In Episode 64, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, talk about how most parenting approaches start with a problematic question. We discuss how Dr. Becky Bailey suggests starting with a healthier question that helps both the parent and the child work together during conflictual times. The questions we ask ourselves will shape and guide our intent towards our children. Get our video courses at https://parenting-legacy.newzenler.com. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/most-parenti...
Jan 23, 2023•26 min•Season 1Ep. 64
In Episode 63, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, do their best to answer one of the most common questions parents want ask them to answer. We attempt to show parents a different equation. If they change the equation, then it will change everything that follows. We want children to know that we are for them instead of against them. Get our video courses at https://parenting-legacy.newzenler.com. View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/what-do-i-do-when-my-child-teenager-does-this ...
Jan 16, 2023•29 min•Season 1Ep. 63
In Episode 62, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss the 4th parenting style. Can we parent without using power, fear, and control over our children? We want to take some time at the beginning of 2023 to help parents cultivate a new vision of what parenting could look like. Video courses: https://parenting-legacy.newzenler.com. Full podcast transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/what-is-alternative-to-authoritarian-permissive-parenting Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable...
Jan 09, 2023•26 min•Season 1Ep. 62
In Episode 61, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss 4 common parenting styles. We want to start the year off by helping parents identify the approach they are currently using. We specifically look in depth at the 2 most common parenting approaches we tend to run into. Get our free 8-video parenting series at https://www.parentinglegacy.com/fromfeartolove . View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/comparing-contrasting-four-parenting-styles-approaches Visit our website and soc...
Jan 02, 2023•28 min•Season 1Ep. 61
In Episode 60, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss how setting rules in a family may have unintended outcomes. Why do so many families see this as an integral part of parenting? Do rules help them raise children that are responsible and self-disciplined? Is there another way to teach and guide the behavior you are wanting from your children? Get our free 8-video parenting series at https://www.parentinglegacy.com/fromfeartolove . View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/are-...
Dec 26, 2022•23 min•Season 1Ep. 60
In Episode 59, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, talk about how to set boundaries with your children. We use a metaphor that can help families better understand the goal in helping your children create boundaries with you and then for themselves. This is at the core of a child growing in the skill of self-control. This will also help them in their relationships with other people in their lives. Get our free 8-video parenting series at https://www.parentinglegacy.com/fromfeartolove . View the full podcast tra...
Dec 19, 2022•25 min•Season 1Ep. 59
In Episode 58, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, talk about how setting boundaries starts first with us. We set boundaries on ourselves so we can model to our children how to set boundaries on themselves. Boundaries are an essential component to any healthy relationship. They are not meant to control us but to free us. Get our free 8-video parenting series at https://www.parentinglegacy.com/fromfeartolove . View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/setting-boundaries-in-your-family...
Dec 12, 2022•22 min•Season 1Ep. 58
In Episode 57, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss how kids being told they are “special” creates isolation and not connection in a family. It is important for children to understand the unique gifts and talents they have and how they are necessary to help the family. This creates an interdependent family that is focused on helping, supporting, and encouraging each other instead of winning and competing against each other. Get our free 8-video parenting series at https://www.parentinglegacy.com/fromfea...
Dec 05, 2022•27 min•Season 1Ep. 57
In Episode 56, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss the upcoming Thanksgiving and Christmas holidays. This can be a joy-filled season for families but it can also be a very stressed and conflictual time as well. We talk about ways we can create a different type of holiday season for our children. We also discuss specific steps we have taken to use the positive and negative aspects of the holidays to bring about more unity and connection in our family. Get our free 8-video parenting series at https://www...
Nov 21, 2022•26 min•Season 1Ep. 56
In Episode 55, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss what a codependent relationship is and how it is a normal part of a child’s development. However, there is some tension that arises when parents want their children to be independent too early and don’t understand the part they play in letting independence happen naturally. We show how parents and children can work together towards a healthy independent relationship that can eventually lead to interdependence. Get our free 8-video parenting series at h...
