This week, a listener asks what to do when their teenager's friends are negatively affecting their mental health. Kristen and Matthias discuss birthdays as adults and a new kind of face mask Kristen is using. Plus, former TikTok content moderators filed a lawsuit over ‘psychological trauma’ -- what's going on there? Links + Resources: Huberman Lab Podcast Fluff & Tuff Dog Toys Dermabeam Pro Light Therapy Mask Former TikTok content moderators file lawsuit over ‘psychological trauma’ Our spons...
Apr 13, 2022•32 min•Ep. 214
This week, Kristen and Matthias chat about how difficult it is to find a therapist who takes insurance. Why is that? Kristen also shares about a new type of therapy for chronic pain she's having success with. Plus, with the recent news of more suicides at Stanford, Matthias and Kristen talk about high-pressure environments and the toll they take on mental health. This episode does contain frank discussion about suicide. Links + Resources: Pain Reprocessing Therapy The Way Out: A Revolutionary, S...
Apr 06, 2022•43 min•Ep. 213
Kristen chats with author Andre Henry about his new book All the White Friends I Couldn't Keep: Hope-and Hard Pills to Swallow-About Fighting for Black Lives . But first, Matthias and Kristen check in on how their weeks are going and share their new favorite kitchen gadgets...plus an easy dinner recipe Matthias keeps returning to again and again. Links + Resources: Andre Henry's Website All the White Friends I Couldn't Keep (book) Ninja Foodi 11-in-1 Pressure Cooker + Air Fryer 30-Minute Pressur...
Mar 30, 2022•1 hr 15 min•Ep. 212
A listener wonders: "How can I help my teen when they're having a panic attack?" Kristen and Matthias share tips that will help during any panic attack. Plus, with so many new TV shows dramatizing high-profile fraud schemes ( Inventing Anna, The Tinder Swindler, The Drop Out ) Matthias and Kristen discuss theories on how people get away with it for so long. Links + Resources Hiya App Amber Glass Jars Jar Labels on Etsy Elizabeth Holmes, Billy Mcfarland, & Anna Delvey: How Scammers Keep Scamm...
Mar 23, 2022•31 min•Ep. 211
This week, Kristen chats with Karen Walrond about her new book The Lightmaker's Manifesto: How to Work for Change Without Losing Your Joy. But first, Matthias and Kristen check in on the week and share some thumbs up on books and tv shows....and some thumbs down. Links + Resources Karen Walrond's Website The Lightmaker's Manifesto The House in the Cerulean Sea Somebody Somewhere on HBO The Gilded Age on HBO Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Mar 16, 2022•1 hr 11 min•Ep. 210
Listener note: this episode gets a bit explicit. Kristen and Matthias discuss feeling guilty for being okay while people are suffering. Then, they answer a listener question about whether parents should let their teens watch Euphoria. Plus, a new study suggests that men are viewed as being more entitled to orgasms than women...what does that mean for women in the bedroom? Links + Resources To Anyone Feeling Guilty For Carrying On With Your Life Right Now Bottoms Up Balm Bottoms Up Supplement Han...
Mar 09, 2022•41 min•Ep. 209
This week, a listener asks "how do I make decisions when I constantly don't have any sense of direction?" Plus, a new study suggests that people who worship celebrities might be less intelligent? Kristen and Matthias discuss. Links + Resources: Home Run Inn Frozen Pizza Remrise Sleep Powder (Study) Celebrity Worship and Cognitive Skills Revisited People Are Sounding Off on Study that Says Those Who Worship Celebrities May Be Less Intelligent Our sponsor today has helped thousands of women deal w...
Mar 02, 2022•28 min•Ep. 208
Today, Kristen is chatting with Dr. Nancy Dome about her new book Let's Talk About Race (And Other Hard Things): A Framework for Having Conversations That Build Bridges, Strengthen Relationships, and Set Clear Boundaries. Plus, Matthias and Kristen check in on their mental health and Two Thumbs Up for the week. Links + Resources Let's Talk About Race (And Other Hard Things) by Nancy Dome Dr. Nancy Dome's Website Tornado Pen by Retro 51 Rechargeable Lighter Learn more about your ad choices. Visit...
Feb 23, 2022•53 min•Ep. 207
Kristen and Matthias discuss the trend of parents hosting parties for teens with alcohol. Should your teen be allowed to go? Plus, they discuss new research that seems to answer the decades old question: is parenting toddlers or teens harder? Today's What I Want You To Know is from Jessica about Prader-Willi syndrome, a genetic disorder that causes constant hunger. To submit your own story for “What I Want You to Know” record using this link: https://www.speakpipe.com/selfiepodcast Links + Resou...
Feb 16, 2022•33 min•Ep. 206
A listener wonders about letting their teenager have Snapchat. Plus, Matthias and Kristen talk about new research that helps explain our scrolling addictions and their favorite non-alcoholic drink options! Links + Resources: Athletic Brewing Company Non-Alcoholic Beer Seedlip Non-Alcoholic Spirits The Psychology of Your Scrolling Addiction It’s a new year, and many of us are looking for ways to have better eating habits. Enter Factor. Factor makes it easy to eat clean 24/7, with fresh—never froz...
