Today I’m interviewing Lindsey Ellison, a breakup breakthrough coach, author of two books, and podcaster. She gives us some advice about all things narcissist and how to break up without being broken. Plus, she shares her personal experience with discovering her own higher power helped her stop treating a codependent relationship as one. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/359 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Dec 02, 2021•32 min
When you have to say no to someone, do you feel compelled to give them a long explanation of why you are saying no, or do you find yourself defending your right to say no? How often do you find yourself building a case to convince the people in your life that you’re doing the right thing? When you make a choice do you want everyone to approve of your decision? If you're nodding your head, then this episode is for you. There is an important difference between convincing and providing context when...
Nov 30, 2021•19 min
Today I’m sharing a chat with my friend Elizabeth Earnshaw, licensed marriage and family therapist and director of A Better Life Therapy, LLC. She shares her thoughts about how the COVID-19 pandemic has impacted different types of relationships, gives tips for starting difficult conversations with your partner, and explains the importance of rituals in building reliability in your relationship. Plus, I ask her about the inspiration behind her brand new book I Want This to Work: An Inclusive Guid...
Nov 26, 2021•31 min
If something is really important to you, can you go to the mat for it? Do you know how to negotiate and stand up for what you want? Or do you avoid the conflict and potentially end up living with regrets? Knowing when and how to fight fair for what you want is part of being a boundary boss and essential to living your most satisfying, self-determined life! That’s why in today's episode, I'm walking you through how to pick your battles wisely, how to stand your ground, and how to negotiate like a...
Nov 23, 2021•19 min
Today I’m sharing a chat with my friend Dr. Alexandra Solomon, who is a clinical psychologist at northwestern university and expert in relational self-awareness. We talk about love, self-reflection, monogamy, and how the field of relationship psychology has changed in the last 25 years, as well as sharing our own experiences with self-awareness in our intimate relationships. I hope you enjoy listening to this interview with Alexandra as much as I enjoyed interviewing her! Read the show notes for...
Nov 18, 2021•39 min
When you're upset with someone about something, do you: Say nothing, but silently keep score? Talk to other people about it? Ice the person out? Send them a passive-aggressive or sarcastic text? If any of those rang a bell, you are not alone which is why in this week’s episode, I’m breaking down the top 10 indicators that you might be suppressing and/or unconsciously repressing your anger. Raising your awareness around when you might be acting out feelings of frustration or anger is the first st...
Nov 16, 2021•18 min
Today I'm bringing back an old episode by popular demand, a girlfriend jam with Danielle LaPorte! Danielle is the creator of The Desire Map series, “A heart centered approach to finding your true power”. She’s also the author of White Hot Truth: Clarity for keeping it real on your spiritual path, and The Fire Starter Sessions: A guide to creating success on your own terms, which also spun off into a coaching curriculum. Named one of the “Top 100 Websites for Women” by Forbes, over 5 million peop...
Nov 12, 2021•52 min
Do you think epic love is random? Is it just a twist of fate for people in the right place at the right time? Is real love only for the lucky? The short answer to all of these q’s is...nope. In this episode, I am teaching you how you can build a rock-solid foundation and infrastructure for a lasting, vibrant, EPIC love relationship. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/352 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Nov 09, 2021•21 min
Would you like to be more self-assured? You aren’t alone: So many of us want to live our lives with more confidence and less fear. Today’s guest, my long-time friend Anna Goldstein, has some tips. Anna is a certified life and business coach who tells it like it is, and she is going to share steps you can take today to dial into the part of you that is already more confident. Plus, she shares her own lifelong journey building self-confidence and how it inspired her to write her book Be Bold: A Gu...
Nov 04, 2021•33 min
Are you ever tempted to look at your partner’s phone? Or if you’re dating someone new… do you ever feel an urge to peruse social media for a glimpse of their ex? Jealousy is normal...but only to a degree. If you or your partner’s green-eyed monster is rearing its head a little too often, then this week’s episode is for you. I’m going to break down the differences between normal and extreme jealousy and help you locate the origin of a jealous streak so you can decode it, deactivate it, and move i...
