Episode Title: Breaking Free from People Pleasing: A Personal Rant Episode Summary: In this special episode, Becky goes on a passionate rant about people-pleasing advice . Listen for insights that will change how you approach your relationships. Highlights: John Delony's Take: Becky breaks down advice from a renowned expert and shares what she agrees and disagrees with. Personal Stories and Insights: Hear Becky's candid thoughts on how people pleasing affects relationships and what you can do ab...
Jul 17, 2024•15 min
Are you struggling to connect? Kelly & Shalece Fiack are back to share how Two-Way Prayer saved their marriage & can strengthen yours! Get practical tips on: Overcoming resentment & communication roadblocks Deepening emotional connection Creating a daily practice (floors & ceilings!) Plus, a free Two-Way Prayer guide! Resources: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5f50b318fe914e1b2aa32bfb/t/6037ad90fed0f117c530ca90/1614261648995/how-to-practice.pdf https://www.churchofjesus...
Jul 09, 2024•19 min
This episode explores two-way prayer, a practice for deepening your connection with the divine. Kelly and Shalece Fiack discuss its history, how it can guide you, and how to incorporate it into your routine. Learn to listen for messages from your higher power and hear how others have benefited. Resources: https://static1.squarespace.com/static/5f50b318fe914e1b2aa32bfb/t/6037ad90fed0f117c530ca90/1614261648995/how-to-practice.pdf https://www.churchofjesuschrist.org/study/general-conference/2018/04...
Jul 03, 2024•38 min
Feeling Burnt Out from People-Pleasing? You're Not Alone. Do you ever feel like you're constantly seeking approval? Exhausted from always trying to fix things? In this episode, Lauren's story will resonate deeply if you've ever struggled with needing everyone to be Okay. Discover how to: Ditch the need for approval and embrace your authentic self. Navigate uncomfortable emotions with self-compassion. Build healthier, resentment-free relationships. Ready to break free and build the connections yo...
Jun 26, 2024•22 min
Building a House of Repair: Embracing Mistakes and Growth In this episode, we explore the concept of 'building a house of repair, not perfection,' and how this mindset can transform family dynamics and personal growth. 00:00 Introduction and Summer Greetings 00:13 Introducing the Concept: House of Repair, Not Perfection 01:25 Perfectionism vs. Progress 03:31 Embracing Mistakes and Learning 06:27 Practical Tips for Building a House of Repair 07:34 Final Thoughts and Weekly Challenge...
May 29, 2024•56 sec
Acknowledging and accepting your partner's feelings without agreeing with them is crucial for building a strong connection. Understanding the difference between validation and agreement, using active listening techniques, managing frustrations without defensiveness, and resolving conflicts constructively is essential. This guide aims to improve relationship dynamics, reduce conflict, and foster a deeper connection with your partner. Let's talk. Sign up now. https://calendly.com/beckycoach/resent...
May 21, 2024•13 min
Becky discusses the challenges of dealing with a partner's defensiveness during conflicts, particularly for those who often prioritize others' needs over their own. Click here for a safe space to talk. https://calendly.com/beckycoach/resentment-free-relationships .00:00 Introduction to Navigating Partner Defensiveness 00:45 Lessons from Bear Lake 02:02 Understanding Partner Defensiveness and Conflict 03:01 Strategies for Managing Defensiveness and Conflict 05:33 Setting Boundaries and Self-Care ...
May 14, 2024•17 min
This episode delves into the concept of personal authority Becky discusses the significance of reflecting on our responses, actions, and feelings to own our personal authority. 00:00 Introduction to the Podcast 00:04 Exploring Dog Training and Personal Growth 01:29 The Concept of Inner Authority 02:05 Applying Inner Authority in Personal Relationships 04:39 Empowering Yourself Through Inner Authority 06:23 Conclusion and Reflections
May 09, 2024•8 min
In this episode, host Becky delves into the unique experience of re-listening to a book she had read years ago, 'What Alice Forgot' by Liane Moriarty. Re-experiencing the book offered her new insights, emphasizing how different stages of life can alter one's interpretation of a story. The narrative of Alice, who forgets a decade of her life, serves as a foundation for Becky to explore the significance of perspective in shaping our understanding of ourselves and our relationships. She highlights ...
