Did you realise that we have an apology language? This is the way we express and like to receive things that are difficult to say, including the phrase “I’m Sorry”. People's preferred apology language can be different from person to person, both giving and receiving apologies, and can fluctuate depending on different circumstances. John discusses the nuances of apologies and offers some support on communication in these difficult circumstances, defining the five different apology languages that ...
Mar 04, 2022•14 min•Ep. 37
John talks to Dominique Brits, a family centred life coach based in Johannesburg. Her passion is developing and deepening relationships within a family setting. As a teacher in both mainstream and special needs settings she has learnt how much we have in common when it comes to family and how a strong, effective, and emotionally healthy family dynamic can increase the quality of life of all those within it. Dominique discusses her own experiences with family and later relationships, and how she ...
Feb 25, 2022•47 min•Ep. 36
Many people have never had counselling or coaching of any kind, so in this episode, to provide a comprehensive insight into what this involves, John allows us to sit in on a session with a client. By listening in, you will be able to gain an understanding of the interaction in a coaching session and how much progress and clarity can be achieved. JOHN KENNY COACHING Want to be able to create healthy relationships in your life? Why not book in for a complimentary call and we can discuss how you ca...
Feb 18, 2022•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 35
A passionate conversation with Janie Charlot, the definition of a self-made, universe-directed woman. Janie went to university with dreams of becoming a pharmacist but became a nurse practitioner instead. Not wanting to compromise who she was for any job, she created and founded NP (Nurse Practitioners) For Hire, a collaborative effort between many medical professionals to bring consulting and health advice and management to the metro Atlanta area and beyond. Janie grounds her medical practice i...
Feb 11, 2022•42 min•Ep. 34
Today John reads from his book “The People Programme”. PEOPLE is an acronym for the six titles of the modules of his coaching program; Problems, Emotions, Operate, Patterns, Likelihood and Enhance. It helps us to understand the current occurrences in our lives based on past events, understanding those around us, any programmed patterns of behaviour we have and how we can change and move forward. KEY TAKEAWAYS John reads about how his past experiences from childhood led to his current thoughts an...
Feb 04, 2022•20 min•Ep. 33
In todays episode John discusses how to increase intimacy between you and your partner using relaxing massage techniques. He chats with Denis Merkas, founder of Melt Massage for Couples which teaches couples how to use massage techniques in their own homes and has specialised in this field for a number of years. Denis has taught over 50,000 couples on how to use massage in their daily lives and talks about how his experiences have led and influenced him in his profession and private life. They d...
Jan 28, 2022•49 min•Ep. 32
In this episode, John talks about a recent blog he wrote that gained wide attention and generated a lot of conversation, ways to improve your confidence and what signs to show when you think you have met that special someone. KEY TAKEAWAYS Non verbal indications of showing interest in who you desire, can be just as important as verbal ones. With the world seemingly reopening, noticing the signs that someone could be using will become more and more relevant. Noticing not only the signs someone co...
Jan 21, 2022•17 min•Ep. 31
In this episode, John talks about how we, as human beings craving connection, we may not be as selective as we are led to believe when it comes to building new relationships and creating new connections. KEY TAKEAWAYS Studies show that people are not always selective when it comes to choosing a partner. During speed test studies, people said yes to 40% of their dating options. People often experience guilt-like feelings when making the decision to remain with a partner, which can lead to them si...
Jan 14, 2022•11 min•Ep. 30
We often tell ourselves and others that our relationship with our partner is far stronger than it really is, but as John discusses in this first show of the year, it might be time for a reality check. KEY TAKEAWAYS As we move through a relationship, we tend to accumulate more and more in the way of emotional anchors, such as children or financial arrangements. These can act as a block when it comes to motivating ourselves to leave an unhappy relationship. Often, when we are unhappy, we lose ours...
Jan 07, 2022•22 min•Ep. 29
This week John is in conversation with a special guest - one who has lived through a codependent relationship, and who has emerged as independent from the other side. It's a rare, highly personal conversation from someone with a unique perspective on this particular compulsion, and which may help to empower those who may not yet realise that their own relationship may be an unhealthy one. KEY TAKEAWAYS When we become codependent, we lose part of ourselves - our identities. We hand control to a p...