Nov 02, 2021•19 min
Are you confused about what it means to be codependent? Do you ever wonder what codependency looks like in practice? If you’re nodding your head yes, that’s understandable. In my experience, there is often confusion around the topic of codependency, with a ton of misconceptions and a plethora of myths clouding up what it looks like in real life. In today’s episode, I’m delivering rock-solid clarity about what codependency is by showing you what it’s not . Ready for some major myth-busting?! Let’...
Oct 26, 2021•19 min
Today I’m sharing an interview with Gabrielle Stone. She’s an actress, podcaster, director, and best-selling author of two books: Eat, Pray, FML , and her newest book, The Ridiculous Misadventures of a Single Girl . We have a long conversation about love, loss, and self-love, and Gabrielle shares the compelling story of how she moved on from being cheated on by her husband of two years to arrive where she is today. Find the show notes for today's episode at terricole.com/348 Learn more about you...
Oct 21, 2021•36 min
Do you give ‘till it hurts in your relationships? Do you feel responsible for other people’s feelings, problems, and situations? I can’t tell you how many comments and emails I get asking me: “How can I tell if I’m codependent?” and “What’s the difference between being caring and codependency?” Raising your awareness of these 8 codependency warning signs can help you start to focus on your own side of the street . In today’s episode, I’m walking you through the most common symptoms and red flags...
Oct 19, 2021•19 min
I’m so excited for you to tune into this juicy chat I had with my girlfriend Africa Brooke. She’s a globally recognized coach, consultant, thinker, and writer who specializes in helping people overcome self-censorship and other forms of self-sabotage. I met her through a virtual event on empowerment. She was the speaker right after me, and I was blown away by what she shared and what she talked about. I think you guys are going to love her work too. Read more about today's episode at terricole.c...
Oct 14, 2021•40 min
Do you have trouble asking for help? Do you find yourself saying, “It’s just so much easier if I do it myself?” Trust me, you are not alone. In today’s episode, I’ll be sharing how I learned to do less, produce more and ask for help, and I’ll teach you how to do the same. Learn more about today's episode at terricole.com/345 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Oct 12, 2021•15 min
Today I’m interviewing my super smart friend Jayson Gaddis who just released a brand new book called Getting to Zero: How to Work Through Conflict in Your High Stakes Relationships. If you are a conflict avoider, you sometimes passive-aggressively communicate your displeasure rather than having a conversation about it, or you just don’t know how to repair your relationship after there has been a blowup or rupture, this episode is for you. Read more about today's episode at terricole.com/344 Lear...
Oct 07, 2021•24 min
How do you handle ruptures and communication breakdowns in your relationship? Do you avoid talking directly about the blow-ups and conflicts that you have? Do you ever pretend that they haven’t happened or act extra nice to avoid talking about them? I am going to help you understand what is and isn’t normal when you fight in a healthy relationship and give you a couple of in-the-moment strategies to prevent small ruptures from becoming huge problems. Read more about this episode at terricole.com...
Oct 05, 2021•20 min
I have a really exciting interview for you today with my friend Rachel DeAlto, who has a brand new book out called Relatable: How to Connect With Anyone, Anywhere, Even if it Scares You. We talk about social anxiety, how the lockdown has impacted our ability to be confidently social, and what to do with the existential loneliness the last two years has created for many of us. Read more about today's episode at terricole.com/342 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Sep 30, 2021•22 min
Do you ever feel responsible for the feelings of others? Do you overgive and overfunction? Do you suffer from chronic indecision? If any of those things resonate, today’s episode is for you. I am going to share with you five signs that your emotional boundaries need help. Visit terricole.com/341 for more about today's episode. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 28, 2021•20 min
Today I’m talking to Jonathan Fields, a friend who I’ve known for many years, about his new book, Sparked: Discover Your Unique Imprint for Work that Makes You Come Alive . I think the book is perfect for the current era, when so many people are reconsidering the kind of work that fills their days. Jonathan shares a summary of ten "sparketypes" that will help you think about what kind of person you are and what tasks will naturally ignite your passion. Read more about today's episode at terricol...