Nov 14, 2022•28 min•Season 1Ep. 55
In Episode 54, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss the big emotions of a pre-teen. Every stage has big emotions but this stage in particular can have some challenges. I share some steps I used with our daughter Abby recently to help her work through some overwhelming feelings. This technique can help you and your children no matter their age. Get our free 8-video parenting series at https://www.parentinglegacy.com/fromfeartolove . View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/hel...
Nov 07, 2022•27 min•Season 1Ep. 54
In Episode 53, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss the differences between a disrespectful and a respectful kid. What do people mean when they say they want a respectful kid? Are they wanting a kid that never talks back and always says yes? We try to reframe for parents how to approach this topic with their children. Get our full video course "How to Stop Power Struggles and Resolve Conflict in Your Family" at https://bit.ly/StopPowerStruggles . View the full podcast transcript at https://www...
Oct 31, 2022•29 min•Season 1Ep. 53
In Episode 52, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss an issue that brings a lot of stress and fear to parents. We all want our children to have great friendships but all too often kids struggle finding and making friends. When they do find a good friend their lack of conflict resolution skills can deteriorate the relationship. We want to equip every parent with the skills necessary to help their children find great friendships and know how to deal with the conflicts that will inevitably arise. Get our fr...
Oct 24, 2022•27 min•Season 1Ep. 52
In Episode 51, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss the most common things teenagers have told us they would like to say to their parents. These 4 came up time and time again in sessions so we thought it would be great to dive into each one a little deeper. This can give you insight into what teenagers are really wanting from their relationship with their parents. It surprised me and I think it will surprise you as well. Get the full video course "How to Understand and Communicate with Your Teenage...
Oct 17, 2022•26 min•Season 1Ep. 51
For Episode 50, Sara and I take a moment to do our very first interview. We decided to interview our oldest daughter Abby (12 years old). We explore with her what her experience has been like being raised in a home without fear and punishment. We also ask her to get honest about our shortcomings as parents. Get our free 8-video parenting series at https://www.parentinglegacy.com/fromfeartolove . View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/interview-what-does-our-almost-t...
Oct 10, 2022•31 min•Season 1Ep. 50
In Episode 49, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss the implications of this age-old question. In our experience how parents answer this question greatly impacts the way they approach discipline with their children. It also distorts how a parent interprets the behavior of their child. Is there a healthier way to approach a child’s development and how does that affect their perception of their child’s feeling and actions? Get our free 8-video parenting series at https://www.parentinglegacy.com/fromfearto...
Oct 03, 2022•26 min•Season 1Ep. 49
In Episode 48, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss the challenges people face when they are shifting their parenting approach. What do people mean when they try something with their kids and then say it is not “working”? We wrap up with specific steps we took to shift our perspective so we can see the progress and have more hope. Get our free 8-video parenting series at https://www.parentinglegacy.com/fromfeartolove . View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/what-to-do-when-...
Sep 26, 2022•28 min•Season 1Ep. 48
In Episode 47, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss how to shift these moments with your children. We delve into some of the work and knowledge from Dr. Siegel. He gives a great perspective on this subject and practical steps on how to shift these moments so they don’t become power struggles. Get our free 8-video parenting series at https://www.parentinglegacy.com/fromfeartolove . View the full podcast transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/what-to-do-when-you-are-faced-with-chaos-and-rigidity-p...
Sep 19, 2022•26 min•Season 1Ep. 47
In Episode 46, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss how our thoughts, feelings, and actions towards our children actually shape and transform us as parents and people. This is a conversation that can have a huge impact on a person’s marriage, friendships, and parenting. This episode also touches on some of the concepts from Dr. Siegel’s interpersonal neurobiology. Get our FREE 8-video parenting series at https://www.parentinglegacy.com/fromfeartolove . View the full podcast transcript at https://www.par...
Sep 12, 2022•25 min•Season 1Ep. 46
In Episode 45, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss the skill of Choices. We talk about the importance of giving children the opportunities to assert their free will through choices. We give parents a new question that will instantly change their intent in the moment and help guide their child without resistance. Get our FREE 8-video parenting series at https://www.parentinglegacy.com/fromfeartolove . View the full podcast transcript at https://www.parentinglegacy.com/teaching-children-how-to-manage-the...
