Hey everyone! Meet your new co-worker, and her …master. At the work party, the new gal showed up with her 24/7 master who fed her in front of everyone, the whole time. Now, the caller doesn’t want to be sex-negative or anything, but is this appropriate workplace etiquette? Next up! Do you like to crank them hogs? This widower had a rich, fulfilling sex life with his wife Barb, but she passed away. How can he find sexual fulfillment in his golden years? (And, Nancy has an important message for yo...
Feb 22, 2022•1 hr 1 min•Ep. 800
Hoo boy do we have a goodie for you today. First off, a woman and her boyfriend have been together for 2 1/2 years. They stay home, watch tv, play videos games and don’t have sex. When one of them tries to initiate, they both feel too silly to get in the mood. How can they get their mojo back? Our guests are Corinne Fisher and Krystyna Hutchinson from the Guys We F****d podcast. Why we haven’t had them on the show sooner is a mystery to everyone. Dan and the ladies gab about dating younger guys,...
Feb 15, 2022•52 min•Ep. 799
Ah Valentine’s Day. This year, Dan will finally teach you how keep it spicy...very, very spicy. Let’s tuck in. Inevitable Divorce: A man with a history of divorce in his family was chatting with a friend about how he would consider marriage when he could afford to get divorced. But his boyfriend of 3 years overheard and now there’s hell to pay. A lesbian bought a delightful dildo to use on her girlfriend. But guess what. They broke up! Does our caller have to throw away the sex toy, still in its...
Feb 08, 2022•56 min•Ep. 798
A man regrets breaking up with his girlfriend. He always does this! He ends his great relationships because his expectations are too high. Would she consider coming back to him? Should he even ask? Erika Lust who is making waves with her ethical, woman-centered erotic films. She and Dan have a long convo on how porn is our default sex-ed, what porn made for women can be like, and how to consume porn thoughtfully and ethically. On the Magnum, a man has started dating a rather demanding virgin. Al...
Feb 01, 2022•58 min•Ep. 797
That’s right, all of you who enjoy watching your partners sleep with others now are officially celebrated ALL WEEK LONG. And here at the Savage Lovecast, we’re delighted to take part. Venus Cuckoldress is on to talk about her podcast, and to advise a woman about her plan to have a gang bang on her wedding night. And there’s more on the big ole Magnum version of the show. Then, also on the Magnum, Dan chats with David Ley, who literally wrote the book on cuckolding- “Insatiable Wives: Women Who S...
Jan 25, 2022•53 min•Ep. 796
Oh no, it’s a three-way gone bad! A woman and her fiancé agreed to sleep with their friend. She set her very clear boundaries, and guess what? He and the gal broke them all in a triumph of cruelty and inconsideration. Now what? They have been together for 12 years. Can you imagine? A poly woman with a chronic medical condition has been attracted to a good friend for a while. The sexual tension is building…but she found out that not only is he unvaccinated, but he never intends to get the vaccine...
Jan 18, 2022•57 min•Ep. 795
A happily married trans man came out to his mom. She didn’t take it well. She told him that if he changed his name it would kill her. Then she died. Now he is faced with a choice- should he use his former name at the funeral gathering, or use his true, current name? A married woman enjoys animalistic, primal, rough sex. Her husband is also gentle and sweet and affectionate. She loves both, but has a hard time transitioning from one style to the other. On the Magnum, Dan brings on Dr. Debby Herbe...
Jan 11, 2022•47 min•Ep. 794
Let us start the New Year with…blackmail! A woman’s boyfriend got ensnarled by an extortionist on a kink website who sent private sexual photos to her family. Now she has to work through her anger and worry around sex and kink. Yuk, right? But then! You can hear the triumphant story of a man who batted away an aspiring blackmailer by telling her to go ahead and send out his pics “but be sure to use a filter to make my eyes look pretty.” A woman in poly relationships has gained a lot of weight af...
Jan 04, 2022•57 min•Ep. 793
Happy New Year? Boy oh boy, Dan tells a lot of people to break up on this episode. There’s the gay man with an older boyfriend who might want to go poly despite his boyfriend’s commitment to monogamy. There’s the woman who is finally in a healthy, caring relationship, but it’s booooring. And, there’s the woman whose boyfriend emotionally abuses her and refuses to go to therapy, insisting he will never treat her better. Out with the old, people! Let’s all treat ourselves right in 2022! On the Mag...
Dec 28, 2021•53 min•Ep. 792
Happy Solstice everyone, who’s up for some label salad? A cassgendered (look it up- we did,) demi, pan person has a partner who was assigned male at birth but is taking hormones to be more feminine. The partner feels non-gendered, and enjoys having both a penis and breasts. But they feel they have to present as male because they live in a conservative area. They are only attracted to women, and wonders what label to use when filling out dating profiles. A bi woman met a man on an app, who lives ...
