Breakups can be incredibly challenging, leaving us feeling lost, hurt, and overwhelmed. In this episode, I want to assure you that you're not alone. Join me as I recount my personal journey, exploring the twists and turns that come with post-breakup life. Together, we'll unpack the heartbreak, confusion, and anger that often accompany a breakup. I'll share practical strategies and insights that helped me process my emotions and begin the healing process. Throughout this episode, we'll delve into...
Jun 08, 2023•12 min
Feeling stuck in your love life, or struggling to find the confidence to believe in yourself and your relationships? Join us for our special 100th episode, where I tackle the complex world of self-confidence, trust, and beliefs. I'll debunk the myth that you're "too old" to find love, and help you question and challenge limiting beliefs that have been holding you back. Together, I'll examine how fear and lack of bravery can often be mistaken for a lack of confidence, and explore the role our bel...
Jun 01, 2023•26 min
In this eye-opening episode of The Single Girl's Guide to Life, I challenge the prevalent dating advice that suggests loving yourself first before entering a relationship. Join me as I explore why the notion of self-love first is inaccurate and potentially limiting in the context of dating. Delve into the importance of receiving love and validation from others as a crucial aspect of personal growth and relationship development, instead of focussing on the love you have for yourself alone. Whethe...
May 25, 2023•12 min
Welcome to a special episode of The Single Girl's Guide to Life! Today, we're diving deep into the world of single life and tackling the anxiety that comes with it. In honour of Mental Health Awareness Week, we're exploring empowering strategies to manage anxiety and find inner peace. Join me as I share my insights on handling the anxieties of being alone, dating, and the outcomes of relationships. Together, we'll uncover practical tips, self-care practices, and mindset shifts to conquer anxiety...
May 18, 2023•23 min
Are you single and looking for some inspiration to transform your life? In this episode, I've curated a list of 5 must-read books that will help you improve your mindset, gain new perspectives, and develop positive habits around being single. These are hand-selected books, all of which I've read, that will help you in the early stages of becoming single. From addressing your fears around being out of a relationship, to cultivating the mindset to be comfortable with being alone, these books cover...
May 11, 2023•26 min
In this episode of The Single Girl's Guide to life, I tackle one of the most hotly debated topics in the dating world - the pros and cons of dating a man with kids. I'll be discussing the unique challenges and benefits that come with dating someone who has children from a previous relationship, thanks to my own internal debate when deciding whether to date someone with children, and now currently in a relationship with someone with children. I'll explore some of the common concerns that people h...
May 04, 2023•27 min
As a single, millennial woman, you may be questioning the traditional norms around dating and relationships, and wondering if there are alternative options out there. It's important to explore the options as so many of us are given traditional ideas as a default. And polyamory is one such option, and this episode aims to open up the conversation around this fascinating and diverse relationship model. Through my own exploration of the idea and understanding the concepts and terminology involved, ...
Apr 27, 2023•24 min
Marriage is seen as the ultimate expression of love, the biggest commitment you can make to another and the desire and hope that it will last forever. As someone that's been married and divorced in their 20s, and experienced my own parents getting divorced as a child, marriage has been an interesting subject to explore, and the more I've explored and experienced, the more I've felt it necessary to share some of the realities of what marriage means in today's day and age. From personal experience...
Apr 20, 2023•34 min
Back when I first started dating, I had to learn ALL the basics. No matter how much dating content you consume, some of the lessons you learn ahead of time can't easily be applied in the moment. There's how you feel, all the "what if"s and you're dealing with the unpredicatbility of another person you don't really know. And as I soon learnt, dealing with not getting a reply in dating is one of the trickiest to balance - you don't want to look needy but you want a reply. You don't want to be left...
Apr 17, 2023•14 min
Being in a situationship SUCKS! It's confusing, often frustrating and it's so, so painful. You fall into the trap of getting into a routine with the guy you like, and keep refraining from bringing anything up in case he doesn't feel the same way about you back... but he's friendly and flirty, so surely he likes you, but how can you know?! And before you know it, you're knee-deep in a year-long situationship that you finally build the courage to ask about and it's not good news... In this episode...