Sep 05, 2022•26 min•Season 1Ep. 45
In Episode 44, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, follow up on last week’s podcast as we discuss some other specific situations that tend to come up as the school year gets rolling. As an elementary school counselor for 7 years, Kyle helped many parents and kids transition into the new school year. This particular podcast will be very helpful to those parents whose kids had difficulty with school in the past. Get our FREE 8-video parenting eries at https://www.parentinglegacy.com/fromfeartolove . View the ful...
Aug 22, 2022•32 min•Season 1Ep. 44
In Episode 43, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss intentionally preparing kids for the upcoming school year. Sara goes into depth about how she helps our kids cultivate a vision for the upcoming year. She shares some of the important conversations to have with your kids before the year begins. This podcast will help equip you in co-creating a fantastic school year with your children. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/preparing-your-kids-children-for-back-to-school-part-one V...
Aug 15, 2022•28 min•Season 1Ep. 43
In Episode 42, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, delve into chores and why we dislike the word. We look at different ways to invite your children into making a meaningful contribution to the family. This is a great podcast to help you kick off the upcoming school year so the kids can get into a rhythm before all the business begins. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/helping-your-children-see-chores-differently-and-enjoy-them Visit our website and social media channels for more valu...
Aug 08, 2022•28 min•Season 1Ep. 42
In Episode 41, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss the skill of positive intent and how it is the key to shifting the ongoing power struggles in our home. This skill will not only change the dynamics between a parent and child but also between siblings. Get ready to see things differently in the family. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/turning-resistance-from-your-children-into-cooperation Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenti...
Aug 01, 2022•32 min•Season 1Ep. 41
In Episode 40, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss the different streams of parenting. We talk about how science and culture have shaped our approach to kids over the last three decades. We share why we chose this path for our family and why we hope you jump on board as well. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/parent-parenting-from-the-inside-out Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Podcast Website: https://www.thear...
Jul 25, 2022•26 min•Season 1Ep. 40
In Episode 39, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss how a parent’s reaction to the words their kid uses is so important. We discuss how to come along side and support a child’s understanding of the power of language. They don’t need us to control their words but they do need us to guide them. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/child-children-cussing-and-potty-language Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Podcast Websi...
Jul 18, 2022•25 min•Season 1Ep. 39
In Episode 38, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss how we teach parents to navigate the scary world of social media. We lay out three different ways parents tend to approach the subject with their children and then discuss how to disciple your children with this powerful tool. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/how-to-disciple-your-children-with-social-media Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenting journey. Podcast Website: https...
Jul 11, 2022•26 min•Season 1Ep. 38
In Episode 37, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss the temptation of filling our kid’s lives with activities. It is so easy to over schedule their summer and school year with “good” things to do. Why are we afraid to be bored and how can embracing boredom make families stronger and closer? View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/are-we-bored-yet-the-lure-of-overscheduling-and-the-power-of-boredom Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content for your parenti...
Jul 04, 2022•25 min•Season 1Ep. 37
In Episode 36, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, discuss all the different ways empathy can look and feel. We talk about attuning with children and how this helps them organize their brain. This is the very first skill we start using when our kids are born and helps us better understand how to connect and communicate with them throughout their lives. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/what-is-empathy-why-is-it-important-skill-a-parent-needs-to-raise-emotionally-intelligent-child Vis...
Jun 27, 2022•31 min•Season 1Ep. 36
In Episode 35, Sara and Kyle, LPCs, talk about the different types of legacies parents want to leave for their kids. We delve into how challenging it can be when to change a legacy. We also provide practical steps to help parents be more intentional in forming and articulating the legacy they want to give to their children. View the full transcript at: https://www.parentinglegacy.com/what-legacy-do-you-want-to-leave-your-kids Visit our website and social media channels for more valuable content ...
Jun 20, 2022•30 min•Season 1Ep. 35
