This is a raw and real voice text I recorded on my walk. I discuss the challenges/uncertainties of being a relationship coach. This episode includes my thoughts on this work, why uncertainty and doubt are absolute critical pieces to being open-minded, curious, and humble, and how it would be dangerous and disempowering to try and get rid of them. This felt delicious to record— enjoy. If you want to work with me, head to www.anxiouslovecoach.com.
Jul 31, 2021•14 min•Season 1Ep. 27
Today, I chat with my dear friend Mollie Birney, a clinical life coach, about how to utilize conflict in a relationship that is expansive and actually enhancing and -- dare I say -- enjoyable? Conflict is intended to be challenging but it doesn't have to feel like pulling teeth if we are able to own our shadows with confidence. If you struggle with relationship anxiety, we can often create meaning that isn't actually there, and it's so important to be able to own this fully in order to create re...
Jul 22, 2021•1 hr 4 min•Season 1Ep. 26
I'm overjoyed and humbled to bring on someone hugely impactful in my life. Shayna Hiller is a yoga and tantric arts teacher living in Venice Beach, California. Shayna has also been a business coach for me in the past and is one of the reasons I developed the confidence to share my truth today. Amazingly, our paths have crossed again -- particularly in the field of women's sensuality and empowerment. If you have a womb, and struggle to connect with your femininity, creativity, and/or sexuality, o...
Jun 30, 2021•55 min•Season 1Ep. 25
I often observe people struggling with relationship anxiety attempt to focus on the good components of the relationship as a way to make themselves feel more good and certain around the relationship and feel less doubt. While gratitude practices in and of themselves are wonderful, there is a shadow side to it that can prevent you from having the breakthrough to feel truly grateful and at ease around your wonderful partnership. In this IG live, I share how gratitude practices can actually prevent...
Jun 19, 2021•28 min•Season 1Ep. 24
This podcast episode was recorded on Instagram live after I was inspired by a conversation with a client, where she and I discussed the worst places to find relationship advice and why -- and where to find good relationship advice instead. Great news! Relationship Anxiety Alchemist, our flagship self-study course on dismantling relationship anxiety and moving towards presence, gratitude, and trust, is finally available on our website!
Jun 01, 2021•25 min•Season 1Ep. 23
Have you formed an alliance with society/family/friends or with your partner? In this episode, Chelsea Horton, Relationship Anxiety Specialist and dance therapist, joins me on IG live as we explain what's really happening when we feel embarrassed by our partner's imperfections in public. We also share what you can do to feel more at ease around this, and increase the likelihood of your partner showing up in a way you feel proud of and confident around. Please excuse the imperfect sound quality -...
May 17, 2021•49 min•Season 1Ep. 22
I’m so thrilled to introduce Sheridan Ruth to our community at Anxious Love Coach. She is a fantastic yoga therapist, meditation teacher, and embodiment coach with her own experience with relationship anxiety. We’ve brought her on as a co-coach to support us in our client outreach and working in our deeply immersive and transformative programs. In this episode, we’ll be talking triggers: what happens inside us when we get triggered by a certain message around relationships, steps to navigate the...
May 04, 2021•52 min•Season 1Ep. 21
I'm honored to bring my aunt, Diane Sigala, onto Anxious Love Coach today. In the throes of relationship anxiety, my aunt was a regular phone call I made to help me understand relationships (and men!) better. This is a delicious and sweet episode where I ask her to share the things that were helpful to me back in the darker days. I know you'll love this episode so much. Pull up a cup of tea and light a candle!
Mar 29, 2021•49 min•Season 1Ep. 19
If your partner is going through a dark phase and isn't able to be your rock, it's challenging to maintain an erotic connection or spark. If you're in the thick of this, there's hope-- and you're going to want to listen to this raw deep dive with my dear friend Luci Lampe. Luci Lampe is a mom of 4, sexual empowerment & mindset coach, award-winning singer and songwriter, commercial actress, lifestyle & fitness model, 3X author , and entrepreneur. Her writing has been featured on the Huffi...
Mar 15, 2021•1 hr 1 min•Season 1Ep. 18
This is a juicy one and very humbling. In this episode, I chat with my friend Mollie Birney, a clinical life coach, about the difference between autonomy-respecting boundaries and manipulative boundaries, how to know if you're showing up with an agenda in your boundary-setting, and what to do instead to create a culture of autonomy and safety in your relationship.
Mar 10, 2021•45 min•Season 1Ep. 17
Have you ever been disgusted by your partner being cute with you? This episode might not be for everyone -- but if you and your partner adore cute things and sometimes you start wishing things got more "intellectual" or "adult-like", I've put a lot of thought into this topic to give you some perspective on why this might be the case and what you can focus on to shift things to a deeper place in your relationship.
Mar 01, 2021•31 min•Season 1Ep. 16
This one comes deep from personal, local, and recent experience from my heart. When we are feeling starved in multiple aspects of our lives, it's common to look to our partners to fill in the gaps. In this episode, I make a point to help you identify why you might be projecting your emotional hunger into your relationship, what to do instead, and also a special tip at the end on requesting your needs to be met.
