What I found harsh is: You are pointing toward a gap. It sounded to me like you are saying: look, where you stand right now, suffering will go on forever. What you see right now, will not help you. Unless you see this, there is actually no relief from all this. (in reference to Feb 3rd podcast)
'Ready for Anything, 52 productivity principles for work and life' by David Allen.
"But sometimes... and not very often... sometimes we'd get glimpses of the truth. We'd see someone across a crowded room at the prom and our heart would stop. Our thoughts about ourselves would disappear and it felt like we were in heaven. What was happening? Were we falling in love? Maybe what really stopped at that moment wasn't the heart. What if what stopped was just all those thoughts? All those thoughts that were headed for the future or else going into the past. What if when the truth (be...
Can you talk about planning? My coach said it is better to just turn up and let wisdom take over...
Can you speak to why it looks like there is a me that is making a choice? Is it that the brain creates a narrative that links the behavior the system took, based on what made sense/learning/belief in the moment, to an "I"? For example, it looks like there is a "me" that either pays things on time or not. Yet I can see that the system would learn due dates, and use them, while the brain could then claim that behavior after and say "I did that".
Can you tell me your thoughts about tools such as the Enneagram and Human Design. They seem to be quite helpful for many people but I wonder if this is another way of solidifying the ’self’ and may actually confuse the understanding I am gaining from your work?
How do I address the physical symptoms that seem to prevent me taking on this wonderful information?? For example, I can become so overwhelmed (shutdown) during a webinar I have no recall of the content.
'I don't exist? What does that mean?' Listener question
Work Clean, The Life Changing Power of Mise-En-Place to Organise your life, work and mind by Dan Charnas
Today's Wonder-Full Words are from Michael Neill When our thoughts look real, we live in a world of suffering. When they look subjective, we live in a world of choice. When they look arbitrary, we live in a world of possibility. And when we see them as illusory, we wake up inside a world of dreams.
I've been thinking about healing and I know I've heard people talk about healing also heals generational lines backwards and forwards. This makes sense in quantum physics and 'oneness' terms but not to the human mind view of linear time. Can you say more?
Follow up to 15 Jan podcast I listened to your answer to my question and I must admit that I've been reeling in a bit of a shame spiral. I may not have articulated it well, but my question was about seeing more within myself, not about how I could change them. I'm not at all going around telling my family that I know better and here's what they need to do, or judging them. What's happening is that I'm silently noticing the Grandchildren develop an identity that is based on the premise that their...
I have been reflecting on my reactions in my close relationships. I truly believe (I'm actually convinced) that my reactions to a person are a reflection of what's going within me so I am always happy to look at myself and explore that. I have been thinking about two romantic relationships. Two different people. Very similar circumstances. Same me. Yet, it was only when with that one person that I had unbelievably strong, visceral painful reactions. For example, I would have trust issues with on...
I am multi-passionate/curious about many things. I find it hugely energising to learn about new things, give myself space to pursue different possibilities and seemingly have options. However, I know underneath what is happening is what makes sense to happen based on the programming and until the programming changes the behaviour won’t change. I can see there is nothing wrong with the behaviour but at times it means that I can feel I am pulling myself too thinly and not making the progress possi...
'The Expectation Effect' by David Robson. The Sunday Book.
This image of yourself is obviously not real. Any more than the idea of a tree is a tree. Any more than you can get wet in the word ‘water’. Alan Watts
I am interested in joining the course but I am also coming up with all sorts of reasons why I shouldn't!! I suppose the main area I am suffering in life is that when I was 8 years old I came upon using food to dull down uncomfortable feelings from a difficult period of childhood. So innocent I know but I am still doing that aged 58. I think I have tried everything to stop this habit and my mind is saying it is just another tactic and quite an expensive one too. I am also aware it is the same 'mi...
I’m currently working through Voice in your membership and have a question that is bothering me. If I start to see the illusion of me and see that the identity doesn’t exist then does that mean others disappear? If ‘I’ don’t exist then nor do ‘others’? I know this can’t be true but since the thought has passed through my mind I thought it would be helpful to ask the question since it’s clearly going to hold back my exploration! I’m quite keen for this crappy insecure identity to disappear but no...
