#181: When it comes to anger, I find that men often react in one of two ways: Explode Suppress The men who explode leave a path of external destruction in their wake. The men who suppress leave a path of inner destruction in their wake. Anger is a complex emotion that takes effort to understand and dedication to harness effectively. Anger gives you powerful clues as to: When a boundary has been crossed When a value has been impeded Learning how to harness anger is an extraordinary skill in becom...
Nov 13, 2020•27 min•Ep. 181
#180: In the dead of night, when his family is asleep a father is crippled with loneliness. Among a group of friends, a straight man fears saying something that may get him called gay. Around the world, each minute, a man commits suicide. These are some of the many undiscussed mental health issues that plague men – and the people who love them – unnecessarily. As we are now officially in Movember – a month dedicated to focusing on men’s mental health issues – we’ve brought back a popular guest –...
Nov 09, 2020•55 min•Ep. 180
#179: Neuroscience tells us that 95% of our thoughts, feelings and behaviors come from our subconscious mind. That’s a LOT of power and momentum moving in directions that fall below your conscious detection. To live an intentional life, you need to learn how to harness the power of your subconscious mind – by consciously guiding it where you choose. Today’s episode is a series of stories from my life that illuminate where my subconscious mind has intentionally – and unintentionally – created the...
Nov 06, 2020•39 min•Ep. 179
#178: You hear the story over and over again: Man grinds out a 40-50 year career, puts food on the table, retires off into the sunset…and has no idea what to do with the rest of his life. That’s because as men, our identities become conflated with our work. And when our work is gone, it leaves a gaping chasm inside. Who am I without my work? Another component to this is the paradoxical experience of being surrounded by people, yet feeling completely isolated and alone – as if no one really knows...
Nov 02, 2020•59 min•Ep. 178
#177: Join the men's only Great Man Within Facebook Group: https://www.facebook.com/groups/TheGreatManWithin I’ve always had a difficult time explaining what inner work actually is, but in one very real sense: It’s combat training for the most difficult moments of your life. If you’ve been keeping up with me lately, you know my flat white* ass has been getting kicked around these last 6 weeks. *not to be confused with the delicious flat white espresso drink But amidst all the kicks-to-my-lower-e...
Oct 30, 2020•16 min•Ep. 177
#176: Well, after 170+ episodes of talk about purpose, porn, sexual performance, racial inequities, menstrual cycles and menopause, we finally decided to tackle “the last great taboo.” MONEY. It’s hard to believe, but this is in fact our very first money focused discussion on The Great Man Within Podcast. But boy, do we have a doozy in store for you. That’s because we have one of the most visible and respected leaders in the Financial Independence movement joining us today: My old college buddy ...
Oct 26, 2020•57 min•Ep. 176
#175: Gentlemen, this is a powerful episode for you to explore the perspective of women and the impacts that secretive porn use has on them. The 3 big questions women ask me about porn and men are: Are all men addicted to porn? Why does he need porn when he has me? Is there something wrong with me if he desires porn more than me? I break down those three questions after reading a raw and painful letter from a woman listener who has recently discovered her partner’s secret world of porn habits. T...
Oct 23, 2020•36 min•Ep. 175
#174: Some of my favorite interviews we do on this show are with women who give us the inside baseball on their private processes for sifting out the Great Men from the rest of the pack. This episode is one of those interviews, with a woman who has a discerning eye for identifying men who have that “it factor” when it comes to leading in life. This woman is someone you’ve heard me mention dozens of times on this show before, but this is her very first appearance to unpack 5 things she looks for ...
Oct 19, 2020•55 min•Ep. 174
#173: My father recently asked me why I sent an email called “4 Feel Good Porn Options/Alternatives” (which was the name of one of our recent podcasts) to my email list. The tone of his question was somewhat judgmental. The tone of my response was somewhat defensive. But the conversation that ensued broke new ground in our relationship… …and led to a moment that every son dreams of receiving from his father: His Blessing. My Dad gave me his blessing when I needed it most. Throughout my life, whe...
Oct 16, 2020•26 min•Ep. 173
#172: In David Allen’s acclaimed book on Productivity – Getting Things Done – he outlines three reasons why big goals fail: #1. Too much distraction at the day to day level to allow for appropriate focus on the higher goals #2. Ineffective personal organizational systems #3. Overwhelmed by “to-do’s” that are out of alignment with our values Today, I’ll be outlining a simple exercise that will help you eliminate these three saboteurs of success. I ran the men of The Great Man Mastermind through t...
