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The Modern Phoenix

Gervase Kolmoswww.gervasekolmos.com
The Modern Phoenix (formerly “It’s All Me”) In a culture that values logic, urgency, perfection, and sameness, The Modern Phoenix walks a different path: one that honors her unique mind, body and soul. Between information overload, the demands of modern life, and lifetimes of conditioning and “shoulds”, it can feel hard for a woman to know and listen to her own wants and needs. We’re so busy caring and doing and anticipating and managing that we forget ourselves. We hope there’s a better, more balanced, life-giving and feminine way to be a modern woman—to have regulated nervous systems, intuitive solutions to complex problems, and the distinct trust in ourselves and our choices, despite life’s curveballs, but we’re not sure where to start. That’s where I come in. I’m Gervase Kolmos, Inner Transformation Coach and phoenix-in-evolution. I help women learn to trust themselves and be guided by their own inner authority to live with pleasure, authenticity and embodied wisdom. This podcast is my mission and my mantra: you are light and dark, thinking and feeling, perfect and a work-in-progress. Together, we’ll unlock your intuition, tap into the wisdom and resources of your body, and navigate this confusing, demanding, gorgeous life. So let’s burn down the stories, conditioning and beliefs that don’t serve us, shall we?
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Episodes

114: The Politicalization of the Public School System with Joy Brown

Are political agendas getting in the way of your child’s education? Join Gervase and her guest Joy Brown on this week’s episode of the It’s All Me podcast, as they dive into the recent events causing chaos in the Charleston County School District and other districts across the U.S. Listen in as they discuss the imbalance that brought Joy into the slippery slope of school politics, why the PTA is much more than women baking brownies, and how the politicalization of the public school system is imp...

Nov 20, 20231 hr 17 min

113: Coming Home to Peace and Self

On this solo episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase channels a message on the practice of coming home to self. Listen in as she discusses the necessity of light and dark seasons, flexing our intuition muscle, and making choices that bring us closer to peace and self based on what we are holding in our current season of life. Keep listening to hear how sober curiosity is playing a part in her personal journey of coming home to self in her current season of motherhood. Join the Phoenix Sessio...

Nov 13, 202332 min

112: Reinventing Your Life After Waking Up to the World’s BS with Erin Keating

Everything is bullsh*t. On this episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase invites Erin Keating, an award-winning television development and production executive turned podcast host, to discuss how life’s initiations can free us to create the lives we were made to lead. Listen in as they discuss how Erin’s Covid experience became the catalyst to reinvent her life, weed out the BS rules and relationships, and prioritize her voice and sensuality and become the entrepreneur she is today. Erin Keat...

Nov 06, 202353 min

111: I Went to Church and This is What I Prayed For

Lately it feels like my lifeforce and bandwidth have been tested to the max. So when a friend invited me to church with free childcare, I went. In this week’s solo episode, I dive into how leaning into my latest church experience with deep curiosity (despite my thoughts on organized religion) led to a full-bodied realization about prayer, parenting, and control, and dropped me into peace and my sacred knowing. The next cohort of The Higher Mastermind begins the first week of November: Find more ...

Oct 30, 202323 min

110: Focalizing: Creating Islands of Safety Within Yourself and Your Children with Jo Miller

Life is one big initiation. Join Gervase and her Focalizing teacher, Jo Miller, as they discuss what it would look like to have ‘enough’ in the face of trauma, the ways in which we’ve been lied to as women, and how we can resource somatics and focalizing to create a fuller, more robust sense of self in ourselves and our children. Jo Miller is a somatic teacher and mentor who helps the big-hearted helpers, overthinkers, and creatives in the world to live an empowered life with compassionate bound...

Oct 16, 20231 hr 6 min

109: A Peek Inside Our Family’s New (Food) Normal

From triage to coasting: Join Gervase on this episode of the It’s All Me podcast as she opens up about her personal journey through her daughter’s diagnosis and the changes they’ve made to carve out a healthier path for their entire family. Listen in as she discusses quieting her inner teenager during moments of meal planning overwhelm, how granola bars are the devil, and how she and her husband walk the tightrope of healthier food choices while keeping it fun for the kids. Keep listening for ad...

