There are tons of parenting books and podcasts out there with tips on how to do it well. We're not re-creating those. We discuss the ultimate point of parenting: to raise responsible and mature adults who can function in the world. This fundamental purpose can help direct many of your parenting decisions, and hopefully change your mindset about what it is you're doing day in and day out as a parent. ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: https://www.shri...
Nov 22, 2022•25 min
When you communicate, do you focus on the content of the conversation - the specifics of what you're talking about? Or do you focus more on the dynamic (process) between you and the other person? Many people don't realize they lean in one direction or the other, and it impacts their relationships. We break down the differences between these and what you can do to become aware of your tendencies so you can improve your communication and relationships. ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on...
Nov 16, 2022•25 min
Our friend and colleague, fellow podcaster Whitney Owens, is back as a guest on our show talking about how faith can be a valuable resource for people in therapy. She gives some practice tips about how to use it well in your therapy journey and, as always, brings some fun to the episode! Website: www.WhitneyOwens.com Podcast: Wise Practice Podcast Instagram: @whitneyowensconsulting ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: https://www.shrinkthink.com/podcas...
Nov 09, 2022•37 min
Everyone talks about gaslighting these days, so we took two sessions to break it down for you. We used a simple list of 10 signs of gaslighting behavior, explaining what these are and how they are different from emotional immaturity in relationships. 10 Signs of Gaslighting Behaviour: http://www.grampian-womens-aid.com/newsevents/gaslighting-10-signs/ ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: https://www.shrinkthink.com/podcast
Nov 02, 2022•22 min
Everyone talks about gaslighting these days, so we took two sessions to break it down for you. We used a simple list of 10 signs of gaslighting behavior, explaining what these are and how they are different from emotional immaturity in relationships. 10 Signs of Gaslighting Behaviour: http://www.grampian-womens-aid.com/newsevents/gaslighting-10-signs/ ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: https://www.shrinkthink.com/podcast
Oct 26, 2022•23 min
When you or your partner become a step-parent, things can become pretty complicated in terms of the relational dynamics between the two blended families. How should you relate to your partner's kids? What role should you play in relation to their other biological parent? How can you handle the transitions between households if you share visitation? In this episode, we discuss all of these issues as an introduction to blended family dynamics. ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcomi...
Oct 19, 2022•22 min
Have you ever walked into therapy not knowing what to talk about because everything was going well? Some people cancel those appointments, some people talk about how great life is. What does it mean and what can you do about it? It might mean more than you think it does... listen in to find out! ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: https://www.shrinkthink.com/podcast
Oct 12, 2022•20 min
If your nervous system is activated, it means you are dysregulated and may find yourself reacting to people in your life and relationships. Learn how and why to regulate your system in this episode. ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: https://www.shrinkthink.com/podcast
Oct 05, 2022•23 min
Some people who come to therapy talk the entire session, maybe because there's nobody else in their life who is safe or who listens without judgment or feedback. But is talking through the whole session the best use of your time with a professional counselor? Is that dynamic a healing relational one, or do you need to learn to adjust to a less didactic and more interactive back-and-forth? ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: https://www.shrinkthink.com...
Sep 28, 2022•22 min
Have you ever had a terrible night's sleep and found yourself feeling grumpy, irritable, reactive, and unmotivated the next day? You may not realize how important sleep is to your mental health but we open it up and connect those dots for you in this episode. ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: https://www.shrinkthink.com/podcast
Sep 20, 2022•23 min
Many people complain after several months of therapy that nothing has changed or that the problems still exist and have only slightly gotten better. Why is that? In this episode, we discuss the change process which many misunderstand. It takes longer and can be much more difficult than you expect it, and you are your own worst enemy so facing resistance or blindspots in yourself is a major challenge to overcome. ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: htt...
Sep 14, 2022•23 min
When you come to therapy, it's important that you talk about yourself! You can mention the other people in your life and give context, of course, but therapy is about YOU so we need to focus on you. Becoming healthier from therapy requires you to develop an internal (versus external) locus of control, which means operating from your own sense of self. This means that therapy sessions ARE all about you! ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: https://www.s...
Sep 07, 2022•22 min
Sometimes you start talking about things in therapy that aren't what you came in for. Why is that? You might think you have a complete picture of your issue, but as you present it to a professional, they see things you didn't or couldn't and start asking questions you might not have thought to ask before. It's okay to ask why you're talking about it, but try to be open and see how it relates. ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: https://www.shrinkthink...
Aug 31, 2022•23 min
This is for clients and therapists. When a client suddenly stops coming to therapy without an explanation, how should you feel? Why does that happen? What can you do about it? If you're a client, this will help you better understand the humanity of your therapist. ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: https://www.shrinkthink.com/podcast
Aug 24, 2022•23 min
What do you do when you've talked about all the things you came to therapy to talk about? A lot of people either get stuck here or believe this means they're done with therapy. However, this is where things shift from the content (what you're talking about) to the process (who you are and how you do things) of therapy, and the juncture where real change begins. ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: https://www.shrinkthink.com/podcast
Aug 17, 2022•24 min
It's a difficult transition for parents when children become adults. They want more independence and autonomy, but they still need you for some things yet may not have maturity or awareness to acknowledge that. You, as a parent, must adjust in how you relate to your now-adult child that is different from when they were younger. Listen to the previous episode (#101) for the adult children, then listen to this one so you know all the shifts that need to be made! When you're a teenager and become a...