Sep 23, 2021•37 min
Are you a giver? Do you find that you are usually on the giving end of things in relationships? If you’re a giver, do you attract takers? In today’s podcast, I explain what can be particularly dangerous about a relationship between a codependent and a narcissist and give you the tools to avoid becoming entangled in one. Read more about today's episode at terricole.com/339 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Sep 21, 2021•20 min
Today I am chatting with my friend Cassandra Bodzak about her brand new book “Manifesting Through Meditation: 100 Guided Practices to Harness the Power of Your Thoughts and Create the Life You Want.” She talks about how you can lay down the foundation for attracting what you want in your life and manifest the life of your dreams — all from a perspective that blends spirituality and practicality. She also shares a sneak peak from the book by reading one of her guided meditations for us! Read more...
Sep 16, 2021•29 min
Do you have difficulty when it comes to setting boundaries? Do you worry what others will think of you when you do? In today’s episode, I want to help you feel at ease with setting boundaries by answering the most common 5 boundary questions my audience asks. Learn more about today's episode at terricole.com/337 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 14, 2021•21 min
Today I’m sharing a chat with my friend Sabrina Soto. She shares how she manifested her life as a lifestyle expert, interior designer, bargain hunter, TV personality, and mom, and how she lives that life with confident boundaries. Read more about today's episode at terricole.com/336 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices
Sep 09, 2021•30 min
How often do you say to yourself, “I guess that’s just the way it is,” even when you wish that things were different? In this episode, I’m inviting you to question the status quo, helping you to identify whether you’re a rule follower or a rule breaker, and giving you ideas to help you create a better life outside of the box that someone else designed. Read more about today's episode at terricole.com/335 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Sep 07, 2021•19 min
We all want to see ourselves as good people, but everybody has the capacity to hurt others when we don’t understand them. Today I’m chatting with with nonbinary author, actor, and activist Jeffrey Marsh about how you can celebrate those with diverse identities even before you know all the rules, how to be an ally without being perfect, and some practical tips for being comfortable with they/them pronouns. Plus: Jeffrey tells me about their biggest childhood inspirations and their new book, “How ...
Sep 02, 2021•45 min
Does the thought of drawing boundaries make you nervous? Do you want to avoid it? Is it one of those things you know you should do but think to yourself, “I don’t want to deal with it”? In this episode of The Terri Cole Show, I will walk you through the rollercoaster of emotions you can expect to feel when you set boundaries and some strategies to avoid self-sabotaging in response to them. Learn more about today's episode at terricole.com/333 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/...
Aug 31, 2021•19 min
Today I’m sharing a super insightful jam with my girlfriend Cathy Heller. We chat about how you can tap into your passion and pivot from what you’re doing now into what you really want to do, hear the inspiration behind Cathy’s podcast “Don’t Keep Your Day Job,” and express the importance of making time for the things that make you light up with happiness, even when they aren’t practical. Find out more about today's episode at terricole.com/332 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.f...
Aug 26, 2021•50 min
How do you feel when other people tell you “no”? Even if you are a good at setting your own boundaries, it’s natural to feel defensive or afraid when others do the same because accepting others’ boundaries is a different set of skills to learn. In today’s episode, I teach you some steps to be as graceful and gracious in accepting the boundaries of others as you would like them to be in receiving yours. Learn more about today's episode at terricole.com/331 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit ...
Aug 24, 2021•23 min
Lots of us are feeling overwhelmed by the process of returning to work -- Especially empaths and introverts, who use even more energy when they are around other people. In this episode, I explain how the shared traumatic experience of the pandemic can also be an opportunity to shape our new normal as we go back to work and other social spaces in person. Learn more about today's episode at terricole.com/330 Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Aug 17, 2021•19 min
