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Selfie

Kristen Howertonrageagainsttheminivan.com
Let’s talk self-care and mental health. Kristen Howerton, writer and psychotherapist, is joined by her longtime pal Matthias Roberts, psychotherapist, side-eye aficionado, and dog dad, as they tackle the tricky and often elusive aspects of caring for ourselves. Their weekly conversations explore questions like: Can self-care be for everyone? How do I get enough sleep? What aspects of my personality make self-care tricky? And what’s in this face mask? From the silly to the serious, Kristen and Matthias are taking a vulnerable and often humorous look at body, mind and spirit . . . all while looking at the distractions and defenses that keep us from caring for ourselves like we should. Like that 6pm deadline butting up against 6:30pm soccer practice.
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Episodes

Caleb Wilde: WHAT A MORTICIAN CAN TEACH US ABOUT LIVING | Selfie Episode 244

Can embracing our mortality help us living more fully? Caleb Wilde, author of Confessions of a Funeral Director , shares with us some of his insights about facing death and what we can learn from loss. Check out his latest book All the Ways Our Dead Still Speak: A Funeral Director on Life, Death, and the Hereafter. Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

Dec 21, 202226 min

Karen Walrond on Cultivating Healthy Friendships | Selfie Podcast Episode 243

We chat with author Karen Walrond on how to cultivate friendships and create healthy boundaries. Check out Karen Walrond’s podcast Make Light and her book The Lightmaker's Manifesto: How to Work for Change without Losing Your Joy . . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

Dec 14, 202229 min

Dr. Nisha Jackson on Avoiding Burnout | Selfie Podcast Episode 242

Stress can wreak havoc on every aspect of our health. We talk with Dr. Nisha Jackson about burnout, what it can do to our body, and how to avoid it. In this episode we also talked about: Brilliant Burnout Atomic Habits Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

Dec 07, 202223 min

CHRISTINE KOH ON INTROVERSION AND SELF-CARE | SELFIE EPISODE 241

Kristen and Christine put on their therapist hats to talk about introversion and self-care. Christine Koh is a former music and brain neuroscientist turned author and blogger. She co-hosts the Edit Your Life Podcast and co-wrote the book Minimalist Parenting . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

Nov 30, 202228 min

SELF-CARE AS A TRANS PERSON: AN INTERVIEW WITH CASEY BROWN | SELFIE EPISODE 240

Casey Brown shares vulnerably about the realities of self-care as a trans person, from being misgendered to the struggle of public bathrooms, as well as some of the unique learnings about skincare, shaving, and more as they began hormone therapy last year. We learned a lot from Casey and hope you will give a listen to understand more about the realities of trans people and how to be an ally. In this episode we talked about: Birch Box for Men Sprezza Box MeUndies Self-harm rates among trans peopl...

Nov 16, 202234 min

Lisa Damour on Raising Preteens/Teens | Selfie Episode 238

I’m talking with fellow therapist Lisa Damour about raising preteens and teens, how to promote empathy and self-esteem while also promoting resilience, and what the pandemic is doing to an already stressed-out generation. Lisa is the author of the books Under Pressure and Untangled . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices

Nov 02, 202233 min

DRINKING AS A COPING SKILL: KERRY COHEN ON HOW MUCH IS TOO MUCH | SELFIE EPISODE 237

We’re talking about drinking and when to know when it’s a problem with Kerry Cohen , author of Lush: A Memoir. Many of us like a glass of wine or two to wind down at the end of the day, and there is a preponderance of cultural references to women and drinking as a kind of social contract. Kerry helps us unpack that messy middle between healthy drinking and full-blown addiction. In this episode we talked about: Lush: A Memoir Moderation Management Smart Recovery Refuge Recovery Alcoholics Anonymo...

Oct 26, 202235 min

MELANIE SHANKLE ON PARENTING TEENS AND THE MIDDLE SPACE | SELFIE PODCAST 236

We are talking with author Melanie Shankle on raising teenagers, finding our own sense of self as a mom, and being in the weird middle place of life. Melanie is the co-host of the Big Boo Podcast and author of On the Bright Side: Stories about Friendship, Love, and Being True to Yourself as well as Nobody's Cuter Than You: A Memoir About the Beauty of Friendship . Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

Oct 19, 202232 min

SLAYING THE VALIDATION-SEEKING WITH TIFFANY REESE | SELFIE PODCAST EPISODE 235

Today I am talking with Tiffany Reese , the podcaster behind Something Was Wrong and author of Strong Women Rising . Tiffany and I talk about the ongoing journey of letting go of the need for validation from others, how we’ve worked to let go of perfectionism, and how we are trying to teach these concepts to our kids. Our sponsor Tanasi’s CBD+CBDa formula is 2X more effective than CBD alone and research indicates it's more effective than over-the-counter ibuprofen, acetaminophen and aspirin. The...

