Parenting after loss can be challenging. Today's episode is going to explain how to handle it the best you can while still taking care of you. For a free PDF created for this episode, click here . Don't forget to review the podcast and send a screen shot to amy@smoothstonescoaching.com to enter to win a $100 Amazon gift card. For a free 30 minute consult call, click here to schedule: If you have any questions, let me know here: https://smoothstonescoaching.com/work-with-me If you would like to s...
Oct 08, 2020•18 min
To enter our contest for a $100 Amazon gift card, review the podcast and send a screen shot to amy@smoothstonescoaching.com 3 extra entries if you share about the podcast and screen shot that or tell me where you shared in the email! I am also offering 90 minute strategy sessions for angel moms with big plans this month, you can schedule yours here to make hitting your goal much more possible. Our episode today explains the history of Pregnancy and infant loss awareness month and explains three ...
Oct 01, 2020•19 min
In relationships, we start out completly on the same page, but somewhere along the line things seem to change. In today's episode we are talking about why this happens, how to recognize it and what to do when you feel disconnected so you can get back on the same page. Special bonus Relationship worksheet PLUS Conversation starters For a free 30 minute session, click here to schedule: https://smoothstonescoaching.com/free_mini If you have any questions, let me know here: https://smoothstonescoach...
Sep 24, 2020•19 min
Today we are examining some babyloss myths in honor of Grant Imahara, one of the hosts of Mythbusters and an amazing scientist who recently passed away. You will learn how to use the scientific method to really question things you have been told about grief. If you don't like the results you are getting when you believe these myths, I'm going to show you how to let some of them go. For a free 30 minute session, click here to schedule: https://smoothstonescoaching.com/free_mini If you have any qu...
Sep 18, 2020•22 min
Back to school can be a difficult time, but especially in 2020. Lots of decisions to make, or maybe all your decisions are being made for you and your living children. Then you add in the pain of missing a little student and it can be tough. In today's episode we're going to talk about back to school and how learning to let go of perfection and move ahead with "good enough" is going to bring you so much freedom and results you didn't even imagine! For a free 30 minute session, click here to sche...
Sep 04, 2020•23 min
Today's guests are both Mental Health Therapists and loss moms. Emily Long @long.emily and Lindsey Henke @pregnancyafterlosssupport are here to talk about their new book, Pregnancy After Loss Support: Love Letters to Moms Pregnant After Loss. It is a collection of beautiful essays written to those walking this path behind the writers. We talk about how the book was created, a few bumps along the way to launching it, and what messages Lindsey and Emily think are most important for people to hear ...
Aug 27, 2020•33 min
Money is something we all deal with every day, but we're often more comfortable talking about our dead babies than we are about dollars. Today I'm going to tell you how to find out what you believe about money, and how to move past any blocks that you have so you can create more value in your life. Money is not evil, money provides freedom and allows us to do so much good. We don't have to be afraid of talking about it anymore. For a free 30 minute session, click here to schedule: http://smooths...
Aug 20, 2020•24 min
Pain is universal for most humans. But suffering is optional. On today's episode we are talking all about clean and dirty pain. What they are, how to recognize them, and how to allow the clean pain and drop the dirty. Whether the pain is from your miscarriage, stillbirth, infant loss or anything else going on in your life, You won't want to miss this one. If you have any questions, let me know here: http://smoothstonescoaching.com/work-with-me If you would like to share your baby's story on the ...
Aug 13, 2020•15 min
For so many families, this question is BIG and SCARY...should we try again? What if we have another loss? We put so much weight on it that we get stuck. Today's episode will help you get un stuck by giving you a whole new way to approach this choice. It doesn't have to be hard, especially when you have a coach to help you. If you have any questions, let me know here: http://smoothstonescoaching.com/work-with-me If you would like to share your baby's story on the podcast, submit here: http://smoo...
Jul 30, 2020•14 min•Ep. 32
It's Black Maternal Mental Health Week! Black mothers are much more likely to suffer a pregnancy or infant loss, and also more likely to die during pregnancy and childbirth. The emotional and mental weight of these losses is heavy and ever present for Black mothers in America (and many other countries). There are many factors that influence these statistics, but the over arching truth is that it has to change. And the first step to change is awareness. At Smooth Stones Coaching, we are here to s...
