This week we listened to a Mamamia podcast where Mia Freedman interviews Caitlin Moran on her latest book "What about men?" and discuss our thoughts. We acknowledge we are all victims of the patriarchy, but what tools do men have to help dismantle it? Why don't they identify with feminism and why are the gravitating towards extreme figures? Ali explains why feminism has been helpful in plight of women, however men are not identifying with these strategies. Why can't men post photos of themselves...
Aug 20, 2023•1 hr 2 min•Season 2Ep. 11
What are feelpinions? - Ali shares her definition and how she views it through a Dialectical Behavioural lens of logic and emotion. Sam elaborates why all extremes are mutually constitutive and why logic needs emotion and emotion needs logic, Joe however, wants more facts. We ask how do feelpinions affect our day to day? Are they needed to run the country or just good value in the cricket group chat? We share what sources we use to get our facts and how the perceived value of those facts influen...
Aug 09, 2023•55 min•Season 2Ep. 10
"The meaning of life" Welcome back Joe and welcome to a new format. Here at the ten thousand things we have decided to tackle the ten thousand things that distract us from loving awareness one thing at a time, so we will now be devoting each episode to one topic where we can really delve into the questions we ask. This week we have TTTT listener Oly ask us what is the meaning of life? We explore what means to us personally and what does it mean for us collectively. Sam believes we need to take r...
Jul 30, 2023•39 min•Season 2Ep. 9
Something a little different from The Ten Thousand Things, Joe is taking a well deserved break in beautiful Vietnam so Sam and Ali take the opportunity to discuss all things Autism/ADHD through their lived experiences. 1 - How has neurodiversity contributed to our biggest successes and failures? Sam and Ali share how their neurodiversity impacts their day to day lives, are we doing the right things at the right time? We also share how we've learnt to work with our differences rather than against...
Jul 14, 2023•1 hr 29 min•Season 2Ep. 8
Self actualisation / non monogamy / Communism 1 - Quotation corner "Ageing is an extraordinary process where you become the person you always thought you should be" David Bowie Ali explains why this quote resonated with her. Sam discusses why finding your medium for expression is so important and Joe shares how he's found contentment through podcasting. We discuss trying to find your cultural capital and is self actualisation just faking it until you make it? 2 - Non monogamy. Sam explains the p...
May 29, 2023•1 hr 27 min•Season 2Ep. 7
Our parent's values / Crying / Jaded dating profiles 1 - How did our parents values shape our own? Ali shares how she's not only grown into her parents' values. Sam explores the dichotomy of how his parents created a culture of questioning in a Hare Krishna environment and Joe shares how his parents politics influenced their values. We also ask whether boomers will ever be able to see how good they had it. 2 - Is crying for losers? Ali shares how her views on crying have changed and how she's co...
May 11, 2023•1 hr 32 min•Season 2Ep. 6
Leaning in, to content, confidence and courage. Do we read books anymore? / How do you rate yourself? / Is spirituality just watered down religion? 1 - Are you a book dragon or a book worm? We ask how in an ever increasing time poor society is there time to read and does it matter what medium and content you're reading? Sam shares why he believes physical books are not necessary and that reading and learning are more accessible than ever before. Joe is worried the kids are not reading anymore an...
Mar 31, 2023•1 hr 19 min•Season 2Ep. 5
How the language of therapy took over dating / The little things that help / Death 1 - Are we able to diagnose our dates? Should we? Ali discusses if therapists are having proxy relationships through us or is it better to just focus on clear communication instead? Joe finds "red flags" limiting and wants a more nuanced conversation. Sam shares how the mystery of long term relationships remains. We also discuss if datings apps are ruining monogamy or do we all just want to stay in the lavender ha...
Mar 16, 2023•1 hr 3 min•Season 2Ep. 4
The benefits of large language models including Chat GPT / The benefits of neurodiversity / The benefits of working on yourself 1 - What are the benefits of emerging AI technologies? Will it advance us or be our undoing? Will Joe's doomsday predictions come to fruition or will it be a golden age for human creativity? Ali has mixed feelings, will we make not just our jobs but ourselves redundant? Sam is hoping if not for complete marxist revolution that it will create a universal usefulness guara...