Feb 10, 2021•41 min•Season 1Ep. 15
When your partner is operating at what we might call a "low vibe," it's only natural our attraction will wane for the time being. We might take the lack of attraction we feel in that circumstance at face value and panic about whether we're in the right relationship! In this episode, I jump on TikTok Live (@anxiouslovecoach) to share where to re-route your attention and how to restore feelings after re-connecting with yourself first.
Jan 18, 2021•38 min•Season 1Ep. 14
Every worry you're "settling" if you stay with your partner? You're not alone: this thought process isn't your fault and it has good reason for being there-- but there are a ton of ways it isn't helpful when looking at relationships, especially for someone that struggles with relationship OCD. In this episode, we will debunk the myth of "settling" and empower you with some better language to use about your relationship so that you can enjoy what's wonderful right in front of you!
Jan 04, 2021•39 min•Season 1Ep. 13
There is one thing that so many people with relationship anxiety struggle to give themselves... and in this episode, I cover exactly that while hopping live in my exclusive Facebook group, The Anxious Love Coach Collective -- link to join in the show notes. HAPPY HOLIDAYS, and I hope this podcast has been helpful for you. If you'd like to apply to work with me 1:1 or join my group mentorship program, you can apply via the link below. Anxious Love Coach Collective FB group Apply to work 1:1 or jo...
Dec 14, 2020•43 min•Season 1Ep. 12
I tried to break up multiple times with both my long-term partners of whom I experienced ROCD with -- and a hard majority of those "pull-aways" happened around the holidays. Back then the timing seemed so random, but I see today something much deeper was going on and that this emotional inner turmoil was actually a pattern in hindsight. In this episode, I share how the holidays can exacerbate relationship anxiety and what you can do about it.
Dec 07, 2020•41 min•Season 1Ep. 11
A common theme with relationship anxiety is the fierce struggle for reconciliation between wanting to be independent and dependent. Tune in with my friend Mollie Birney, a clinical coach with an eye for mental health, as we dive into the truth about peoples' relationships to independence and how it can be a trauma response that blocks us from experiencing intimacy and connection.
Nov 16, 2020•50 min•Season 1Ep. 10
You’re not attracted to a partner you control — and controlling behavior is a common way to avoid feeling “out of control.” However, it’s a huge contributor to feelings of dissatisfaction and disgust in relationship and ROCD. In this episode, I cover how to identify when we’re stepping into controlling behaviors, how to have compassion for ourselves when this happens, why this doesn’t serve you or the partnership, and what to do instead.
Nov 02, 2020•39 min•Season 1Ep. 9
In a culture of cancellation that tells you to leave when you're not feeling it, the perspective to stay and do a deep dive into yourself instead of dropping out of the relationship, may be a controversial one. In this episode we normalize falling out of love, while also giving you 10 steps to restore your faith in the partnership.
Oct 05, 2020•52 min•Season 1Ep. 8
In this episode, I interview one of my incredible coaching and meditation clients, Shannon, who came to me struggling with Relationship OCD/Relationship Anxiety. She shares what her awakening process looked like without the fluff, and the new wisdom she has acquired. She also gives warm encouragement and suggestions for those who are in the swamp of ROCD right now. You can find the video up on my Youtube channel.
Sep 04, 2020•24 min•Season 1Ep. 7
One of my biggest fears in the past was that I'd be perceived as a narcissist. I resorted to frequent people-pleasing so people could think I was "good" in order to try and prevent this. Problem is, it led me to being more resentful and self-centered anyway around people I loved (including my partner). People tell you "if you worry you're a narcissist, you aren't one" but there's more to it than that. If you ever worry you're a narcissist and would like to get relief from this worry, this episod...
Aug 25, 2020•43 min•Season 1Ep. 6
When I was in the thick of Relationship Anxiety, comments like: "maybe you should leave" "maybe he's just not the right person for you" "you're young, maybe you just need to explore" were enough to send me into a gut-wrenching spiral of anxiety. In this episode, I get to the root of why this is so painful and also how you can respond.
Jul 24, 2020•30 min•Season 1Ep. 5
When you're experiencing relationship anxiety, hearing "trust your gut" or "listen to your intuition" can be one of the most triggering things you can hear. Is your intuition telling you to leave, or is it ROCD? Tune in with Chelsea Joy Horton, OCD specialist with her masters in dance movement therapy and counseling. Together we share the more accurate measurements of determining how to trust your decision about your partner.
Jul 02, 2020•1 hr 3 min•Season 1Ep. 4
In this episode, I uncover the psychology of resistance to sex with our partners, along with the techniques I use to release this resistance and open up to intimacy in the bedroom.
Jun 23, 2020•33 min•Season 1Ep. 3
We're talking what to do if your relationship anxiety causes you to be attracted to someone else! "If you love two people at the same time, choose the second. Because if you truly loved the first, you wouldn't have fallen in love with the second." I dissected this popular quote (which is loaded) by Johnny Depp over on Instagram live and give you strategies for pulling out of the fantasy and reconnecting with your partner.
Jun 22, 2020•39 min•Season 1Ep. 2
After years of having doubts in my (now) 8-year partnership, I managed to stumble into a breakthrough where I was finally able to confidently and joyfully commit to my awesome partner. In this episode, I share my organic story on how I went from doubting to loving.
Jun 11, 2020•36 min•Season 1Ep. 1
