Listener question: In Clare's May 12 podcast she speaks about suffering as a sign that a story is believed which isn't true. What if the story is true time and time again ie panic attacks at work over and over. They seem true? My brain has been conditioned to this. I know the place of freedom in this is to see the non separation, and then they might fall away or I wouldn't care about them but until that is seen it seems the story is true. Maybe the whole dam thing is a story! The mind trying to ...
May 20, 2021•10 min
Could you maybe say something about the concept of ‚being lost in thought‘ and life Intelligence of rebalancing. If life’s wisdom is shrouded in thought, where do the choices in the moment come from that are pure love, pure life intelligence, pure peace that we apparently are? Or is this seen as an attempt by the overactive mind to soften the harsh reality?
May 19, 2021•8 min
Listener plea: make the suffering stop
May 18, 2021•9 min
Listener question: what about doing and distraction?
May 17, 2021•10 min
Listener question: Hi Clare, It seems sometimes that when the mind is in a pattern of creating separation listening to your podcast or one of your course recordings for some reason more settling happens. What's happening there? Is it truth moving through to presence, new conditioning, old conditioning getting cracks in it? All of the above?
May 16, 2021•13 min
Listener question: how can I get this to change?
May 15, 2021•10 min
Listener question: I am suffering en struggling for a long time with my relationship (and in life generally, nothing really changes, it seems that I don’t want to, never knew what i wanted in life, no plan, no ideas, to serious). I started this relationship because i was curious about the person but I also had the thought of being afraid of men and I wanted to overcome it… So not really because I was in love. In a way I pushed an forced myself, not at first but later on I did. Got scared, confus...
May 14, 2021•14 min
Intimacy and protection
May 13, 2021•10 min
Listener question: I’m in the middle of confused thought storms, so please forgive me in advance. So my question is: what if the intellectual understanding gets in the way of the falling away of patterns? What if the mind totally gets it, but the suffering is ramped up extremely? What if every tiny interaction with another human being becomes painful? The feelings are raw and relentless. What if the mind says, you understand now all of this, so why the hell are these patterns are getting stronge...
May 12, 2021•13 min
Listener question: What does this understanding say about suicide? Is it that the self would rather kill the whole thing instead of face the self's death? Meaning the illusion is more compelling than reality?
May 11, 2021•9 min
Listener question: I think i have a strong tendencie to avoid situations that seem unsafe for my self-identity. This week I had some very nice experiences with engaging with situations I usually would avoid. There was curiosity but still it took so much effort to try and see what happens if I don't hide in my "safe space". So my first question is: will it get easier? Also I wonder: how can I tell the difference between avoiding things because my self identity feels threatened, and just needing t...
May 10, 2021•10 min
Listener question: i always felt like there must be something wrong with me becuase i dont seem to have strong reactions to the larger world events (dont seem to feel strong reaction) ... now i see .. perhaps i more able to see those things as neutral and not judge them (unlike the self and other categories) ... but it does beg the question (in relation to the world stuff) ... when are we in denial and cut off from 'feelings'/reactions and when are we just in neutral and not in triggered judgeme...
May 08, 2021•15 min
Listener question: Firstly please accept my apologies for what may seem a ridiculous question and what may appear my poor attempt at asking it. I have read several books on the subject of the three principles, Real, Inside Out Revolution and Clarity plus several others. I find your book very interesting as it covers so many situations one finds oneself engaged in on a day to day basis. I pride myself in gaining an understanding of the subject after reading the various publications I have purchas...
May 08, 2021•14 min
Listener question: can you talk about jealousy and envy please and what is the difference between them?
May 07, 2021•11 min
Listener question: Thank you so much for the beautiful webinar yesterday. There's kind of a question that's on my mind today. When I was listening to you talking I completely "spaced out". I heard something very beautiful but I have no words for it. After the webinar my boyfriend asked me how it was. I simply couldn't say anything, I was just feeling very peaceful and hugged him. Also many questions about my life and things that scare me didn't seem important anymore. Still I know if I go there ...
May 06, 2021•10 min
Listener question: I have been working my way through your podcasts and although I am often resistant to what I hear, I find that if I settle myself and sit with it, I can usually see the truth in what you are saying. However the one on April 26 about Sydney’s teachings (listen for a feeling and your feeling creates your thinking) has me baffled! Although I do see what you are saying about how those words can be misunderstood, what about all the seemingly hundred’s of testimonials from people wh...
