I just listened to your conversation with Caroline about freedom and presence. At one point you asked her „what money represents“… and I translated it inwardly for me to my issue :-) „what having a man for me represents“… The answers I got instantly were: - security - being worthy of love - being worthy in society - being lovable from a society point of view (look at me I made it) - being „normal“ - belonging to my „tribe“ I know that it is conditioning and beliefs… that a man does not give me s...
Nov 07, 2022•12 min
One question that is arising for quite some time is...What the F*** happened to learning capacity over time?As you're saying learning happened or happens automatically. There is no decider no chooser or doer. And still it seems learning slows down through life comparing to this super turbo learning that happens in childhood years and when the system is a huge sponge absorbing lotz of different information. Is rise of idea of SELF slowing all this down turning it into rusty old machinery only pro...
Nov 06, 2022•9 min
On your recent podcast with Piers Thurston, I heard you say ’something that is manifested from within us and then held in place by our resistance to it. I understand how we hold it in place by our resistance to whatever it is, but am not clear about the manifesting part. Do you mean we create it due to our conditioning? Or is it something to do with the Law Of Attraction whereby we attract situations to us due to our way of being in the world? Or both?? Or something else altogether? Thanking you...
Nov 05, 2022•12 min
I'm in wondering mode. I've long wondered about the phenomenon of multiple personalities. I guess it's called Dissociative Identity Disorder now. It's long fascinated me how each of the personalities can display abilities and even physical limitations that the other personalities don't have. I have a deep wordless feeling that this speaks to and illustrates what we're learning in your courses. The lack of solidity, the creativity of the identified mind. I'd love to hear your take on what you thi...
Nov 04, 2022•8 min
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Nov 03, 2022•16 min
I was chatting to the sister of someone I knew 30 years ago. She mentioned that her brother felt there was something off with me back then. I felt denial rise and fall. Before I replied saying something like well I'm in a better space now. But then came a sense of dread - was it that obvious that I was fucked up? I was oblivious to it. Was I that bad?
Nov 02, 2022•7 min
A brief summary of this episode
Nov 01, 2022•10 min
I've just listened to your podcast on "Unconditional Love". Can you say a little about how to parent our inner child? One of the reasons I was drawn to non duality was that I liked the idea of there being no self. This is largely because I don't like myself. Thru the years of listening I realize this isn't at all what it's trying to point to. As with the previous writers' child, I too have a lot of suicidal ideation. This might be too large a topic for a podcast, but maybe there's a few things y...
Oct 31, 2022•15 min
Could you speak a bit about common sense how do you see it? Is it the expression of intelligence behind life or it's well engraved learned program offering illusional stability to self and to maintain the belief that there is a seperate decider/doer from where we run our lives? Somehow common sense has been a great GPS through my life as very solid & clear guidance.
Oct 30, 2022•11 min
A conversation with the excellent Piers Thurston ahead of the November on-line course WANT. https://piersthurston.com The membership to have access to on-line courses is now closed. You can click here to join the wait-list for when it next opens. https://claredimond.simplero.com
Oct 28, 2022•1 hr 21 min
The moment has come when I’ve been asked to do something that fills me with abject fear and would require throwing out all my safety behaviours. I know the answer is in me not out there but i don’t know which voice it is! I have been asked to speak at a large gala dinner early next year. It will be late on in the evening (already I am uncomfortable at that part alone!) in front of 300 people and all my colleagues. About 12 years ago I had a panic attack on stage during a work presentation- my fi...
Oct 28, 2022•12 min
I'm struggling with my phobic reaction around health checks, specifically blood pressure. I have my pre op screening on the 31st Oct and was just looking at the appointment letter to see what was involved. I had a reaction which I can only describe as a full blown anxiety attack. The adrenal rush was huge, my heart rate went into overdrive and god only knows where my blood pressure is. Tunnel vision, dizzy, the works. Two hours later I am still suffering from the after-effects....feeling really ...
Oct 27, 2022•14 min
My question is this. What if what the person you are with is saying “I don’t want to carry on living and I want to end my life” in terms of accepting what the other chooses to do with their actions. What I think I’m seeing in the book is that I can’t yet tell what is being actually said as there’s still massive reaction to these words so more work to be done first. Currently then I’m in reaction to me and my needs trying to be met via her and so no space for her and in fact a pushing away of the...
Oct 26, 2022•13 min
I notice that i have many judgements about the way I look. On a theoretical level I understand that this is a layer of thought, and not reality. But it seems so real. Because it looks so real, I have all kinds of behaviour in place in order to manage the ‘fact’ that I am ugly. A couple of examples are: Avoiding to give interviews on camera, searching for ways to improve my posture, frequently going to the hairdresser etc. Can you explain how I can use this way of seeing myself in order to deepen...
