How can you create a relationship that feels balanced, safe, and deeply fulfilling? In this episode, we wrap up the Dance of Attachment series by focusing on the ultimate goal: secure attachment. I’ll walk you through the five steps to cultivating a secure relationship rhythm (aka the Secure Waltz) and share practical ways to apply them to your life. Whether you’re navigating past attachment wounds, setting intentions for healthier connections, or learning to honor your needs, this episode is pa...
Dec 04, 2024•16 min•Ep. 44
Ever feel torn between wanting closeness and needing space? In this episode of Speak Honest , We dive into the complexities of disorganized attachment, or what I call “The Pendulum Swing Dance.” Through real-life examples and compassionate insights, we will unpack why disorganized attachment leads to a push-pull dynamic in relationships, where closeness feels both desirable and frightening. Discover how this attachment style develops, how it impacts adult relationships, and practical steps for c...
Nov 27, 2024•11 min•Ep. 43
Ever felt like your partner just needs too much space, or maybe you're the one pulling away when things get too close? In today’s episode of Speak Honest , we’re diving into the fascinating rhythm of avoidant attachment—what I like to call “The Solo Tango.” Avoidant attachment is all about independence, self-reliance, and finding comfort in a little distance. If you're wondering why intimacy might feel overwhelming or how to bring closeness into a relationship without pushing someone too far, th...
Nov 21, 2024•13 min•Ep. 42
Do you ever feel like you’re walking a tightrope in your relationships, always seeking reassurance but never quite feeling secure? In this episode of Speak Honest , we’re diving into Anxious Attachment—what I like to call the Salsa of Uncertainty. We’ll explore why it’s so hard to find stability and what steps you can take to bring more calm and balance into your relationships. I’ll share insights, real-life stories, and practical tips to help you move confidently through the rhythm of connectio...
Nov 14, 2024•13 min•Ep. 41
Ever feel like big relationship changes are throwing your emotions all over the place? Whether you're moving in with someone or moving on from a breakup, these transitions can feel like they’re turning your world upside down. In this episode, we break down why these changes feel so intense and how you can not only survive them but actually thrive in the process! 🌟 You might want to listen if: You're feeling anxious about moving in with a partner 🏡 You’re finding it hard to heal after a breakup...
Nov 06, 2024•16 min•Ep. 40
Have you ever found yourself pushing away the very love and support you've always wanted? In this episode, I sit down with Carol, a member of the Relationship Reboot Program, as we explore her journey to discovering why she struggles to accept love and compliments from her husband. Together, we uncover the deep-rooted attachment wounds and limiting beliefs that often keep us from embracing the love we deserve. Through Carol’s powerful story, you'll gain valuable insights into your own relationsh...
Oct 30, 2024•42 min•Ep. 39
Ever silently fumed because your partner didn’t do something you never actually asked them to do? (Yep, we’ve all been there!) This episode is pulled straight from one of our amazing weekly Support Sessions in the Facebook group , where we dove into the three sneaky types of expectations—explicit, implicit, and covert—that can really mess with your relationships. Get ready for some fun, real-life examples and actionable tips to help you communicate your needs clearly and avoid the frustration of...
Oct 23, 2024•22 min•Ep. 38
Curious about what it looks like at the start of a transformational journey? In this episode, we get a before look at Amanda, a member of my 12-week Relationship Reboot Program. During this coaching call, Amanda opens up about her struggle with triggers and negative spirals that affect her communication. We discuss how the program will help her build healthier communication habits and develop the confidence to express her needs without crumbling. This is just the beginning — we’ll check back in ...
Oct 16, 2024•36 min•Ep. 37
Are you holding back from being truly vulnerable in your relationships out of fear of rejection or being misunderstood? In this episode of Speak Honest , I dive deep into why vulnerability can feel so terrifying and how avoiding it might be keeping you from the meaningful relationships you truly want. I share practical steps for getting clear on your feelings and needs, allowing yourself to be vulnerable without overwhelming fear, and why embracing discomfort can lead to deeper connection. I eve...
Oct 10, 2024•14 min•Ep. 36
Do you ever feel like you're holding yourself back from success? In this powerful coaching session, I dive deep with Martie to explore the real reasons behind her struggle with self-sabotage. Together, we uncover whether her actions are truly sabotaging her or if they’re a form of self-protection. By examining her subconscious fears and desires, Martie begins to shift her perspective on what’s really happening when she can’t seem to balance her career, family, and personal goals. This conversati...