Oct 12, 202232 min

REDEFINING “PERFECT” WITH GLENNON DOYLE | SELFIE EPISODE 234

We are revisiting a conversation with author and speaker Glennon Doyle about letting go of expectations and redefining “perfect”, and her new book Untamed . We love Ritual vitamins, but did you know they have a new probiotic product? Ritual’s Synbiotic+ is science-backed and research-stacked. Their delayed-release capsule is designed to help reach the colon (not the stomach), an ideal place for probiotics to survive and grow. Ritual is offering our listeners 10% off during your first 3 months. V...

Oct 03, 202229 min

The Peacemakers: Talking Enneagram Type 9 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Sarah Bessey | Selfie Podcast Episode 233

This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 9, and we revisit a conversation with Sarah Bessey , author of Jesus Feminist and A Rhythm of Prayer . More enneagram resources: To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types. (...

Aug 31, 202240 min

The Challengers: Talking Enneagram 8 | Selfie Episode 232

This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 8, and we revisit a conversation with an interview with blogger (and mom of 9) Heidi Weimer. More enneagram resources: To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types. (We recomme...

Aug 24, 202244 min

The Enthusiastic Visionary: Talking Enneagram Type 7 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Ryan Walton | Selfie Podcast Episode 231

This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 7, and we revisit a conversation withWe also chat with Ryan Walton, writer at coach with DaringtoDad.com , about being an enneagram type 7. More enneagram resources: To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and e...

Aug 10, 202246 min

The Loyal Skeptic: Talking Enneagram Type 6 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Carlee Lane | Selfie Podcast Episode 230

This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 6, and we revisit a conversation with Carlee Lane about being an enneagram type 6. More enneagram resources: To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types. (We recommend springi...

Aug 03, 202231 min

The Individualists: Talking Enneagram Type 5 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Kelley Nikondeha | Selfie Podcast Episode 229

This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 5, and we revisit a conversation with Kelley Nikondeha , author of Adopted: The Sacrament of Belonging in a Fractured World , about some of the unique strengths and challenges of being an enneagram 5. More enneagram resources: To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at...

Jul 27, 20221 hr 9 min

The Individualists: Talking Enneagram Type 4 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Holly Rankin Zaher | Selfie Epispde 228

This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 4, and we revisit a conversation with Holly Rankin Zaher about being an Enneagram Type 4. More enneagram resources: To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types. (We recommend ...

Jul 21, 202237 min

The Achievers: Talking Enneagram Type 3 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Sarah James | Selfie Epispde 227

This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 3, and we revisit a conversation between Kristen and Sarah James about the experience of being type 3’s. More enneagram resources: To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your secondary types....

Jul 13, 202239 min

The Caretakers: Talking Enneagram 2 with Micky ScottBey Jones and Meagan Francis | Selfie Episode 226

This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of Enneagram Type 2, and we revisit a conversation with Meagen Francis of The Mom Hour who shares her personal experience as a type 2. More enneagram resources: To take the test to find out your own type, you can visit this site for a quick, free test, or buy the $12 Riso-Hudson Enneagram Type Indicator test at the Enneagram Institute for a more thorough assessment and explanation of your seco...

Jul 06, 202231 min

Talking Enneagram 1's with Micky ScottBey Jones and Kendra Adachi | Selfie Podcast Episode 225

This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky ScottBey Jones helps us make sense of the Enneagram and how it can help us in our relationships and in our work. In this episode we are talking about enneagram type 1, followed by a previously recorded interview with Kendra Adachi of The Lazy Genius about her experience as a type 1. The Enneagram Institute - RHETI Micky ScottBey Jones The Lazy Genius podcast The Lazy Genius book Micky ScottBey Jones (she/her) is a Black, queer ...

Jul 01, 202236 min

What can we learn from the Enneagram? A new series with Micky Scottbey Jones | Selfie Podcast Episode 22

This summer we are diving into the Enneagram! In this episode, Micky Scottbey Jones helps us make sense of the Enneagram and how it can help us in our relationships and in our work. In the following nine episodes we will be doing a deep dive into each type! In this episode we also talk about: The Enneagram Institute - RHETI Micky Scottbey Jones What is Enneagram for the People? Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

Jun 22, 202234 min

The Effect of Anti-LGBTQ+ Legislation on Kids + Commercializing Celebrations | Selfie Episode 223

