In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My partner is very shy when it comes to talking about sex. He found a sex compatibility quiz which we took as a way to open communication between us and the results showed we’re very in sync. In the quiz, he expressed interest in using a penis ring. But how do I know which one to buy, and what is the best way to use it? We’re a hetero couple, both 30, healthy, and have sex twice a week. He doesn’t have issues with sta...
Jul 24, 2024•19 min•Season 10Ep. 10
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I split with my husband of 14 years and my divorce has just come through. I’m a combination of nervous and excited. The marriage wasn’t bad, it was just boring and the sex was never good or satisfying. I’m now ready to get out there and start dating again, but I’m nervous about sex. Any tips on how to ease back into it? I’m 46. 2) I love my wife but I have just finished a work affair that lasted two months. I didn’t f...
Jul 17, 2024•20 min•Season 10Ep. 9
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) Even when I've had plenty of foreplay and I'm certain I'm turned on, when my partner first enters me it's like he's stuck for a moment. It’s like my vagina won't let him in. He’s able to ease in after a few seconds and intercourse is great after that. It doesn't hurt, but I find it a bit awkward and confusing because I'm not sure what's going on. It’s like he's hitting a wall. Do you have any thoughts? This has happen...
Jul 10, 2024•19 min•Season 10Ep. 8
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My girlfriend and I went through a period of not having sex—we were so busy it got forgotten about. We made a point of having sex every Friday night—and now it’s stuck. We now ONLY have sex on Friday nights. She really likes this arrangement, but I hate having sex on a schedule. How can I make her more spontaneous? 2) I am way more adventurous than my wife of many years and sex has become difficult for her lately (mos...
Jul 03, 2024•27 min•Season 10Ep. 7
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve lost a lot of weight using Ozempic and am delighted with how my body looks. I feel brand new and—at last—sexy and desirable. After years of complaining that I never initiate sex and accusing me of not even liking sex, I thought my husband would be pleased with my newfound confidence. I’m now super keen to try new things and have sex more often. I thought he would be happy with all these changes, but he just seems...
Jun 26, 2024•24 min•Season 10Ep. 6
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My partner makes strange noises during sex and it really puts me off. It’s like a whimpering noise—it sounds exactly like the noise my dog makes when I’ve locked her outside. I nearly burst out laughing the first time I heard it, now it’s just a turnoff. We’re four months into the relationship. How do I bring this up? 2) I have (finally) met a great guy and the sex is good—he definitely gets me hot and bothered—but I ...
Jun 19, 2024•20 min•Season 10Ep. 5
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I think my partner is faking orgasm because when he ejaculates, no semen comes out. The first time it happened, I asked him why there wasn’t much stuff. He said he didn’t know why and walked off. Since then, it happens now and then. I don’t say anything because I don’t want to embarrass him. Why would he fake it? Do men fake it? Is there another reason why this is happening? 2) I recently discovered my husband of 22 y...
Jun 12, 2024•22 min•Season 10Ep. 4
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I love watching BDSM porn and have a masochistic kink. My wife enjoys sex, but is pretty conservative in what she likes. I’ve told her I’d quite enjoy being tied up or spanked and she looked shocked, so I didn’t pursue it. How do I let her know I’d really like her to indulge me a little during sex without her thinking I’m perverted? 2) My husband and I have been together since college, married 37 years—and I absolutel...
Jun 05, 2024•23 min•Season 10Ep. 3
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My partner of four years has a friend who has opened up their relationship after having been married for nine years. Apparently, it’s working well. They have ‘sex only’ relationships, stick to some rules, and say it’s made them love each other more and enjoy sex more. My partner is intrigued by the idea and asked if I would be open to trying it. I can see the appeal, but it’s not something I am interested in at all. I...
May 29, 2024•25 min•Season 10Ep. 2
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My partner’s favorite position is doggy-style in front of a mirror. I hate sex from behind—I like face-to-face positions so we can kiss. I also hate watching myself naked because I focus on all that’s wrong with my body and can’t enjoy myself. My partner knows this, but I also know it’s his favorite thing and don’t want to deny him. Any tips on how to keep both of us happy? 2) I am in my 50s and have completely lost m...
