are in a relationship and you are craving more- more intimacy, better communication, and a deeper connection? If you have ever thought amazing, epic love is for other people or the lucky few who happened to be in the right place at the right time, you are not alone. I used to think the...
Jan 04, 2022•20 min
Recently, many people have been asking me to talk about addiction. During the pandemic there has been an increase in consumption of substances like alcohol, weed, and pills around the world as people use them to cope with difficult times we are going through. Today I invited a special guest, my friend Patty Powers, who is an amazing addiction recovery coach who I have referred my own clients to. We’re sharing our conversation about addiction, relapse, and psychoeducation, as well as Patty’s own ...
Dec 30, 2021•30 min
How do you feel about New Year’s resolutions? Did you know studies show that only 8% of people keep their New Year’s resolutions and that nearly 80% fail by February? Those aren’t great odds. Why is it so difficult to follow through with our New Year’s resolutions despite our best intentions? From a therapeutic perspective, resolution setting is missing an essential piece; honest self-reflection. For real, lasting change to stick, we need to look back, assess, and find evidence of what’s working...
Dec 28, 2021•20 min
Physical and verbal abuse are not the only kinds of childhood trauma that can impact us in our adult lives. Though often overlooked, childhood emotional neglect from parents who were overbearing, overly lax, absent, or dismissive can lead to adult difficulties with self-esteem, emotional literacy, and boundaries. Today I am helping you determine whether you might have experienced childhood neglect and guiding you through some steps you can take to heal now that you are grown up. Find the show no...
Dec 21, 2021•22 min
Today I’m excited to share a chat with my friend Latham Thomas, who is a celebrity wellness and lifestyle guru, doula, and educator. She explains the role a doula can play in a client’s childbirth village. We also discuss the Black maternal health crisis, and Latham shares how she became a doula herself and later launched her doula training program so that more parents could experience childbirth the way she did. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/363 Learn more about your ...
Dec 16, 2021•51 min
Are you stressed out of your mind from anticipating all of the needs of all of the people, all of the time? Do you go out of your way to indulge a particularly difficult family member so that they don’t explode and ruin the family gathering? If you find that you are always anticipating the needs of others, I might be able to help. In this episode, I’m breaking down what I call codependent anticipation and giving you some steps that you can take to stick to your side of the street a little bit mo...
Dec 14, 2021•18 min
Today I’m sharing a girlfriend jam with Jennifer Pastiloff. She shares her takeaways about her experiences with the traumatic loss of a parent and her deafness and shared her deafness: How it led her write her book, On Being Human , how to quiet your inner asshole voice with kindness, and how to reach outside your bubble to truly be of service to other humans and feel connected to the world. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/361 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit mega...
Dec 09, 2021•45 min
How hard is it for you to apologize when you hurt someone? Do you find yourself starting the apology with “I’m sorry you feel…” “I’m sorry you think…” or “sorry, but I was tired?” Do people feel understood when you apologize, or does it make things worse? In today’s episode, I am going to outline some bad apology habits and then share some tips for how you can avoid them in your life to give satisfying, authentic apologies when you accidentally hurt the people you love. Find the show notes for t...
Dec 07, 2021•19 min
