When it comes to positive thinking you’ve likely got two big problems that I’m going to help you solve today: 1) You’re in a negative space too often and that’s affecting your relationships. Maybe your negative thinking has you feeling depressed, anxious, impatient or easily frustrated. This, of course, impacts everything from your communication to your connection in all your relationships. 2) You get into a negative space because of other people’s negative energy and emotions or because you sta...
Oct 20, 2020•40 min•Season 3Ep. 113
Do you have negative thoughts that you just can’t seem to stop thinking? If you’ve tried tools to stop negative thoughts and you haven’t been successful, then this episode is for you. The issue is that you’ve been going about stopping negative thoughts the wrong way. Namely, you wait until you have them, and then you try to stop them. There’s something I call the Goodbye Negative Thinking Trinity and, when you use it consistently, you’ll be able to alter your negative thoughts to such a degree t...
Oct 13, 2020•32 min•Season 3Ep. 112
I’m devoting this whole month to how to be happy now. I'll talk about how to stop negative thinking, how to start positive thinking, how to avoid the mistakes you’ve likely made in the past when you’ve tried affirmations and thinking positive thoughts, what the steps are for living happily in your now and how to make these changes and keep them for the long haul (and, of course, showing you all the research to back it up). Get ready to say goodbye to the negative thinking treadmill and hello to ...
Oct 06, 2020•45 min•Season 3Ep. 111
Last week I talked about what to do if your partner is jealous and this week I’m focusing on you! Today I’m covering everything you ever wanted to know about why you’re jealous but were too jealous to ask. Then I’m going to, as always, give you actionable tips to move away from jealousy and resentment and towards confidence, clarity and joy. Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/110-2/ Relationship Goal Setting Workbook: https://abbymedcalf.vipmembervault.com/teaser/courses/view/5 ------------...
Sep 29, 2020•30 min•Season 3Ep. 110
Having a jealous partner sucks. And I don’t just mean a partner who thinks you’re cheating. I’m also talking about a partner who isn’t supportive of your wins or who tries to diminish your accomplishments. Get ready for a two-part series on jealousy. This week I’m going to give you my 5-step process for what to do if your partner is jealous so you can move from fear and resentment to connection and hope. Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/109/ Relationships Goal Setting Workbook: https://ab...
Sep 22, 2020•41 min•Season 3Ep. 109
Do you notice that you’re feeling more tired or fatigued these days? Maybe you’re having difficulty concentrating or find yourself more impatient than usual? It might be that you just flat out feel more depressed or anxious. Whether you’re noticing symptoms or not, you are likely suffering from what’s now known as coronavirus fatigue or pandemic burnout. Today I’m going to teach you how to identify your symptoms and my top tips to help you stay calm and focused right now. Full shownotes: https:/...
Sep 15, 2020•46 min•Season 3Ep. 108
Does your partner want different things in the bedroom than you? Today I'm coming at you with my 3-step process for getting on the same page in the bedroom, and beyond. Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/ask-dr-abby-what-to-do-if-you-and-your-partner-want-different-things-in-bed/ For the 15 Questions to Ask for a Better Sex Life, click on the link above, scroll down to the bottom, and enter your name/email. -------------------- Subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_cente...
Sep 08, 2020•41 min•Season 3Ep. 107
Depression is more common than you may think! According to the World Health Organization, more than 264 million people worldwide experience depression. There are many different types of depression and the symptoms can vary among people. But the big question is, how do you know if someone is depressed or just having a hard time? And, once you know, what should you do? Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/what-to-do-if-my-partner-is-depressed-and-how-to-know-if-theyre-just-sad-2/ To download th...
Sep 01, 2020•46 min•Season 3Ep. 106
What to do when that honeymoon phase ends in your relationship? I’ve got your answer: Be happy because it means you’ve moved on to better things! The honeymoon phase, where everything feels amazing, is due to a biochemical process called limerence and this is like the best push-up bra in the world: It looks great in the beginning but, eventually, everyone’s going to figure out what’s real. Find the full shownotes here: https://abbymedcalf.com/what-to-do-when-the-honeymoon-phase-ends-in-your-rela...
Aug 25, 2020•51 min•Season 3Ep. 105
Today I’m going to teach you how to have a fair fight with anyone, whether it’s a partner, coworker or friend. I'll share the reason why tools have failed in the past (there’s a secret here that’s not going to be a secret after today), and then I’m coming at you with my top 3 rules for having a fair, effective fight AND an awesome, easy tool you’ll be able to download to stop a fight in its tracks! Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-to-fight-fair-the-3-rules-for-having-an-effective-argu...
Aug 18, 2020•39 min•Season 3Ep. 104
Does someone complain to you about something and then, when you give them ideas and solutions, do they shoot you down? Today I’m going to tell you why that happens and the simple but super effective tool to make it stop. Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/ask-dr-abby-my-partner-doesnt-listen-to-me-2/ ---------- Subscribe to my YouTube channel: youtube.com/subscription_center?add_user=AbbyMedcalfThriving Buy my book, Be Happily Married: Even If Your Partner Won’t Do a Thing: https://abbymedc...
Aug 11, 2020•29 min•Season 3Ep. 103
Your day doesn’t start when you turn off your alarm in the morning. Your day starts when you set the alarm the night before. Getting your butt to bed at a reasonable hour and then getting shut eye is key to having a good day. With good sleep you’ll feel closer to your partner, be more productive and creative at work, be a more patient parent and even lose weight and be more satisfied in your life overall. Sleep is the answer to your happy life! Find the full shownotes here: https://abbymedcalf.c...
