How does a man lose his heart? How does he lose his identity and his way? How can that be related to sex addiction? This is the topic of today's episode. Find John Eldredge at https://wildatheart.org The Betrayed, The Addicted, and the Expert is a podcast that started out as an opportunity to open up the discussion of how to move forward after infidelity, or an affair. We discuss the heavy stuff and share Coby and Ashlynn's real-life experience of recovery after sex addiction and betrayal trauma...
Jun 16, 2020•41 min•Season 3Ep. 156
Dr. Rob Weiss joins Brannon, Coby and Ashlynn as they tackle the issue of co-occurring addictions and what that looks like. Robert Weiss Ph.D., LCSW is Chief Clinical Officer of Seeking Integrity LLC, He is the author of ten books on sexuality, technology, and intimate relationships, including Sex Addiction 101, Out of the Doghouse, and Prodependence. His Sex, Love, and Addiction Podcast is currently in the Top 10 of US Addiction-Health Podcasts. Dr. Rob hosts a no-cost weekly Sex and Intimacy Q...
Jun 09, 2020•51 min•Season 3Ep. 155
In this episode, Ashlynn and Coby are joined by Shana James to discuss the value of knowing the right kind of questions that lead to connection. They also discuss questions and statements that can lead to understanding, empathy, and bonding. For 15 years, Shana James has coached more than thousand men and women — leaders, CEOs, authors, speakers, and those with big visions -- to find love, rekindle the spark, create a legacy, become effective and impactful leaders and be personally inspired and ...
Jun 02, 2020•48 min•Season 3Ep. 154
What impact do the right details have on a relationship? What is the impact when the wrong details are shared? How does one know which to share and which not to? How does one know what is ok to ask for and what is not? Listen as Brannon, Ashlynn and Coby address this emotionally charged topic. LIKE WHAT YOU HEAR BUT DON'T KNOW WHERE TO START? Get Started here... https://www.beyond-enough.com/step1 We are glad you found our season 3 episodes where we share some of our most advanced learnings and ...
May 26, 2020•43 min•Season 3Ep. 153
We are glad you found our season 3 episodes where we share some of our most advanced learnings and bring amazing experts on when it comes to relationships, and the challenges of healing both sides of the relationship after sex addiction and infidelity. Our journey has taken us a long ways from the time we recorded these episodes, but many have still found help and hope for healing in the information. We hope you always seek healing first for yourself, and where possible for the relationship, tho...
May 19, 2020•42 min•Season 3Ep. 152
How do we know if it is addict behavior or just our partner being annoying? What do we do about it? How do we find out? These are the questions addressed in this episode. We are glad you found our season 3 episodes where we share some of our most advanced learnings and bring amazing experts on when it comes to relationships, and the challenges of healing both sides of the relationship after sex addiction and infidelity. Our journey has taken us a long ways from the time we recorded these episode...
May 12, 2020•44 min•Season 3Ep. 151
What is the missing link for men? Why is this one thing so challenging to grasp? How can they understand and own this one concept and still be an empathetic partner? Shana James shares the huge impact and role of masculinity and authenticity can play in any relationship. For 15 years, Shana James has coached more than a thousand men and women — leaders, CEOs, authors, speakers, and those with big visions -- to find love, rekindle the spark, create a legacy, become effective and impactful leaders...
May 05, 2020•54 min•Season 3Ep. 150
Brannon, Ashlynn and Coby all discuss the ways recovery can take place when the world is in some variation of quarantine. We are glad you found our season 3 episodes where we share some of our most advanced learnings and bring amazing experts on when it comes to relationships, and the challenges of healing both sides of the relationship after sex addiction and infidelity. Our journey has taken us a long ways from the time we recorded these episodes, but many have still found help and hope for he...
Apr 28, 2020•39 min•Season 3Ep. 149
Bea Hess is a woman who went through a divorce after betrayal and joins Ashlynn, Coby and Brannon to discuss her journey and share takeaways. We are glad you found our season 3 episodes where we share some of our most advanced learnings and bring amazing experts on when it comes to relationships, and the challenges of healing both sides of the relationship after sex addiction and infidelity. Our journey has taken us a long ways from the time we recorded these episodes, but many have still found ...
Apr 21, 2020•54 min•Season 3Ep. 148
Amy Andrus, Coby and Ashlynn's therapist, joins the podcast to share obstacles they faced and overcame in order to get into recovery. Amy is a licensed marriage and family therapist since 2000 & CSAT since 2013. She’s taught courses at BYU & counseled many students at the Women’s Services and Resources Center, where her eyes were opened to the world of sexual addiction and trauma. Amy's life has been affected by sex addiction in a personal way. She knows the struggle, shame, and guilt th...
