Byron Katie turn arounds : listener question

I am in the midst of a six week course called radical love shift based on the work of Byron Katie.  doing the worksheets with different partners from the course has been very powerful and I’m glad I joined especially now given my recent breakup. 

However, there is confusion when it comes to non dual conversation and some of these practices around  “falling in love” with myself.  Maybe I’m just overthinking it but wondering what your thoughts are on the assignment to make a list of what i need/want in a relationship and then turn each one around to the “self” what self?

An example: 

I need my partner to love me unconditionally. Turned around; I need me to love myself unconditionally. 

You may of already addressed this topic in another podcast but If Not, love to have your answer on a podcast…