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The Art of Raising Humans

Parenting Legacywww.parentinglegacy.com

Kyle and Sara Wester are Licensed Professional Counselors (LPCs) with over 20 years experience working with children and teenagers in Tulsa, Oklahoma.Their podcast will help you parent from a place of freedom, love, and courage. Their passion is to help you uncover areas of fear and shame in your parenting and inspire you to empower your children to become healthy adults.They use the latest research in neuroscience coupled with their own experience raising 3 children.

Episodes

How To Parent Together as a Team and Share The Mental Load As A Couple? (Ep 124)

In Episode 124, Kyle and Sara, LPC’s, interview Paige Connell, mother of 4 and a social media influencer on Instagram and TikTok. She discusses the challenges parents face in sharing the responsibilities and the load of parenting. She has been featured on the Today Show, Good Morning America, and more. Sara and I share how inequity in our parenting started before we even had kids and how that led to Sara definitely carrying most of the burden, especially when the kids were little. Paige gives us...

Sep 09, 202438 minSeason 1Ep. 124

How To Create a Foundation For Your Kids That Will Stand Up to The Storms of Life (Ep 123)

In Episode 123, Kyle and Sara, LPC’s, talk with Nellie Harden, an author, speaker, and mother of 4 teenage girls. She shares with us the four tools parents need to build a strong foundation for their children. When children have been given a strong and sturdy foundation they are able to explore and navigate life with less fear and anxiety. Storms and hard times are going to come into our kids' lives. A strong foundation will make sure they not only survive these moments but actually overcom...

Sep 02, 202440 minSeason 1Ep. 123

What Are the Most Important Skills You Need to Be a Great Friend, Have a Happy Marriage, and Be a Successful Parent? (Ep 122)

In Episode 122, Kyle and Sara, LPC’s, discuss how parenting and marriage are not as different as most people think they are. Many if not most of the skills needed to have a great marriage are also needed to raise healthy and happy kids. What are the skills that help people not only succeed in these roles but also with friends and coworkers? We talk about how approaching parenting from a skills based perspective helps us thrive in many different types of relationships. Get our video courses at ht...

Aug 26, 202429 minSeason 1Ep. 122

Parenting Can Be Sooo Overwhelming! How Can We Lighten the Mental Load? (Ep 121)

In Episode 121, Kyle and Sara, LPC’s, interview JoAnn Crohn from the popular No Guilt Mom podcast. We discuss how overwhelming being a parent is most of the time, especially for moms. She shares with us what “mental load” is and how moms and dads can work together to help lighten the load. Many of us were not taught how to share the responsibilities with each other or even how to help. JoAnn gives us a great tool to utilize in helping change these dynamics in both marriage and parenting. Get our...

Aug 19, 202442 min

Does Sibling Rivalry and Fighting Have to Be the Norm, or Can We Actually Raise Friends for Life? (Ep 120)

In Episode 120, Kyle and Sara, LPC’s, discuss an all too common problem in families with multiple kids. A lot of families are frustrated with all the fighting in their home. They desperately want their kids to get along but they seem to constantly be fighting and complaining about each other. Is this the way it has to be or are there simplest steps we can intentionally take as parents that will change these dynamics at home? Join Sara and I in a conversation about how siblings can actually becom...

Aug 12, 202436 minSeason 1Ep. 120

The Power of Technology On Kids And What Parents Can Do About It (Ep 119)

In Episode 119, Sara and I spend time with Dr. Barbara Sorrels. She is the founder and CEO of the Institute for Childhood Education and Connected Kids, a non-profit dedicated to the support and healing of children from hard places. She shares what she is discovering about the impact technology is having on children. We discuss appropriate ages for kids to be introduced to screens and phones. What are the consequences of children being on technology at such a young age. We also discuss ways famil...

Aug 05, 202443 minSeason 1Ep. 119

How To Support Your Kids When You Are Changing Your Parenting Approach (Ep 118)

In Episode 118, Sara and I talk about the difficulty of changing your parenting approach. It is especially true when you have older kids that were raised differently. This can cause a lot of confusion and resentment in older children. We share specific steps to help parents invite the older kids into learning with you. We believe that changing your parenting approach is an opportunity for more connection and closeness with your kids. This episode will help you accomplish that. Get our video cour...