Apr 14, 2020•1 hr 12 min•Season 3Ep. 147
The Betrayed, The Addicted, and the Expert is a podcast that started out as an opportunity to open up the discussion of how to move forward after infidelity, or an affair. We discuss the heavy stuff and share Coby and Ashlynn's real-life experience of recovery after sex addiction and betrayal trauma. All this is done alongside an expert in sex addiction Brannon Patrick. Thomas McConkie is the founder of Lower Lights School of Wisdom and has a passion for the world's Wisdom traditions. Raised LDS...
Apr 07, 2020•52 min•Season 3Ep. 146
The Betrayed, The Addicted, and the Expert is a podcast that started out as an opportunity to open up the discussion of how to move forward after infidelity, or an affair. We discuss the heavy stuff and share Coby and Ashlynn's real life experience of recovery after sex addiction and betrayal trauma. All this is done along side an expert in sex addiction Brannon Patrick. Whether you are struggling with the super heavy stuff of broken trust in your relationship, or if you just want to improve you...
Mar 31, 2020•55 min•Season 3Ep. 145
Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife joins Brannon, Ashlynn, and Coby to share her work on how it is possible to be sex-positive and still deeply devoted to one's religion. Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is an LDS relationship and sexuality coach as well as a Licensed Clinical Professional Counselor in the state of Illinois. She has a Ph.D. in Counseling Psychology. In addition to her dissertation research on LDS women's sexuality and relationship to desire, she has taught college-level human sexuality cour...
Mar 24, 2020•56 min•Season 3Ep. 144
We are glad you found our season 3 episodes where we share some of our most advanced learnings and bring amazing experts on when it comes to relationships, and the challenges of healing both sides of the relationship after sex addiction and infidelity. Our journey has taken us a long ways from the time we recorded these episodes, but many have still found help and hope for healing in the information. We hope you always seek healing first for yourself, and where possible for the relationship, tho...
Mar 17, 2020•34 min•Season 3Ep. 143
Stefanie Carnes, Ph.D. is the President of the International Institute for Trauma and Addiction Professionals, a training institute and professional organization for addiction professionals, and a senior fellow for Meadows Behavioral Healthcare where she works with sexually addicted clients and their families. Dr. Carnes is the clinical architect for Willow House: Relationship Healing for Women struggling with sex, love and intimacy disorders and works closely with the staff of Willow House and ...
Mar 10, 2020•42 min•Season 3Ep. 142
We are glad you found our season 3 episodes where we share some of our most advanced learnings and bring amazing experts on when it comes to relationships, and the challenges of healing both sides of the relationship after sex addiction and infidelity. Our journey has taken us a long ways from the time we recorded these episodes, but many have still found help and hope for healing in the information. We hope you always seek healing first for yourself, and where possible for the relationship, tho...
Mar 03, 2020•31 min•Season 3Ep. 141
Prodependence... Ending Codependency with Robert Wiess is an amazing conversation with another absolute Expert in the Arena of Addiction. If you have struggled with the shame of addiction or feeling the shame associated with loving a partner that struggles with addiction, you will want to experience this conversation. Robert Weiss PhD, LCSW is Chief Clinical Officer of Seeking Integrity LLC, He is the author of ten books on sexuality, technology, and intimate relationships, including Sex Addicti...
Feb 25, 2020•43 min•Season 3Ep. 140
Shannon is a life coach; merging business and personal coaching together. She bridges the gap between our emotions, finding trust where it has been lost & then bringing that into the business world. She’s worked with 100’s of women, helping them embrace the power in their femininity. She’ does a great job helping others find the value in what is already inside of them. Find Shannon’s PDF worksheet at https://theprofitablemarriage.com/podcast https://www.facebook.com/ShannonRoxySmith/ We are ...
Feb 18, 2020•1 hr 2 min•Season 3Ep. 139
Q&A What do you do when you don’t feel like you want to emotionally connect and be vulnerable with you spouse? From my husband- As I’m working on my sex addiction recovery, I am also experiencing outbursts of anger. Can the anger issues be resolved by the work in my addiction recovery? What are all your thoughts on the saying "sobriety is not recovery"? I am in a 3 year relationship and I don't feel physically attracted to my partner, I've used porn for 6-8 years and have been sober for 2 ye...
Feb 11, 2020•33 min•Season 3Ep. 138
Individual and couples therapy is often discussed right out of the gate but what about group therapy? What is group accountability and can that be helpful? Can Psych-Ed help? Listen as these various types are discussed and what their potential roles could be. We are glad you found our season 3 episodes where we share some of our most advanced learnings when it comes to relationships, and the challenges of healing both sides of the relationship after sex addiction and infidelity. Our journey has ...