Feb 28, 2023•1 hr 6 min•Season 2Ep. 2
Throwing soup at paintings / Cat dads vs dog dads / Gratitude - yeah or nah? 1 - We delve into the effectiveness of political protests. Is throwing soup at a painting going to fix the climate crisis? Are Gen Z’s really the “last generation”? Joe shares some stories of his historical political activism and why he thinks his way was better. Ali shares some insights from a Gen Z and why they may not be the last generation but in the current political landscape it might feel like it. Sam doesn’t car...
Feb 10, 2023•1 hr 13 min•Season 2Ep. 2
We return for Season 2. Life before and after ADHD treatment / Sam on learning / You are falling through the air without a parachute, but don't worry, there is no ground. 1. Joe asked, so Sam explains that before treatment for ADHD, getting things done was endlessly frustrating and chaotic. It's not magically better now, but there's been many improvements and achievements in around nine months. To be fair a lot of that is also coming from a lot of groundwork done in therapy before drug treatment...
Jan 31, 2023•1 hr 8 min•Season 2Ep. 1
Christmas in the bin? What can be redeemed in it? / Note to self: 'let it stream' / That's Facts - A dark brooding romantic fixer upper 1. Christmas - Quite a few people are not into Christmas at all so here is a A Christmas Survival Guide Why do people hate christmas? Hear from the internet masses here - it's a lot of the same reasons that Joe does. Too much booze, too much pretend, enforced intimacy, stress, loss, sadness and expense. Not having the extended family, and when there was the exte...
Dec 20, 2022•51 min•Season 1Ep. 15
Revolution? / Do not seek the truth, only cease to cherish opinions / Paparazzi We mention Sengcan a lot: sage, poet and 3rd Patriarch of Chan Buddhism. Famous for (maybe) writing Xinxin Ming sutra (scripture/poem). Read it here . It begins like this: The Great Way is not difficult / for those who have no preferences When love and hate are both absent / everything becomes clear and undisguised Make the smallest distinction, however / and heaven and earth are set infinitely apart If you wish to s...
Dec 03, 2022•56 min•Season 1Ep. 14
Boundaries / The idea of your mother is not your mother / That's facts - the magical vagina and the song of the magical penis 1. Boundaries, romantic fiascos, anxious attachment. Why do I wonder if I'm real while waiting for a reply? Texting too much. Getting in touch with exes when there's nothing to discuss. School of Life: Can Exes Be Friends? Thinking you're the good guy, but the motives are all wrong. Every Time the Sun Comes Up (I'm in trouble): Sharon Van Etten Stopping as much dishonesty...
Nov 21, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Season 1Ep. 13
Why is Sam liking the internet more and more? / Leave the front door open, leave the back door open / Freedom is Obedience to Self-Formulated Rules 1. We get into why the internet can be a good presence, and a bit about Joe's experience with click-bait being a big problem even in 'quality' press Sam is happy he can find: good visual artists and audio/video producers, cool stuff to make things with, and pats on the head for making things. Joe has a harder time with the internet - finds it too top...
Nov 05, 2022•1 hr•Season 1Ep. 12
Growing up Hare Krishna / Note to self: "I love you. Keep going" / the beach 1. Being in the Moomba Parade as a Hare kid, in a fierce competition with the Gas and Fuel Corporation for Moomba float prizes / Krishnas coverage of Moomba Back to Godhead magazine July 1985 ( Does Moomba mean 'up your bum'? Was it revenge from Bill Onus for Moomba organisers deliberately upstaging Labor Day in a plot against workers? ) Hare Krishna Moomba on youtube, closer to 1990 George Harrison explains why chantin...
Oct 27, 2022•58 min•Season 1Ep. 11
Heaven and Hell is here and now? 1. Leaving the Ambassador Hotel 2. On clinging 3. Heaven on Earth, or somewhere else? 1. Joe at 19 in Bangkok, Thailand. A story he needs to tell, as life has not been the same since, but maybe it can be okay. Taxi drivers. Getting picked up by the tourist police. A strait jacket. A hospital, and a giant syringe. A gripping tale. Hey, maybe humanity is not so bad after all. Humankind: A Hopeful History by Rutger Bregman , also wrote Utopia for Realists 2. Clingin...
Oct 20, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Season 1Ep. 10
1. Socialising 2. 'Am I expanding or contracting?' 3. Highly sensitive persons -HSP Where did all the house parties go? Did we grow up? Did we get sick of it? What about dinner parties? Is Joe not getting invited to dinner parties? Do they actually happen? Are people afraid their space or their entertaining won't be good enough? Are we all just hellishly busy with whatever? Sam's Attention Deficit Disorder gets in the way of organising get togethers, that's for sure. But what do we actually want...