Oct 12, 2020•41 min•Ep. 172
#171: There are 83 days left in 2020. How you finish this year will set the tone for the 365 days of 2021. I know this year has taken a toll on you. You may feel the temptation to throw away this year (let’s pretend it never happened!) But that would be a mistake, and you know it. He who limps to the finish line of one race, does not sprint out of the starting blocks of the next one. How you finish this year matters. That’s why the 6 Week Purpose and Productivity Course for men (which is free, b...
Oct 09, 2020•15 min•Ep. 171
#170: “Menopause doesn’t just change the woman, it changes all the people around her in her life.” -- Alexandra Pope, Co-Founder of The Red School Menopause is the time in a woman’s life where menstruation ends, signaling the end of her child bearing years, along with her monthly cycle and ushering in one of the biggest transitions of a woman’s life. Chances are you have more than a few women in your life who are going through menopause right now. This could be your wife, mother, sister, aunt, b...
Oct 05, 2020•1 hr 5 min•Ep. 170
#169: I’m opening the kimono on two areas of my sex life that have been prominent areas of focus over the last year. #1 – Where’s my sex drive? I’ve been experiencing a decline in the power, force and hunger of my sexual energy over the last 5-6 months, leading me to wonder “what’s wrong with me?” After some deep meditation, I realized a profound shift is happening…one that other men may be going through without knowing it. The good news: There’s nothing wrong with you. Listen to find out what I...
Oct 02, 2020•23 min•Ep. 169
#168: Here are two reasons why you may want to upgrade the porn you consume: You kinda hate yourself after watching what you just watched You’ve started to realize the porn aggregators (like Pornhub, RedTube and YouPorn) are platforms where abuse of women – and the potential for underage videos to surface without recourse – runs rampant, and you demand better Since porn is here to stay – it can still play a healthy role in our sexual development and exploration – and we don’t want you to loath y...
Sep 28, 2020•41 min•Ep. 168
#167: Every so often, it’s powerful to do a real-time spot check on how you’re feeling about the quality and future prospects of your life. Here are 8 statements to help you assess how you’re feeling, present day. As you read these, notice how true each statement feels for you. Give it a rating of 1 to 10 (1 being completely false, and 10 being perfectly true) I know that I will live a long and healthy life, looking and feeling my best. I know that in the long run, I will always be financially a...
Sep 25, 2020•18 min•Ep. 167
#166: Over the last two years, I’ve used breathwork to reduce anxiety, fall asleep with ease, get myself awake and alert in the morning and even… ….enhance the quality of my erections. Seriously. It turns out the nose is more intimately connected to the genitals than any other organ. That’s just one of the many incredible benefits of breathing intentionally. The problem is, humans are terrible breathers. According to James Nestor, author of the NY Times Best Selling book Breath, “Humans are the ...
Sep 21, 2020•59 min•Ep. 166
#165: As you grow on your inner work journey, you’ll find yourself less able to relate to some men in your life. This is a candid discussion on What to Do When You Outgrow Your Male Friends. This is the time to find new brothers – your new tribe of men – who are also on the inner work journey. Join the Great Man Within Facebook Group --------------------------------------------------------------------- FREE 6 WEEK PRODUCTIVITY COURSE FOR MEN I don’t know about you, but I’m tired of all this ragg...
Sep 18, 2020•20 min•Ep. 165
#164: Fellas, one of the more recurring questions we get from you is: How can I improve my performance in the bedroom? I’d like to offer you a new way of asking that question: How can I improve my leadership in the bedroom? Viewing sex as a “performance” often keeps you in your head, making you more self conscious and disconnected from your partner which in turn prevents intimacy. So today, we’re talking about how to lead her in the bedroom…which, as you may imagine, often times starts outside o...
Sep 14, 2020•59 min•Ep. 164
#163: I’m debunking a laundry list of myths about men’s sex lives in today’s episode of The Great Man Within Podcast . I posed the question, “what myths about men would you like to debunk” in the sex-positive Facebook group called: “ That Sex Group .” There were dozens of insightful responses. Here are a few of my favorites: “Men always want sex…are always ready to go…and don’t require foreplay.” “Men only want the skinny Victoria’s Secret type bodies.” “All men want the type of sex they see in ...
Sep 11, 2020•28 min•Ep. 163
#162: When was the last time you inspected your information diet ? As we stand on the precipice of a sure-to-be-polarizing 10 weeks leading up to the US Presidential Election (shout out to my international readers who get to bypass this circus)… …against the backdrop of a global pandemic, no less… …it’s now more important than ever to inspect the information you’re consuming, both the quantity and quality. If you’re like most people, the #1 way you ingest your information diet is through your ph...
