Judgement of self and other: listener question

Can you say more about the idea of self centeredness qualities when there is no self?

There is a best friend of my partner's who this mind judges as cheap, selfish, know it all, and self centered. Which of course is just a reflection of how I am being...or rather what this system does based on what is believed. And the same is true for him.

There is resistance to not liking him, to feeling these judgments. Resisting them makes it worse. Beyond noticing this system flip flopping in pretending to like him out of politeness and likely being a jerk...what is there to see?

Thank you,