In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) How do I learn to relax and enjoy my partner giving me oral sex? I’ve been seeing a guy and am really enjoying the relationship. At first, I wouldn’t let him go down on me for all the usual self-conscious reasons. But I decided to be open to the experience since he convinced me that he likes doing it. I still can’t get myself to fully relax and enjoy the experience. I worry about what reaction I should be having: how ...
Nov 01, 2023•26 min•Season 7Ep. 4
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I seem to have the opposite problem to my friends. I’ve just had a baby (she’s six months old) and want to resume having sex with my partner. I’m not exactly dying to have sex, but do think it’s important for us to remain sexual. He knocks me back every time I initiate, coming up with weak excuses why he doesn’t feel like it. I still have some baby weight to lose, so is he just not attracted to me anymore? This is doi...
Oct 25, 2023•24 min•Season 7Ep. 3
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m a 43-year-old woman, happily married for nearly 20 years, with tween-aged children. My husband and I have always maintained a healthy sex life (even if it is a bit vanilla most of the time) The past few years we have scheduled sex, and usually average once or twice a week. But for some unknown reason, both our libidos have disappeared. We both just don’t feel like sex at all. It’s been 2 months! There has been no ...
Oct 18, 2023•24 min•Season 7Ep. 2
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I was in a relationship for 10 years and the sex was never great, but I felt safe and supported and in a lot of ways, I loved my life. We were both each other’s first boyfriend/girlfriend, but we barely had sex and I didn't feel desired. On the rare occasions we did, he’d lose his erection. I tried to get him to feel comfortable talking about sex and be more interested in it, but it felt more like a brother and sister...
Oct 11, 2023•28 min•Season 7Ep. 1
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) How long should you wait to have sex? I’ve been seeing someone for nearly two months and we still haven't had sex. We've talked about it, but it feels like she’s trying to long kick the conversation. The intimacy is great, but I would have hoped for some oral at least? It does feel like she’s not as interested in sex as I am. 2) I have been very happily married to my best friend for almost 35 years and raised four awe...
Sep 06, 2023•24 min•Season 6Ep. 10
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m in my 50s and have been with my husband for 20 years. We’ve reached a point where we have a good life together, but he’s not interested in sex anymore. I look after myself and have been getting attention from a couple of guys at my gym—one going as far as sexting messages which I've found extremely flattering, arousing, and exciting. Is it bad to continue enjoying this? While I know my husband would not approve, I...
Aug 30, 2023•21 min•Season 6Ep. 9
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve been with my partner for 13 years and recently found out he’s been having sex with a woman he works with. It’s over now and we’re having therapy, but we haven’t had sex since I found out six months ago. I can’t even think about sex. Every time I do, I imagine the two of them together and it makes me feel sick to the stomach. How long will this last? Will I ever be able to enjoy sex again? 2) My question is about ...
Aug 23, 2023•26 min•Season 6Ep. 8
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’m in a long-term relationship with my boyfriend and we have great sex, but I have sex dreams about other men weekly. What could this mean? 2) I am in my early 50's and became perimenopausal in my late 40's. My husband and I have been together for 25 years. Sex was always okay, but because of my lack of desire and sex being painful, we have not had intercourse for almost 4 years. I will give him an occasional hand jo...
Aug 16, 2023•23 min•Season 6Ep. 7
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My kids are about to fly the nest and it’s just going to be my husband and me. We get on really well, but I know this will mean he will want sex more often. I used to enjoy sex, but now I find I can take it or leave it. It doesn’t really excite me anymore, and I’m not sure why. How can I get myself more interested? 2) My husband spent a month cross-dressing. He says he’s never going to do it again as I was so upset, a...
Aug 09, 2023•30 min•Season 6Ep. 6
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) We’re a married couple—I’m 35 and my wife is 32—and love listening to your podcast. No kids yet. We enjoy sex, but only have it once a week. We try to do it more, but we’re busy and it never happens. We were talking about sex with a group of close friends and they all said they have sex three times a week minimum. It’s made us feel ashamed and like something is wrong, even though we are really happy with our sex life....