Apr 13, 2023•26 min
When you're in your 20's, its easy to get caught up in the "everyone else is doing it, so its what I have to do" mentality. You start believing that because everyone is heading towards the same goals as you, that you're doing everything right. In this moment, Chantelle discusess why you don't have to follow the same path as everyone else in life - and how whether or not you achieve your goals isn't necessarily dependent on exactly what actions you take. Listen in if you're trying find a path of ...
Apr 10, 2023•8 min
Theories of attachment styles have been around for decades, originally being developed by John Bowlby and Mary Ainsworth in the 1950's. They were originally based on the idea that we develop attachment styles based on our early childhood experiences with our caregivers. But what if it's not just about our early childhood? What if there are other origins for our attachment styles? In this video, I talk about the alternative factors that contribute to the development of attachment styles, which mi...
Apr 06, 2023•31 min
After reflecting on our time during lockdown, which included virtual dating for some, Chantelle shares her observations of how we had the time to prioritise ourselves and how we should continue to apply that in dating. It's easy to lose sight of our own needs and desires in favour of pleasing a potential future partner however, it's crucial to remember that prioritising ourselves is essential for maintaining a healthy and fulfilling relationship. Listen to the full episode here . Watch the episo...
Apr 03, 2023•5 min
Leaving a long-term relationship is SCARY. You don't know what's going to happen once you intiate the ending... and as soon as you do, the doubt creeps in. You wonder if you made the right decision. Or you're on the edge of leaving, trying to make sure you make the right decision as to whether to break up with him or not. I'll share some of the more subtle reasons you were right to make the decision to leave, as well as clarify the more obvious ones (though they're not always obvious to us befor...
Mar 30, 2023•32 min
From the very first episode of The Single Girl's Guide to Life, Chantelle explores the mindset shift you need to enjoy your single life and stop obsessing over dating. She dives into the pressure we experience when we're single to get back out there and date when we've only just got ourselves out of a relationship. It seems like everyone associates being in a relationship with being happy - and it just isn't true for us all and has limiting effects on how we can enjoy our single life if we stick...
Mar 27, 2023•6 min
With summer just around the corner, many of you single women are excitedly thinking about planning your solo travel adventures, and as a seasoned solo adventurer, something I maintain whether I'm single or in a relationship, I'm here to help you come up with solo ideas to embrace your independence and adventure. In this episode, I'll share practical ideas insights to help you decide on what plans to make for an empowering solo travel experience. For braving it on your own to wanting to do things...
Mar 20, 2023•31 min
In this episode of The Single Girl's Gudide to Life, I'll be discussing the 5 compatibility checks that are crucial for building and sustaining a long-lasting relationship that you can look out for in dating. Join me as I delve into the key factors that make a relationship work, from shared values to communication styles, and provide tips for the elements you need to consider early on. With this episode, I hope to equip you with the knowledge and confidence you need to navigate the dating world ...
Mar 16, 2023•30 min
In this week's episode, I share my personal journey of transforming my anxious attachment style into a secure one. After becoming a single, millennial woman following my divorce, I found I struggled with anxiety in my relationships. I would feel an overwhelming sense of worry when I didn't hear responses, and when someone ended a dating phase with me, I'd find it hard to process. My past experiences had left me feeling insecure and fearful of being vulnerable with others. But through a combinati...
Mar 09, 2023•30 min
Looking for advice on how to move on from a guy you never even officially dated? In this episode, I delve into the power of the no contact rule and how it can help you let go of someone who was never really yours. I'll provide practical tips and strategies for letting go of unrequited love, navigating mixed signals, and overcoming the emotional attachment to someone you never even dated. By following these strategies, you can gain emotional clarity and heal from the pain of unrequited love. Whet...
