Do you automatically run for the hills when your family members call you out for not bringing a significant other to the family function? Can't seem to find the love of your dreams? Ryan Eggett, an expert on dating and courtship, along with Kayla Greer dive into the beautiful mess of dating. With a religious background, Ryan discusses how courtship is encompassed in the plan God has for us. We promise you won't want to miss an episode! You'll be chuckling, wiping away a tear or two, and having plenty of aha moments.
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Hosts Ryan and Kayla, joined by guest Chase, delve into enhancing social interactions in dating. They emphasize the importance of mindful awareness, considering the impact of one's behavior, and balancing logic with compassion. The discussion transitions into practical dating, with Chase sharing four diverse date ideas, ranging from first dates to those for established relationships, highlighting how dates should evolve to reveal compatibility and foster deeper connection.
Ryan and Kayla return to discuss New Year dating goals, focusing on preparing oneself spiritually to be the best dateable person. They explore the concept of discipleship and covenants as a master-apprentice relationship with the Savior. Additionally, they introduce five practical date ideas, evaluating them based on enjoyability, revealing qualities, and comfort level to help listeners improve their dating experiences.
Ryan and Kayla, along with guests Rebecca and Isaac, delve into the do's and don'ts of first dates. They discuss strategies to reduce stress by setting clear time boundaries, choosing engaging activities that foster conversation, and navigating financial expectations. The episode also provides humorous insights into clarifying if an outing is truly a date and offers valuable tips for active listening and asking compelling questions to ensure a positive and meaningful first encounter.
Ryan and Kayla discuss what it truly means to be mature enough for marriage, moving beyond finances to focus on self-mastery. They delve into controlling one's emotions, passions, and appetites, as well as maintaining physical attractiveness through diet and exercise. The hosts emphasize the importance of continuous progression and goal-setting in intellectual, physical, spiritual, and social areas of life, asserting that these qualities are key to becoming a desirable and trustworthy spouse.
Following up on thinking and observing, this episode delves into the final three principles for social attractiveness: meekness, asking, and seeking the Spirit. The hosts and guest explore the importance of humility in understanding others before seeking to be understood, highlight the value of asking trusted friends for honest feedback on personal improvement, and stress relying on the Spirit for navigating social awareness and making relationship decisions. The discussion uses examples from the Savior's life and personal anecdotes to illustrate how these principles lead to more meaningful and effective social connections.
Hosts Ryan and Kayla, joined by Kenzie, delve into the first two pillars of social attractiveness: "Think" and "Observe." They discuss the common struggle with awkwardness, highlighting the importance of pausing before speaking or acting, especially in heated or sensitive situations. The episode emphasizes understanding social cues and others' emotional states, using personal anecdotes, the Savior's life, and the Church's decision-making process as examples to illustrate how conscious thought and keen observation can profoundly improve social interactions and overall attractiveness.
Hosts Ryan, Kayla, and guest Taylor delve into spiritual attractiveness, defining it by Christ-like attributes such as charity, patience, selflessness, obedience, and especially self-mastery. They discuss how these qualities foster deep trust and love in relationships. The episode stresses the importance of genuine, intentional worship and deliberate practice of spiritual principles, rather than just following a religious checklist, to achieve true spiritual growth and become a more attractive individual.
This episode delves into common reasons why people struggle with dating and offers practical solutions. The hosts and guest discuss the importance of intentional effort in increasing social proximity to like-minded individuals. They also redefine attractiveness beyond physical appearance, highlighting qualities like communication, thoughtfulness, and virtue as key magnets for drawing others closer.
This episode kicks off Season 2 by addressing why dating often feels miserable, boiling it down to three main issues: societal pressure, high expectations, and the fear of rejection. The hosts and guest Rachel offer transformative perspectives, encouraging listeners to shift their mindset from obligation to excitement, view first dates as casual meeting opportunities, and see rejection as an indicator of incompatibility rather than a measure of self-worth. It emphasizes making dating a fun and growth-oriented journey.
Hosts Ryan, Kayla, and guest Calix revisit key themes from Season 1, emphasizing marriage's eternal role within the plan of salvation and the importance of intentional dating. They delve into the divine purpose of sexual intimacy in fostering true oneness, strategies for discerning compatibility beyond surface-level attraction, and the critical role of a genuine desire to make one's spouse happy. The episode concludes by guiding listeners on seeking spiritual confirmation for marriage decisions, advocating for a Christ-centered partnership for lasting happiness.