Feb 09, 2022•38 min•Ep. 205
Today, a listener asks about coparenting with a parent who wants to be a friend instead of a parent. Kristen and Matthias chat about why they think Joe Rogan and other men like him are so popular. And...composting! Today's What I Want You To Know is from Jennifer about not regretting her abortion. To submit your own story for “What I Want You to Know” record using this link: https://www.speakpipe.com/selfiepodcast Links + Resources: Compostable Sponges Ultra-Fine Microfiber Hair Towel Wrap Our s...
Feb 02, 2022•40 min•Ep. 204
Wordle has swept the internet! Matthias and Kristen discuss the reason the game is so popular. Plus, a listener wonders about dating during the pandemic, and Kristen shares her new self-care tool she doesn't want to leave lying around the house. Today's What I Want You To Know is from Kari about parenting a child with schizophrenia. To submit your own story for “What I Want You to Know” record using this link: https://www.speakpipe.com/selfiepodcast Links + Resources: Gideon Neck and Shoulder Th...
Jan 26, 2022•35 min
What do we do when we've already failed our New Year's resolutions? Plus, with the new season of Dexter + the onslaught of true crime documentaries, what's up with the fascination with serial killers? And...are low-rise jeans making a comeback? Today's What I Want You To Know is from Angela Clavijo about being a social worker. To submit your own story for “What I Want You to Know” record using this link: https://www.speakpipe.com/selfiepodcast Links + Resources Untitled Goose Game Women's Mid-Ri...
Jan 19, 2022•40 min
Kristen and Matthias talk about the strangeness and difficulty of grieving celebrity deaths. Plus, a listener asks: "my kids are staying up until 11ish and I can’t relax until they’re asleep, how do I get alone time?" Links + Resources Travel Purse Philo TV Nutrafol has helped thousands of women deal with thinning hair. Nutrafol is a doctor-formulated supplement clinically shown to improve hair growth and thickness that offers two targeted formulas for women. Nutrafol Women is ideal if you’re ex...
Jan 12, 2022•33 min
Happy New Year! This week Kristen and Matthias are discussing the particular kind of guilt people are feeling when they get COVID after months and years of trying to be as safe as possible. Plus, a listener question about talking to kids about parental estrangement. Links + Resources Boox Tablet Scribd Huheta KN95 masks The Daily - Why Omicron is Counterintuitive We’ve talked quite a lot in our community group about the unexpected and frustrating symptoms of perimenopause, menopause. Bonafide is...
Jan 05, 2022•44 min
Today, a listener asks "how do I find time for myself between homeschooling young kids and my husband working a lot." Plus, Kristen and Matthias discuss the rise of "therapy speak" in regular conversations...and Matthias shares his favorite pretzel recipe! Today's What I Want You To Know is from Caroline Garnet McGraw about how childhood rejection affects you going forward. To submit your own story for “What I Want You to Know” record using this link: https://www.speakpipe.com/selfiepodcast Link...
Dec 29, 2021•37 min
We're all feeling a bit more pandemic stress in the midst of the holidays + the new omicron variant. Kristen and Matthias discuss research that shows memes might be there to help? Plus, what does it look like to set boundaries with kind/loving parents and non-toxic people? Today's What I Want You To Know is from Lauri Walker about late-term pregnancy loss. To submit your own story for “What I Want You to Know” record using this link: https://www.speakpipe.com/selfiepodcast Links and Resources: E...
Dec 22, 2021•36 min
It seems so many people are becoming coaches or coaches to coaches, Kristen and Matthias discuss the trend. Plus, a listener's husband is getting on her nerves because of his "concerns" about getting a vasectomy, what should she do? Today's What I Want You To Know is from Christine Sicinski about adopting from the foster-care system. To submit your own story for “What I Want You to Know” record using this link: https://www.speakpipe.com/selfiepodcast Links and Resources: Pork Chomps Dog Treats S...
Dec 15, 2021•38 min
This week, Kristen and Matthias chat through how much is appropriate to share with teens about our own teenage years. Plus, are active shooter drills in schools helpful or harmful? Today's What I Want You To Know is from Beth McCormack about delivering a child with a congenital heart defect and overcoming infant medical trauma. To submit your own story for “What I Want You to Know” record using this link: https://www.speakpipe.com/selfiepodcast Links and Resources: Open Story luggage at Target M...
Dec 08, 2021•40 min
This week, Kristen and Matthias introduce a new series called “What I Want You to Know” featuring stories from Selfie listeners. Plus, revenge procrastination: what is it and how do we stop staying up so late? And, Britney Spears is finally free! What is a conservatorship and what does her new freedom mean for her? To submit your own story for “What I Want You to Know” record using this link: https://www.speakpipe.com/selfiepodcast Links and Resources: Truekind Seamless Stretch Mid-Waist Short 1...