I love participating in your courses but have come to realise I am doing them in an attempt to feel better. I experienced early trauma (I’ve never felt safe) which on reflection seems to have underpinned most of my life. Interestingly, the ‘symptoms’ (freeze etc) of the trauma are becoming almost unbearable, whilst at the same time my conscious mind ‘piles’ on the pressure to move forward and achieve. It simply feels impossible to achieve anything given the opposing ‘forces’ and this is becoming...
I am really tempted to do your new Home course. It sounds really fascinating and I loved the last course I did with you year ago. My only hesitation is sometimes I felt left behind by some of the people on the course deeper into the understanding you centre on. Whilst I know comparison of ‘me’ vs ‘them’ is unhelpful it did mean I sometimes found the live sessions a little overwhelming and my brain decided a few times that I didn’t really get it and therefore it was pointless. I suppose what I am...
I have read all of your books but one and I get glimpses but the books (and the course I took) tend to make me think more and get conceptual. Is your goal here to really to have many of us awaken during the course or learn more about awakening?
Busting Loose from the Money Game by Robert Scheinfeld Every Sunday we will look at a book that is relevant to this conversation.
Your habit is not “you” and it is not personal. It is simply your brain doing what it does. Dr Amy Johnson We are beginning a series called Wonder-Full Words. Each Saturday we will look at a particularly powerful sentence or quote, wherever possible exploring it directly with the author. Today's words are from Dr Amy Johnson, author or the Little Book of Big Change and Just a Thought. https://dramyjohnson.com...
I am in part aiming to transition from a career in the corporate world to a career in the third sector after voluntary work in the sector. I find myself naturally moving in that direction and really energised. One question I have been contemplating is the significant disparity in pay between the two sectors. I can see that money is a concept and as such nothing about it is ‘true’ and yet it doesn’t seem to make sense that they should be so differently paid. I appreciate that there are narratives...
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I have a question about fear and avoidance. I heard you say to ask what the fear is and do it anyway and this will transform something. I have panic attacks as soon as I have a session (I am a therapist, or I was, because I stopped doing it). I just couldn’t tolerate this feeling anymore. I inquired into it (I feared I will die or dissolve), I felt the body sensations ( a lot, because this is where I come from as a body and movement therapist), later, when I came across the 3P I tried to see it ...
It seems we are consistently questioning reality in this understanding. Is there a potential in this of gaslighting ourselves? The question comes up in view of adverse childhood experiences. When we are babies and our identity hasn’t formed yet and our primary care takers are confused and traumatised themselves, the main survival mechanism for the brain is to conclude that „I am bad“ and later „the world is dangerous“. That seems to be running deep in the system. Sometimes when I immerse myself ...
About ADHD. Several years back i was told by psychiatrist i could have ADD (the more "dreamy' version) Can we see it as (different) neurotype instead of a diagnosis/label/"you are broken" point of view? The label or problem is made up but i think we can't deny the human body mind had different types of form. The "i" can easily get lost in the story of i have Add so "i am broken". So on the other hand we can acknowledge the diversity and get real with it what can leads to freedom.No denial but al...
I'm hoping you can help me see something new around worry and preoccupation with my Grandchildren. I can see that the Parents are doing the best they can from what looks true for them, but from my perspective I can see how much of it is based on misunderstanding. And I see my Grandchildren soaking it up (as the learning sponges that they are) and I just want to jump in constantly and say no - don't believe it! For example, my Son and his Wife put my 12 year old Grand Daughter on anti-anxiety med...
Can you please do a podcast on What's at stake, I have been using that phrase and it really helps. When the need to ask that comes to mind it is usually at a time when the sensations are so constrictive and felt so deep. It has been helping me to not react at those times. It helps to have that realization that the only thing at stake is the thought of the identity. Why is it that the sensations are so dramatic at that time?