Oct 09, 202338 min

108: Cultivating Mind, Body, and Spirit via Float Therapy (and More) with Maxwell Casa

Do you float tank? This episode of the It’s All Me podcast features Maxwell Casa, an accomplished martial artist, performance coach, and the creator of Max Vitality, an amazing company sharing the transformative power of float therapy and magnesium to cultivate mind-body harmony and transcend dis-ease. Join Gervase and Maxwell as they discuss their personal experiences with float tanks (spoiler alert: G and her hubby had wildly different experiences), the interconnectedness of energy, hypnosis, ...

Oct 02, 20231 hr

107: When a Woman Has Her Own Back

On this week’s solo episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase breaks down the signs of a woman’s self-abandonment, and how reconnecting to inner trust and embracing emotion can shift the culture of the workplace and our lives. Listen in to hear how you can start solving problems from the place of a woman who has her own back, leaving shame, drama, and resentment behind. Upcoming (FREE) Events Join the next virtual Phoenix Session (totally free)! https://www.gervasekolmos.com/phoenix-sessions-o...

Sep 25, 202330 min

106: Balancing your masculine and feminine energies with Marissa Lawton

On this episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase sits down with Marissa Lawton to discuss how masculine and feminine energies are woven into our every lives. Listen in as they discuss the true definitions of masculine and feminine energies and the key to finding your particular balance. Continue listening to hear the low down on periods, accessing your archetypes, and the ancient wisdom that exists within all women. A former licensed therapist, Marissa left behind the medical model of mental ...

Sep 18, 20231 hr 1 min

105: My Light After the Dark Night of the Soul {Personal Story}

We are back from a summer break that was more like a summer smackdown for G. In this solo episode, she’s giving you the play-by-play of her daughter’s recent health challenges and how through her own advocacy, resilience and spiritual attunement, she held herself through her own personal dark night of the soul and every mother’s nightmare and used the It’s All Me framework as her hope, her guiding light and her tuning fork. Resources Mentioned in this Episode: PANDAS — https://www.pandasppn.org ...

Sep 05, 202352 min

104: Breaking up with Your Good Girl with Stephanie Jiroch

What does it look like to own your story? On this episode of the It’s All Me podcast Gervase introduces us to her former client and longtime community member Stephanie Jiroch, an expert on helping others craft stories that stand out while being true to themselves. Listen in as they discuss how they each broke up with their own ‘good girl’ complex on the path to radical authenticity, through pain, grief, mistakes and an it’s all me mindset. Stephanie Jiroch is the founder and CEO of Story Leaders...

Jul 31, 202358 min

103: A Cross-Cultural, Multi-Layered Approach to Healing with Mandy Burstein

It’s not uncommon to hear people talking about ‘unleashing the wild woman,’ but the next question is - then what? On this episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase sits down with Mandy Burstein to discuss their journeys of finding safe and healthy ways to express generationally suppressed emotions, the healing experience of embracing the duality of death and grief, and what has been healing for them as mothers rewriting their own traumas and triggers while simultaneously being the blueprint fo...

Jul 24, 20231 hr 15 min

102: My Intuition Called Me Out and I Chose to Listen

Ever had that moment when you’re just… fed up? Today’s solo episode is a quick, relatable personal story about a recent parenting moment when my intuition interfered on behalf of my 10yo and I chose to listen. The result? Instant alignment and nervous system regulation and a new opportunity to bridge the gap between who I intend to be as a modern woman and who I actually am. Enrollment for the Maintenance Mastermind is open til July 27th and this is an intuitive group coaching space to come for ...

Jul 17, 202320 min

101: Divorce Redefined - From Needless to Expressed & Empowered with Jasmine Chanelle

So. Many. Truthbombs. On this episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase sits down with Mom2Mogul creator and recent divorcee, Jasmine Chanelle . Together they discuss the ripple effects of and the path back from self-abandonment in relationships, boundaries and standards with the people around us (including our children), and Jasmine’s personal experience of outgrowing feeling needless and wantless in a marriage to feeling like a wildly expressed woman and mother in her power. A mom of 3, Jasm...

