One thing remains a bit of a mystery (Well, not just one, but this is flavor of the day!). Why does the identified mind continue to feel the compulsion to pounce on us with anxieties and concerns the moment we open our eyes in the morning? It doesn’t make a lot of sense. I can’t speak for my friend, but for my part I generally surrender to sleep with thoughts of gratitude for the day that I have had the delight of experiencing. Sleep comes easily. I sleep well. Morning arrives without the jarrin...
May 12, 2022•9 min
I understand that the concept of good and bad are just that, and the identity is fixed in place, through this process. So, if I was in this scenario, and purposely change the words with no reference to "you're good", who is taking control there? Who makes the change? Is it is something to do with prior conditioning or does the identity have some ability to affect change? As you have said before to try and answer our own questions.... So, what came up is - Is it the identity trying not to do some...
May 12, 2022•8 min
My biggest problem right now is that I feel like I'm in a prison that I can't get out of. Things that people take for granted like having a shower have become very difficult for me and whatever I do doesn't seem good enough. My adult children are suffering because they are trying to help me but are frustrated because I'm not doing anything to help myself eg eat healthy food and exercise. I seem to have no desire to do anything at all. I seem to be very lazy and also incompetent and I don't know ...
May 11, 2022•18 min
As you know I lost my husband at the end of last year. I found you just after that. In the grief, the pain, the loss, the sadness, the heartache, the fear, the insecurity and situations that I have now to face without my reference point my soul mate I have never before been in the reality of life as I am now. I have come to understand that I have Spiritually bypassed and denied so much of life. The courses and books you write are showing me this. I am feeling and being present like never before....
May 10, 2022•12 min
I have a question about the difference between depression, numbness, and what you sometimes call 'intelligence'. Life has been hard recently. Sometimes I have felt some relief, when the stories about what 'should' be drop away and there is just the bareness and rawness of what is there. The thing is that I don't know whether this is 'me' seeing through the stories of the self, or just giving up and lapsing into a kind of numbness or spiritual bypassing, since when it happens it feels like a kind...
May 09, 2022•12 min
'A mind at home with itself', by Byron Katie. Sunday book
May 08, 2022•7 min
Hi Clare, I am still listening to your daily podcasts. Each time I take a break I am drawn back and catch up. Sometimes the understanding lands and sometimes I just listen. Going through an interesting period of change this Spring. This quote of yours, taken from a webinar, helped me though the past two years of pandemic uncertainty. Please can you open up about these wonderful words in a May podcast.
May 07, 2022•10 min
You point out that every time the mind creates a thought that is then believed to be about the "me", so awareness becomes identified with that thought, the body will resist this. So any time there is this resistance, this repellent pushing away of one of these thoughts, (for example "people won't like me if they know me") this is a signal that the mind is believing something of its own creation. And when you say the thought isn't true you don't mean that the suffering isn't valid, that it's not ...
May 06, 2022•14 min
I really enjoyed the GOLD course and feel like I have gotten a lot out of it, but in a surprising, to me, indirect way. While I’m not without plenty of money issues, this is not my most pressing concern. The gift of this course for me has been that, as I watched the lessons, a distance, a space, a measure of objectivity, opened for me . As you discussed untangling money from the self-identified mind, over and over I heard money as a metaphor for anything the mind uses to seek security, worth, lo...
May 05, 2022•15 min
If the idea of me is based and built on conditioned beliefs why do we concentrate on it, why do many people teach to change the idea of a me. Why not look at the flowing of energy and knowing that the energy just flows and there is no identification that is real. The identification stems from conditioned beliefs that just are not true.
May 04, 2022•6 min
I want something to do about it. I just don't want to be like this anymore. But I'm scared I'm in too deep, creating an unhappy life. I saw I was doing it, but was too scared, fear, guilt. As if I can, could not admit. I guess I have to protect something. I'm so tensed in my jaws, mouth. I think a story of guilt, fear is playing around, keeping things in place. Guilt is a big one. (a lot of thinking about relation, work) I'm disappointed that I have become like this, creating this story, mess. H...
May 03, 2022•11 min
I have been studying 3P for two years now. Via a podcast by Nicola Bird I found your book REAL. Read it, like it. But two weeks ago I read it again and it hit me like a brick. I have read many 3P books, and I understand it. But now all of sudden it saw it on a next and deeper level. So I joined your one month program. And strangely enough (I am at day 6 now) most of it is over my head. The videos and the live talk. I like it, but what are they saying? But in your book I understand almost everyth...
May 02, 2022•8 min
'See what you made me do. Power, control and domestic abuse' by Jess Hill. The Sunday Book
May 01, 2022•10 min
'Clean': Wonderful Word of the Week
Apr 29, 2022•11 min
I noticed how much of my life I'm navigating from my feelings. How I'm deciding to do or not to do something (for a example call a person on phone) on the basis how I feel in that moment. Even considering myself confident or not confident is perceived or judged from my feeling. I guess this is a part of my conditioning. I also loved your explanation on a HOME course how this learned system is corresponding with circumstances and others moment by moment. I understand this as taking actions and be...