May 22, 2024•28 min•Season 10Ep. 1
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) When I first got together with my partner of four years, we had lots of fun tying each other up. That stopped about a year ago and I really miss it, so I asked if we could incorporate it back into our lovemaking. The very same night, I walked into the bedroom ready for bed—not even slightly in the mood for sex—and there was a tie on the bed. I asked him what it was for, and he said to tie me up. I was in my dressing g...
Apr 17, 2024•22 min•Season 9Ep. 10
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I feel like your inbox for this podcast is full of questions like mine. I’ve been married for 26 years, and our sex life quietly died about 10 years ago. I’ve been listening to you both and I know this is normal. What I want to find out is if my wife misses our sex, or if she is happy with not having it? We’re best friends and still sleep naked, we just never initiate sex. We’ve never talked about sex before, even tho...
Apr 10, 2024•24 min•Season 9Ep. 9
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My husband and I are each other’s first loves. We’re now twenty years on, 10 years married with a child and I feel at a loss. Our sex life is robotic and boring, once or twice a month. Same foreplay, same position. I have repeatedly suggested trying new things, but it’s always met with resistance, no willingness to talk or try anything. Frankly, he has no clue how to make me orgasm. I can count on one hand how many ti...
Apr 03, 2024•24 min•Season 9Ep. 8
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I love sex and I love the feeling of orgasm, but I’ve never been able to have more than one. Are all women capable of multiple orgasms, and how can I increase my chances of having one? 2) I’m a straight guy wanting to suggest a threesome with my wife of four years. She’s really into sex and very adventurous, but I’ve never suggested anything like this or even asked if she’s had one in the past. I have. I would love to...
Mar 27, 2024•26 min•Season 9Ep. 7
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m wondering if I’m a little full on too early on when I go on dates. I love having deep, intense conversations and hate small talk. Some men seem to love it, but one guy recently told me I was a ‘bit heavy’ and to ‘lighten up a bit.’ What’s your view on this? 2) I was diagnosed with depression in my early 20s and have been on and off anti-depressants all my life. When I take the pills, I have no desire to have sex a...
Mar 20, 2024•26 min•Season 9Ep. 6
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I have my best orgasms using my wand vibrator. My old boyfriend didn’t have an issue with using it in bed with us (though he was the first man I’ve ever used it with). Now, I’m with someone new—about two months in—and want to bring it up. Any hints on what to say? My previous boyfriend was the one to suggest it last time. 2) I’ve been to hell and back in my marriage. My partner confessed to having a three-month affair...
Mar 13, 2024•23 min•Season 9Ep. 5
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I want to stop taking the Pill because it doesn’t agree with me. I’ve tried taking different types and I’m not suitable for a coil, so the obvious alternative is for my partner to wear condoms. I don’t mind condoms, but he can’t stand them and is making a huge deal of it. He says he’d rather not have sex than have sex using one. We now haven’t had sex for two months and neither of us are budging. I’ve been responsible...
Mar 06, 2024•22 min•Season 9Ep. 4
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m 40 and out here dating men again after an amicable divorce. I’ve been using dating apps and hooked up with two guys using them. I ended up having sex with both men, even though I didn’t really want to. I’m not quite sure how the dating apps work: are you obliged to have sex if you meet up with someone through them? Should I tell the guy beforehand that I might not be up for sex and just want to hang out? In both c...
Feb 28, 2024•25 min•Season 9Ep. 3
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m a recovering alcoholic and up until 49, had never had sex sober. I’m now in a relationship (been together three years) and overall, we are both happy. The problem is we are very different types when it comes to sex. He is adventurous, I’m not (since I’ve been sober). He’s talked before about how good sex was with his ex-partners (they did anal play and more). I now dread having sex because I think he is bored. I w...
Feb 21, 2024•23 min•Season 9Ep. 2
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My husband and I have been married for almost 15 years. Now that our children aren't babies anymore our sex life is being resurrected from the dead and better than ever. My husband has expressed an interest in me pegging him. I'll try anything once, especially since it's his hole and not mine. I'm writing to ask for pointers. What do I need to know? How can I make this more enjoyable for him? Tracey, do you have a boo...
