On today's episode I chat with Chris Burris who is a lead trainer with the IFS Institute. Grab your notebook and pen and plan to hit the pause button because this epi is jammed packed. Here is a little taste of what is inside: - therapist burn out - working with inner critics - the critic, shame, and firefighter cycle - attachment wounds, object constancy, and attempts to complete unfinished business from our past - befriending our parts helps them feel seen, heard and valued - parts are fluid, ...
Mar 06, 2020•1 hr•Ep. 32
Today's guest is Derek Scott... that is right! Derek of the famous IFS YouTube channel. He and I act like we aren't being recorded and won't have people listening to us chat away. We talk about all the IFS things but parenting is the main thread which runs through from beginning to end. We talk about our own exiles who affect our parenting and about those shaming firefighters who were around our own parents and now show up around us while we parent. Oh my. Derek teaches the dynamic between power...
Feb 21, 2020•1 hr 14 min•Ep. 31
Feb 14, 2020•5 min•Ep. 30
Tiffany Morgan is a well educated IFS therapist who has completed IFS levels one and two. She is well spoken and well known on social media. And, Tiffany Morgan has an extensive eating disorder treatment history which she shares on today's show. Tiffany walks through her experiences and gives listeners a glimpse into her internal system. She is open and vulnerable. I feel honored she shares her story with us all. One of the main points which stands out to me is the radical difference in IFS trea...
Feb 05, 2020•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 29
I wish I could express how full and amazing this episode is with Natalia. Here are just some of the gifts she offers and topics we cover: - Parts are always in fight or flight; our protective system is engaged. Breath practices with Kundalini yoga help the manual activation of the parasympathetic nervous system. They help activate Self energy (calm, clear minded, confident, creative, etc.). - Playing small. - Expansion and Contraction. - Importance of daily Three Minute practices. - Fists of Ang...
Jan 31, 2020•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 28
Simon is the head honcho for IFS in Australia. We met in 2018 when we both presented at the IFS annual conference. He is funny and kind and super supportive. When we first talked about doing a podcast I assumed it would be about his journey with IFS and his passion to bring it to Australia. I was also curious about how he integrates all the other models he loves with IFS. But. You won't find that in this episode. (Well, you will a tiny bit.) The fires destroying Australia are in the news and on ...
Jan 20, 2020•1 hr 2 min•Ep. 27
Bruce Hersey is brilliant. And hilarious. We talk about foods from Pennsylvania and the hippocampus. We talk about football and alternating bilateral stimulation. We talk about ego states and UFOs. We talk about gravity, energy and spirituality. You will witness my shame over a scheduling error and how Bruce's accent helps my part feel connected and at home. It is a fun ride. Go listen. And Enjoy. His Website: https://www.brucehersey.com/ His Courses: https://emdrifs.com/ His YouTube channel: ht...
Jan 10, 2020•52 min•Ep. 26
She's a seeker. She's a dancer. She grew up in NYC in the midst of therapy culture with many "shoulds" and a bundle of grief and loss. Real healing happened for her while dancing to Prince alone in her bedroom, the place she felt connected to her body, to feelings, to imagination and creativity, to who she was authentically. Meaning, dancing connected Adrienne to her Self. She talks about her move from NYC to LA, a move from therapy to coaching. She has such a heart for healers and believes a lo...
Dec 31, 2019•56 min•Ep. 25
Today I chat with Barbara Holtzman, author of "Conscious Eating Conscious Living." I took so many notes! I also overshared. My manager parts are thrilled with the notetaking, not so much with the oversharing. Here are just a few of my notes, you'll have to listen for the oversharing: -Food is the parts attempt to solve the problem. -Food was/is accessible and quick. -Parts use food as medicine, it was the only resource available. -If the food is the only thing that will help, use it and feel it ...
Dec 20, 2019•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 24
Dr. Dan Pollets is successful man, just check out his website. He also was diagnosed with colorectal cancer 6 months ago and has been receiving chemotherapy and radiation. On todays episode, you will hear his powerful story. You will hear details that will make some of your parts uncomfortable. You will be a witness to his pain- physical, emotional, and social. You will learn about his 6 yo younger part who was abandoned, who is protected by driven, caretaking and workaholic parts. You will hear...