Aug 02, 2023•26 min•Season 6Ep. 5
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve listened to every one of your podcasts and all too often identify as the ‘bad guy.’ I like to watch porn, which I do in secret. I have a secret social media account where I follow a few rather exhibitionist (and rather fun) women (but never engage sexually with them). I dream about visiting a sex club (just to watch), and I visited a nudist beach on my own (without telling my wife) just to see what it was like. I...
Jul 26, 2023•25 min•Season 6Ep. 4
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) You talk a lot about how most women have their orgasms through oral sex, but I’ve had more than one girlfriend push me away when I try to go down on her. They say they just aren’t into it. Is this true, or are there other reasons they aren’t telling me? 2) I’m a 48-year-old woman and have been happily married for 12 years, but am feeling destabilized. I’ve made a new female friend and I am more than a little obsessed ...
Jul 19, 2023•21 min•Season 6Ep. 3
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My partner wants me to talk dirty, and I can see why it’s a turn on—but I don’t have a clue how to do it. What can I say that doesn’t make me sound like an idiot or will make me want to laugh? 2) I heard you on Diary of a CEO and was especially interested in your thoughts on Viagra. My partner is 26 and takes Viagra all the time. He can get an erection without it but, you’re right, there is a world of difference betwe...
Jul 12, 2023•20 min•Season 6Ep. 2
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) So, guys have a built-in masturbation tool (the foreskin) and they discover it very early. They have some advantage I would say for discovering their body and how it can give them the pleasure of orgasm. I have a 13-year-old daughter and want her to also learn about her body and how to give herself an orgasm. I have been thinking about giving her access to a website called OMGYes which runs a masturbation course onlin...
Jul 05, 2023•32 min
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) After a few relationships in my twenties, I have enjoyed ten years of being (voluntarily) single, but am now looking to meet someone new. I’m keen for my next relationship to have open, honest communication around sex. I know it’s easier to start as you mean to go on, so I’d like to ask when and how I can start to set this precedent. 2) I'm a 42-year-old female and it has always taken me ages to orgasm, but once I've ...
May 31, 2023•22 min•Season 5Ep. 10
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I love French kissing but my girlfriend does not. It's my favorite thing to do but she says that’s for teenagers or new relationships. How do I get her to see how fun it can be? Nothing seems to change her mind. 2) My husband and I are in our thirties and have a child. I just recently found out that he had been cheating for the majority of our marriage—mostly with men he found on Grindr (a hook-up app for gay men). He...
May 24, 2023•22 min•Season 5Ep. 9
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My new boyfriend told me I seem much wetter than other women he’s slept with. I took it as a compliment, but now he’s confessed he finds it difficult to orgasm because he can’t feel anything. Is there such a thing as being too wet for sex? 2) What does it mean if a man doesn’t go down on you? I’ve met a guy I like but he hasn’t given me oral sex once and we’ve been together two months. I’ve tried pushing his head hope...
May 17, 2023•23 min•Season 5Ep. 8
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I want to know if my partner is addicted to porn or whether this is normal for a man. We have sex twice a week but he says that isn’t enough for him, so he also masturbates to porn two or three times a week. We’re in our late 20s and have been together 2 years. I don’t ask what type of porn he watches, but do wonder which sex he enjoys more: sex with me or onscreen solo sex. Two or three porn sessions a week seems a l...
May 10, 2023•24 min•Season 5Ep. 7
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) We are the couple that everyone either envies or pities. We have only ever had one sexual partner—each other. We’ve been very happily married for 15 years so far (we’re in our mid 30s) and sex is great. Well, I think so anyway. I do worry that my partner feels like he has missed out by not playing the field, being a man. I’ve asked him and he says he's perfectly happy and why would he want anyone else when I’m so sexy...
May 03, 2023•26 min•Season 5Ep. 6
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) Whenever we go to parties, my husband always makes jokes about having a threesome with one of my best friends. It’s starting to be really weird, and I can tell it’s on his mind all the time. Is that normal? Am I not enough for him anymore? 2) I need help figuring out what went wrong with a great relationship I was having. We’d been together for six weeks, everything was perfect, we made out loads but I didn’t want to ...
