In this episode, Luci Lampe, a sex and relationship coach (who I’ve worked with personally) hops on the ALC podcast to share the 5 stages of relationship evolution. As you listen, get curious in which stage you and your partner might be in. Relationship anxiety falls into one of these categories, but overcoming relationship anxiety isn’t the end of the journey! It’s just the beginning. I hope this episode will give you insights into the long haul of the relationship journey. You can enroll in Lu...
Feb 20, 2023•1 hr 25 min•Season 2Ep. 56
Our obsession with authenticity is putting the responsibility of discerning “reality” vs. “not-reality” on creators – when this is not where our focus should be, as consumers. In this episode, I talk about how I think consumers’ obsession with authenticity has gone too far – and if we could change the conversation around authenticity, we would have less FOMO and “shoulds” and be a heck of a lot happier. BOTH FEET IN Course https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course Register ...
Feb 06, 2023•42 min•Season 2Ep. 55
One of many reasons we may feel anxious in relationship: we’re actually feeling resentful and not communicating our needs and boundaries at all, or effectively! In this episode, I break down what boundaries are as well as what they aren’t, some perspective shifts for recovering people-pleasers, and ways to communicate your boundaries in ways that will feel like sacred gifts. BOTH FEET IN Course https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course Register for Quit Comparing Your Relat...
Jan 30, 2023•49 min•Season 2Ep. 54
In this episode, I talk about ‘Fear of Missing Out’ (FOMO) in partnership. In a society of (seeming) unlimited choices + constant comparison, it’s no wonder there are so many wandering eyes and anxious minds, wondering if we got the short end of the stick. I talk about a few strategies you can use to feel more confident in your decision, break the fantasy spell, and be able to more easily focus on the gift of your relationship right in front of your face. Both Feet in Self Study Course: https://...
Jan 23, 2023•41 min•Season 2Ep. 53
“Emotions” like anxiety and depression are often cover emotions for deeper emotions like grief and anger – and working through our resistance to these emotions so we can arrive at our “core” emotions can help us access our calm, compassionate self. In this episode, I bring on emotions educator Hilary Jacobs Hendel, author of “It’s Not Always Depression,” to give you tangible tools for working through anxiety and depression to have a richer emotional experience. Some extra resources: Why Can’t I ...
Jan 16, 2023•1 hr 2 min•Season 2Ep. 52
Although we may be entering a new year, this season is still about death and endings, and if we’re resistant to that, we may experience more anxiety than usual. In this episode, I speak to how death and endings are an important piece to the conversation when we are moving out of anxiety and into a rich inner experience. Find me on Youtube
Jan 09, 2023•35 min•Season 2Ep. 51
You guys– I’m absolutely HONORED to be having Somatic Sex Educator and author, Dr. Betty Martin, on the podcast today, to be dissecting giving and receiving today. Her book, The Art of Receiving and Giving: The Wheel of Consent, has completely shifted how I look at my own patterns of giving and receiving in partnership, as well as expanded my intimacy skills with myself and other. A big component of self-trust in partnership is being able to articulate our desires, fears, boundaries, and to conf...
Dec 26, 2022•1 hr•Season 2Ep. 50
In this episode, I cover what causes jealousy in partnership, why it isn’t something to get rid of, and how to transform it into a gift rather than a hindrance to your relationship. BOTH FEET IN: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/both-feet-in-self-study-course AUSTRIA retreat – email me. I dropped my email in the episode. :-)
Dec 19, 2022•50 min•Season 2Ep. 49
You guys. I finally bought on my BEST FRIEND of 6 years, Kate Kali, a hypnotherapist and body language expert, whose work and mine are having overlap these days! EEK! In this episode, we will give you some strategies to increase attraction, captivate your partner, and add aliveness in your partnership… JUST by changing your body language. It’s a FASCINATING episode that will totally change your life. Enjoy!
Dec 13, 2022•1 hr 6 min•Season 2Ep. 48
Spoilers in this one :) We're talking about the unconscious, toxic patterns and problematic beliefs that appeared in moments between Nancy + Bartise, Matt + Colleen, Raven + SK and Xanab + Cole (!! ).
