“Belonging is built on bravery.” Most of us, when we are looking for someone to belong to—whether in marriage or friendship or anywhere else—look for someone who seems either perfect, or a perfect fit. Neither exist. In Episode 24 of The Loveable Podcast we explore what else we might look for in our relationships. Hint: it… The post Week 23: The Most Important Thing to Look for in a Best Friend [Loveable 024] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Apr 10, 2018•47 min
“Every opinion is a story in disguise…Every belief is a story fashioned into a worldview.” Episode 23 of The Loveable Podcast is all about opinions, opinionated people, and how to go deeper than our opinions in order to form true belonging. We wear our opinions like armor, and this week we’re going to talk about how… The post Week 22: Putting Stories Before Opinions [Loveable 023] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Mar 26, 2018•44 min
“Anger isn’t an inherently bad thing. Anger becomes a destructive thing when we allow it to become a reactive thing instead of harnessing it as a guiding thing.” In Episode 21 of The Loveable Podcast, we focus on what to do with the anger around us and the anger within us. How do we know when… The post Week 21: Finding the Fear Underneath All the Fury [Loveable 022] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Mar 20, 2018•44 min
“Walls are everywhere in our world…We build them so big they are the only things we create that can be seen from space. It’s like we’re advertising to the universe, ‘Walls matter on this big, spinning rock!’ But perhaps the biggest walls, the most important walls, are the ones that cannot be seen at all…the… The post Week 20: What to Do with Your Walls [Loveable 021] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Mar 12, 2018•47 min
There are two kinds of loneliness. The first kind is a natural and inevitable part of being human—it exists because you exist. The second kind of loneliness, however, is a loneliness of our own creation. And that’s good news, because if we can create it, we can also uncreate it. In Episode 20 of The… The post Week 19: From Limping Lonely to Loving Together [Loveable 020] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Mar 06, 2018•48 min
“Places of belonging are not meant to be places where our loneliness is taken away. They are meant to be places where we reveal our loneliness to one another…Once you have made your loneliness available to one of your people, you will no longer need to eradicate it. You will be able to touch it without fear and… The post Week 18: A Kid Named Lonely [Loveable 019] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Feb 27, 2018•47 min
“Experiencing our worthiness does not lead us to believe we are self-sufficient; it helps us to be at peace with the knowledge that we are insufficient. We are interconnected. Interdependent. As big as a limitless soul, but as small and as fragile as a human body.” In Episode 18 of The Loveable Podcast, we focus… The post Week 17: The One Illusion We Cannot Afford to Believe In [Loveable 018] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Feb 20, 2018•46 min
“Grace is what happens when someone or Someone sees through our many masks, recognizing and celebrating the innocent little one that still resides beneath all of our disguises…Grace is the assurance that everyone is of equal value and equally worthy, so all you have to do to be loved is show up.” In Episode 17… The post Week 16: The Fear (and Joy) of Removing the Masks We Wear [Loveable 017] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Feb 13, 2018•44 min
“Ann Lamott once wrote, ‘The grace of age is radical self-acceptance.’ Life is messy and we human creatures are messy. Life isn’t about eliminating the mess; it’s about embracing the mess.” In Episode 16 of The Loveable Podcast, we focus on accepting our messy selves by first accepting the chaos of everyday living. It’s fun… The post Week 15: The Mess Will Set You Free! [Loveable 016] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Feb 06, 2018•44 min
“Guilt is shame redeemed by grace. Shame tells us we are lousy; guilt tells us we did something lousy. Shame whispers, “Your mistakes define you,” but guilt proclaims, “We are defined by redemption, not by transgression.” In Episode 15 of The Loveable Podcast, we are focusing on clarifying the difference between shame and guilt, because it is the difference between… The post Week 14: The Life-Changing Difference Between Shame and Guilt [Loveable 015] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Jan 30, 2018•44 min
“Perfection is overrated. Competition makes us common. The game is over. You are here to be unique. You are here to be you. Enjoy the freedom of that.” In Episode 14 of The Loveable Podcast, we focus on not just accepting, but embracing, our quirks and flaw and idiosyncracies and wounds and weirdness. When shame… The post Week 13: Embracing Your Valuable Flaws [Loveable 014] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Jan 23, 2018•48 min
“Grace isn’t just acceptance of the status quo. Grace contains the status quo—all of our struggle and pain and mess—and embraces us and values us anyway. Grace demands that nothing be changed for love and connection to happen, and that kind of love has power.” In Episode 13 of The Loveable Podcast, we talk about… The post Week 12: The Voice of Grace [Loveable 013] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Jan 16, 2018•49 min