Hosts Ryan Eggett and Kayla Greer discuss profound parenting strategies, starting with effective communication rooted in love and the intent to edify. They highlight the importance of regularly discussing various topics to build trust and make difficult conversations easier. A core theme is nurturing a child's self-worth by instilling their divine identity as a beloved child of Heavenly Parents, offering a powerful protection against life's challenges. The episode also frames parenting as a crucial, hands-on training experience for individuals to develop into heavenly parents themselves.
Ryan and Kayla discuss the enduring power of a Christ-centered marriage, contrasting common reasons for divorce with principles that lead to lasting happiness. They emphasize building individual lives and the marital relationship on Jesus Christ, illustrating how living like the Savior naturally improves how spouses treat each other. The hosts highlight the importance of intentional dating for a Christ-seeking partner and provide practical guidance, including Elder Bednar's triangle and the "What Would Jesus Have Me Do?" principle, to cultivate a marriage of "exultant ecstasy."
Ryan and Kelsey discuss the crucial importance of temple endowments and eternal covenants, highlighting how they empower individuals more than even missionary service. They delve into why temple marriage is essential for eternal families, explain the "vertical" nature of covenants with God as a master-disciple relationship, and detail the five specific covenants and blessings received. The episode encourages thorough preparation using official church resources and reminds listeners that the temple is a place of profound learning, divine gifts, and a feeling of returning home to God's presence.
This episode from The Art of Dating podcast features Ryan Eggett, Zach, and Sadie discussing the critical importance of the engagement period. They stress that beyond establishing compatibility, engagement is a vital time for couples to have "crucial conversations" about everything from daily household expectations and love languages to finances, children, and physical intimacy. The hosts advocate for practicing open communication and planning for future scenarios to prevent conflict and foster a strong, loving marriage from the outset.
Hosts Ryan Eggett and Krista discuss how to decipher personal revelation, especially regarding marriage decisions. They share personal anecdotes and counsel from church leaders like President Nelson and Elder Scott, highlighting the importance of immersing oneself in truth, praying with initiative, understanding stewardship, and being receptive to incremental promptings. The episode also provides guidance on proceeding with trust when a clear "yes" or "no" isn't immediately received, emphasizing worthiness and taking action on small impressions.
In this episode of The Art of Dating, Ryan and Angie delve into the crucial process of making a marriage decision, following up on previous discussions about compatibility. They emphasize that individuals are responsible for choosing a partner rather than waiting for a "soulmate," and highlight the importance of diligently studying God's teachings on marriage. The discussion culminates in a powerful four-step process: learn, make an informed decision, and then seek divine confirmation, even suggesting changing your decision if a clear answer isn't received.
This episode delves into the critical decision of choosing a marriage partner. Ryan, Mark, Lydia, and Hannah explore key factors like shared beliefs, attraction, and overall compatibility, emphasizing that a successful marriage involves continuous effort and growth. Using analogies such as 'matching gears' and 'breaking in' a new car, they highlight the importance of observing a partner in various situations and committing to making the relationship work through challenges.
This episode features Ryan and Angie Eggett discussing practical financial strategies for couples, building on their previous installment. They delve into defining shared financial goals, implementing a joint budgeting system with shared responsibilities, and prioritizing spending on experiences that foster family happiness. Key principles include making ethical income, smart shopping, and establishing an emergency fund to navigate unexpected challenges, all reinforced by prophetic counsel and real-life examples.
Ryan Eggett delves into the significant role finances play in marital success, noting that a high percentage of divorces are rooted in money issues. He outlines four key principles for financial unity: establishing shared financial goals with your partner, earning money ethically within a reasonable work-life balance, paying tithes and offerings, and utilizing a budget to prioritize relational spending and avoid debt. The episode emphasizes that money should serve relationships, not master them, setting the stage for deeper discussions in part two.
Hosts Ryan, Kayla, Anna, and Michael delve into what true love entails, differentiating it from fleeting infatuation. They discuss four key indicators: the initial excitement and constant thoughts about a partner, the mutual willingness to "work on forever" through challenges, a directional progression following divine patterns, and a Christ-like self-sacrificial love. Drawing on popular songs, psychological theories, and prophetic teachings, the episode provides a guide for evaluating whether a relationship is truly ready for marriage.