Jul 23, 2020•50 min
This week it's story time! We start the episode with the beautiful life of baby Jord, and then I'm going to tell you a little about what's going on with me this week. And the lesson in it all is that we are taught to change our circumstances to feel better, but it never works. So I'm going to tell you what to do before you change anything so that you don't bring any mental baggage with you as you move forward. It's going to be fun. If you have any questions, let me know here: https://smoothstone...
Jul 15, 2020•23 min
Have you ever felt like you were just waiting around for fun to happen? Or you've felt guilty for having fun after your loss? Or maybe you just wish you were fun like you used to be. Today's episode is diving into all of this, plus we get to hear Jody's experience of miscarriage. Jody Moore is a Master Certified coach with a wonderful program called Be Bold. She coaches moms who are members of The Church of Jesus Christ of Latter-Day Saints. Jody's podcast is what introduced me to life coaching,...
Jun 25, 2020•37 min
Discomfort is the currency to our dreams. What do you think about this sentence? For most of us, we'd rather stay in our comfort zone, but if we want to do more, be more and change the world, we have to be willing to be uncomfortable. Making that decision on purpose takes us from the discomfort of being stuck to discomfort that moves us forward. And it's possible to get really good at it. To watch Susan David's TED talk, click HERE If you have any questions, let me know here: http://smoothstones...
Jun 12, 2020•31 min
Whether we realize it or not, we all have a relationship with our future self. In this episode we are going to talk about what that is, how to become aware of it, and then how to use our future self to reach the goals we want to achieve. This method also works in in whatever stage of grief you are in, to help you continue to heal by believing in your future self. This is one of my favorite topics, you won't want to miss this one! If you have any questions, let me know here: http://smoothstonesco...
May 29, 2020•22 min
You won't want to miss this one. Today we have some special guests...my kids! They were brave enough to come on the podcast to share their experiences and the things they've learned after losing two siblings. Lauren at 39.5 weeks in 2013 and River at 14 weeks in 2016. It's normal to worry about seeing your kids go through something hard, and that's why I wanted to share a child's perspective on miscarriage, stillbirth and life after loss with you all today. If you have any questions, let me know...
May 15, 2020•39 min
Whether you are mothering living kids, angel babies or both, all of us have ideas about what a good mother is. Today we are exploring why our checklists for motherhood only hurt us and how to define your own motherhood with confidence. And how our success as a mother has nothing to do with how our kids turn out, or even if they live. I can't wait for you to listen to this one! If you love it, please leave a review and share it with another mom who needs it. If you have any questions, let me know...
May 08, 2020•32 min
We’re talking about the taboo within the taboo today… Sex after loss. So many couples struggle in this area, whether it is being intimate the first time after loss, worries about another pregnancy or just not being on the same page in this part of their relationship. This is such an important part of life, and especially our life after a loss. Our guest is going to dive right in with us to help answer your questions! Dr. Jennifer Finlayson-Fife is a LDS relationship and sexuality coach as well a...
Apr 15, 2020•47 min
So many of us who have been through a loss can find that there are certain things that trigger big emotional reactions. We end up wanting to eat all the chocolate, crawl in bed and just cry for days. But there comes a point where that just doesn't work anymore. In today's episode I am teaching you how to become trigger proof. What this means is you are able to look at your most common triggers and learn how to neutralize them so they don't affect you any more. I explain the steps to do this whic...
Apr 04, 2020•30 min•Ep. 23
Today's guest is a Cara Gauthier. She is a Certified Life and Weight Loss Coach, mother to a manifested miracle, and survivor of unexplained infertility. Cara helps women struggling with infertility get through their grief after pregnancy loss and continue on their path to motherhood. We chat about the "pause" that Corona virus has caused for fertility patients and what they can do while waiting now, or at any time when something unexpected happens as they grow their family. For more information...
Mar 24, 2020•37 min
In today's episode I am going to teach you about scarcity and how it affects us in our lives. You may have scarcity around money, your business, your relationships, or currently (March 2020) about toilet paper supplies. The antidote to this mindset that keeps us small and scared and stressed is to learn to live in abundance. This is something we have to practice every day, but it changes lives. If we believe there is enough for us, and enough for everyone else, we are going to feel a lot happier...