Jul 29, 202426 minSeason 1Ep. 118

The Power Of Self Love And The Impact It Can Have On Our Children (Ep 117)

In Episode 117, Sara and I do a powerful interview with Brad Chandler. He is the host of the podcast called “How to be happier”. He helps people throughout the world learn how to truly accept themselves and become the men and women they want to be. He shares his transformational journey as a parent and how finally loving himself completely changed how he interacted and engaged with his kids. This episode will both challenge you and fill you with hope. Get our video courses at https://art-of-rais...

Jul 22, 202433 minSeason 1Ep. 117

Are You Communicating Too Much or Too Little With Your Kids? (Ep 116)

In Episode 116, Sara and I discuss how kids want to be a part of family business. Kids feel more connected and more empowered when they are invited into the process parents go through in making their decisions. We also discuss how being intentional with our communication can help alleviate the anxiety and powerlessness kids feel when choices are made for them instead of with them. We want our children to have the skill of making confident decisions in big and small moments. They learn this skill...

Jul 15, 202432 minSeason 1Ep. 116

What is Conscious Discipline and How Can it Help Parents Raise Self-Controlled Kids? (Ep 115)

In Episode 115, Sara and I interview Cristy Roberts, a certified Conscious Discipline trainer. She has been teaching teachers and educators for over a decade on how to approach children from a different perspective. She shares her story about her son’s struggles with school and how CD gave her the tools that both she and her son needed to navigate the challenges at school in a better way. She discusses rituals parents can implement now to help their children be more successful at working through...

Jul 08, 202449 minSeason 1Ep. 115

24 Ways to Connect With Your Teenager (Ep 114)

In Episode 114, Kyle and Sara, LPCs, discuss 24 fun ways to connect with your teenager over the summer and going into the new school year. Teenagers are seeking independence but they also crave a strong relationship with their parents. They are entering a phrase in life that can be overwhelming, and they want to know you will be there with them through it all. I guarantee you will leave this episode with some great ways to connect more deeply with your teenager son/daughter. Get our video course...

Jul 01, 202434 minSeason 1Ep. 114

How Can We Stop Food and Eating From Being Such a Power Struggle? (Ep 113)

In Episode 113, Kyle and Sara, LPCs, have an in depth discussion on food and eating with Mandy Foster. She speaks to groups around the world helping parents raise children that grow up to be curious learners of food. Sara and I discuss our own personal challenges as parents but also just as people in relationship to food. Mandy provides several specific steps you can take immediately that will completely change how kids and parents approach this subject. Get our video courses at https://art-of-r...

Jun 24, 202455 minSeason 1Ep. 113

What Should I Do When My Kid Doesn’t Do What I Ask? (Ep 112)

In Episode 112, Kyle and Sara, LPCs, discuss one of most common questions parents ask us when we are coaching them. What consequence or punishment should I do when my kid doesn’t do what I ask? We share the steps we take to help parents approach these moments in a different way, which inevitably leads to more cooperation and less resistance. When parents do these steps they are surprised that their children actually want to be cooperative and helpful. Get our video courses at https://art-of-rais...

Jun 17, 202436 minSeason 1Ep. 112

The 5 Pillars Kids Need to Be Prepared for Adulthood (Ep 111)

In Episode 111, Kyle and Sara, LPCs, interview Nellie Harden, she is an author, speaker, and mother of 4 teenage girls. She shares with us the 5 pillars that prepare kids to leave the nest and feel confident growing into adulthood. We discuss how important it is for our kids to feel worthy and valued so they can become healthy human beings. She also shares some awesome rituals they do to connect and understand their teenagers more deeply. Get our video courses at https://art-of-raising-humans.ne...