May 01, 2024•12 min
Becky delves into the concept of 'hidden dreams' within relationships, drawing on insights from John and Julie Gottman's work on healthy conflict. Becky highlights how perpetual arguments often mask deeper, unexpressed desires and values. Through the lens of the Gottmans' personal experience and a detailed example of their methodology, she illustrates the transformative potential of uncovering and empathizing with these hidden dreams for resolving conflicts. The episode emphasizes the significan...
Apr 10, 2024•14 min
In Becky's 200th podcast episode, she talks about handling conflicts well. She starts where the last episode ended and talks about the third step: calming yourself and the other person down during arguments by taking breaks or doing calming activities like breathing exercises. Then, she talks about the fourth step: compromising, which she says isn't a bad thing but should be done in a fair way that respects everyone's views. She shares a personal story about resolving a conflict. The fifth step ...
Mar 26, 2024•14 min
In this episode, we delve into the second step of the five-step series on resolving conflict, as taught by the Gottman Institute. The focus is on making and receiving repair attempts to manage conflicts effectively. The host, Becky, emphasizes the importance of starting conflicts softly, avoiding the 'four horsemen' that escalate fights, and adopting positive repair attempts. Techniques such as using 'I feel' statements, staying polite, and employing the Gottman repair checklist are discussed. T...
Mar 20, 2024•12 min
This episode features insights from John and Julie Gottman's research on conflict in marriage, advocating for healthy disagreement as a key component of intimacy and trust in relationships. Host Becky debunks myths about conflict-free marriages, introduces the concept of 'soft startup' for resolving disagreements, and discusses how to avoid the 'four horsemen of the apocalypse' (criticism, contempt, defensiveness, stonewalling) for better communication. 00:00 Welcome to the Healthy Conflict Seri...
Mar 13, 2024•17 min
Refreshing Your Culture of Conflict In this podcast episode, Becky discusses the importance of recognizing and improving the culture of conflict within marriages. She draws an analogy between renovating a home and refreshing a relationship's approach to conflict, emphasizing the need to identify and change unproductive behaviors and thoughts. Despite the challenges, the effort made to enhance conflict resolution is valuable, aiming to strengthen relationships. Becky encourages listeners to engag...
Mar 07, 2024•9 min
In this podcast, the host, Becky, discusses a common question asked by her coaching clients about managing emotional responsibility towards the feelings of others. She explains the challenge faced by empathetic individuals who are closely connected with their family, friends, or colleagues and feel obliged to take on their emotions. She discusses the importance of awareness of this emotional over-responsibility and offers advice on tolerating discomfort associated with others' feelings. Some rec...
Feb 28, 2024•10 min
Rebuilding Trust and Dating after Divorce In this episode, host Becky answers a question about recovery and dating after divorce. She emphasizes the importance of thorough grieving and the role of forgiveness in healing. She asserts the necessity of building self-trust and confidence, and the ability to manage negative emotions to be ready to date again. She encourages viewing adversities as growth opportunities. Becky ends by offering a free consultation session to listeners for further assista...
Feb 21, 2024•15 min
Overcoming Codependency and People Pleasing: Five Pillars of Resentment-Free Relationships In this Valentine's Day-themed podcast episode, Becky addresses resentments that often affect relationships due to codependency and people-pleasing behaviors. Becky offers a 12-week coaching package introducing five pillars for healthier relationships, free from resentment. The first pillar is 'Selfhood' where individuals work on building confidence and identity. The second pillar involves learning to have...
Feb 14, 2024•13 min
Tapping Away Stress: Becky and Rachel Hall discuss the concept of 'tapping', a technique she has been practicing for over ten years to manage pain, depression, and anxiety. Trained through Brooke Snow's Creation Coach certification, Rachel shares her journey dealing with depression and celiac disease, and how tapping has helped her cope with these conditions. She explains tapping as an alternative to acupuncture, using pressure points to signal the brain's reaction towards relaxing the body and ...
Feb 06, 2024•29 min
Learn five strategies for dealing with a grumpy family member: not taking the bad mood personally, resisting the urge to 'fix' the other person's emotion, reflecting on their feelings by verbalizing empathy, asking open-ended questions to understand their situation, and setting healthy boundaries. The message throughout is helping listeners to understand better, respond to, and navigate grumpiness in their relationships without attributing it to their self-worth, granting valid space for emotion...
Jan 31, 2024•7 min
Welcome to "Resentment Free Relationships" with your host, Becky. In this episode, she celebrates the podcast's nearly five-year journey, expressing gratitude to listeners. She dives into the Self-Coaching model by Brooke Castillo, a key tool in her life coaching practice. Becky guides you through its five elements: circumstances, thoughts, feelings, actions, and results. She also introduces the Law of Creation model by Brooke Snow, offering a different perspective. Both models aim to raise awar...