“Maybe growing up and growing healthy is as simple as discerning which voices to allow in, and learning how to keep the rest of the voices out.” In last week’s episode, we began to focus on the voice of shame all of us hear on the inside of us. Now, in this twelfth episode of… The post Week 11: Choosing Which Voices to Listen to Around You [Loveable 012] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Jan 02, 2018•49 min
“There is a place inside of you where a better voice is telling a better story about you. Let the next chapter of your story be about listening for that voice.” In Episode 11 of The Loveable Podcast, we define shame, describe how it can be recognized in our experience, and explore how the concept of story… The post Week 10: Why Shame Is the Beginning of Your Story (Not the End of It) [Loveable 011] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Dec 19, 2017•48 min
“Embracing your worthiness is up to you and you alone—we cannot truly receive love until we have embraced that we are worthy of love. However, we all need someone to walk with us as we do so. We don’t depend upon this person for our sense of worth, but we can lean upon them when… The post Week 9: What to Do When Your Heart Feels Like a Jungle [Loveable 010] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Dec 12, 2017•48 min
Emotional healing and spiritual growth are not about eliminating our pain; they are about approaching our pain. Rather than moving away from our pain, we learn how to move toward it, enduring it, learning from it, transforming it, and eventually moving through it, to where we find our true self. In Episode 9 of The… The post Week 8: The Small Gate and Narrow Road Back to Your True Self [Loveable 009] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Dec 05, 2017•46 min
“This is the promise of your pain: to relate to it properly, you must learn how to observe it, and as you learn to observe it, you begin, for the first time, to fully inhabit the soul within you that is doing the observing. This week, begin to inhabit your soul once again. Welcome home.” … The post Week 7: You Are Not Your Thoughts (You Are the Observer of Your Thoughts) [Loveable 008] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Nov 21, 2017•46 min
“You already are what you are becoming. You don’t build what you are; you chip away at what you are not. We are, each of us, like blocks of wood, and becoming our true self is the gradual process of carving away the excess and steadily becoming more and more the shape of what we… The post Week 6: Unbecoming Who You Are Not [Loveable 007] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Nov 14, 2017•46 min
What is the only thing worse than not getting what you want? Getting what you want. Because after you get what you want, you will probably realize it wasn’t the hoped-for solution to all of your problems. And then what? In Episode 6 of The Loveable Podcast, we talk about our search for a solution… The post Week 5: Letting Go of the Solution to All of Your Problems [Loveable 006] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Nov 07, 2017•47 min
What if all our efforts to improve ourselves are actually keeping us stuck, because, sometimes, self-help is just cleverly disguised self-rejection? And what if, sometimes, self-acceptance is the most helpful, most transformative thing of all? Welcome to Episode 5 of The Loveable Podcast, in which we read and discuss Week 4 of Loveable’s companion book, … The post Week 4: Self-Acceptance Is the Foundation of All Self-Improvement [Loveable 005] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Oct 31, 2017•49 min
What if pain is an inevitable part of being alive, but suffering is not? And what if you could begin reducing your suffering right now, with a few simple practices? Join us for Episode 4 of The Loveable Podcast, as we read and discuss Week 3 of Loveable’s companion book, which is available nowhere else…… The post Week 3: Replacing Suffering with Presence [Loveable 004] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Oct 24, 2017•45 min
Welcome to Episode 3 of The Loveable Podcast! Join us, as we read and discuss Week 2 of Loveable’s companion book (which is available nowhere else). It was another great conversation, this time about why most rest isn’t very restful at all… This week’s episodes includes: A conversation about last week’s mindful breathing practice. Resources… The post Week 2: Rest Is Revolutionary [Loveable 003] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Oct 10, 2017•49 min
This is Episode 2 of The Loveable Podcast, and the first week of our on-line book club! We got together on Facebook Live, read Week 1 of Loveable’s companion book (which is available nowhere else), and had a great discussion about it. You can hear it all in this week’s episode… In this week’s episode,… The post Week 1: Doing Is the Enemy of Becoming [Loveable 002] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Oct 02, 2017•41 min
Welcome to Episode 1 of The Loveable Podcast. In this introductory episode, I give you a behind-the-scenes glimpse at my story, share details about the podcast, narrate the introduction to Loveable’s companion book (which is available nowhere else), and tell you how you can participate in future episodes… The two deepest desires of every human… The post An Introduction to The Loveable Podcast [Loveable 001] appeared first on Kelly Flanagan ....
Sep 15, 2017•38 min