Dec 07, 2019•1 hr 7 min•Ep. 23
Heidi and I chat like long time girlfriends about body image, self approval, and eating disorders. Heidi has developed an incredible idea (and book!) she calls 'reclaiming beauty' which says we have disconnected from our original beauty (Self). And, we can reconnect, coming back into our bodies when safety, compassion, and curiosity are present. Heidi defines self approval as allowing ourselves to have boundaries and space from what other people are reflecting... helping us know, and be and refl...
Nov 22, 2019•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 22
I fangirl embarrassingly hard with Sacha Mardou, a brilliant comic who is using her gifts to show her own internal work in IFS. Plus, she has a lovely accent. She hopes comics will demystify IFS, and she publishes a new IFS comic every week on Instagram at MsMardou. She suggests pictures and words give the reader a more immersive experience which I found to be true when I read Sky in Stereo. She began drawing IFS comics as a way to process her own experience with her parts in therapy. Comics hav...
Nov 16, 2019•1 hr 4 min•Ep. 21
Do you want the good news or the bad news first? The good news is here it is... my chat with Dick, the founder of IFS. Dick is personal and fun and funny. It is inspiring and enlightening. You will find out something new- about the beginnings of this model, about Dick's vision then and now, and about Dick himself. I write long outlines of each podcast during the editing process. Some things on the outline for this episode are: what is the significance of the name 'IFS,' what he says Yes to, what...
Nov 08, 2019•57 min•Ep. 20
Richard Schwartz, developer of the Internal Family Systems model leads a 5 minute meditation during our full hour long episode coming up next week. For you dear ones, I offer you this, an easily accessible meditation by Dick you can listen to over and over again. I cannot WAIT to share our entire conversation next week. Head over to Instagram (#ifstammy or #theoneinsidepodcast) or Facebook The One Inside Facebook page to see pictures of the silly faces we made together. Enjoy!...
Nov 01, 2019•8 min•Ep. 19
On today's episode, author, speaker, and long time assistant trainer with the IFS Institute, Mona Barbera and I chat about how to win a fight. We get very real and very personal as we share our favorite ways to win fights in our marriages. Mona tells us ONE thing that is needed to win a fight and THREE practical, useful tools to improve any relationship. We also talk about having clarity, confidence and calmness in toxic, hard situations. Mona refers to these aspects of our Authentic Self as Lif...
Oct 26, 2019•1 hr•Ep. 18
On this week's episode, David and I talk about this incredible externalization tool which helps call up Self and bring compassion to your whole system. This 'wheel' looks like a solar system with a 'sun' representing Self and colored 'planets' representing Parts. His motto 'Bond with Satisfaction at Every Moment' is threaded throughout the whole episode. He reads his children's book, 'The Big Bright Ball' and reminds us Self can always help out. Check out David's site here and sign up for his ne...
Oct 12, 2019•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 17
Hey from the IFS annual conference in Denver! On this short episode, I talk through my new IFS elevator speech. Enjoy.
Oct 06, 2019•19 min•Ep. 16
On today's episode Julie and I chat about faith and her IFS journey. Julie states that IFS already has a spiritual component and IFS is compatible with Christianity. She explains how 100 percent of the population is made in God's image and has access to a Core Self. The burdens we pick up have marred that image; our mirror is now dirty with them. The IFS model helps to clean the mirror so we have more clarity, more access to the Holy Spirit and more abundant living. Julie walks through an exampl...
Sep 21, 2019•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 15
"Parts might be shortsighted from what Self can see." In part two of our conversation, Seth and I talk about leadership in work and the organizations we find ourselves. Many of us are leaders in all sorts of ways in the office, in schools, in factories, in shops, and in the home. Seth talks about the importance of having voice in organizations and the importance of relationship building and trust. We talk about curious leaders and shared vision, about how to be compassionate towards about our le...
Sep 14, 2019•52 min•Ep. 14
This is the perfect episode to lead us into the Fall season, into back to school schedules, and into daily routines. The similarities and parallels between parenting and workplace leadership are remarkable and Seth shows us how unblending from parts and expanding Self with connection, warmth, and curiosity impacts both spheres of life. Seth has extensive experience as a previous Head of School for an Independent Montessori school and a national consultant for Headstart. Oh, and he has a PhD in o...