Oct 25, 2022•18 min
My darling clare dimond, I honestly don’t know how to express the impact your latest most personal book has had on me. As you always so lovingly say to me and others in our community, you’re speaking for all of us, Clare! Nothing could be more true in my case. As you know and we have talked about, i was in a 2 year relationship with a man whom i was convinced would be my life partner, and in June when he told me for the 2nd time he could not give me the “commitment” that i wanted l, i broke it o...
Oct 24, 2022•9 min
Should I ask my father if I was the reason he left (Follow up to Oct 13th podcast)
Oct 23, 2022•11 min
We think that we resist certain states because they are there, but actually they are there because we resist them. Adyashanti
Oct 22, 2022•9 min
I am in the midst of a six week course called radical love shift based on the work of Byron Katie. doing the worksheets with different partners from the course has been very powerful and I’m glad I joined especially now given my recent breakup. However, there is confusion when it comes to non dual conversation and some of these practices around “falling in love” with myself. Maybe I’m just overthinking it but wondering what your thoughts are on the assignment to make a list of what i need/want i...
Oct 21, 2022•7 min
After listening to your podcast today (Oct 6th) re Syd’s quote about Free Will and then listening to some of these podcasts below. I am once again confused as to wether what you are sharing is aligned with The Three Principles? Sydney Banks said that 'when you live in a beautiful feeling, it will teach you everything you need to know. ' Is this ‘beautiful feeling’ something completely different from 'sitting in the feeling' that you encourage us to do? Is one Universal beautiful feelings and the...
Oct 20, 2022•8 min
Hi Clare, Can you speak more to the idea that this conversation isn't attempting to get rid of the self, or if it is? The more inquiry that happens, the more it seems that suffering IS the self. For example in one of your books you point out that feeling grief is not the self, it's the resistance to it or a belief that it's wrong to feel grief is where the self is. As more practice at 'being with sensations' is happening, it feels like the suffering isn't there when the inquiry goes into the bod...
Oct 19, 2022•8 min
I have some trouble to see how faith and trust fit into this conversation. I always had a strong knowing that I am guided, and all will just work out in some way. Like being part of a benevolent universe. So if we are life living, and there is no me, then there is also no me some universe may care about. Life moves towards thriving, but as I see it, not in a particular way, when we look at biology, like plants and animals. It seems the one particular tube is not important in the big picture. So ...
Oct 18, 2022•9 min
I think the real question for me is how did you come to be teaching the way you do? Is this something you have developed yourself from your personal work? Are there other 3P teachers pointing to the same thing? Is this what non-duality is pointing to?
Oct 17, 2022•7 min
I seem to have created a situation on my life including a romantic relationship which exactly mirrors the painful feelings of abandonment from childhood. I am triggered constantly inbetween some brief periods of feeling secure and safe. I could eliminate some of triggers by ending the relationship but then I know I will be seeking again to fill that void. It is really difficult and I often feel unhappy to constantly get triggered so I want this to end but I’m very scared and maybe I will recreat...
Oct 17, 2022•7 min
We have tried everything to get rid of suffering. We have gone everywhere to get rid of suffering. We have bought everything to get rid of it. We have ingested everything to get rid of it. Finally, when one has tried enough, there arises the possibility of spiritual maturity with the willingness to stop the futile attempt to get rid of it and, instead, to actually experience suffering. In that momentous instant, there is the realization of that which is beyond suffering, of that which is untouch...
Oct 15, 2022•8 min
This question keeps returning to me So thought I’d ask again! I am feeling safer gradually but I do find that when a person/situation triggers the child in me I still cannot move one way or another either in out away. It’s like I’m stuck there What to do?
Oct 14, 2022•8 min
I’m leaving in just over a week to be with my dying dad. He left us when I was 6 and I didn’t see him again until I was 31. Something I’m aware of is a programme acquired around not being enough and things being my fault and I’ve wondered recently if this comes from a small child’s mind creating associations and innocent beliefs about that situation. I would like to directly ask my dad if he left because I wasn’t good enough or whether I did anything wrong. I feel that perhaps hearing his respon...
Oct 13, 2022•10 min
Email 1 I am loving the ‘do the thing’ theme and have a question that I hope you can help as I sense that at the root of this will be a huge shift. My father and I have had a difficult relationship for many years and we maintain the peace by keeping our conversations fairly superficial and avoid any ’sticky’ subjects. I call him every week to 10 days and notice myself getting uptight leading up to the call and then feeling completely relieved when it is over. He always thanks me for calling but ...
Oct 12, 2022•13 min
'What was your revelation of no free will?' Listener question
Oct 11, 2022•8 min
Thank you again for a insightful conversation we had during 1:1 call. It was a big opener for me as I noticed that till then I misunderstood the principle of thought. I understood that feelings are product of my thinking about circumstance in my life. As i see it now from our conversation, feelings arise from thought (universal energy) and there comes feeling. For that feeling, we then look outside in our circumstances to attribute it to something, to pin it to some happening in our life. So thr...
Oct 10, 2022•6 min
The Myth of Normal by Gabor Maté (part 1) Sunday Book
Oct 09, 2022•10 min
