Most people in the world will never have the marriage they want… but what about you? If you’ve been listening to this podcast for any length of time, you know a fair number of things you can do differently. But listening to new information is only part of the equation. What’s your next step ? In this episode, I’ll explain why it might be time to embody the tools you’re learning (plus, how to get started!) MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE Struggling to decide whether to stay or go in your marriage and y...
Sep 10, 2024•12 min•Ep. 91
Just one generation ago (and even for many of us now), SEX was considered a taboo topic of conversation… even though we’ve all been told to expect less sex the longer we’re married. So… what exactly happens to intimacy the longer we stay in committed partnerships? In this episode, I’ll explain why desire wanes the longer we’re married and what to do to prioritize YOUR pleasure. Because the problem of a sexless marriage does not resolve on its own, and the solution requires effort (from both part...
Sep 04, 2024•23 min•Ep. 90
Difficult conversations are bound to happen in your most intimate relationships - whether you’re prepared or not. This episode will teach you how to have PRODUCTIVE conversations about difficult topics. You’ll also learn why we avoid conflict in the first place, how to stop pretending things are “fine,” and the three parts to communication you need to know. YOU'LL LEARN 1:26 - How we avoid conflict (and why it doesn’t work) 4:27 - What works for women… but not for men 9:09 - What might happen if...
Aug 28, 2024•18 min•Ep. 89
Is it time to pump the brakes on your affair relationship? How do you know if your secret partnership can last beyond the affair? Whatever happens after your affair relationship, I want you to be prepared - whether you stay with your affair partner or not. It starts with recognizing these 4 Red Flags you might be missing in your affair partner. What You'll Learn 0:28 - Why we overlook bad behavior from our affair partner 4:50 - Red Flag - Does he feel entitled to you? 7:57 - Red Flag - Is his co...
Aug 21, 2024•15 min
“I had one foot out the door… but pretending otherwise only led to greater disconnection and resentment.” - Sharon Pope This is a soulful revelation for anyone who’s given up on the evolution of their marriage. I stopped trying when things got hard in my first marriage - and there’s just ONE thing I’d do differently. In this episode, you’ll hear me talk about the main reasons women stop trying, what to do if you feel like giving up (OR if you’ve already given up) - plus the root cause of resentm...
Aug 14, 2024•16 min•Ep. 87
“How do I compromise with a partner who I no longer respect? How can I increase my respect for him… without lowering my standards?” In this episode, I’m answering a question from one of our podcast listeners about what she can do differently or better to build back trust with her partner - after it’s been lost. You’ll learn 4 practical steps you can take, including whether and how to compromise, plus where to put your focus as you move forward. MENTIONED IN THIS EPISODE: Struggling to decide whe...
Aug 07, 2024•22 min•Ep. 86
If it’s the fear of what might happen on the OTHER side of divorce that’s keeping you stuck, this episode is for you! I’m joined by leading Family Law Attorney & Mediation expert, Susan Guthrie, to discuss exactly what to consider when you’re stuck in the decision to “stay or go.” And I have to tell you: Susan shared advice that I wasn’t expecting! You'll Learn: 5:29 - People are often better off in their “beyond” 12:35 - Divorce will be one of the most stressful events in your life, BUT… 16...
Aug 01, 2024•54 min•Ep. 85
If you’ve ever wondered whether your marriage (and your life) would be better if you JUST had the “right” partner… this episode is for you. This romantic idea that the “right” person is always easy to love is what’s ruining our ability to thrive within marriage! And I want to talk about it. In this episode, I’ll explain the problem with our unrealistic expectations, the reason your partner might not be “easy” to love, and why we get stuck in “the honeymoon phase.” “Compatibility is an achievemen...
Jul 24, 2024•13 min•Ep. 84
How do you navigate divorce when you have a strong faith (and a strong desire for the “traditional” family)? What happens when you divorce “the nice guy” and become the villain? Today on the podcast, I’m speaking with special guests Noam Raucher & Leeron Tal, co-hosts of The Jewish Divorce Podcast , about their personal journeys through divorce, plus the different ways men & women interpret confrontation and “fighting,” why we so often feel unprepared for the reality of marriage, and the...
Jul 17, 2024•45 min•Ep. 83
How can he have an affair if he truly loves me? Should I tell my best friend about his betrayal? Why do men cheat (and what defines cheating)? In this episode, I’m answering these questions (and more) from real listeners who’ve recently discovered their partner’s betrayal. I cover everything from how both partners can get support to what’s required if you choose to stay together - plus the reason I think every married couple should have a conversation about betrayal (even if there hasn’t been on...