Sep 06, 2019•57 min•Ep. 13
Alison is a gifted teacher, writer and speaker, and we cover all the things. We talk about her book, "Boundaries for Your Soul." We talk about integrating spirituality and psychology. Alison gives a beautiful explanation of our protective system (managers, firefighters, and exiles). Alison states, "When we peel away parts, Self is." We talk about the enneagram (and how a part of me is having a hard time accepting my '3 ness'). The enneagram is like a personality test. Want to know more? See the ...
Aug 22, 2019•59 min•Ep. 12
On today's episode, Zsuzsi and I chat about how creative movement helps parts express themselves so we can get to know them better. Movement increases the Self to part relationship and gives us more access to Self energy. It enables us to witness parts stories and unburden parts pain. We talk about the similarities between DBT (Dialectical Behavioral Therapy) and IFS. And the benefits of seeing behavioral analysis through parts language and the IFS lens. Zsuzsi guides us through several dances- ...
Aug 03, 2019•1 hr 3 min•Ep. 11
On today's episode, Michelle and I conclude our chat about her book. Get it here.... The BOOK! Michelle leads us through about a 10-minute parts meditation. Then we talk about the elements of a parts meditation, the benefits of a parts meditation, and choosing a part of the day. Michelle gives us an inside scoop on what is happening at The Foundation for Self Leadership. You can find out more here: https://foundationifs.org/ She is the editor of The Foundation's magazine, "The Outlook." I can't ...
Jul 19, 2019•57 min•Ep. 10
On today's episode, Michelle states, 'Self can be default.' Can you imagine?! She offers us hope from the techniques in her book, "Daily Parts Meditation Practice: A Journey of Embodied Integration for Clients and Therapists." We focus on externalizing and naming parts. We talk about how meditating with our parts strengthens the Self to part relationship. Michelle shares in detail the process of parts timelines (a list of parts), parts mapping (showing parts relationships with one another), part...
Jul 12, 2019•59 min•Ep. 9
On today's episode, Cindy states, 'Moving the body quiets the mind.' She describes her internal Critic as a 'critic consultant who is just trying to help.' We discuss how to access Self with yoga, mindfulness, guided meditation, and, of course, unblending techniques. Cindy teaches a mudra, a hand pose that helps boost confidence. She is a certified IFS therapist who can be contacted on her psychology today profile page. Enjoy!
Jun 21, 2019•49 min•Ep. 8
On today's episode, Celia and I talk about IFS and EMDR, and how Self can heal parts wounded by trauma and attachment injuries. She teaches and leads us through several 'concentration practices' using breathing and movement to still the body and connect the mind and heart. We talk about her retreats where participants experience healing sessions which are done in the midst of a safe community. Celia helps me connect with a part who is trying to get me to slow down by eating donuts. Enjoy!
Jun 08, 2019•55 min•Ep. 7
On today's episode, Frank and I continue our conversation with a focus on Authentic Communication. Frank integrates experience with IFS, knowledge of attachment theory and insights from the book, "Crucial Conversations." He describes this process of saying out loud what is happening on the inside of us when we relate and converse with one another. This deepens our connection to each other and to Self. And we practice it throughout the show! To join one of Frank's Authentic Communication groups g...
May 24, 2019•35 min•Ep. 6
On today's episode, Frank and I chat about his remarkable healing journey. And, we cover the basics of IFS- parts, managers, firefighters, and exiles. We talk about Self and Space, listening and checking inside. Enjoy! To connect with Frank go to: http://www.unlimited-lifecoach.com/
May 18, 2019•27 min•Ep. 5
On today's episode, Sue and I cover a variety of aspects of IFS including the idea that we are all multiple, we all have parts. Often these parts want different things. For example, a part of Sue wanted to say yes to the podcast, another part said maybe. And we talk about how speaking for parts brings calmness and peace. Enjoy!
May 10, 2019•23 min•Ep. 4
On todays episode, Amie Marcotte and I chat about her journey as a Veteran and how her caretaking parts impact her life, externally and internally. We talk about the importance and impact of unblending, especially in a therapy session. She helps me with a parenting issue and helps me see how my fears around conflict affect parenting. And for those who are curious, Amie just got back from 'exploring the world' in Australia! If you want to contact Amie for IFS consultation you can email her at dir...
May 03, 2019•32 min•Ep. 3