Oct 02, 2024•35 min•Ep. 35
Are you tired of those moments when your partner says or does something that sends you into a spiral, but you don’t know why? In this episode, we dive deep into understanding relationship triggers—those emotional reactions that feel so out of proportion to the situation at hand. I guide you through recognizing your triggers, understanding their roots, and how you can manage them more effectively, so they don’t control you or your relationships. Let’s get curious, not furious, and take the first ...
Sep 25, 2024•15 min•Ep. 34
Are you struggling with grief that feels like it won’t let go, whether it’s from losing someone or ending a relationship? In this episode, we talk with Chelsea Ohlemiller about the many faces of grief. From losing her mother and the journey to healing, to understanding how grief can affect every aspect of your life—Chelsea brings both vulnerability and practical wisdom. Together, we dive into how grief isn't just about loss through death but can also show up when relationships end, and how to na...
Sep 18, 2024•40 min•Ep. 33
Why do we tell ourselves stories that only bring us pain? In this episode of Speak Honest, I dive deep into some gut-wrenching listener questions about love, breakups, and why it feels like your ex is thriving while you're stuck in heartache. We break down the stories we tell ourselves, challenge those limiting beliefs, and shift the focus back on you—because healing starts with understanding your own truth. You might want to listen if: You're stuck wondering why your ex seems happier than you. ...
Sep 11, 2024•15 min•Ep. 32
Are you ready to unlock the power of movement for healing and self-discovery? In this episode of Speak Honest , I chat with Cheryl Killilea , a certified personal trainer and trauma-informed yoga instructor, about how yoga and movement can help release stored emotions and improve our mental and emotional health. Cheryl shares insights on how different attachment styles might affect our approach to exercise and wellness and offers practical tips on finding balance and peace through trauma-informe...
Sep 04, 2024•37 min•Ep. 31
Ever feel like setting boundaries makes you the "bad guy" in your relationships? Let's change that! In this episode of "Speak Honest," we're diving into the real talk about boundaries—what they are, why they matter, and how we can set them without feeling like we're letting everyone down. We get into the nitty-gritty of setting boundaries in our everyday lives—whether it's with our time, emotions, or even our personal space. Together, we'll explore practical, relatable ways to say "no" when we n...
Aug 28, 2024•14 min
Ever catch yourself wondering if you’re missing some major red flags in your relationships? Or maybe you’ve noticed a few but weren’t quite sure what to do next? In today’s episode, we’re diving into the world of red flags—what they really mean, how to spot them, and most importantly, how to handle them like a pro without all the stress! You might want to listen if: You’ve ever looked back and thought, “How did I not see that coming?” You’re curious about how your body signals red flags before y...
Aug 21, 2024•12 min
Ever find yourself torn between two conflicting desires? In this episode, I sit down with Lena, who beautifully navigates the complexities of wanting both certainty and adventure in her life. We explore how understanding your individual needs can help you create balance, even when those needs seem to pull you in different directions. You might want to listen if: You’re struggling to balance stability and spontaneity in your life. You often feel conflicted between different desires or goals. You ...
Aug 15, 2024•53 min•Ep. 28
Have you ever wondered how your attachment style might be shaping the way you give and receive love? In this episode of Speak Honest, Jenn dives into the fascinating connection between attachment styles and love languages. Whether you're familiar with these concepts or just getting started, Jenn explores how understanding both can lead to healthier, more fulfilling relationships. She breaks down the five love languages and links them to different attachment styles, offering practical advice on h...
Aug 07, 2024•18 min•Ep. 27
Ever wondered what it takes to land a TEDx talk and own that red dot 🔴 ? In this episode, Jenn Noble dives into her TEDx journey alongside her friend, Jordan Harmon. They share their unique experiences from the initial application to the aftermath of their talks, highlighting how Toastmasters played a crucial role in their preparation. Whether you're dreaming of giving your own TEDx talk or curious about the behind-the-scenes process, this episode is packed with insights and practical advice. Y...
Jul 31, 2024•42 min•Ep. 26
Have you ever felt a knot in your stomach because you fear you've upset someone? In this episode of Speak Honest, I have a heartfelt conversation with Jo, a long-time client, about her ongoing struggle with the fear of upsetting others. Despite doing extensive work on her self-worth and understanding her core wounds, Jo still finds herself trapped in cycles of overthinking and anxiety. We delve into the importance of somatic processing—getting out of our heads and into our bodies. Jo shares her ...