Jul 10, 2024•29 min•Ep. 82
Every woman I know has felt some level of shame for showing emotion… and on every end of the spectrum. Deep grief, anger, even pure joy. In this episode, I’m talking about the importance of understanding your emotions for a healthy, intimate relationship. You’ll learn about the wide range of emotions we have access to (but why we’re only familiar with a handful), how your avoidance of emotion is keeping you stuck in indecision about your marriage, plus the two options you have when it comes to u...
Jul 03, 2024•20 min•Ep. 81
“My kids are so lucky [that I] have Sharon [...] I would never have done this [so peacefully] without her.” - Tania I have something extra special to share with you this week… Three of my long-time members from inside The Decision are sharing their real-life stories from the other side of divorce. Charles, Rachel, and Tania have been part of my membership program for more than three years, and together we have an important conversation about the opportunity for personal growth after an affair, w...
Jun 26, 2024•38 min•Ep. 80
Love is pain… and if you don’t want to feel pain, you should just give up on love, right? In this episode, I’ll explain where this line of thinking comes from and what happens when our expectations of love and marriage don’t match the reality . I’ll walk you through the ways that I’ve learned to think about love and marriage relationships, answer the question, “Does the ‘perfect’ soulmate partner exist?” and tell you what to give up on - instead of love. What You’ll Learn In This Episode: 0:55 -...
Jun 21, 2024•12 min•Ep. 79
I get it: You don’t want to regret the choice you make (and you don’t want to make your life worse). But what happens when we dig into what’s really behind your fear of making a “wrong” decision about your marriage? What happens when you challenge the general opinion that there is a right and wrong step forward - toward deepening your marriage or ending in divorce? In this episode, we’ll find out! I’m talking about the safety net of indecision, regrets and “what if” thinking, plus the uncomforta...
Jun 12, 2024•16 min•Ep. 78
The current legal process for divorce is complicated - not to mention expensive. That’s why I invited Erin Levine, Founder of Hello Divorce , to join me today on the podcast. She’s here to demystify the legal details of separation and explain her 3-step alternative for a simpler, kinder, and less stressful divorce. We talk about the problems with bringing your divorce to court, how to navigate divorce when you don’t trust your ex, and the “divorce math” you should consider (i.e. it’s not just fi...
May 31, 2024•51 min•Ep. 77
If you want to be truly adored and cherished in your most intimate relationship (as though you are the Queen of his world!) this episode is for you… Often we say that we want to be treated like a queen… but when it doesn’t happen, we get angry and place blame (or give up the dream). In this episode, I’ll give you 3 important things to consider if you desire Queendom within your marriage - because it’s possible with a few vital adjustments! I’ll share the first question you need to ask yourself ,...
May 22, 2024•11 min•Ep. 75
“What is not Love is always Fear.” -from A Course In Miracles, scribed by Helen Schucman In other words, the opposite of love is not hate… it’s fear. And we unconsciously live within fear-based decisions when we misunderstand our options! We have only two: LOVE or FEAR. So how do we know if we’re making choices based in fear… or with love? This choice shows up most prominently in our marriage relationships, and in this episode I’ll explain why - plus the question to ask if you’re unsure where yo...
May 15, 2024•9 min•Ep. 74
Many of my clients come to me saying, “I no longer feel desire for my partner… even though I want to! Intimacy used to feel so different. What’s wrong?” And well, it’s probably not what you think. In this episode, I invite you to discover how the thrill of novelty and the excitement of the unknown are essential to your long-term marriage, plus how you can realistically bring these elements back to life, starting today. Because maybe it’s less about what’s “wrong” with your relationship… and more...
May 08, 2024•15 min•Ep. 73
How do we move forward together after the discovery of an affair? How do I know he won’t cheat again? What if there’s more sexual indiscretion I just don’t know about (yet)? In this episode, I’ll share a story from one of my clients: She’s 59 and just discovered her husband’s long-term sexual indiscretion. Now she’s trying to understand what went wrong and how to move forward. I’ll talk about how we can get introspective (without taking responsibility for something that’s NOT our fault), the imp...
May 01, 2024•27 min•Ep. 72
Heather has been married to her husband for eight years, but they’re rarely intimate. Following a hidden ED diagnosis and an affair, her husband is finally initiating sex… but she’s no longer interested. Now Heather wants to know, “Is there a way back to each other… after I’ve lost desire?” In this episode, we’ll get into some sensitive topics, including - what to do when sex feels like an obligation, how to face the reality of your relationship’s problems, and what it means that you BOTH have a...