Jul 03, 202353 min

100: Inside My Marriage Pt 2: a dreamer and a realist, an empowered wife, and how we upleveled our communication

What happens when a dreamer and a realist get married? Join Gervase and her husband Kevin in this Part 2 episode, where they open up about how they choose to grow and move beyond their challenges instead of resorting to putting up walls. Listen in for a behind the scenes look at the work that goes into a marriage focused on giving each other space to be their truest selves (aka Gervase continually burning the patriarchal marriage dynamic to ash), insights on better communication, solution-based ...

Jun 26, 202355 min

99: Female Friendships (Pt 2) and What’s Holding Women Back from Feeling Safe in Their Sisterhoods with Stephanie Burg

Back in 2021, Gervase invited Stephanie Burg on the podcast to talk about the new paradigm of female friendships - and it was a hit! Back to add to that amazing convo, Stephanie joins Gervase in this podcast episode to discuss what’s holding women back from feeling safe in their sisterhoods, how to move a traumatic friend experience into empowered ownership, and how this topic led Gervase to create the It’s All Me framework. After transitioning out of a decade of being a professional ballerina, ...

Jun 19, 20231 hr 20 min

98: A Hypnosis for Trusting Your Body

For all our hypno-curious listeners, we made this week’s episode for you! It’s a custom self-hypnosis track by G that was inspired by and designed to accompany ep 96, “Learning to Trust the Body, Plus What is "Focalizing. Listening to this track every day for 21 days will support you in: Connecting to, trusting and working in collaboration with the body Releasing pressure around the way your body looks and functions Being kinder and gentler to your body Releasing pain, stress, and trauma from th...

Jun 12, 202330 min

97: How Niceness Fails Us with Shaniequa Washington - Diversity. Inclusivity. Authentic Community.

Inclusivity. Diversity. Niceness. Wisdom. Duality. When it comes to building true community and belonging, what buzzwords are failing us and what is actually moving us forward? Join Gervase on this episode of the It’s All Me podcast as she sits down with her newest friend, Shaniequa L. Washington , and discusses ingrained behaviors that are failing us, how wisdom honors the complexity of community, and what we can do to not only further these much needed, difficult conversations but to also take...

Jun 05, 20231 hr 5 min

96: Learning to Trust the Body, Plus What is "Focalizing"

We’ve been brainwashed to doubt our body, but it’s time to remember her innate power. Join Gervase on this week’s episode of the It’s All Me podcast as she discusses why this narrative of body disempowerment - that goes much (much) deeper than body image - recently surfaced for her on a personal level, how we can learn to trust our bodies, and how her training in focalizing has helped her and her clients reconnect to the body’s natural intelligence and healing abilities. Would you like a 1:1 ses...

May 29, 202326 min

95: What Is Intersectionality with LaVanda Brown of the YWCA

Intersectionality. Haven’t heard of it? You’re about to get the inside scoop. Join Gervase and her guest LaVanda Brown of the YWCA as they discuss LaVanda’s work in and around the YWCA, including powerful topics like racism, women empowerment, internalized -isms and false hierarchy, and how we as modern women can walk the road to healing and wholeness in a unified and tangible way. LaVanda Brown joined YWCA Greater Charleston as executive director in February 2016. Her experience, leadership, an...

May 22, 20231 hr

94: The Discomfort of Deconditioning from Mother Culture

Unpopular opinion alert: You can have boundaries with your kids. On today’s episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase shares how this mind-blowing revelation is in fact a critical piece in the societal deconditioning of mothers. You don’t have to sacrifice every last shred of yourself to keep it all running. Listen in for a glimpse into how to change this pervasive narrative of martyrdom and self-abandonment. Private Coaching Spots Now Open Thinking about working with G in a 1:1 container? The...

May 15, 202314 min

93: This Generation of Moms is Parenting Consciously

If you're a part of this new wave of motherhood, you’re learning a lot and applying it in real time. In this solo episode of the IAM pod, Gervase discusses the ripple effect of the next-level consciousness of this new generation of mothers. Listen in as she validates how hard today’s mothers are working to heal our wounds and consciously parent and the two ways we can gift ourselves the next level of embodiment and wholeness. Resourced: A 7-Day Email Course for Mothers For $7, sign up for this s...

