#151: One of the things men crave at our absolute core: We want our leadership to be trusted. There’s nothing quite so rewarding as setting a vision and having others enthusiastically follow. Conversely, there’s nothing quite so deflating as having your leadership doubted, resisted, picked apart or ignored altogether. The best leaders know who they are at their core and lead in alignment with their deepest values. Knowing your deepest values and turning them into guiding principles is what preve...
Jul 31, 2020•24 min•Ep. 151
#150: Here are three misconceptions men have about Purpose: Purpose resides in the future. My present life/work are the enemy/obstacle to purpose. Purpose only comes via the fulfillment of a massive achievement. Believing in these fallacies pushes you further away from feeling a sense of purpose. The simple truth: Purpose is only lived in the present, not the future. That truth dispels misconceptions #1 and #3. Learning how to find and bring Purpose to your present day work and life is where you...
Jul 27, 2020•50 min•Ep. 150
#149: “What kills us isn’t one big thing, but thousands of tiny obligations we can’t turn down for fear of disappointing others.” Alain de Botton Those “thousands of tiny obligations” come in so many forms: Spending time with a person who energetically drains you Saying yes to a meeting you didn’t want to but its “only 20 minutes” Taking a call Most of what we call “obligations” are not obligations at all. In fact, the textbook definition of an “obligation” is an act or course of action to which...
Jul 24, 2020•18 min•Ep. 149
#148: “Intimacy requires closeness. Desire requires distance.” Esther Perel calls this the central paradox of love. How can you be both close (requisite of intimacy) and distant (requisite of desire) at the same time… …especially over the course of a long-term relationship? The good news is, you don’t have to choose just intimacy or just desire, you can have both. But that won’t happen by accident, you have to work at it. Today, our guest Scott Berry teaches how you can cultivate a loving and pa...
Jul 20, 2020•43 min•Ep. 148
#147: “If you don’t prioritize your life, someone else will.” – Greg McKeown, Essentialism Why is it so hard to simplify your life? Why do you hate the feeling of overwhelm…yet keep saying yes to more responsibility? Why does it take so much discipline to do less? The big cosmic joke is that most of society has bought into a belief that “doing more” will: Lead to fulfillment Quiet your inner critic Give you a sense of purpose The irony is, the more you encumber yourself with “doing more” respons...
Jul 17, 2020•29 min•Ep. 147
#146: Here are a few signs you’re too masculine: You accomplish very much and feel joy very little You give a lot but have trouble receiving You deify logic and vilify emotion You worship data and scoff at intuition You have plenty of sex but very little intimacy You live from the head while disconnected from your heart It’s actually confronting to realize how easily those examples flowed from me, because all of them are realities of my not too distant past. I know what it’s like to goal set, go...
Jul 13, 2020•59 min•Ep. 146
#145: Here are some telltale signs you’re in a prolonged state of drift: Life feels like Groundhog’s Day Your routines feel drab, dull and dry Your sex life is becoming predictable Your work - once inspiring - has not held a spark for you in some time You’ve normalized being discontent Trust me, I’ve been in all of those places myself, and it can feel like a real challenge to break free from drift when you’re that deep. Don’t sweat it: I’ve got you covered. Today I’m talking about tried and true...
Jul 10, 2020•20 min•Ep. 145
#144: Every man has greatness lying dormant within him. I’m here to help you wake it up. Each man lives two lives: The “Good Enough” Guy: He who shrinks back from his edge in the name of comfort and safety The Great Man Within: He who plays life at his edge and lives his fullest potential He who discovers and lives The Great Man Within him, will live a life of purpose and passion. A life to be inspired by and proud of. Today, Bryan and I explore 4 powerful masculine archetypes: King Warrior Magi...
Jul 06, 2020•54 min•Ep. 144
#143: What’s more annoying… …than feeling lazy and unmotivated after you’ve achieved something? Been there, brother, been there. In today’s episode, I share three of the most common themes I see why men feel lazy and unmotivated after achieving success: You’re Off Purpose: In achieving your success, you’ve realized that the feeling you were seeking was never to be fulfilled by this pursuit. In other words, you were not aligned with your purpose. You Overdid It: In pursuit of success, you pushed ...
Jul 03, 2020•22 min•Ep. 143
#142: I’d say eating Frosted Flakes before bed every night was a bad habit. So was drinking that second 20 oz coffee every day. As was binging 3+ episodes of Lost on Amazon Prime every night. No matter your best intentions, you may find yourself battling with persistent unwanted behaviors with respect to: Food Alcohol Television Caffeine Porn Despite your best attempts to over-correct your behaviors – like diets or abstinence periods which may work for a temporary period of time… …you always see...