Apr 25, 2024•21 min•Ep. 76
If you understand this, your marriage will automatically become so much easier… The differences between males and females in relationship starts with the brain - and it starts before we’re even born. In this episode, we’re digging into the science behind our natural differences, plus how our different brain development impacts our male/female relationships as adults - based on Dr. Louann Brizendine’s research, laid out in her book: The Female Brain . You’ll discover the neurological reasons behi...
Apr 24, 2024•24 min•Ep. 71
How do we get more comfortable talking about sex? Is it “okay” to add sex to our schedules… or should it only be spontaneous? What if one of us is never in the mood? In this episode, I’m detailing FIVE things that passionate couples do differently - taken from the teachings of Esther Perel. I’ll explain the concept of “responsive desire” (and how to be intimate when you’re not in the mood), what to do if it feels like your partner is only ever “taking” from you, and the importance of consistency...
Apr 17, 2024•19 min•Ep. 70
Could your marriage be the cornerstone to success in every other part of your life? In this episode, I invite you to consider the potentially transformative concept of placing your relationship above even your children and career… I explain why many of us naturally prioritize other aspects of life (kids, work, etc.) and the subtle-yet-profound impact this could be having in our marriages. This is a divisive topic, so I invite you to tune in and consider what this means for you! What You’ll Learn...
Apr 10, 2024•14 min•Ep. 69
If you feel stuck in indecision about whether you should stay in your relationship or leave it… you likely don’t have enough information to make your decision (yet). That’s the problem my client was facing: Her marriage had been struggling for years, and now she found herself deep inside an affair - no longer in love with her husband but undecided about what to do next. In this episode, I walk you through the 90-day strategy we used to help her come to clarity, plus the difference between though...
Apr 03, 2024•16 min•Ep. 68
Who am I, and why should you listen to me? The work of relationship coaching is personal, and today I want to share more about who I am, personally and professionally - so you can see behind-the-scenes of my life and work. In this episode, I share my personal story of a first marriage that ended in divorce, how I’ve been on all sides of affairs, and why my second marriage is thriving. You’ll also hear about what led me to relationship coaching, the work I did previously, and how I finally discov...
Mar 27, 2024•33 min•Ep. 67
Oh, the age-old dilemma in nearly every marriage… One partner needs emotional connection before physical intimacy; the other requires sex to feel connected. Both partners require both types of connection. But which comes first? In this episode, I take a stand on which type of connection *must* come first, plus why we need different things to feel connected, what to do if you feel like your partner is only ever ‘taking’ from you, and how you might be exacerbating the disconnection in your marriag...
Mar 20, 2024•11 min•Ep. 66
When one of my clients discovered her husband’s betrayal, she consciously chose to stay in the marriage… but she also struggled to know how to move forward from there. Would his past behavior determine their success or failure? Could new patterns of behavior “save” their marriage? In this episode, I’m talking about the problems with ONLY looking to the past for predictions of the future, plus how we can start trusting ourselves and move forward after a marriage upset. What You’ll Learn In This E...
Mar 13, 2024•15 min•Ep. 65
If you can get better at this one thing… every single relationship in your life will get better! Most relationship issues can be traced back to problems with communication, right? There might be a lack of communication, a handful of miscommunications, a lack of understanding… the list goes on. But here’s what I want you and your partner BOTH to consider: Are you as interested in what your partner has to say… as you are in being seen & heard? In this episode, we’ll dig into this question, and...
Mar 06, 2024•16 min•Ep. 64
How can I fix our marriage if he doesn’t think anything is wrong? What can I do if my needs aren’t being met by my partner? What information should I share with my kids about our divorce? In this episode of The Loving Truth podcast, you’ll hear from three callers who are stuck at an impasse and struggling to move forward. Together we’ll get clear about what’s necessary to make a change and how to take the first step. What You’ll Learn In This Episode: 00:55 - She wants to work on the marriage, b...
Feb 28, 2024•29 min•Ep. 63
When one or both partners in a marriage is neurodivergent, you face quite unique challenges… In this episode, I’m joined by Dayna Abraham to explore neurodivergent marriage and more! Now, you don’t need a diagnosis of ADHD, OCD, autism, etc. to enjoy this episode… rather, Dayna explains how learning to communicate better with your partner is actually about understanding them (and yourself!) better - neurodivergent or otherwise. You’ll also learn about neurodivergent labels & diagnoses, the w...
Feb 20, 2024•28 min•Ep. 62