Mar 02, 2023•31 min
In this episode, I explore the many myths and misconceptions that surround the single life. Contrary to popular belief, being single is not a death sentence; it is a lifestyle choice that can be just as fulfilling and rewarding as being in a relationship. And getting into a relationship isn't the silver bullet for success and happiness either! Looking at the work from author and social psychologist, Bella DePaulo, I delve into the understanding of why single life isn't the be all and end all of ...
Feb 23, 2023•29 min
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Feb 16, 2023•40 min
Valentine's Day is around the corner and with it comes a lot of pressure to find someone special to love, and you start thinking "I'd just be happier if I was in a relationship!" But why are we so concerned with starting or being in a relationship? In this week's podcast, I examine the reasons why getting into a relationship won't make you any happier, focusing on how to find true contentment in yourself rather than in a partner. Listen to this podcast episode to get a better understanding of wh...
Feb 09, 2023•24 min
I don't know about you but the dating process could be BORING at the best of times. From all the swiping, starting chats only to not hear back, it could feel like a success to even get a reply. But then when it came to arranging a first date and yet again, dinner and/or drinks was suggested?! It felt like a never ending loop of the same old thing. When you're single, dating is part of your social life. It shouldn't be the same all the time, and it needs a bit of variety. And it shouldn't be all ...
Feb 02, 2023•26 min
The recent announcement of the all-male nominations for the Brit Awards Artist of the Year has sent some feminist in a spiral claiming lack of representation. As has become routine for certain sections of the media, this has sparked a debate on gender-neutral awards and whether or not this is a step backwards for feminism. Instead of jumping on the tabloid headline bandwagon, I take a step back to look at at some of the reasons behind the all men nominationss, considering the other category nomi...
Jan 26, 2023•26 min
Today, I talk about why there’s nothing wrong with being single! There are a lot of positive aspects of being single that society often ignores, most of which I've discussed on this podcast, byt where does this negative perception of single life come from, and why?! It’s time to break down the negative stereotypes surrounding being single, as I take a look at the realities of being single and why it’s not so bad after all. ----- RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide - Visit ...
Jan 19, 2023•29 min
This week, I delve into the age-old question of whether men and women can truly be friends. I'll be exploring the possibility of platonic friendship between the two sexes, and discussing the challenges and benefits of such relationships and what conditions need to be in place for it to be possible. Tune in to gain insight and understanding on this complex and nuanced topic. ----- RESOURCES: - Download my FREE Dating Non-Negotiables Guide - Visit my website: www.chantellethecoach.com - Follow me ...
Jan 12, 2023•32 min
We’ve all been there before – feeling alone and wondering if we’ll ever find that special someone. Wondering if this feeling will last forever is one of the parts of being single that can scare us the most. But it’s normal to feel this way, normal to want to connect with someone else, to want to have that special someone. In this week's episode, Chantelle shares the mindset shifts you can use to take the fear about of the potential of being alone forever (even if that's a REALLY small possibilit...
Jan 05, 2023•24 min
2022 in Review: Looking back on 2022, it was a year of big changes and new beginnings. I quit my full-time job as a teacher, shifting into flexible, freelance work and settling on using supply teaching as a basis, and as much as I was prepared for that shift, it didn't go as smoothly for me mentally. With time and attention now on the business, I've had a creative year of learning new methods, trying out events and failing along the way. And I finally took a break from dating in the early part o...
Dec 29, 2022•34 min
2022 was a year like no other. So much happened, both good and bad. But one thing remained constant: being single. For many of us, being single was a choice. And for others, it was a circumstance beyond our control. But whatever the reason, being single in 2022 taught us all some valuable life lessons. As a new year begins and we head into 2023, Chantelle takes a moment to reflect on the lessons learned from working with single women throughout the year and the repeating messages and themes that...
Dec 22, 2022•29 min
Whether you're done with dating, or you want to enjoying a simple, single life, then 2023 is the year to make your single life great! Setting your intentions and visions ahead of the year to give yourself the best chance of success in 2023 is the key to actually making it happen! In this week's episode, I share the three areas of single life you need to get a grip on in order to make your single life great as you head into another, brand new year! Sign up to The Single Life mailing list to be up...
Dec 15, 2022•30 min