Jul 24, 2024•31 min•Ep. 25
Have you ever felt overwhelmed by your emotions and struggled to manage intense feelings? In today's short episode of Speak Honest, we dive into the fascinating world of somatic experiencing. Discover the history behind this powerful technique, why it works, and how you can start practicing it to better manage your emotions. You might want to listen if: You find it challenging to control your emotions in stressful situations. You want to understand the connection between trauma and physical sens...
Jul 17, 2024•13 min•Ep. 24
Have you ever wondered if your relationship struggles are due to your attachment style or your partner's behavior? In today's episode, we dive deep into this complex issue with Kim, who is grappling with whether her triggers stem from her attachment style or her partner's actions. Join us as we explore the nuances of attachment styles, communication, and somatic experiencing. You might want to listen if: You want to understand the role of attachment styles in relationship conflicts. You're curio...
Jul 10, 2024•36 min•Ep. 23
Are you struggling to figure out if you lean more anxious or dismissive in your attachment style? In this episode of Speak Honest, I’m answering a listener’s question about Disorganized Attachment, also known as Fearful Avoidant attachment. We'll explore how this attachment style can cause you to swing between anxious and dismissive tendencies based on your relationship dynamics. With personal stories and practical tips, you'll learn to recognize the signs that indicate your lean and understand ...
Jul 03, 2024•13 min•Ep. 22
Are you ready to uncover how attachment styles can transform your personal growth and relationships? On this week's podcast, I chat with Bev Mitelman, a certified integrated attachment coach. Bev takes us through her fascinating journey from professional development to becoming an attachment coach. This podcast might be for you if... You want to understand how attachment styles affect personal growth and relationships. You’re curious about managing anxiety and overcoming hypervigilance. You’re i...
Jun 26, 2024•57 min•Ep. 20
Have you ever wondered how much your life can change in a decade? In this special episode of Speak Honest, I reflect on my journey from a tumultuous time at 30 to celebrating my 40th birthday with newfound wisdom and strength. Join me as I share the pivotal moments and lessons learned along the way. Discover the power of embracing change and how drastically your life can transform within just 10 years. Learn about the importance of self-acceptance and body positivity in fostering true confidence...
Jun 19, 2024•23 min•Ep. 20
Are you curious about what a relationship coach does and how they can help you build fulfilling relationships? Do you want to understand the difference between therapy and coaching and why you might choose one over the other? If so, this podcast might be for you. This podcast might be for you if: You struggle with setting boundaries in relationships. You are interested in emotional self-care and personal growth. You want to learn how to communicate authentically and compassionately. You are curi...
Jun 12, 2024•24 min•Ep. 19
Have you ever struggled with ending a relationship gracefully, torn between your care for the person and your need for self-respect? In this episode, I have a heartfelt conversation with Jisselle about her on-again-off-again relationship. We explore how to end such relationships with grace and compassion, focusing on setting clear boundaries, understanding emotional responsibility, and prioritizing self-care. Through personal stories and practical strategies, we discuss the importance of balanci...
Jun 05, 2024•42 min•Ep. 18
Have you ever felt conflicted about your feelings towards your parents, loving them deeply while also recognizing the pain they may have caused? In this episode, I share personal stories about my relationship with my father and explore how our attachment styles, formed by our primary caregivers, influence our current emotional well-being and relationships. We discuss the importance of acknowledging and healing these childhood wounds without placing blame, and how to hold space for both love and ...
May 29, 2024•15 min•Ep. 17
Have you ever found yourself in a heated argument with your partner, only to realize later that it was all a big misunderstanding? In this episode, I have a heartfelt coaching call with Christine, who is struggling with communication issues in her marriage. We dive deep into a recent conflict she had with her husband and explore the underlying issues that have been building up over time. You might like this podcast if: You're navigating communication challenges in your relationship. You want to ...
May 23, 2024•43 min•Ep. 16
Do you find yourself frustrated when people don't meet your expectations, even after you've made them clear? Perhaps it's not just about what's being said, but how it's being communicated. This episode of Speak Honest dives into the complexities of frustration in relationships, focusing on how miscommunications and unmet expectations can escalate conflicts. Learn how to effectively voice your frustrations and establish clearer communications to prevent misunderstandings and disappointment. This ...
May 15, 2024•18 min•Ep. 15