Dec 21, 2021•58 min•Ep. 791
Why was he such a bad lover? A woman hooked up with a younger man, and endured mediocre sex. He didn’t reciprocate oral, for instance. She blew him off, and when he reached out to her, she was honest about his lack of skill. Later, he drunk-dialed her and confessed that it had been his first time. Now she feels guilty and wishes she had been more compassionate, knowing what she now knows. Does she owe him anything? A woman has discovered that her new boyfriend follows porny, blonde bimbo types o...
Dec 14, 2021•57 min•Ep. 790
CLEAN MY HOUSE. A woman has been seeing her new boyfriend for a few months. He is kinkier than she’s ever been, but she’s willing to try his things. A dom friend of his has commanded him to clean her house as a service sub. Suddenly the caller feels jealous. Also, if he’s going to clean anything, it should be his own damn house. A woman drunkenly made up a project she was working on in order to entice a former teacher of hers on LinkedIn. He responded right away, offering to help. Now what? Shou...
Dec 07, 2021•58 min•Ep. 789
It’s a sexcess story...sort of! A woman tells us about how she relieved a 32 year-old man of his virginity. She recommends it! A woman had a wonderful hook-up with her neighbor. The next morning they made plans to have dinner that night, but she never heard from him again, in what turned out to be a literal ghosting. He died that day. Now she feels heartsick and guilty that she is grieving such a short relationship. Dan counsels her on the phone as only Dan can. On the Magnum, it’s a “What You G...
Nov 30, 2021•55 min•Ep. 788
Happy Thanksgiving, and welcome to the homo takeover! We’re focusing on queers exclusively this week, so MOVE OUT OF THE WAY, breeders. A newly sober lesbian wonders if it’s normal to get SUPER-HORNY when you quit booze. Or is she #blessed? How are you supposed to live your life when you are an ex-marine, macho, rural, hunter bro and also…bisexual? He knows he should be out, but worries he won’t be able to find women to date who would be cool with it. Next, we crank the queer dial up to a billio...
Nov 23, 2021•55 min•Ep. 787
A group of friends get together regularly and do molly together. But there’s one dude in the group who gets a little too touchy feely with the women, asking if can touch them in…intimate ways. How can they tell him to knock it off without ruining the groovy vibe? A bisexual teenaged boy can’t come during sex. He can get there when he masturbates. But for some reason he can’t close the deal with others. Why? What can he do? On the Magnum, Dan and comedian Judy Gold from the Kill Me Now podcast an...
Nov 16, 2021•59 min•Ep. 786
Do you have queer imposter syndrome? This woman thinks she does. Now that she has her first girlfriend, a little, mean voice in her head tells her she faking it. A woman has started dating a really great guy. The hitch? He's into making people throw up. So. Can she go there for him, or is this a Fetish Too Far? On the Magnum, a woman gets aroused when she has to pee. But is it dangerous to hold it just to get that good feeling? Dan brings on a urogynecologist to help answer this one, because Dan...
Nov 09, 2021•53 min•Ep. 785
A woman in an open relationship with her bi husband, will sometimes indulge in threeways with men. But these men almost always ask to film the fun. Isn't this just asking for free porn? It makes the caller feel like an unpaid sex worker. A trans man wants to start hooking up with men. But he remembers how dangerous and fraught this was before he transitioned, and wants to make sure he's safe and in control this time. Dan calls him up and you get to listen in. On the Magnum, Dan brings back STI r...
Nov 02, 2021•55 min•Ep. 784
A woman and her husband recently had their wedding celebration. She gave him the full hall pass to go party down with his pals and bring in some sex workers. She stayed home with her gal pals. Now, she wants to exact SEX REVENGE, and have a dalliance herself. Is this so wrong? A newly out lesbian wants to get a dyke haircut. But she doesn't want to be a walking lesbian cliche´. Walking lesbian cliche´ Tracey Cataldo, a.k.a. Dan's "Mean Lesbian Boss" (and we really mean it, you should see her on ...
Oct 26, 2021•51 min•Ep. 783
Our opening "Sexcess" story features a woman who discovered she's natural born pegger. After some initial reticence, now her man begs for it. A gay man has a fraught relationship with his parents. He visits them, but they don't visit him. He learned recently that he has Aspergers Syndrome, and also that his family thinks he's an asshole. So, with his newly understood diagnosis, does he owe them an apology? Or are his parents the assholes here? On the Magnum, Dan interviews one of our favorite gu...
Oct 19, 2021•52 min•Ep. 782
Ok, exactly how many people need to be involved for it to be called an orgy? A woman has been mulling over something that happened 20 years ago between her and her brother-in-law. When she was 19, and her sister was away, her sister's husband put on some porn, and asked her a bunch of wildly inappropriate sex questions. Then he asked her to keep their conversation secret. Unsurprisingly, they are now divorced. The caller never told her sister about this. Should she tell her now? On the Magnum ve...