Aug 09, 2022•24 min
When you're a teenager and become an independent adult, your relationship with your parents changes... or at least it should. In this first of two episodes, we talk to adult children about why and how to make that adjustment from a childlike relationship to a more peer-to-peer adult relationship. We'll talk to parents about this shift in the following episode. ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: https://www.shrinkthink.com/podcast
Aug 02, 2022•23 min
We made it to 100 episodes! It took almost two years of dedication and we're so proud and excited to be here! We take some time reflecting on early episodes, what we've learned as podcasters, and take calls from listeners who shared their experiences of our podcast. Listen in and celebrate with us! Special thanks to Kaci and Jill (our sound editors), Rach (our brand consultant), Joe Sanok (who got us started on podcasting), all of our guests, the staff at Flyboy Brewing, and everyone else who ha...
Jul 27, 2022•43 min
When you're in conflict with someone and trying to communicate through it, sometimes you can slip into a right/wrong mentality and end up defending yourself but losing the other person as a result. Communication in conflict is not about winning or being right, but about being heard, understood, and connected. In this episode, we talk about some of these dynamics and give you tips to help you achieve these goals. ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: www...
Jul 20, 2022•22 min
Communication is a key part of relationships, and a common reason conflict happens. When talking with someone, it takes both of you to work together to communicate - one person speaking, the other listening. But it's more than that. You have to work together to understand the meaning that the speaker is trying to convey - a task that may be more challenging than you realize! ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: www.ShrinkThinkPodcast.com/course
Jul 13, 2022•24 min
Have you ever noticed that some people process out loud, verbally, while other people tend to take more time to think and then share? There definitely are two different kinds of people and we want to break these down to give you an insight about why they might be the way they are and how you can interact with them more effectively. ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: www.ShrinkThinkPodcast.com/course
Jul 06, 2022•24 min
The mind and body have an incredible relationship: when you have experienced psychological pain, your body can store it along with critical psychological information about your experience. When you resist pain or resist listening to what it's telling you, you can unknowingly create suffering for yourself. Allowing it to exist and learning from it can be a powerful experience of change and healing for your mind and your body. ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insec...
Jun 29, 2022•24 min
Why do we value something but find ourselves acting in ways that do not reflect those values, such as avoiding conflict when we value honesty or connection? It is easier to make mental justifications for our actions than to change those behaviors to get them into alignment with our values. In this episode, we unpack this issue and explain these dynamics so you can better understand why you might be experiencing this issue. ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecur...
Jun 21, 2022•22 min
When some people come to therapy, you might explain how your life hasn't been bad - in fact, maybe it's been pretty good - so you don't understand why you struggle with anxiety, depression, or a lack of purpose. You might say you should be "happy" or even say you ARE that happy... so why are you going to therapy? If this is you, I'm sure you've asked yourself that question. Well, in this episode we answer it! ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: www.Sh...
Jun 15, 2022•23 min
People in America (and in the West) have difficulty with death and loss. Often when we lose someone and grieve, others don't know what to do with our sadness and can even suggest we talk to a therapist about it. But does your grief actually need therapy, or is it a normal experience you're going through? What does grief counseling even entail and do you need to go to counseling at all if you're grieving? Listen to the episode to find out! ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming ...
Jun 08, 2022•23 min
Have you wondered why you do the addictive behavior you do, like what that is really about? Is it to gain a sense of control? Is it to feel acceptable? Is it to feel emotions that you cannot get to or to avoid them altogether? We talk about all these things in this powerful episode that will help you think more critically about what your addiction is really about. ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: www.ShrinkThinkPodcast.com/course Check out our new ...
May 31, 2022•22 min
Have you ever wanted to go to therapy but dreaded being asked about your childhood? Do you wonder what the big deal is about childhood that therapists need to ask about yours? We unpack this controversial issue and give you some answers. Be warned, though, because you might not like all the answers! ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: www.ShrinkThinkPodcast.com/course
May 25, 2022•23 min
When you can only see your own perspective, you can end up staying stuck repeating your own patterns. In order to change and grow, you need a different perspective, outside of your own, to see things differently than you do, to question what and why you do what you do, and to challenge them at times. This may seem basic to some, but it's a basic fundamental for therapy to be effective and often overlooked or forgotten. ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity ...
May 18, 2022•24 min
Therapy is a difficult place if you struggle receiving feedback. The change process requires that we see ourselves differently than we do, and to see ourselves as we truly are - both good and bad. Therapists want to help you with this, gently but firmly, so that you can pursue the growth or change you're looking for. There are some reasons you can struggle with that process, and this episode address it. ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: www.ShrinkTh...
May 10, 2022•22 min
When you engage in therapy, you will come to a point where you will receive feedback about yourself that you may not have known before and need to address in order to change. Adopting a posture of humility to see and receive the feedback is a choice you'll have to make in order to grow in the ways you need. ———————— Sign up for our FREE email course on overcoming fear and insecurity at: www.ShrinkThinkPodcast.com/course
May 04, 2022•23 min
