if we keep heading into and even appreciating the suffering, surely we’ll just keep finding ever more of it. In your mind that’s a good thing (!), in my mind ‘why would you want to ruin every day looking for more experiences of suffering?’ Why not choose to spend your time looking for all the obvious beauty, love and joyful moments instead? It seems to me we get more of what we focus on….? I guess I cannot get my head around the fact that you would rather be in suffering than happiness - so that...
Oct 08, 2022•23 min
'Who f**king cares?' Listener comment on a post about free will
Oct 07, 2022•9 min
I listened to a Syd Banks talk in which he said we have the free will to use our thinking in any way we liked. He said if someone argues with you that they don’t have free will, they are using their free will to argue with you.
Oct 06, 2022•13 min
You talk a lot of a witness. If there is no separate self or part of us that is separate, isn’t a witness only another creation of the mind? How can we be a witness to feelings, thoughts or behaviours and be present and whole in the moment? Wouldn’t it mean that when we’re witnessing, we’re creating separation within ourselves?
Oct 05, 2022•6 min
The topic of calling in sick at work more than other people do.. Followed by guilt, and waiting for annoyed reactions of the people who get affected by this. Today I am sick for the second time this month. I called in sick, got an annoyed reply and started to be scared about not being good enough, eventually loosing my job and everyone gossiping about me. All those thoughts about am I just too weak, should I pull myself together and go there anyways, started showing up. And I don't know what to ...
Oct 04, 2022•14 min
Doing the thing - part 2
Oct 03, 2022•7 min
How to navigate?
Oct 02, 2022•13 min
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Oct 02, 2022•9 min
A rat in a maze is free to go anywhere, as long as it stays inside the maze. Margaret Atwood
Oct 01, 2022•9 min
Hi Clare, I have a question about the 'do the thing' thing.😂 This is quite a topic at the moment in the group and also you mentioned it in one Play video again in the context of looking for a good feeling. I get the concept intellectually, and I also 'do the thing' for many years now, about seven or so, I feel the sensations, survive the thing, and on it goes again. Next time: same debilitating symptoms, same freeze, nausea, not being able to concentrate on anything else, like the life is on ho...
Sep 30, 2022•14 min
Is what we are talking about dangerous?
Sep 29, 2022•18 min
Dear Clare I wonder if you could shed some light on the area of indecisiveness. I have been in a relationship for around 18 months and for about the last 6 months am unsure whether to continue with it or not. I seem to change my mind on this constantly. It’s a push pull feeling and I watch my mind go back and forward with the dilemma. I am going around in circles and I feel like I am 50/50 and unable to decide. It feels quite unfair on my partner as he can sense me pulling away or having cold fe...
Sep 28, 2022•10 min
A brief summary of this episode
Sep 27, 2022•6 min
A quick report. I have listened to snippets of Play and some of this weeks webinar. It’s all been too much to take on. I have had a deadline to meet this month ending next Friday. Completing paintings for an exhibition. I’ve been overwhelmed and gripped by fear. Im “trying” to remain calm and feel comfortable with being in the space where I am feeling shaken, swamped and inadequate. Completing tasks fills me with dread, navigating things to do in a timeline is a crushing stress. All I want to do...
Sep 26, 2022•12 min
I seem to have got myself to a point where I am asking myself, simply...what is the purpose of life? Why bother? If all I am is awareness, what is the point? Why put up with the hassle of everyday existence? I'm alive now, doing what I do, then at some point, I won't be! It's inevitable. People come, people go. In amongst all the emotions of the Queen's dying, I was prompted to look up an old friend on the internet. We were VERY close between my marriages, so about 21 years ago. We didn't stay i...
Sep 25, 2022•14 min
Many spiritual people are involved in a radical denial of what is happening. They want to transcend it, get rid of it, get out of it, get away from it. There's nothing wrong with that feeling, but the approach doesn't work because it's escapism in spiritual clothing. It's wearing spiritual clothing and spiritual concepts, but it is really no different than a drunk in the gutter who doesn't want to feel the pain anymore. When you abide and accept everything completely and fully, you automatically...
Sep 24, 2022•8 min
Thank you for all your amazing courses. I continue to listen and learn every day and am finding what you teach invaluable in so many ways. I was listening to your podcast a couple of days ago entitled 'resistance, acceptance and choice' and the idea of ultimate accountability resonates with me (this also links with the story you told about the young girl working with Byron Katie who said her Dad bullied her. Byron Katie asked the girl that if her father was holding a gun to her head and said 'cl...
Sep 23, 2022•14 min
If there is no doer how does anything get done? And why do you suggest doing things like therapy or no-brainers.
Sep 22, 2022•11 min
Resistance, acceptance and choice
Sep 21, 2022•10 min
In the 3 principles understanding, it's seen we feel our thinking in the moment - is this also part of your teaching and if it isn't what do you see that's different? Thank you.
Sep 20, 2022•10 min
I have a question about today’s podcast (Friday 16th Sept) What you said is so true, I love it. The only thing not clear is what you mean when you say ‚remove or put in the barriers‘. I sounds to me like you need willpower and effort to do that. If we could just remove the barriers we would have done it long ago. My personal experience with food and exercise and substances is, when you fully feel the effects it has on the system the behavior changes by itself over time. You don’t have to remove ...
Sep 19, 2022•8 min
There’s no such thing as overreacting; it’s just that what someone is reacting to may no longer be what’s in front of them. Terrence Real
Sep 18, 2022•11 min
We’ll continue to lose what completes us until we realise we are already complete. That’s what pain teaches you— that you’ll always have a wound when your wholeness depends on another… and your love will always be conditional when it comes with the condition that you are incomplete without them. Mark Groves
Sep 17, 2022•9 min
A brief summary of this episode
Sep 16, 2022•6 min
The body
Sep 15, 2022•8 min
Sorry for asking this again, you have spoken so much about this and still it‘s not really clear here what you mean by no self accountability. The no self part seems clear, there is no doer, life just lives and expresses through us shaped by our individual systems build of many things like genetics and conditioning. Maybe this already is wrong? So what is the accountability part besides noticing what happens and acknowledging it happens in this unit. If I follow the logic even if there is noticin...
Sep 14, 2022•15 min
I am a little hesitant to ask this question as I suspect that I am not going to like the answer, but here goes anyway…. I was raised in a family that was very ‘reserved’ we did not raise our voices, express emotions openly, disagree with anyone in public etc. Of-course I married someone who’s family is quite the opposite ,lots of arguments, yelling, cutting off relationships over minor disagreements etc. At first I found this quite refreshing and if I were to be honest, was quite intrigued and e...
Sep 13, 2022•12 min
I am at an in-between stage in my life, retiring from a very fulfilling and fun career as a veterinarian and looking at what is next for me. I feel I am in a place where I would like to make some kind of contribution to this world of chaos that seems to be ramping up, yet am hesitant to jump into trying to 'fix the world’ out there that is just made up of my projections. I do not have many limitations or restrictions on what I could do but as a result feel somewhat overwhelmed by the courses/cho...
Sep 12, 2022•9 min
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Sep 11, 2022•7 min
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Sep 10, 2022•9 min