Jun 10, 202444 minSeason 1Ep. 111

We Can’t Get On the Same Page With Our Parenting! (Ep 110)

In Episode 110, Kyle and Sara, LPCs, discuss the challenges we faced changing how we parented. Being calm, patient, and loving came much easier to one of us and it was much harder for the other. So many parents we coach report that this is one of the most difficult things to change. When couples fail to parent together it typically begins to destroy their relationship and it hurts the kids. Sara and I give some tips on how we help parents get on the same page and we have a little surprise offer ...

Jun 03, 202432 minSeason 1Ep. 110

Why Is Play So Important and Do I Really Need To Do It? (Ep 109)

In Episode 109, Kyle and Sara, LPCs, interview Hayley Williams, a licensed clinical social worker and registered play therapist. She shares with us how important play is for children’s development and connection with their parents. She provides easy-to-take steps for every parent to begin playing with their kids today. We also discussed what play therapy is and what a parent should be looking for if they are thinking about taking their child to a play therapist. Get our video courses at https://...

May 27, 202432 minSeason 1Ep. 109

How Do We Get Our Kids to Read and Help Around the House? (Ep 108)

In Episode 108, Kyle and Sara, LPCs, discuss the common motivational technique of paying kids to do reading, chores, and other activities. Is this method helping motivate them or is it more likely to demotivate them? What other things can we do as parents to get them do this stuff if we aren’t paying them? Maybe we need to change the question all together. Sara and I talk about how changing the question completely transforms how we approach these topics. Get our video courses at https://art-of-r...

May 20, 202427 minSeason 1Ep. 108

How Do We Raise Resilient Kids? (Ep 107)

In Episode 107, Kyle and Sara, LPCs, interview Dr. Amy King, a licensed psychologist. We have a fascinating conversation about resiliency and trauma. We discuss what trauma is and isn’t and how connection plays a powerful role in shaping how trauma affects our children. At the end, she lays out specific steps that parents can do today to build resilience in their kids. In these uncertain times, we need to prioritize being parents that raise resilient kids on purpose and not on accident. This dis...

May 13, 202446 minSeason 1Ep. 107

“Are We There Yet? How Can We Enjoy The Journey As Parents?” (Ep 106)

In Episode 106, Kyle and Sara, LPCs, discuss how embracing parenting as a journey rather than a destination has changed how we view each stage with our children. As parents we often resist the present moment and white knuckle our way through the sleepless nights and all of the diapers. However, by doing this we often miss the beauty and the joy that is waiting for us in each moment. Every stage we go through with our kids can be endured or it can enjoyed, it is up to us and it models a lot to ou...

May 06, 202432 minSeason 1Ep. 106

“Isn’t Peaceful Parenting Really Just Permissive Parenting?” (Ep 105)

In Episode 105, Kyle and Sara, LPCs, interview Sarah Rosensweet, a Peaceful Parenting Coach. She discusses how Peaceful Parenting isn’t permissive at all and how she is passionate about helping parents reimagine what it could look like in their families. She explains how parenting her kids this way has helped her raise children that are generous and kind, both with themselves and with others. Get our video courses at https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com . View the full podcast transcript ...

Apr 29, 202442 minSeason 1Ep. 105

How To Change Persistent Ongoing Conflicts With Your Children? (Ep 104)

In Episode 104, Kyle and Sara, LPCs, talk about one of the most important steps to effectively change behavior in a family. The follow up conversation is vital in not only encouraging desirable behavior but also teaching new behavior and skills. Why is it so hard to do the follow up? Why do kids resist it so much? Is it possible to create a different type of interaction where the child actually welcomes and looks forward to the follow up conversation? Get our video courses at https://art-of-rais...

Apr 22, 202432 minSeason 1Ep. 104

Mother of 3 kids under the age of four needs help now! (Ep 103)

In Episode 103, Kyle and Sara, LPCs talk with Kelly Tietsort about her experience as a mom of a teenager and pre-teen twins. When she came to us for help the kids were all under the age of 4, there were huge tantrums, and they were struggling with how to handle their kids' aggression. Kelly and her husband Zach were exhausted and didn’t know what else to do, that is when they reached out for some help. Listen as she discusses how getting parent coaching has changed everything for them as a ...