Feb 04, 2020•37 min•Season 3Ep. 137
Education is power and that power can be found by learning about Betrayal Trauma while recovering from addiction. Understanding what it is can help during intense moments when the partner is triggered and goes into trauma. Listen to Coby's experience as he learned to identify when Ashlylnn was triggered and what he did to deal with it. We are glad you found our season 3 episodes where we share some of our most advanced learnings when it comes to relationships, and the challenges of healing both ...
Jan 28, 2020•28 min•Season 3Ep. 136
How does it work? How can it be a thing to feel pain when the partner is also in pain from a life event, even outside of betrayal and addiction? Is a partner warranted in suffering when they have hurt their partner? What does this delicate situation look like when approached the right way? Listen as Coby and Brannon break this down. We are glad you found our season 3 episodes where we share some of our most advanced learnings when it comes to relationships, and the challenges of healing both sid...
Jan 21, 2020•26 min•Season 3Ep. 135
In this episode, the flow goes to self-evaluation and knowing when to stop, take a breath and perhaps even take a break. "Don't should on yourself" is a phrase Brannon uses a lot and we will see how that can manifest inside each of us and what we can do about it. Coby and Ashlynn each share their own experience with this concept. Listen to see how. We are glad you found our season 2 episodes where we continued the journey of learning from more experts on so many topics that relate to relationshi...
Jan 14, 2020•26 min•Season 2Ep. 134
What are the markers of addiction? What are some indicators of the behaviors of addiction that I may have? This is a recreation and update of Episode #1 that was done 3 years ago. Coby and Brannon both discuss the ins and outs of addiction in this episode. We are glad you found our season 2 episodes where we continued the journey of learning from more experts on so many topics that relate to relationships. If you would like support in healing from betrayal we’d invite you to look at our program ...
Jan 07, 2020•22 min•Season 2Ep. 133
This episode will be about making small changes named, shifts. When done properly, shifts can be the bedrock of change. Shifts are small and easy and done in a sustainable way. What could that look like for you? Listen. We are glad you found our season 2 episodes where we continued the journey of learning from more experts on so many topics that relate to relationships. If you would like support in healing from betrayal we’d invite you to look at our program https://www.beyond-enough.com/beyondb...
Dec 31, 2019•36 min•Season 2Ep. 132
In part 5 of this series on indicators of real recovery Brannon, Ashlynn and Coby discuss consistent actions and behaviors. Listen in as they share their experience from days when consistency never showed up for them in either action or behavior. Then they share how they chose to be consistent and what helped them to be so even 5 years into recovery. We are glad you found our season 2 episodes where we continued the journey of learning from more experts on so many topics that relate to relations...
Dec 24, 2019•35 min•Season 2Ep. 131
Part 4 of this 5 part series discusses the household needs and the connection to them as an indicator of real recovery. We are glad you found our season 2 episodes where we continued the journey of learning from more experts on so many topics that relate to relationships. If you would like support in healing from betrayal we’d invite you to look at our program https://www.beyond-enough.com/beyondbetrayal It is not a program about staying together or leaving your partner, but rather finding the h...
Dec 17, 2019•36 min•Season 2Ep. 130
In part 3 of this 5 part series Brannon, Ashlynn and Coby discuss what it is like to give empathy and patience to the one betrayed. The good news is that they will share how and how not to do this and it will be from their personal experiences. We are glad you found our season 2 episodes where we continued the journey of learning from more experts on so many topics that relate to relationships. If you would like support in healing from betrayal we’d invite you to look at our program https://www....
Dec 10, 2019•34 min•Season 2Ep. 129
What does it look like, to be honest? Why do some lie or share half-truths? What does that do to relationships? How can it be given without reservation? Brannon, Ashlynn and Coby discuss this topic that is so small but is a key building block to safety and trust. We are glad you found our season 2 episodes where we continued the journey of learning from more experts on so many topics that relate to relationships. If you would like support in healing from betrayal we’d invite you to look at our p...
Dec 03, 2019•30 min•Season 2Ep. 128
This is part one of a five part series and it will describe how you can know if they are in recovery. There is a balance between "doing" and "being" recovery. This series will help identify markers of both to determine if they really are in recovery. We are glad you found our season 2 episodes where we continued the journey of learning from more experts on so many topics that relate to relationships. If you would like support in healing from betrayal we’d invite you to look at our program https:...
Nov 26, 2019•32 min•Season 2Ep. 127