Oct 12, 2022•39 min•Season 1Ep. 9
If you win, you're allowed to cry / Looking outside yourself for what you already have / Being pompous 1. Sport can be an antidote to the messy and unresolved nature of life. There may not be a higher meaning to sport, but does there have to be. We need playfulness, and doing things together. Everything can be ridiculous when you look at it the right way, and test cricket really pushes the envelope in that way. Maybe if you can sit through a whole test series without getting distracted constantl...
Sep 30, 2022•52 min•Season 1Ep. 8
Do normal stuff or get enlightened? / Avoid problems you don't have / Away from climate anxiety 1. Listener mail - Eben crushes it with a killer question that really revs us up. Do the 10,000 things, or seek enlightenment? Neither. Both. Thank you so much Eben. Don't let us confuse you about enlightenment, you've got this. Keep doing what you're doing. We are here for this practical, get-on-with-it Mid-West vibe. Guided meditation by Australian Buddhist nuns. Tao te Ching - get into it, it's a g...
Sep 19, 2022•49 min•Season 1Ep. 7
Fatherhood, parenting / capitalism / identity 1. Camille Paglia, Sexual Personae en.wikiquote.org/wiki/Camille_Paglia / Paternity may be a legal fiction. Who is the father of any son that any son should love him or he any son? James Joyce Feeling like you have to do heaps with yr kids. They wanna chill. So do you. Connect with yr kids through frustration. Deal with dumb stuff by getting on the same page and conspiring in fun 2. Capitalism: what even am it? Magic? Water? www.sloww.co/this-is-wate...
Sep 13, 2022•53 min•Season 1Ep. 6
1. Work + mental health 2. Judging people 3. Knowing it all 4. Letters from listeners! Four huge ones, but don't worry, we almost dent the surface. Work Good to have a role. Structure is connection. People on Joe's psych ward, dosed with news, nothing to do. Some have too much. Work with fair rewards, dignity, autonomy, meaning, and time away! Judging people Joe says Sam doesn't judge that much. Joe judged two Gertrude St tiny dog yuppies, then a lady with a lot of work done, but saw that it's h...
Sep 06, 2022•52 min•Season 1Ep. 5
We nail the sound this time, feels good. Sam tells some wild tales from Hare Krishna boarding school, we discuss relationships in our 40s compared to our 20s and also ring a bell a few times. Sam finally tells (part of) the boarding school story, which does involve a bit of corporal punishment and vague military or martial vibes. Some Hari Krishnas were feeling a bit judged and vulnerable in those days, and perhaps that explains it. Reclaiming labels that people mock you with. And snitches get s...
Aug 29, 2022•38 min•Season 1Ep. 4
0:25 Being an article head (news junkie) 15.00 - Wanting to feel alive and awake. Risk taking behaviour. Sketchy people. Guns 18.00 - Ordinary mind. Do the dishes. Thanks to Sean for the episode image 28:51 - Parents, being a scared kid, loss, addiction, therapy, abandonment. It'll be okay in the end though. Send a voice msg Send us ye olde email Alain de Botton - The News - A Users Manual The News: Worst Show on the Internet. Let's agree. Emotional reactions. Pretending to be above the News/mak...
Aug 26, 2022•49 min•Season 1Ep. 3
We should probably shut up, but everyone needs to express themselves doing stuff because you want people to think you're attractive egotism, false self-esteem, being childish but still feeling superior to Donald Trump Donald's brother Fred Jr (he just wanted a regular life), difficult fathers, alcoholism, losing parents, Joe's Dad old blokes out the front of the TAB (gambling joint in Aus/NZ) being a loose unit, attention deficit disorder, amphetamines, addictions, video games getting kicked out...
Aug 16, 2022•28 min•Season 1Ep. 2
We take a test drive and chat about Buddhism, Taoism, Hare Krishna, dating, poke bowls, Byron Bay, tanned people, music (Paul Kelly, Richard Clapton, Wilco), being on your phone, philosophy, feelings, mental health. Life really. Spotify links to music discussed: Paul Kelly - Northern Rivers Richard Clapton - Blue Bay Blues (original) Wilco - Being There Episode cover image: Photo by Photoholgic on Unsplash thetenthousandthings@outlook.com --- Creators & Guests Joe Loh - Host Sam Ellis - Host...
Aug 06, 2022•24 min•Season 1Ep. 1