Jan 24, 2024•16 min
Becky talks about self-abandonment and its impact on relationships, particularly close family relationships. You will learn to identify five self-abandonment signs: fear of rejection, misunderstanding self-worth, avoiding negative emotions, reliance on external validation, and lack of boundaries. 00:00 Introduction and Personal Anecdote 00:39 The Importance of Close Relationships 01:45 Understanding People Pleasing and Codependency 03:03 The Concept of Self-Abandonment 03:30 A Real-Life Example:...
Jan 16, 2024•15 min
Resentment Free Relationships: How to Improve Your Close Family Connections in 2024 In the January 2024 episode of the Resentment Free Relationships podcast, the host outlines the purpose, which is to assist listeners in improving their relationships, particularly close family ones. She aims to teach listeners how to stop seeking approval and feeling overly responsible for others' feelings while building their self-confidence and authenticity. Encouraging self-discovery, knowledge acquisition, a...
Jan 02, 2024•6 min
Year-End Review and Reflections: Wisdom and Wins of 2023 Becky reflects on the triumphs and lessons of 2023. She recounts personal experiences ranging from getting her bachelor's degree and becoming a certified life coach, to family projects and real estate ventures. She discusses embracing the challenges and changes that come with shifting stages of life, specifically in menopause and body acceptance. Becky also explores professional achievements in her coaching business, discussing topics she'...
Dec 28, 2023•15 min
Click on the link https://calendly.com/believefitness/45 and sign up for a free session where we will chat. about where you feel stuck, and where that negative emotion, which can turn into resentment, is bubbling up for you. So if you're feeling a lot of that resentment or feeling stuck click on the link, find me on Instagram, send me a DM, and let's chat.
Dec 19, 2023•13 min
In this episode, we discuss the importance of being honest with ourselves and how self-deception can manifest in various aspects of our lives. Through thought-provoking questions, we aim to bring awareness to these hidden patterns without the weight of self-judgment. Key Questions Explored: What am I pretending not to know, or what am I pretending to not know is true? What is the thing I keep avoiding or not wanting to deal with in my relationships? What am I afraid to admit to myself, and how d...
Dec 13, 2023•10 min
Welcome to "Resentment-Free Relationships" with Becky Smith! In this episode, we explore the concept of "Secret Contracts" inspired by Kim and Penn Holderness. These silent agreements in relationships, formed through routine, can be both efficient and potential sources of dysfunction. We discuss common triggers like unequal household chores, drawing from personal experiences and reflections. Becky shares her own journey of renegotiating responsibilities, emphasizing open communication. As relati...
Dec 05, 2023•14 min
Becky joins Jordana Theissen as a featured guest on the "LDS and Loving It" podcast. Getting into some real talk about kicking those people-pleasing habits to the curb and building relationships without the baggage of resentment. Becky shares her story, shining a light on how high-functioning codependency can mess with your vibe and why self-awareness is Key. She's all about swapping out those "shoulds" for what you truly want, putting you back in the driver's seat of your decisions. Chatting ab...
Nov 28, 2023•36 min
Special guest Denita Bremer, LCS certified trauma coach , shares her story and insights into trauma healing. Learn how to identify and understand trauma, explore the role of the nervous system, and discover practical tools to navigate fear and build safety in relationships. Instagram @Denitabremer https://denitabremer.com/
Nov 21, 2023•37 min•Season 3Ep. 183
Hey there! 🎙️ Join us for a cozy chat with the fabulous Sabrina de Jong as we unpack the mysteries of household life. Ever found yourself drowning in resentment? Fear not! We're turning that negativity into pure empowerment, drawing lessons from the amazing "Both Things Are True." Sabrina spills the beans on navigating the wild world of housework, sharing tips that might just change your daily grind. And guess what? Housework isn't just chores—it's a legit learning lab! Inspired by the brillian...
Nov 14, 2023•34 min
In this podcast episode, we continued our conversation with Kristen Rutter about the Faith Matters Conference. Here are the main points: Jared Halverson talked about understanding opposites and encouraging open questioning without judgment. Patrick Mason discussed the importance of creating a safe space for open discussions and the commitment to stay in the faith for positive change. Jodi Moore addressed common fears related to faith and the need for empathy and understanding in addressing them....
Nov 08, 2023•20 min•Season 3Ep. 185