Mar 20, 2020•18 min
We're talking all about some tips to help you during your pregnancy after loss today! Grab your free 99 PAL journal prompts right here! We know that our thoughts create our feelings, but choosing intentionally to move our thoughts towards other things besides focusing on all we are scared of can be really helpful during pregnancy after loss. I've got 10 great, practical ideas that worked for me (plus one bonus idea!) and I hope they help you on your PAL journey, or even on your grief journey. If...
Mar 10, 2020•29 min•Ep. 20
This episode is all about your relationship with you. So many of us are so hard on ourselves and we just think there is no way to change that. Especially when it comes to the loss of our babies. We are so good at blaming ourselves. But you can change your relationship with you just by recognizing the thoughts you are thinking and deciding if you want to keep them. You are amazing, worthy and whole, just as you are. Let's learn how to love ourselves so we stop suffering and can use our talents to...
Mar 01, 2020•25 min•Ep. 19
Today we are talking about Manuals, the unwritten rules that we have about the people in our lives. We want them to follow these rules so that we can feel how we want to feel. Unfortunately it doesn't, work, because...humans are terrible at doing what we think they should! We're going to discuss what manuals are, give some examples and answer some common questions. Recognizing and dropping these manuals is some of the best work you can do for you and your relationships. For the clip of The Break...
Feb 18, 2020•22 min•Ep. 18
This episode takes a look at happiness and how we end up cutting into our positive emotions when we resist our negative ones. Amy teaches about how life is always going to be 50/50 in our emotions and experiences. She addresses common questions about this concept, the history of it and how it applies in our lives. If you are a human, you need to listen to this one. Amy is a life coach for moms who have experienced miscarriage, stillbirth or infant loss. She also coaches women pregnant after a lo...
Feb 05, 2020•25 min•Ep. 17
No matter when your loss was, you probably have at least a few things for your baby. Some of us had a lot of things. It can be emotional trying to decide what to do with them, and then even more so when we actually try to do it. I've been decluttering in the new year, and I wanted to share a bit of my story and some things I have learned in the last 7 years. We also talk about managing your mind around these baby items. You can do this, momma. If you have any questions, let me know here: http://...
Jan 17, 2020•23 min
Pregnancy after loss often brings a lot of fears and anxieties. Today's episode is all about the real feelings that happen during PAL and what you can do to manage them. Amy shares some personal experience and then teaches how to allow the anxiety how worry is never useful and how actually going to the worst case scenario and showing yourself that you would still be ok is incredibly empowering. We also hear the story of little Tyler. If you are interested in Amy coaching you through your pregnan...
Jan 10, 2020•19 min
Today I give you step by step directions on how to crush the goals you have made. Create a measurable, specific result that you want to achieve. Use the model to identify the actions, feeling and thought you will need to accomplish that goal. Break the actions into specific "do goals" Identify obstacles that will come up for you Create strategies to overcome those obstacles. Put each step on your schedule. keep your commitments It won't always be easy, but that's ok. Any good goal will stretch y...
Jan 04, 2020•25 min
We are in the season of setting goals as we head into 2020, but a lot of us set them from a place of dissatisfaction with ourselves and our lives. Today we are talking about switching that around and loving ourselves first, and then finding better reasons to set goals. We talk a bit about Mister Rogers and his influence, especially when it comes to being kind and liking people the way they are, especially ourselves. I hope you enjoy! If you have any questions, let me know here: http://smoothston...
Dec 29, 2019•17 min
Today we have a special guest, Krista St-Germain. She is a life coach and expert on grief and post traumatic growth. She works with widowed moms and I am so honored she stopped by to share her wisdom with us. Regret is something that is very common in grief. Today we talk about the difference between guilt and regret and how to recognize them when they show up. Krista teaches us how to deal with regret, first by allowing it, then identifying the thoughts that are causing it, deciding if they are...
Dec 19, 2019•29 min
Today's episode explains why it is so important to feel our feelings. Feelings are what drive us to do anything we do, and we also avoid many things because of how we think they will make us feel. Learning how to allow emotion gives us so much power over our lives. I'm going to teach you a few ways to really allow the emotions, positive and negative, that arise. If you have any questions, let me know here: http://smoothstonescoaching.com/work-with-me If you would like to share your baby's story ...
Dec 15, 2019•24 min