Dec 31, 2021•48 min•Ep. 28
This week, John looks at codependency - a circular relationship in which one person needs the other person, who in turn, needs to be needed - how it manifests within relationships, and how we can identify this compulsion. KEY TAKEAWAYS Codependency is typically discussed in the same terms as substance abuse. It is the reliance of one person upon the other in order to keep this addiction going. Codependent people tend to form and become dependant upon unhealthy, emotionally harmful relationships....
Dec 24, 2021•16 min•Ep. 27
At this time of year it's far more normal to spend time with family member, perhaps for longer periods than you may be used to. But this proximity can throw up several issues, and as John discusses in this show, there are ways to make sure that our relationships with those we love do not suffer. KEY TAKEAWAYS In general, we tend to look to our mothers for love and affection, and to our fathers for sense of pride and self-worth. We must take time to reflect upon and recognise the relationships th...
Dec 17, 2021•14 min•Ep. 26
This week, John talks to Gemma Nice, a Relationship Coach and Yoga Teacher who specialises in working with professional women, with a focus on how to have fulfilling, loving and healthy relationships. Gemma joins John to talk about her work, and the surprising way in which yoga contributed to the health of her own relationship. KEY TAKEAWAYS By removing the stresses of life, we can be better placed to repair a relationship that may have gone stale and which may be suffering from a lack of closen...
Dec 10, 2021•40 min•Ep. 25
This week, John discusses modern relationship terminology, and how certain ways of describing or phrasing things can help us to better understand the places from which we have come in life. KEY TAKEAWAYS One of the most important red flags you can have in a relationship is the fact that you really know nothing deep about your partner, and they they are reticent to share their innermost hopes and dreams. This can indicate that they are not in this for the long haul. Stashing is the process by whe...
Dec 03, 2021•30 min•Ep. 24
John talks to Cordelia Kate, the founder of The Rebellious Business Network, devoted to helping entrepreneurs achieve their full potential through revolutionising approaches to communication and engagement. Being a rebellious entrepreneur is about building breaking the mould and building relationships. Cordelia joins John to discuss her approach, and why being an entrepreneur and being a rebel require such similar attitudes. KEY TAKEAWAYS Rebelliousness goes hand in hand with being an entreprene...
Nov 26, 2021•45 min•Ep. 23
We all dream of the perfect relationship, but as John discusses in this week's show, sometimes there is beauty to be found in the imperfect. Sometimes, perfection can come with its own set of risks... KEY TAKEAWAYS When it comes to developing relationships we can often become far too hung up on the faults we wish to avoid than the positive things we need for enrichment. Expectations for relationships today are higher than ever. Relationships are a choice, so mediocrity is no longer acceptable. W...
Nov 19, 2021•15 min•Ep. 22
John talks to positive changes expert, author and podcaster, Shelley F Knight, whose works include new book 'Good Grief: The A to Z Approach To Modern Day Healing'. Shelley and John discuss the concept behind the book, Shelley's own experiences with loss and grief through her life and career experience as a nurse, and the many ways in which grief can manifest. KEY TAKEAWAYS Loss can cause us to become stuck in a place and time - grief can lock us in place - and only through recognition and guida...
Nov 12, 2021•42 min•Ep. 21
John talks to master coach and women's health advocate, Laura Applewhite, about the work she does in helping women heal their hearts, bodies and souls after a hysterectomy, and why this physically and emotionally costly procedure requires us to develop the strongest of relationships with ourselves. KEY TAKEAWAYS Approximately 55,000 women in the UK alone will have a hysterectomy this year. In America, the number grows to 660,000, meaning that although the issue is widespread, the conversations a...
Nov 05, 2021•38 min•Ep. 20
This week, John discusses curiosity, and how cultivating it can lead to more fulfilment when it comes to relationships, and a more fulfilling life. KEY TAKEAWAYS Humans are built to be curious. This is how we have managed to evolve since the dawn of time, and what drives us as children to learn about the world around us. When curiosity is piqued, our brains release dopamine, triggering our rewards system, and encouraging us to dig deeper into the pursuit at hand. Curious people are more open to ...
Oct 28, 2021•11 min•Ep. 19
This week, John talks to multi seven-figure business strategist, Lisa Johnson, who has dedicated herself to helping entrepreneurs scale using passive and semi-passive income. Lisa is also a passionate anti-bullying campaigner, and a proponent of the message that anyone can become a success, no matter where they start in life. Lisa talks to John about her own experiences at the hands of bullies, and talks about how we can rise above to find happiness and success. KEY TAKEAWAYS Sometimes we become...