May 11, 202315 min

92. The IAM Mindset Edition: Free Masterclass + Workbook

Free training alert! On this special episode of the It’s All Me podcast, Gervase shares a recording of a recent masterclass held inside one of her signature communities, the Gateway. Gervase dives into the what and how of the new It’s All Me framework, the delicious complexity of womanhood and life, and gives a live step-by-step walkthrough of the new IAM workbook (download for free below!). Come back to this framework everytime life asks you to reset your arrows so you can hit your targets and ...

May 01, 202345 min

91: Should I Have a Baby? My Answer (and what I believe you’re really asking)

Are you teetering between a hell yes and a hell no when it comes to having children? On this episode of the podcast, Gervase explains how this is linked to self-trust, using a recent conversation with a client to explore reflections you can use to make decisions in your own life. Join Gervase as she discusses the importance of shifting from an external to an internal focus, becoming a safe container for self, and what that looks like in a world that is constantly sending mixed signals. Thinking ...

Apr 24, 202334 min

90: Client Story - The Unmasking of Authentic Self with Carrie Richmond

On this week’s episode of the It’s All Me podcast, I invited client and new author Carrie Richmond to enlighten us with her journey of shedding society’s expectations of who she should be. Listen in as Carrie shares how coaching helped her unmask identities that were causing chaos in her relationships, what shifted in her life and motherhood as a result of prioritizing herself, and her experience of coming home to who she truly is. Follow Carrie: Carrie Richmond (@carriehiottrichmond) | Instagra...

Apr 17, 202356 min

89: Body Grief with Jayne Mattingly

On the It’s All Me podcast, we’re all about embracing the “and” in our lives as modern women. On this week’s episode, I invited Jayne Mattingly, author and Body Coach, to share her story of embracing the “and” as she transitioned identities from a fully able-bodied woman to life in a disabled body, processing the cyclical stages of body grief, the deconstruction of internalized ableism, and her now interabled relationship. Jayne is a former Eating Disorder Coach and therapist turned Body Coach w...

Apr 10, 20231 hr 3 min

Working Through Resistance Without Bypassing the Fear

The ‘Fake it til you make it’ era is over. No more slapping on happy faces, no more ‘feeling the fear and doing it anyway’ mantra subscriptions. As modern women ready to rise and embrace their Phoenix moments, their truest selves and desires, we need to be giving resistance a seat at the table. In this episode of the podcast, G shares her personal experience of coming up against resistance right before her most recent Phoenix session, and how we can use the resistance we feel to reconnect to our...

Apr 03, 202312 minEp. 88

Name the Thing with Mika Gadsden - Unconscious bias. Embracing Discomfort. Living a Layered Life.

Leadership just got a major facelift. Layered, spicy, and multi-dimensional woman Mika Gadsden joins G on this week’s episode of the It’s All Me podcast. Join an eye-opening, empowering conversation as they discuss coming up against invisible bias in her run for mayor, why becoming comfortable with discomfort can lead to a new wave of growth as individuals and as a community, and Mika’s definition of success as she continues her campaign. Mika Gadsedn is an organizer, media entrepreneur, and the...

Mar 27, 202351 min

A Fresh Take on Wife Guilt

How many times a day do you was a wife, mother, or woman feel guilty? Guilty for asking for help. Guilty for even wanting support in the first place. WTF is up with that? Join G on today’s episode as she breaks down a guilt that is so pervasive in today’s society, unpacking why guilt may be showing up in your life, and how to release it in an empowering way so that we aren’t perpetuating our own victimhood. G discusses: [05:57] Unpacking why it’s so hard to let ourselves be supported [10:10] The...

Mar 14, 202329 minEp. 86

The Ripple Effect of a Legacy Mindset with Andrea Serrano

Becoming who you’re meant to be isn’t really a destination, it’s a journey, and it’s a journey filled with Phoenix moments and nudges from the Universe. It’s an ever-evolving path that requires us to learn how to tap into our zone of genius and intuition to inform our next step in life. Today on the It’s All Me podcast, I invited an amazing woman and friend, Andrea Serrano , to join us and share her own personal journey of becoming who she is meant to be. Andrea is currently living her dreams in...

Mar 06, 20231 hr 1 minEp. 85
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