A listener asks how to help their queer kids as they continue to hear about sweeping anti-LGBTQ+ legislation. Plus, Matthias and Kristen talk about the commercialization of Pride and other celebrations. Kristen also shares an update from her ketamine therapy. Links + Resources: Bars Over Bottles Solid Intense Conditioner Ethique Eco-Friendly Face Cleansing Bar for Oily to Normal Skin Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

Jun 15, 202235 minEp. 223

Relationship Anxiety + Supporting a Spouse with Depression | Selfie Episode 222

How do you support a spouse with depression? And why are there so many TV shows about people with personality disorders right now? Plus, Matthias shares his favorite resources for relationship anxiety and Kristen shares some show recommendations! Links + Resources Attachment Style Quiz Anxiously Attached: Becoming More Secure in Life and Love by Jessica Baum Thais Gibson's YouTube Channel Heidi Priebe's YouTube Channel Under the Banner of Heaven Love on the Spectrum Learn more about your ad choi...

Jun 08, 202230 minEp. 222

Processing Tragedy When the Helpers Didn't Help + How Much Should We Follow our Feelings? : Selfie Podcast Episode 221

We are discussing the tragedy in Uvalde, and how to process the feelings of helplessness and despair around gun violence, paired with the shocking discoveries around law enforcement's failures that day. We follow up on our convo from last week around feelings and butterflies, and what to do when you received messages that feelings can't be trusted. In this episode we also talked about: This Cute Amazon Caftan Shower Brush Back Scrubber Body Exfoliator Why deal with razor burn and wasteful dispos...

Jun 01, 202229 min

My Husband Isn’t Helping Equally + Butterflies and True Love | Selfie Episode 220

A listener wonders, "what do I do if I feel like my husband isn’t helping equally?" Plus, Matthias and Kristen chat through why butterflies aren't always the most reliable indicator of true love. Links + Resources: Ninja Foodi Pressure Cooker + Air Fryer Sent Away Podcast Fair Play Cards Beyond Shame Book Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

May 25, 202228 minEp. 220

Anxiety About Roe v. Wade + Can You Be Friends With People You're Attracted To? | Selfie Episode 219

Kristen and Matthias answer a listener who wonders if it's healthy to make friends with people you're attracted to while in a partnership. Then, they chat about anxiety around national events like the possible repeal of Roe v. Wade. Plus, Kristen shares what happened when she got in a fight with a megachurch pastor. Links + Resources: Philips Norelco OneBlade Life of Beth Our sponsor today has helped thousands of women deal with thinning hair. Nutrafol is a doctor-formulated supplement clinicall...

May 18, 202247 minEp. 219

Centering Practices for Anxiety + Personality Disorders 101 | Selfie Episode 218

A listener asks about quick centering practices to help in her busy and high anxiety life. Kristen and Matthias chat through a couple personality disorders that have been in the news a lot recently. Plus, Kristen explains the newest skincare treatment she's tried: sebaceous hyperplasia burning. Links + Resources 1Password App Kitsch Self-Draining Shower Caddy Drunk Elephant Face Bar EFT Tapping Stop Walking on Eggshells Book Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...

May 11, 202243 minEp. 218

Teen Sleepovers + Different Genders Rooming Together at College | Selfie Episode 217

A listener asks about their college age kid rooming together with someone of a different gender, Matthias and Kristen discuss this alongside the complexity of teen sleepovers with different genders and sexual orientations. Plus, the Amber Heard/Johnny Depp trial and the reality that domestic violence doesn't just affect women. Links + Resources Heartstopper on Netflix Rothaniel on HBO Max National Domestic Violence Hotline Website Our sponsor today has helped thousands of women deal with thinnin...

May 04, 202245 minEp. 217

Healthy Habits vs. Meds + Psychedelic-Assisted Therapies | Selfie Episode 216

Psychedelics are at the cutting edge of mental-health research right now. Kristen talks about how she's about to try ketamine therapy for her depression and chats with Matthias about his experience in psychedelic-assisted therapy. Then, a listener asks about trying meds for her depression or continuing to try healthy habits. Plus, how is Pixar using psychology in their movies? Links + Resources: How to Change Your Mind by Michael Pollan Ancient Minerals Magnesium Oil Spray Bottle The Dream Podca...

Apr 27, 202230 minEp. 216

ADHD and Kids | Selfie Episode 215

This week, Kristen and Matthias are talking about all things ADHD and kids. A listener wonders, how do you know when to seek an ADHD diagnosis for young school age kids? Then, they discuss the ways TikTok is enabling predatory ADHD advertisers to target young users. Plus, a mental health check in and Two Thumbs Up! Links + Resources: Kyte Car Rental Reusable Clear Boba Straws TikTok is enabling predatory ADHD advertisers to target young users Adult ADHD Self Report Example CircleDNA Premium is t...

Apr 20, 202238 minEp. 215
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