Oct 21, 2021•48 min•Ep. 18
Despite what many believe, there is a truly positive power in saying "no". By doing so we are setting boundaries in every part of our lives, and as John explains in this episode, the setting of boundaires is not just healthy, but essential. KEY TAKEAWAYS When we say no, we are setting a boundary - line between what is and is not acceptable to you in any given situation. We live in a society where putting ourselves above others is deemed as a selfish act. We must consider others, but we must also...
Oct 14, 2021•11 min•Ep. 17
Mary McClung is a fitness and mindset coach, who uses her experience and knowledge in working with world-class athletes, coaches and teams, combined with NLP and neuro-science to create her own unique approach. Mary joins John this week to discuss the power of neurolinguistic programming, and how she is using it each day to help people achieve their goals. If you find yourself affected by any of the subjects raised in this show, please visit the following resources for more help or guidance: www...
Oct 07, 2021•50 min•Ep. 16
This week, John talks about affirmations and how they can help to establish a far more positive internal relationship with ourselves, thereby allowing us to create far more meaningful relationships with others. KEY TAKEAWAYS If we foster a negative viewpoint or perspective internally, then it is far more unlikely that we will ever be able to create a positive relationship with others. If we establish a higher sense of self-worth, then the benefits are not just emotional. It has been shown that p...
Sep 30, 2021•20 min•Ep. 15
This week, John welcomes to the show, Nick James, the founder of Expert Empires, to discuss the importance of constructing successful relationships in business, and how by doing so we can achieve far more in the business world and in life. KEY TAKEAWAYS By building up our relationships with others, we make ourselves and others stronger. Our skills and strengths can compliment the weaknesses of others, and vice versa. People are attracted to those they can trust, and to those who can help them to...
Sep 23, 2021•44 min•Ep. 14
Looking for a new relationship, or experiencing the "getting to know each other" phase of a new relationship, can seem like a daunting prospect, especially since there are certain signals we should remain vigilant in spotting. But how best can we make sure that we're identifying these so-called "red flags" when it comes to people? In this episode, John talks about how best to make sure our relationship radar is functioning as it should. KEY TAKEAWAYS It's a sad fact that some people out there ar...
Sep 16, 2021•18 min•Ep. 13
This week, John is joined by emotional abuse therapist and author Elizabeth Goddard, the founder of The Divorce Sanctuary. Elizabeth joins John to talk about the effects of relationship deterioration, including the sometimes unexpected loneliness that occurs in its aftermath. Elizabeth also discusses where abuse can begin, how we can identify the red flag traits in a partner, and how we can learn to move past the effects of a relationship breakdown. KEY TAKEAWAYS Often, the person presented at t...
Sep 09, 2021•44 min•Ep. 12
This week, John discusses love itself - how it manifests itself, why it's so important, how love has evolved across generations, and why it is the driving force behind so much of what takes place in the world. KEY TAKEAWAYS Love is generally divided into two categories - being in love, and the simple act of loving somebody. Both are valuable, but very different. Love has evolved as society has evolved. Whereas once all attraction was built upon the desire to procreate, societal trends and shifts...
Sep 02, 2021•22 min•Ep. 11
This week, John talks to Teresa Brooks, a transformational business coach and strategist, as well as the founder of the COACH magazine and podcast. Teresa joins John to discuss the art of coaching itself, and how it is built upon connecting relationships, the founding tenets of all successful relationships, and why we should think about accountability. KEY TAKEAWAYS We cannot hope to coach anyone unless we establish a secure relationship, built upon trust and faith in each other. Relationships a...
Aug 26, 2021•40 min•Ep. 10
We believe that love is the only thing that can keep a relationship alive, but as John discusses on this week's episode, there are also other things that are equally as crucial in keeping the flame burning. KEY TAKEAWAYS Understanding is a vital tenet of relationships. Empathy for another is a deep understanding that allows us to truly connect and understand. We must teach the next generations how to gain a better sense of understanding, so that they can form authentic and lasting relationships....
Aug 19, 2021•11 min•Ep. 9
This week, it's a meeting of minds as John talks to coaches and relationship experts, Nicki and Tony Vee, for discussion about the nature of coach itself, the power of relationships and how they have led them to where they are today, and their groundbreaking system of guidance, known as the Couples Intimate Relationship Education programme. KEY TAKEAWAYS Relationships and intimacy are not taught in any kind of curriculum, and yet they make up a huge part of our lives. Guidance in these areas is ...
Aug 12, 2021•59 min•Ep. 8