Sep 07, 2020•30 min•Ep. 162
#161: I see so many good men sacrificing their potential greatness in the name of safety. All too often, the line in the sand between living a life of “Good” and living a life of Great is your willingness to transcend that which is safe. Make no mistake, the world can use more good men. But you’re not reading this email because you’re interested in good. You’re here because you demand greatness of yourself. In today’s episode, you and I are having a frank conversation about stepping out of safet...
Sep 04, 2020•24 min•Ep. 161
#160: In a former life, I identified as a sex addict. While that version of me seems like a foreign person to me now, he’s most certainly and will always be a meaningful part of my life story. I’m grateful for those 4 years I journeyed through sex addicts anonymous…a quest that quite literally gave me a brand new lease on life. What I’ve found in sharing my story with regular guys, is that many of trials and tribulations resonate in deeply personal ways with them. So today, I decided to dust off...
Aug 31, 2020•53 min•Ep. 160
#159: One of the surefire ways to sabotage your performance (and overall well-being) is to be inept at establishing and maintaining powerful boundaries. As Dr. Henry Cloud says in his book Boundaries: When to Say, How to Say No to Take Control of Your Life : “Boundaries help define your soul, and they help you to guard it and maintain it.” If you’re not into “soul” talk, boundaries also help you define: What you say yes, and what you say no to What you stand for What allows you to live your Grea...
Aug 28, 2020•28 min•Ep. 159
#158: “From a very early age, men learn that performance is the only thing that matters.” – Dr. Michael Addis So what happens to a man’s inner world when he isn’t performing? As it turns out, it’s quite a bit of a mystery…not only to the outside world, but to the man himself. Living a life where performance is the only metric, it doesn’t leave a lot of space for inner exploration, developing emotional fluency or going deep with other men about their inner lives. Living a life this way leads to a...
Aug 24, 2020•55 min•Ep. 158
#157: “Brules” can sabotage your life. In Vishen Lakhiani’s book Code of the Extraordinary Mind , he introduces the concept of Brules (bullshit rules). Brules are unconsciously chosen and untrue beliefs that govern your life, often at the expense of living your Purpose. Here are 4 Brules I see governing many men’s lives: I can only feel joy/meaning/successful when I’ve achieved the thing I want. Too many men hinge their entire identity and well-beings upon the accomplishment of something outside...
Aug 21, 2020•29 min•Ep. 157
#156: Great leaders adapt first. Unfortunately, too many leaders are trying to fit the square peg of their “non-pandemic era” leadership into the round hole of the present moment. And it isn’t working. That’s why I’m seeing leaders burning out, frustrated or at the very least…not fully engaged in their work or life. When this happens, the businesses, communities and families you lead suffer. To get you back on track, I propose 3 new leadership rules for the pandemic era: Master the Art of Leadin...
Aug 17, 2020•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 156
#155: Beware the man who does not surround himself with other men who can tell him the Truth, about how he’s showing up in life. A man who is unwilling to actively solicit the Truth, is afraid of seeking said Truth for fear of what he may find. I know this, because I once was this man. A man courageous enough to seek Truth about how he shows up in life, is a man who… …can be trusted. …others look to for Leadership. …lives a life On Purpose . Here are 5 questions you can ask of the men in your li...
Aug 14, 2020•28 min•Ep. 155
#154: A powerful evening routine facilitates: Mentally/emotionally winding down from the day Regularly getting the proper amount of sleep Waking up the next day feeling refreshed And yet for most of us, the reality is…how we end most of our days sabotages our ability to start the next one with power, purpose and confidence. In On Purpose Leadership, I write about the importance of establishing practices like designing your own morning and evening routines so you can live and lead On Purpose in t...
Aug 10, 2020•59 min•Ep. 154
#153: As I sat down to type this, it dawned on me that I haven’t met a guy who’s not watching enough porn. ( If you are out there, sir, identify yourself!) But alas, this is not a porn shaming conversation. Quite the opposite. I come to you with the intent of helping you develop a healthy, conscious and intentional relationship with porn. So let’s start with answering one of the most common questions I get from men: How Do I Know If I’m Watching Too Much Porn? I’m a believer that porn, when inco...
Aug 07, 2020•33 min•Ep. 153
#152: Have you ever stopped to think about how to measure the quality of your life? I’m willing to bet much of what you’re measuring is not conscious or intentional. It’s relatively easy to measure… Your net worth Your physical appearance Your career trajectory But none of these measurements include the most important thing: How you feel. Important reminder: Everything you ever do is because you are in search of a feeling. You want a million dollars? Chances are you’re searching for the feeling ...
Aug 03, 2020•1 hr 6 min•Ep. 152