Dec 06, 2022•26 min•Season 2Ep. 47
In this episode, I bring on one of my best friends and also colleagues sharing the relationship anxiety space to discuss the #1 question we both get asked in this field of work: Is it “just” relationship anxiety or are there legitimate problems in my relationship? We share why this is the wrong question to be asking yourself – and what you should be asking instead. We hope to bring you a lot of clarity and nuanced ways to look at this! With all our love… we may trigger you a bit! Follow Chelsea ...
Sep 16, 2022•55 min•Season 2Ep. 46
A question we’ve had come up in our self-study course and also in our DMs– what do you do if your partner watches porn or follows a bunch of hot women on social media? (This speaks mostly to a pattern I see coming from women in relationships with men, but as always, not always.) In this episode, I share some thoughts on (particularly the excessive use of) pornography … as always, take what empowers you, and discard what doesn’t. This conversation has lots of context and nuance I can’t possibly c...
Sep 13, 2022•54 min•Season 2Ep. 45
Do you find that no matter how much you learn about your relationship anxiety, listen to podcasts, read books or try to 'do the work you still feel triggered by your partner? In this episode, my amazing co-coach Sheridan and I discuss how your nervous system affects your thoughts, emotions and actions in a relationship and how to use your triggers to help you find more peace and connection in your partnership. We also discuss our new program: Triggered To Truth - a 5-week container to unpack you...
Sep 09, 2022•1 hr 2 min•Season 2Ep. 44
In this podcast, Sheridan (ALC's wonderful co-coach) discusses the following: - Why reality TV (such as Love Is Blind, Married At First Sight, The Ultimatum, 90 day Fiance) based around relationships trigger you - The truth about the contestant's emotional experience that we aren't often told. - A 3 step process for moving through your triggers. We'll be sharing more information on how to work through these triggers over the next few months - make sure you're subscribed to the podcast and follow...
Sep 01, 2022•42 min•Season 2Ep. 43
In this episode, I discuss living apart from my husband and the importance of maintaining a separate identity outside of your partnership. When we lack separateness, one or both partners can end up feeling trapped and lacking desire for one another. We cover: why separateness is important for a relationship and what that can look like, how to cultivate it, and what to do if you experience separation anxiety. Links mentioned: Enroll in Aliveness from Within HERE: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/...
Aug 12, 2022•59 min•Season 2Ep. 42
Have you ever picked a fight with your partner after a Netflix binge? Has a show ever sent you down a spiral of doubts about your own relationship? In this podcast, Sheridan (our amazing co-coach here at ALC) reviews the show How I Met Your Mother and how it might be triggering to you. What has been helpful/triggering for you about How I Met Your Mother or other shows? Sheridan will be doing at least one or two more of these so podcast DM us over on Instagram @anxiouslovecoach your suggestions/c...
Aug 10, 2022•26 min•Season 2Ep. 41
In this dark, hysterical episode, my BFF/fellow relationship anxiety alchemist (and dance/movement therapist) Chelsea Joy Horton and I share the shadow side of nitpicking and the pleasure we might derive out of it if we were to become more conscious about it. Get ready to (maybe) get triggered and laugh your ass off as we discuss our outrageous fantasies that we get off to in real life. Definitely DON'T go follow Chelsea over at @healing.embodied on Instagram or www.healingembodied.com . It's te...
Jul 22, 2022•1 hr 9 min•Season 2Ep. 40
I’M BACK! I’ve gone through some huge transitions: got married, packed up and headed back abroad, and had a giant polarizing flip of dynamics in my relationship. In this episode, I catch you up AND share how important polarity is in your relationship in order to feel attraction. We’re just getting started. To join me in California Nov 8-13th for my women's retreat, Aliveness from Within, register here: https://www.anxiouslovecoach.com/aliveness-from-within...
Jul 19, 2022•48 min•Season 2Ep. 39
A new season of the Anxious Love Coach!