Oct 12, 2021•57 min•Ep. 781
"Wait. Where did that flared base, glass butt plug go? Oh, that's right! It's still up my butt!" The caller tried to do everything right. But she might need surgery to get it out. A woman's boyfriend cheated on her with a sex worker... who also happens to be her own damn hairdresser! Dan and the caller have a conversation, and you get to listen in. On the Magnum version of the show, Dan FINALLY interviews the wise and prolific Drs John and Julie Gottman. These two have conducted more than 40 yea...
Oct 05, 2021•52 min•Ep. 780
Wedding drama ahoy! A man's dad had a fight with his sister. Years later, the sister got married, and at her wedding, her dad orchestrated a big walk-out of many of the family, leaving the bride in tears. (That's some stone cold revenge right there.) Should the caller break off contact with his dad over this? A 44 year-old married woman with 2 kids wants to be open-minded about her husband's request to bang a 25 year old gal. But when he tells her that this new woman is "magical" and that he's "...
Sep 28, 2021•55 min•Ep. 779
It's the sight that strikes fear in everyone's hearts: WHITE DREADS. One of his lovers has them, and just doesn't wanna cut them off. His other partners are offended. Should he keep seeing this woman? Is she oblivious to the connotations, or a bit of a troll? A gay man's boyfriend is a very kinky lad. He loves to be denigrated and roughly used. But the tender-hearted caller loves him so much that he feels uncomfortable treating him that way. On both the Micro and the Magnum, Dan chats with Leigh...
Sep 21, 2021•51 min•Ep. 778
A woman had sex with her super-hot neighbor. Then she found out that not only is he unvaccinated, but uses a fake vax card. Should she continue to share her body with this monster? A young gay man wants to be able to both top and bottom. But when he's topping his gets so in his head that he loses his erection. Dan Savage! Help this man keep a rock hard boner! On the Magnum, a caller who escaped her family's cult when she was a teen has been invited to her sister's wedding. But their abusive cult...
Sep 14, 2021•54 min•Ep. 777
Have you ever lost a dildo up your butt? This man has, but somehow the tale ends up as our opening "sexcess" story. A 51 year-old woman is seeing a 33 year-old man. It's fantastic, but how long can it last? On the Magnum, Dan brings back Lina Dune, from "Ask a Sub" to talk about some subby listener questions and her new podcast. Finally, a couple won't watch porn for ethical reasons. And he doesn't want to be poly or open. She wonders...how can they have any fun?! 206-302-2064 voicemail@savagelo...
Sep 07, 2021•52 min•Ep. 776
A man's randy co-worker has slept with the wives of other workers and tons of women on the job. He nearly got fired for it, but he's back. Should the caller confront this man and tell him to knock it off? Warn all the females on staff? If someone you were chatting with from an app told you that his previous relationship was with his own therapist, would you consider this a red flag? Would you meet him anyway? On the Magnum, great news! Apple is installing mass surveillance on the iPhone. Just ki...
Aug 31, 2021•49 min•Ep. 775
Everyone's worried that they are taking up too much space. A straight man feels guilty that he signed up for an activity meant for folks in the LGBT community. And, a transman ventured into a gay leather bar with his girlfriend and got the stink-eye. Is it cool to bring your girlfriend into dedicated gay male space? Everybody's talking about the new animated educational series "Welcome to Kinkyville" that's being developed. Dan interviews co-creator/host Emily Blake about this awesome project, a...
Aug 24, 2021•56 min
On this episode, we are treated to a couple of calls concerning pronouns. One comes from a man who doesn't understand how to use the familiar 2nd person plural when one or more are non-binary. Another comes from a man who proposes a new catch all gender-neutral pronoun to rule us all. Will it stick? On the Magnum, Dan chats with Dr Carole Hooven, author of Testosterone: The Story of the Hormone that Dominates and Divides Us. They discuss how testosterone works, and how we all have to live with i...
Aug 17, 2021•51 min•Ep. 773
A woman is sick of being a dirty little secret. Her boyfriend's ex-partner would withhold access to the kids if she found out about the relationship. Can she demand that he tell his ex? A woman fantasizes that she's a gay man when she's having sex. But the rest of the time, she feels like a cis woman. Dan issues a label for her and sends her on her way. On the Magnum, a comedian is creeped out that her ex-boyfriend might come heckle her at her stand-up shows. Dan welcomes comedian Jen Kirkman to...
Aug 10, 2021•53 min•Ep. 772
Our opening "sexcess" story will make all the licensed massage therapists cringe. We are truly sorry. A woman and her girlfriend have gotten in the habit of using baby voices with each other. They know this is terrible, but they can't stop. Dan! Make them stop! On the Magnum, Dan continues crushing out on dominatrixes. This week, he interviews Goddess Charlotte Lashes about financial domination, kinky conservatives, and boyfriends who are being dominated by their mothers. Goddess Charlotte COMMA...
Aug 03, 2021•51 min•Ep. 771