Apr 26, 2023•19 min•Season 5Ep. 5
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) Why can’t my husband change the way he approaches me for sex? He gives me this look that makes me want to run away…it’s primal, and it doesn’t feel good. I want him to start by just holding me and listening to me, but he says that isn’t what he wants at that time. Please help us with our communication! 2) I’d love to know what you think of my situation. I’ve been with my partner for five years. We’re a straight couple...
Apr 19, 2023•24 min
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I am having an emotional affair with one of my co-workers. I’ve been married for almost 10 years, and although I know this isn’t right, it’s making me feel alive again. Every part of me wants to sleep with this man, but I don’t want to hurt my husband’s feelings and I don’t want it to ruin my marriage. But, I have a deep desire to have this experience. What is your advice? It seems like both choices will hurt. 2) I’m ...
Apr 12, 2023•23 min•Season 5Ep. 3
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) Tracey, you often talk about masturbation as something everyone should do, especially women. I’ve never done it, and have never seen the point. I asked my partner if he masturbates, and he said why would he need to when we have sex together? I get why you might want to do it if you’re single, but why would you do it if you’re in a relationship? 2) I’ve been married 8 years and with my husband for 14. We met at work. W...
Apr 05, 2023•19 min•Season 5Ep. 2
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I have lost all desire to have sex: my libido has completely disappeared. I don’t want to have sex with my partner, I don’t masturbate, I don’t feel anything when I do attempt to have sex with him. I’m only 42. This isn’t a sudden thing, desire just gently slipped away. What’s wrong with me and what can be done to fix it? 2) My new boyfriend is too loud in bed. He’s loud out of it as well, but that’s not the problem. ...
Mar 29, 2023•24 min•Season 5Ep. 1
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I grew up with religious parents and I’ve had it drummed into me from a very early age that sex is for procreation, not recreation: You do it to have kids and not for pleasure. I am now married to a man who isn’t religious and who has taught me that sex is something adults enjoy. I know intellectually that he's right, but it’s like my body hasn’t caught up with me. I still find it very difficult to relax and enjoy the...
Feb 22, 2023•24 min•Season 4Ep. 10
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) I’ve always wanted to visit a high-end sex club and now that my relationship has finished, it's a good time to do it. The thing is, I have no clue where to start to find one? I don’t want anywhere tacky or sleazy. I’m a straight woman; though, I do confess—I’m a little bi-curious. 2) I’ve just married a man I’ve been with 5 years. We have pretty decent sex, but I worry that it’s not spontaneous. We do it once or twice...
Feb 15, 2023•27 min•Season 4Ep. 9
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) This is a very personal question that’s highly embarrassing. When I have sex with my partner, wind comes out of my vagina. The first time it happened I was mortified but my partner just kept pumping away and didn’t mention it. It happens on a regular basis and destroys the mood for me though he doesn’t seem to care. How can I stop this happening? 2) I’m 36 and I’ve stopped counting the number of relationships I’ve had...
Feb 08, 2023•21 min•Season 4Ep. 8
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) My partner always falls out when we have sex. It’s frustrating and interrupts the flow. Is there a reason why this is happening and how do we stop it? 2) My boyfriend thinks he’s great in bed – he told me right at the start that all his exes say he’s the best lover they’ve ever had. He’s a nice man otherwise and has a good sense of humour so I thought he was just boasting in a joking way. I was wrong. He takes himself...
Feb 01, 2023•21 min•Season 4Ep. 7
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) Why is it that I can orgasm easily on my own (using my fingers or a vibrator) but have never had an orgasm with a partner? So many boyfriends have said, ‘Oh, but you’ve never had sex with ME!”, convinced they will be the one to make it happen. But it never does. I came close with my ex whose technique was excellent, but still couldn’t tip over the edge. 2) I am a guy in my early 40s. My partner of 20 years passed away...
Jan 25, 2023•26 min•Season 4Ep. 6
In this episode, Tracey and Kelsey discuss these three anonymous questions: 1) Don’t give me a hard time because it sounds boring; but, missionary is my favorite position—it just works for us. Can you suggest some ways to mix it up a little to keep things interesting? 2) I’ve been married for 25 years and love my husband, but my self-confidence has taken a dive. Five years ago, my husband became very close friends with a new (and beautiful) co-worker. This was the first time I had to deal with h...
Jan 18, 2023•28 min•Season 4Ep. 5