May 05, 2021•9 min
Listener question: Dearest Clare: Thought I'd take a few minutes to compose my thoughts about "life" since doing the RICH course last year. You may recall, I am an artist and my biggest area of "stuckness" was around money and selling my art so I could have my "own" money. There were lots of insights and aha moments during the course for sure. But, here's the thing. At some point, I saw very clearly and deeply how the making of art was in place as a means to keep the "artist" identity in place. ...
May 04, 2021•17 min
Listener question: Hi Clare. Would you be able and willing to speak to anxiety and grief around climate change in one of your podcasts? There’s a phrase that sometimes comes to me in relation to my own life: I can’t get there from here. The “here” being my current understanding I guess. Perhaps with climate anxiety, the “here” is our anxiety and grief about what we see happening in the world to the world. And our powerlessness to change it. Yet I know there is more than activism or denial availa...
May 03, 2021•17 min
Listener question: Thank you for the reply podcast my love. However I get the impression that You don’t seem to have trauma awareness or experienced trauma in your own life, bless. I seem to need to spell it out for you: Being screamed at at work by a highly mentally disturbed client can’t be played down and said there are no triggers. Your nervous system would maybe react similarly to mine, but if this was recurring childhood experience then the freeze is inevitable. Or are you saying I’m holdi...
May 02, 2021•13 min
Listener question: Dear Clare, I wondered if you could please speak to these words attributed to Sir Anthony Hopkins on a podcast episode? One of my ingrained needs is to be loved and I still notice myself work so hard with certain individuals who are so-called friends to stay included and be liked and yet I expend so much energy doing so. Yet, with others in my life the love is reciprocal, almost effortless and flows naturally between us. Is it not better to face up to the needy behaviours and ...
May 01, 2021•12 min
Listener question: Life happens out of our control, yes. But trauma triggers are very real to the system, destabilising. If fight or flight is not possible, freeze can feel very dangerous. In this example being triggered at work, going into freeze can be debilitating and i can’t seem to function at work anymore, although I manage somehow. I really can’t seem to see where the healing is supposed to be in this. How can be reliving trauma responses in the body again and again be healing? If I don’t...
Apr 30, 2021•16 min
Listener question: My question is about shame. Most nights and especially in the morning I wake up recalling situations in which I could’ve done better and about which I feel a lot of shame. Some of these situations go back decades, and some are very recent. Consequently I often do not get the rest I need and my days don’t always start on a bright and positive note! I would like to be able to see this differently and would love to hear your thoughts. Thank you.
Apr 29, 2021•12 min
Listener question: what about the harmful actions and words?
Apr 28, 2021•12 min
Listener comment: Im in the midst of horrible triggered feelings. I feel uncontrollably hurt by just a trigger at work, it’s so painful. I don’t know what to do other than cry and breathe.
Apr 27, 2021•11 min
Listener question: I am thinking of having a subliminal recording. I have only listened to a few Podcasts you have done and read your book Real. On the basis of that information it sounds like you lean a little toward Advaita Vedanta. I find Advaita complex and cold as well as stimulating to the intellect. (Robert Spira is the best example of this for me. The guy is brilliant but when I listen to him, I feel the need to figure out what he is saying, and I get contracted and tense). For me, the m...
Apr 26, 2021•14 min
Listener question: what is wholeness?
Apr 25, 2021•7 min
Listener question: I've just finished working through the REAL videos / course .. (not the conversations yet) .. is it normal for the .. well basically .. 'shit to hit the fan' inside ? - wont go into great details but just wondering if there is anything to 'do' ? ... it's kind of showed me just how of course i have been and how dysfunctional i have got from trying to cope for years but also the fact that everything i am running from is within ME and not out there .... like i want to be in a 'wi...
Apr 24, 2021•16 min
Listener question: how does the idea of no-self work in relation to marriage/partnership? I'm just curious. Is this also why many fail?
Apr 23, 2021•12 min
Taking the conversation about harmful events and people to the furthest level of freedom.
Apr 22, 2021•14 min
Listener question: In you latest podcast you spoke about violence and that it is happening as it is the optimal behaviour at the given moment due to learned belief and conditoning, that there is no deciding self and that it is logical and impersonal. I see freedom in this as it frees me of the obligation "to forgive and forget" and I love that there only remains sanity. I see that my father who was prone to violent outbursts could not act differently given that what he believed and learned in hi...
Apr 21, 2021•13 min