Jul 19, 2022•40 sec
I am thrilled to welcome a dear friend, mentor, and previous guest of mine — Luci Lampe. If part of your relationship anxiety stems from lack of sexual desire — you're going to want to listen. We also discuss how neediness can be an incredible gift to awakening sexually. I've been committed to a daily self-pleasure practice through diligently taking Luci's course "Come As You Are" and have seen incredible results. I've decided to be an ambassador and highly endorse Luci's gifts in this arena ;) ...
Apr 19, 2022•1 hr 11 min•Season 1Ep. 38
I just returned from a women's sensuality retreat in Costa Rica and re-discovered my love for my own femininity, women, and sisterhood. There are elements of this podcast that I think would be enormously helpful for women in relationships with men who experience HOCD, or homosexuality OCD. Enjoy, this was super juicy and fun and grounding to share. If you decide to proceed with purchasing a Foria product, use my link HERE: http://aspireiq.go2cloud.org/aff_c?offer_id=7178&aff_id=17813...
Mar 28, 2022•53 min•Season 1Ep. 37
Join my Aunt Diane and I on this podcast recorded from IG live. When I was experiencing relationship anxiety and compulsively seeking reassurance... this was the woman I called constantly until I felt comfortable enough to trust myself through this work. We had great fun with your questions and howled like hyenas. Enjoy and thanks for tuning in!
Mar 22, 2022•45 min•Season 1Ep. 36
Are you more anxious about your relationship right before your period? In this episode, we will address the menstrual cycle from a more holistic lens, and how to leverage each phase you're in to maximize the potential for you to connect with yourself and your partner.
Feb 19, 2022•1 hr 26 min•Season 1Ep. 35
Ah... my favorite dark rabbit hole... "Am I making a mistake?" If you question every decision you make, period, your relationship will fall under that line of scrutiny too. In this episode, I address how this line of thinking (not just in your relationship, but in life too!) can be useful... until it isn't.
Feb 13, 2022•36 min•Season 1Ep. 34
In this episode, my co-coach Sheridan and I explore the role of grief in unpacking anxiety within healthy, loving, flawed partnerships. It is so important to not take every thought at face value, but to dig deeper!
Dec 14, 2021•1 hr 2 min•Season 1Ep. 33
This episode has been needed for SO long! I'm aware that I most often speak to people who identify as women that are in relationships with people who identify as men. In this episode, I speak to why and also share ways to expand the conversation since I don't think the experience is exactly the same for all genders across the board! Please share your thoughts and experiences!
Nov 30, 2021•33 min•Season 1Ep. 32
The most common question I ever get asked gets answered in THIS podcast with one of my closest friends, Chelsea Horton, who is a fellow relationship anxiety specialist herself. Enjoy! If you love this podcast, please consider leaving a review! Every month, I choose a review and post it in my Instagram stories -- and that person can DM me a question of their choice and I will respond with a 1-2 minute voice note via Instagram.
Oct 31, 2021•55 min•Season 1Ep. 31
FINALLY, the episode so many of you have been asking for! Long-distance relationships take relationship anxiety to a whole new level. If you're wondering how to navigate relationship anxiety while in a long-distance relationship, this episode is for you. From basic fundamental rules of thumb to the nitty gritty details... we covered a LOT and I know this will be so validating and of service to so many of you. Work with Sheridan and me by finding us on www.anxiouslovecoach.com...
Sep 24, 2021•1 hr 2 min•Season 1Ep. 30
While I think it's so useful to normalize dips in attraction, that's only half the puzzle in satisfying long-term relationships! True empowerment comes from knowing how to shift sluggish, disempowering dynamics into self-aware, humble, inspiring ones. Tune in to learn how to do this. This was a complete game-changer in my relationship. If you’re ready to join our programs, visit www.anxiouslovecoach.com
Sep 04, 2021•37 min•Season 1Ep. 29
If you’ve ever found yourself confessing your intrusive thoughts to your partner in order to feel better, you’re not alone! However, you might be doing more harm to yourself and to your relationship than good. In this episode, I offer a compassionate view on where the urge to confess comes from, along with some reframes of how to stop it so that you can trust yourself and relieve your partner from the burden of having to rescue you from your discomfort. If you’re ready to join our programs, visi...
Aug 11, 2021•33 min•Season 1Ep. 28