Jul 01, 2020•23 min•Ep. 142
#141: “We are not supposed to be sick, weak, tired and fragile at the ages of 40, 50 and 60. We need to stop giving consent to aging and disease.” - Josh Macin, The Detox Dudes Josh was on his way to becoming a world class master in Brazilian Jiu Jitsu. In 2010 he won the World Championships as a white belt. In 2012 he won the Pan American Championship as a blue belt. He went on to win the Abu Dhabi trials as a purple belt. When all of a sudden, within a period of 10 days, he went from elite ath...
Jun 29, 2020•1 hr 10 min•Ep. 141
#140: “Every man is what he is because of the dominating thoughts which he permits to occupy his mind.” -- Napoleon Hill I love this quote from Napoleon Hill because it highlights 2 truths: Your thoughts create your reality You have the authority to choose which thoughts will dominate your mind Here are 3 important things I needed to learn in order to effectively choose my thoughts: #1. Your mind produces thoughts the way your heart produces beats*. In other words, they come automatically. Accor...
Jun 26, 2020•17 min•Ep. 140
#139: On Monday, we gave you an intro to Tantra with a podcast titled: Tantra 101: A Man’s Intro Guide (feat. Krystal Tantric Yogi). Today, we’re continuing the inner work on sexuality by digging into and unleashing your best sexual self. Here are 3 questions from The Erotic Mind by Dr. Jack Morin, perhaps the most important book on sexuality I’ve read to date: You’re not aroused…what would you call upon to most likely arouse you? Think back to your earliest sexual memory…what were the circumsta...
Jun 24, 2020•20 min•Ep. 139
#138: If you’re like many guys, you probably think Tantra: Is some mystical woo woo thing from another universe Only reserved for sex gods Requires 12 hours of endurance like Sting But what if I told you that Tantra has extremely practical benefits such as: The ability to control when you ejaculate Getting and staying harder more often Facilitating better, deeper and more powerful orgasms for you and your partner Oh and Tantra can also help you experience mind-blowing intimacy while dramatically...
Jun 22, 2020•54 min•Ep. 138
#137: Last year we published an episode called 5 Ways Men Lose Credibility with Women. Out of 100+ episodes, this still remains in our top 10 most downloaded. For that episode, we interviewed Madelyn Moon , a coach and leader of women who synthesized her community’s experiences to construct the top-5 list. Here’s one of the most powerful ways men lose credibility with not only women, but our families and businesses as well: Lack of integrity with what we can and cannot handle. In other words, a ...
Jun 19, 2020•22 min•Ep. 137
#136: One of my favorite shows over the last 5 years is Billions. Bobby Axelrod (brilliantly played by Damien Lewis), is a multi billionaire hedge fund titan and one of the lead characters in the series. He’s a ruthless self-proclaimed “carnivorous monster” who will break laws and burn cities… …so long as he wins. And Bobby wins… a lot . But when he wins…its almost exclusively at the expense of something or someone else. Like a parasite, Bobby only gets bigger by consuming, destroying or pillagi...
Jun 17, 2020•20 min•Ep. 136
#135: When it comes to men and conflict, I typically see two conditioned responses: Avoid Lose Their Shit Neither of which are becoming of a Great Man. The Avoidants lose all sense of their boundaries, because they have none. They have difficulty identifying what they stand for...because they’ve never truly stood up for anything. They typically end up exhausted and cynical from a lifetime of biting their tongue and eating shit. On the other hand, the guys who lose their shit leave a path of dest...
Jun 15, 2020•52 min•Ep. 135
#134: Daryl Davis is a black man who has influenced over 200 KKK members to relinquish their robes and hoods. If this is not evidence of a Superpower, I don’t know what is. Last year I sat down with Daryl for 3 hours to learn how he changed so many extremists’ minds. If you desire to influence people in your life who don’t readily agree with you… …this episode is choc-full of powerful insights and practical steps you can implement in your most difficult conversations right now. -DQ Here are 5 es...
Jun 12, 2020•22 min•Ep. 134
#133: By mental toughness I mean: Your ability to maintain your power in the worst of moments. Your ability to navigate uncomfortable and uncertain terrain clarity and focus Your ability to avoid collapsing (distracting, numbing, medicating, rationalizing, withdrawing) when things get tough. Back in September, I gave you 5 physical practices to become a mentally tougher man . Here are two more non-physical ways: #1. The Ability to Hold Paradox “The test of a first-rate intelligence is the abilit...
Jun 10, 2020•28 min•Ep. 133
#132: Meaningful conversations about race require lots of: Time Energy Emotions 3 things almost everyone is short of in modern society. That’s why it’s so important to build racial stamina : Racial Stamina is the ability to talk openly, constructively and civilly about race. If more Great Men developed racial stamina, it’s my belief that the anger, hatred and the polarization of our world… …would give way to equality, connection and prosperity like we’ve never seen before. I invite you to join m...