Apr 29, 2022•13 min
Thank you for the money course. The first two days have really got me thinking about how my relationship with money has developed and is now represented by the word itself. I can also see how it is so closely entwined with the identity, of who I am, whether or not I am worthy or responsible. Day 3, no self-accountability was different. Although I have heard of this before in previous courses, the accountability part resonates but the no self part is very grey. It highlights how this identity sti...
Apr 28, 2022•13 min
I wonder if you can help me... I was introduced to the 3ps a few years ago and took a deep dive into them. My coach has been pointing to the idea of non duality, and I can feel there is something for me to see here. I'm intrigued to say the least. What do you see is the difference (if any), between the understanding of the principles and non duality and where do these understandings overlap?
Apr 27, 2022•9 min
Once again just when I think I have got my head around this conversation there is a podcast that makes me want to yell at you! I do see that there is often a reflection out there of something in myself when I judge others. Is this true EVERY time we judge others? What about Hitler?? Surely I don’t have to look at myself when there is such hideous behaviour. I am kind of dreading and also looking forward to your response as I am sure there is more for me to see… Thank you fo always making us look...
Apr 26, 2022•9 min
Repressed feeelings of abandonment keep surfacing again and again and there is confusion spiritually.. do I stay with them and the thoughts arising or look from awareness? Sometimes I stay as the feelings and it’s very uncomfortable and sometimes I see them from afar. Then there’s overthinking about how to deal with it all and even as I say that it sounds crazy like who is trying to do that?
Apr 25, 2022•10 min
Are we smart enough to know how smart animals are?' by Frans de Waal. The Sunday Book
Apr 24, 2022•7 min
Instructions for living a life. Pay attention. Be astonished. Tell about it.” ― Mary Oliver
Apr 23, 2022•10 min
Can you say more about the idea of self centeredness qualities when there is no self? There is a best friend of my partner's who this mind judges as cheap, selfish, know it all, and self centered. Which of course is just a reflection of how I am being...or rather what this system does based on what is believed. And the same is true for him. There is resistance to not liking him, to feeling these judgments. Resisting them makes it worse. Beyond noticing this system flip flopping in pretending to ...
Apr 22, 2022•13 min
I am probably someone who keeps things, mysery in place, especially hurtful thinking, living, that I don't recognize it anymore etc. Or I am just to scared to do something about , acknowledge it. Or don't care. New or nice things are not allowed, I can't or don't know how to enjoy that anymore. Or if I feel it, it's not important, enough etc. or I numb. (automatically). For me it almost means 'that's just how I am' , sometimes it feels I am' killing', destroying myself, giving up. In a way I fee...
Apr 21, 2022•10 min
When you say "that's why we're here" I just can't seem to get on with the video, my mind is just too intrigued by this as it sounds like you say we have "a purpose" on this earth. Could you maybe please elaborate?
Apr 20, 2022•10 min
I’m writing you because I am desperate. Since the days before 3P, when I was in a constant state of desperation, living from one therapy session to another, I haven’t been so desperate. It feels like total regression. I reached a point of total hopelessness. You say it’s something good, but it feels just awful. I took your advice and let the topic of weight loss rest for the duration of the Home course. This showed me a total unhappiness I am living in, like being totally separated from life. Or...
Apr 19, 2022•12 min
I recently had my second child and am struggling with the demands of life with two small children. My question is about parenting: what is it about this relationship that it can bring up so much suffering? What do you think this understanding can offer to parents in particular? I was also wondering if you would ever offer a course specifically aimed at parents as I feel there is so much to explore there. I would love to hear your thoughts on this.
Apr 18, 2022•11 min
How Not To Die by Michael Greger MD. Sunday Book
Apr 17, 2022•4 min
The images of the unconscious place a great responsibility upon a man. Failure to understand them, or a shirking of ethical responsibility, deprives him of his wholeness and imposes a painful fragmentariness on his life. Carl Jung
Apr 16, 2022•10 min
I'm working my way through the course and I'm finding it to be a combination of enlightening and overwhelming-sometimes both at the same time!! As a result of meditation(which is something that you never refer to, which I found surprising), I'm aware of my thoughts, and I often "catch myself" during the day. I sometimes get the sense that I'm watching myself think, but wonder if this is one part of the mind watching another part of the mind, or if that's the witness that you refer to. I suppose ...
Apr 15, 2022•15 min
To make long story short I purchased something online and had to be assembled. The instructions were confusing and they didn't answer the phone and my husband who was trying to build it got very angry. He had other things going on this week and I think this was his boiling point. All my life I have had a trigger about anger and both my husbands have had anger issues. In the past I would numb out and do anything to not have the anger affect me, get defensive, angry back, and afterward do anything...
Apr 14, 2022•17 min