Feb 14, 2024•26 min•Season 9Ep. 1
A brand-new season of SexTok will return on February 14. In the meantime, enjoy some popular episodes from the archives. In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) Why can’t my husband change the way he approaches me for sex? He gives me this look that makes me want to run away…it’s primal, and it doesn’t feel good. I want him to start by just holding me and listening to me, but he says that isn’t what he wants at that time. Please help us with our communicati...
Jan 31, 2024•22 min•Season 8Ep. 4
A brand-new season of SexTok will return on February 14. In the meantime, enjoy some popular episodes from the archives. In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I am having an emotional affair with one of my coworkers. I’ve been married for almost 10 years and although I know this isn’t right, it’s making me feel alive again. Every part of me wants to sleep with this man but I don’t want to hurt my husband’s feelings, and I don’t want it to ruin my marriage...
Jan 24, 2024•22 min•Season 8Ep. 3
A brand-new season of SexTok will return on February 14. In the meantime, enjoy some popular episodes from the archives. In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) You talk a lot about how most women have their orgasms through oral sex, but I’ve had more than one girlfriend push me away when I try to go down on her. They say they just aren’t into it. Is this true, or are there other reasons they aren’t telling me? 2) I’m a 48-year-old woman and have been happi...
Jan 17, 2024•20 min•Season 8Ep. 2
A brand-new season of SexTok will return on February 14. In the meantime, enjoy some popular episodes from the archives. In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) After a few relationships in my twenties, I have enjoyed ten years of being (voluntarily) single, but am now looking to meet someone new. I’m keen for my next relationship to have open, honest communication around sex. I know it’s easier to start as you mean to go on, so I’d like to ask when and how...
Jan 10, 2024•21 min•Season 8Ep. 1
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m 36 and just started a relationship with a man I really like. He’s more experienced than me—he’s had lots of relationships, and I’ve only had two long-term relationships. Because of that, I tend to leave it up to him to initiate sex and take the lead in bed. He mentioned recently that it would be great if I was the one to suggest sex now and then. I want to do it, but I’ve never initiated sex before. Can you give m...
Dec 13, 2023•28 min•Season 7Ep. 10
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) How do you have a cervical orgasm? I’ve heard Kelsey talk about it and I’m intrigued. How do you do it? It sounds quite full on and intense and I want to have one! 2) I’m a 36-year-old straight woman and feel like I’m a boring lover. How can I be wilder in bed? I’ve done all the usual things—oral sex, different intercourse positions, hand jobs, BJs—but nothing beyond that. I don’t even know what else there is to do! I...
Dec 06, 2023•27 min•Season 7Ep. 9
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I thought I’d never have to stare at a strange ceiling again, but here I am: newly separated and back out there again. I had a healthy amount of sexual experience before my marriage, but I’ve slept with no one but my husband for 25 years (I’m 52). I’m a confident person, but the thought of sleeping with someone new terrifies me. Can you give me some dos and don’ts of first-time sex with a new lover to help me through?...
Nov 29, 2023•27 min•Season 7Ep. 8
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My son is 25 and I’m 44. I split from his father soon after he was born and we are very close. He still lives at home and often has friends around, all of which I know well. Here’s the part I need advice on: one of his friends has a crush on me and it's flattering. I’ve seen him watching me and he flirts a lot, but he told me recently that he can’t stop thinking about me and would I consider a relationship with him. H...
Nov 22, 2023•22 min•Season 7Ep. 7
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My jaw gets unbearably sore and tired just minutes into giving my partner a BJ. I’ve tried taking breaks by focusing on the testicles, but it’s never enough to recuperate, and he doesn’t seem to enjoy it much. My partner gives me lots of great oral sex and I want to do the same to him. How can I keep him occupied while I rest my jaw, and is there any way to stretch my jaw so it doesn’t get so sore so fast? 2) I’m into...
Nov 15, 2023•27 min•Season 7Ep. 6
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve just broken up with a long-term boyfriend and am dating someone new. All is going well—except in the sex department. He has no problems getting an erection, but the minute he tries to penetrate, he loses it. If we can get him inside of me, he gets hard again and can orgasm. Is this ED? I worry it’s somehow my fault and I know he is embarrassed about it. What can I do to help stop this from happening? 2) How do yo...
Nov 08, 2023•23 min•Season 7Ep. 5