Apr 15, 202442 minSeason 1Ep. 103

Is tracking our kids locations and grades helpful or hurtful to their growth? (Ep 102)

In Episode 102, Kyle and Sara, LPCs discuss the growing ability parents have to track their kids. We discuss the positive and negative outcomes that may come as a result of using this technology. Does it help our kids be safe while also hinder our kids from learning valuable skills they need for adulthood? Is there a way to use the technology while also helping our kids be confident independent humans? Get our video courses at https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com . View the full podcast t...

Apr 08, 202430 minSeason 1Ep. 102

How to intentionally connect with our kids in a world full of technological distractions (Ep 101)

In Episode 101, Kyle and Sara, LPCs have a discussion with Joey Odom, father of 2 teenagers and founder of Aro. He shares his transformational journey from being a distracted dad to an intentional one. We talk with him about how challenging it can be to really be present with our children. We also dive into how our kids need and want us to model what a healthy relationship with technology even looks like. This episode will equip parents with the tools to create a family that is able to be presen...

Apr 01, 202453 minSeason 1Ep. 101

It’s never too late to start parenting differently (Ep 100)

In Episode 100, Kyle and Sara, LPCs celebrate reaching this milestone by sharing some of the ways the podcast has helped families. Then we dive into a conversation where we discuss some of the ways we have recently messed up as parents. We invite every parent, no matter where they are on their journey, to join us as we continue to grow and change. This parenting adventure isn’t about being perfect but about imperfect progress. Get our video courses at https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com ...

Mar 25, 202431 minSeason 1Ep. 100

How storytelling and play can transform your child’s behavior (Ep 99)

In Episode 99, Kyle and Sara, LPCs interview Sarah Moore, author of the book Peaceful Discipline. She has been featured on NBC, CBS, and many parenting magazines. We dive into her journey as a parent and the transformational moment that changed how she wanted to parent. She also shares how Story Teaching is a powerful tool that can help children process their emotions and work through the events of the day. Get our video courses at https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com . View the full podc...

Mar 18, 202449 minSeason 1Ep. 99

Mother of 2, an Arbonne VP, (living off the grid), decides she won’t spank, but doesn’t know what else to do (Ep 98)

In Episode 98, Kyle and Sara, LPCs interview Bethany Jones about her journey raising 2 girls off the grid. Early on in their parenting, she and her husband Jimmy made a decision they weren’t going to spank their kids and they knew they needed some other tools. This is when they sought out parent coaching. Needless to say this was a huge shift for them, but the results speak for themselves. A surprising outcome was that the teenager years have been some of the best they have had. Listen in on thi...

Mar 11, 202430 minSeason 1Ep. 98

Saying STOP IT! doesn’t change anything - let’s try something different (Ep 97)

In Episode 97, Kyle and Sara, LPCs discuss how common it is for kids and parents to use "Stop" as a tool to resolve conflict. However, all it typically accomplishes is creating power struggles within the family. We share 4 specific steps we use that will help parents and kids to actually make long-lasting change. Get our video courses at https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com . View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/saying-stop-it-doesnt-change-anythi...

Mar 04, 202431 minSeason 1Ep. 97

What is ADHD and how to help your child understand it without shame? (Ep 96)

In Episode 96, Kyle and Sara, LPC’s have the opportunity to interview two experts on the topic of children and ADHD. Dr. Katia Fredriksen & Dr. Yael Rothman, are pediatric neuropsychologists and authors of the book “Different Thinkers: ADHD”. We talk about how parents can support their children to better understand the diagnosis free from the shame that sometimes comes along with it. This conversation will be a great resource for all adults who spend any time with kids who have ADHD. Get our...

Feb 26, 202431 minSeason 1Ep. 96

Four ways to connect with your kids (no matter how busy you are) (Ep 95)

In Episode 95, Sara and I discuss how difficult it can be to connect with kids when life gets busy. We delve into why intentional connection during these times is so crucial to cultivating an open and honest relationship with children. If we aren’t intentional then we risk making the disconnection the new norm in the family. Get our video courses at https://art-of-raising-humans.newzenler.com . View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/four-ways-to-connect-with-your-ki...

Feb 19, 202425 minSeason 1Ep. 95
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