Ryan and Angie Eggett explore a "bait-to-boat-to-boyfriend/girlfriend" dating strategy, advising listeners to cultivate five areas of attractiveness: emotional, social, spiritual, physical, and intellectual. They emphasize identifying desired partner qualities and actively seeking them in appropriate social circles. The episode encourages listeners to be patient, signal availability, and persevere through setbacks, with Kayla Greer also sharing personal insights on setting clear dating targets and overcoming past hurts to embrace new opportunities.
Ryan and Kayla discuss five "how-to" ideas for young adults to remain sexually pure, drawing on modern prophetic counsel. They begin by clarifying that physical intimacy is good but its misuse is not, and explore how kissing impacts relationship building. The five keys include understanding the "what" and "why" of God's law of chastity, establishing rules and restraints, preparing for weak moments during times of strength, considering the eternal consequences of actions, and purifying one's entire life. The hosts use powerful analogies like a "powder keg" and "river of fire" to illustrate the importance of controlling one's passions, emphasizing Christ's enabling and redemptive power in this journey.
Ryan and Kayla discuss why sexual purity is essential, explaining that intimacy in marriage is summative, building love, while premarital intimacy follows a bell curve leading to deterioration. They highlight that God, as the giver of this sacred gift, provides rules for its maximum happiness. The episode also emphasizes that chastity prepares individuals for greater blessings, serving as a test of faithfulness and an opportunity to develop self-control, with the Savior's Atonement offering both cleansing and enabling power.
This episode delves into the sacred nature of sexual intimacy within God's plan, emphasizing the importance of open and comfortable discussions rather than casual or taboo ones. It explores the dual purposes of sexual relationships – procreation and fostering true oneness in marriage – and critiques traditional teaching methods that often focus on what not to do. Using an 'ice cream analogy,' the hosts explain sex as a precious gift from God with specific stipulations, encouraging service to one's partner and highlighting the binding power of intimacy.
Ryan, Kayla, and Jessica discuss the "art of conversation" in dating, emphasizing that true connection comes from genuinely talking and learning about each other, rather than just "communicating." They share strategies for asking engaging questions, avoiding interrogation, and using conversation to build strong friendships, ensure compatibility, and collaboratively solve future challenges, leading to greater unity and understanding in a relationship.
Hosts Ryan and Kayla discuss the critical role of compatibility in dating, moving beyond initial attraction to deeply understand a potential partner. They highlight that effective dating involves varied activities and open conversations to test alignment in goals, values, and lifestyle, likening compatibility to meshing gears rather than finding an identical match. The episode also debunks common dating myths, such as finding a perfect soulmate, and advises against misinterpreting spiritual guidance like patriarchal blessings, encouraging intentional effort to find "someone" with whom you can be compatible for a smoother marriage.
Hosts Ryan and Kayla, with guests Mason and Hannah, delve into the complexities of commitment in relationships. They adapt Sternberg's Triangle to an LDS context, focusing on 'friendship development' and 'physical attraction' as core drivers of commitment. The discussion highlights that perceived 'commitment issues' often mask incompatibility, and that a lasting relationship requires continuous growth in both friendship and attraction, which should deepen over time, not fade. They also touch upon the role of past trauma and the benefits of chastity in fostering genuine connection.
Hosts Ryan and Kayla, joined by engaged couple Ashley and Tanner, delve into the practical steps of getting a date. They discuss how initial physical attraction is natural and acceptable, backed by scientific insights into universally appealing traits like health and self-care. The conversation highlights the vital role of proximity in fostering deeper connections beyond initial appearances and the importance of seeking partners with shared similarities and compatibility in values, goals, and personality. Listeners are encouraged to develop all aspects of their attractiveness and actively put themselves out there.
Ryan and Kayla, with guest Tanner, discuss how to become more dateable and marriageable by developing five key areas based on the Savior's growth: intellectual, social, spiritual, emotional, and physical fitness. They emphasize that while physical attraction opens doors, these deeper qualities sustain relationships, offering practical advice and self-assessment tools to improve overall appeal. The conversation delves into the importance of goals, communication skills, spiritual depth, and the divine purpose of attraction.
This episode emphasizes moving from casual dating to a strategic game plan for marriage. It outlines President Kimball's advice on careful planning, thinking, praying, and fasting, introducing a "bullseye" method for identifying essential partner traits. The hosts stress balancing emotion with objective thought and personal development to attract a compatible eternal companion.