Jun 08, 2020•53 min•Ep. 132
#131: “I’m afraid to stay silent…I’m terrified to speak up and be criticized…so what do I do?” This is the #1 question I’m getting from white men. White men, that is, who are feeling the urge to step off the sidelines and become actively antiracist. But that first step – identifying oneself visibly – is proving harder than expected for many. That’s because many are feeling caught in a Catch-22: If I stay silent…I’ll be criticized If I speak up…I’ll be criticized So what do I do? In today’s episo...
Jun 05, 2020•26 min•Ep. 131
#130: More and more white men are coming to me with a version of the following: “It’s long overdue that I speak up against injustice and systemic oppression… …but I don’t know where to begin.” Now, I am not an expert or an authority in racial issues or antiracist practices. But it is time to step off the sidelines. So let’s have a candid conversation about how to do that. Again, because I am no expert, the vast majority of what you’ll hear in this episode is me reporting from the experts: Author...
Jun 03, 2020•26 min•Ep. 130
#129: In my last 5 years of doing deep inner work with other men, it’s become painfully obvious to me how men go about the most important parts of our lives…on our own. Grappling with existential questions about finding calling and living Purpose. Feeling stuck in a life that’s not inspiring but not knowing what to do about it. Navigating the shame that comes with secretive compulsive behaviors. Complicated challenges within romantic relationships and the sex life. There’s an extraordinary oppor...
Jun 01, 2020•43 min•Ep. 129
#128: I’m feeling light on words today. I just want you to listen to this episode. Most men won’t ever walk through this portal. They will fail to access a level of mental toughness… … that you will master. -DQ
May 29, 2020•18 min•Ep. 128
#127: “Somewhere around 40 or 45, a movement toward the father happens naturally; a desire to see him more clearly and draw closer to him.” - Iron John, by Robert Bly Over Memorial Day Weekend, I took a father-son trip with Dom Sr. to The Catskills. I wanted to thank him for something he did for me at age 11… …that is in part, highly responsible for my work in the world today. The funny thing is, I only came to the realization within the last few weeks that my father forever altered the trajecto...
May 27, 2020•25 min•Ep. 127
#126: I think a lot of guys who like to go hard with their workouts can relate to the experience of constantly having some form of pain, strain or even injury in the body on a regular basis. It doesn’t have to be that way. 3 years ago, I made a decision to prioritize “being injury free” right up alongside “looking and performing my best.” At 41 years of age, my body is free of strain, chronic pain and injury... ...all while I’m pushing my physical limits further than ever before. So today, I’m b...
May 25, 2020•58 min•Ep. 126
#125: Do you want more energy? ( Obviously… ) But what kind of energy do you want? ( Hmmm… ) What would you use that energy for? ( Double hmmm… ) According to the Human Performance Institute, there are 4 dimensions of energy: Physical: The quantity of your energy Emotional: The quality of your energy Mental: The focus of your energy Spiritual: The force of your energy In today’s episode of The Great Man Within Podcast , I dive into each of the 4 dimensions and help you unpack: Where you’re rocki...
May 22, 2020•22 min•Ep. 125
#124: This past weekend, 21 men from The Great Man Mastermind came together (virtually) for two days to work on Accessing Their Greatest Energy…where: You are in your zone of optimal performance Your inner critic is on the sideline You experience a state of connecting to something beyond yourself In today’s episode of The Great Man Within Podcast, I dive into: The 4 key criteria that need to be met to access that Greatest Energy state Why you should prioritize orienting more of your life around ...
May 20, 2020•17 min•Ep. 124
#123: If this is your very first time discovering The Great Man Within podcast – or if you’re a man who’s just recently hopped aboard this train – this episode is for you. In this episode: What does “The Great Man Within” mean? What are the key characteristics of being a Great Man? What is the #1 enemy to living a powerful life? What is “inner work” and why is it essential for living a life of Purpose? Who are Bryan and Dominick (fyi, we’re your co-hosts) What are some of our most popular episod...
May 18, 2020•59 min•Ep. 123
#122: “ You are not your mind .” – Eckhart Tolle Your mind is but one part of a highly complex system known as You. There’s also your feelings, emotions, desires, intuition, instinct and many others parts of you… …that are often drowned up by the window-shattering base-thumping internal surround sound system that’s know as your mind. In today’s episode of The Great Man Within Podcast, we talk about 3 signs that your mind is too loud: You need to be yelled at in order to hear/listen/motivate You ...
May 15, 2020•16 min•Ep. 122