Dec 01, 2021•40 min
How do you set family boundaries during the holidays without causing a scene? Plus, Matthias shares his theory on uncomfortable throw pillows. And, Kristen + Matthias discuss the American Psychological Association's recent apology for perpetuating systemic racism -- what does racism look like in psychology? Links + Resources: FACTORFIVE Regenerative Serum Hempillow on Etsy Decolonizing Therapy on Instagram Gabes Torres on Instagram Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Nov 24, 2021•37 min
Two thumbs up is back! Matthias and Kristen discuss a question from a listener wondering if narcissists can spot narcissism in other people? Plus, how can things go so wrong in crowds like what happened recently at Astroworld. And…why is Pete Davidson so hot? Links + Resources Land’s End Packable Down Coats CGK Unlimited Sheets Death at Astroworld: 5 Ways Crowds Can Quickly Go Bad EveryPlate’s easy-to-follow recipes and pre-portioned ingredients take the stress out of dinnertime. Great for kids ...
Nov 17, 2021•54 min
Today Matthias and Kristen talk about sexual and gender identity development in teens. How do we leave room for growth without locking kids into an identity? And, why is Tik Tok so addicting? Links + Resources Pain Reprocessing Therapy (PRT) The Way Out by Alan Gordon and Alon Ziv The Brain's Way of Healing by Norman Doidge The Body Keeps the Score by Bessel Van Der Kolk Shameless Parenting by Tina Schermer Sellers George by Alex Gino Raising Them by Kyl Myers Red: A Crayon's Story by Michael Ha...
Nov 10, 2021•46 min
It seems like every week a new video comes out about someone losing their cool on airplanes, this week Kristen and Matthias dive into what might be going on. Plus, is high functioning anxiety a real thing? Links + Resources Onsite Workshops The Anxiety and Worry Workbook: The Cognitive Behavioral Solution EveryPlate’s easy-to-follow recipes and pre-portioned ingredients take the stress out of dinnertime. Great for kids learning to cook and great for parents who are stressed between work and scho...
Nov 03, 2021•38 min
Today Kristen and Matthias answer a listener question about how to help a spouse dealing with mental health issues but won't seek treatment. Plus, everyone's favorite topic: anxiety! Is Generalized Anxiety Disorder a chronic, life-long condition? And...why is Squid Game so popular? Links + Resources Health at Every Size (HAES) The Body is Not an Apology by Sonya Renee Taylor Squid Game on Netflix Subscribe via Apple Podcasts | Stitcher | Spotify | Google | IHeartRadio Fazl is a company that work...
Oct 27, 2021•36 min•Ep. 190
Kristen introduces Selfie's new co-host, Matthias Roberts. After playing 10-questions, Matthias and Kristen discuss resources for parents wanting to raise kids in a sex-positive environment. They end with a conversation about the new Netflix show Maid and the issues of emotional domestic abuse it addresses. Links + Resources: Shameless Parenting by Dr. Tina Schermer Sellers It's Not the Stork!: A Book About Girls, Boys, Babies, Bodies, Families and Friends It's So Amazing!: A Book about Eggs, Sp...
Oct 20, 2021•43 min•Ep. 189
Roo shares about her new tv show, Undercover Underage , premiering on Discovery+ on November 6th. We talk about her next steps and some exciting changes coming up for Selfie! In this episode we also talk about: SOSA Matthias Roberts Maid on Netflix Anastasia Beverly Hills - Lip Gloss BrwnGrlz jewelry Better Than Before Learn more about your ad choices. Visit megaphone.fm/adchoices...
Oct 13, 2021•52 min•Ep. 188
Kristen ponders women’s collective anger about strategized incompetence in our partners, Roo talks her new grounding practice, and we chat with Rafia Zakaria about her new book Against White Feminism .about what white women must do to make the feminist movement in America truly intersectional. She has some amazing insights on how white privilege has infiltrated the feminist movement and shares her experiences as an immigrant woman of color and how the feminist movement alienated her. You can fin...
Oct 06, 2021•49 min•Ep. 187
Kristen shares her smoothie-prep hack, Roo is back in the gym, and BJ answers our questions about what to do when your own parenting disagrees with how you parent. In this episode we also talk about: The Chair on Netflix Sugarfina Advent Calendar Tea Advent Calendar CUUP Bras Bimble CBD Beverages MyFitnessPal is more than just counting calories. MyFitnessPal helps you gradually learn from personalized data what works for you and YOUR goals. “App Customization” lets you choose the right settings ...
Sep 29, 2021•51 min•Ep. 186
We are talking with Jenny Lawson ( The Bloggess ) about her book Broken (In the Best Possible Way ) about mental health, using humor to cope, our brains lying to us, and our shared introversion mishaps. Jenny’s memoir is simultaneously hilarious and thought-provoking, and you can find it here . Give InKind is a platform specifically created for offering care. It is highly customizable and offers a number of ways for family, friends, and even strangers to help out. It offers a variety of ways to ...
Sep 22, 2021•57 min•Ep. 185