Aug 04, 2020•52 min•Season 3Ep. 102
I have long believed that the tools I teach apply to any and all relationships. It’s time to simplify your life and focus on a few tools that you’ll use everywhere. No more worrying, “How do I talk to my boss?,” “Is there any way to get through to my mother-in-law?,” “Am I a lousy parent?!” Today's episode will cover the secret to making tools work in every relationship including my top 3 tips! Full shownotes: https://abbymedcalf.com/the-3-best-tools-to-use-in-every-relationship-2/ Buy my book, ...
Jul 28, 2020•50 min•Season 3Ep. 101
Today you'll learn one of the foundations of not only a happy, connected relationship, but of a happy, fulfilled life: resilience! The good news is that resilience is a skill you can learn. People in resilient relationships report more ease, satisfaction, & better health. So join me as I break down what resilience really is, why you need it to be happy and my top tips for making it happen! Full shownotes: https://bit.ly/39leZhs Free Optimism Jumpstart Workshop: https://bit.ly/2WJGYSO Hosted ...
Jul 20, 2020•54 min•Season 2Ep. 100
Whether it’s a backhanded compliment, a guilt trip, martyrdom, or that sarcastic comment, it’s always annoying and frustrating to deal with someone who’s being passive aggressive. My goal today is that you’ll walk away with a better understanding of what’s really going on when someone acts this way and some actionable tools to do something about it. Listen up if you’re ready to stop feeling frustrated and stuck and start feeling empowered. Check out the full shownotes here: https://abbymedcalf.c...
Jul 14, 2020•39 min•Season 2Ep. 99
How do you build a healthy relationship? It's all about your mindset. In today's "Ask Dr. Abby" segment, I'm going to answer this question and give you my three best tips for creating a mindset that'll set up the happiest of relationships! Check out the detailed shownotes here: https://abbymedcalf.com/how-do-you-build-a-healthy-relationship/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Jul 07, 2020•34 min•Season 2Ep. 98
If you look up blind spot in the dictionary it says, “An area in which your view is obstructed.” The problem with blind spots in our relationships is that they stop us from exhibiting a healthy perspective. Our judgment and awareness become skewed so we don’t make the healthiest decisions or have the best reactions to situations and people. Today you’re going to learn all about what creates these blind spots and, of course, my top tips for how to “see” again! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/priva...
Jun 30, 2020•42 min•Season 2Ep. 97
Tired of saying the same thing to your partner over and over? Does it feel like your partner isn't listening to you? Today I'm going to talk about what's driving all this misunderstanding: it's the power struggle that's happening that you're not even aware of! For more detail on this topic, head over to my full shownotes here: https://abbymedcalf.com/my-partner-wont-listen-to-me-2/ Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Jun 23, 2020•35 min•Season 2Ep. 96
If you’re a human being and living with your partner, there’s a high likelihood that you’ve come close to killing them a few times since March. In fact, the things that used to only slightly annoy you might now feel at such epic proportions that divorce might seem like a good option. Don't despair! In today's podcast I'm explaining why it's so hard right now and giving you some tips on how to deal. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
Jun 16, 2020•40 min•Season 2Ep. 95
Have you got a coworker who undermines you, but your boss doesn’t see it and thinks your coworker is the bees knees? Or maybe you’ve got a sibling who cuts you down and “teases” you and, when you’ve confronted them, they say you’re too sensitive and can’t take a joke. Today I’m doing an “Ask Dr. Abby” broadcast where we go deep into what to do when you’re being treated unfairly! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Jun 09, 2020•36 min•Season 2Ep. 94
“Emotional labor” refers to all the pieces we need to think about in running a family, such as making meals, cleaning, shopping, childcare, and overall love and support. In today’s episode I explain how emotional labor is hurting your relationship and what to do about it. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Jun 02, 2020•42 min•Season 2Ep. 93
"Are you feeling resentful or exhausted? Is there a fair amount of passive aggressive behavior between you and your partner (or between you and anyone else)? Then you might not be saying “no” enough. Today I’m going to teach you: Why it’s so hard to say "no" Why women have a harder time saying "no" than men My top 5 tips for getting great at saying "no" I’ve got a little giveaway today to help you say "no" more easily, so stick around! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information....
May 26, 2020•43 min•Season 2Ep. 92
Tune in today to learn about the two main things you have to do if you want to stay sane while the world is going crazy. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Apr 14, 2020•33 min•Season 2Ep. 91
This is round two in my “Best Relationship Advice” series. Today, I’m going to teach you the five best philosophies or mindsets to have. These are the tried-and-true ways of thinking that have helped my clients move from disconnected, resentful and frustrated with their partner to emotionally close, at ease and happy with their main person. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Apr 06, 2020•47 min•Season 2Ep. 90
Do you have that person who's just bugging the you-know-what out of you? Well, be bothered no more! Today I’m coming at you with my top 5 tips for dealing with those people who get under your skin! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Mar 31, 2020•31 min•Season 2Ep. 89
Have you ever wondered why it's so hard to apologize? Have you ever apologized and had the other person tell you it was no good? Then today's show is for you! I'll answer all your questions and outline the 6 steps (backed by research) to a real apology! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Mar 24, 2020•40 min•Season 2Ep. 88
Is your partner having a midlife crisis or are they just depressed? What can you do to really help them get out of their struggle and feel happy and sane? Today, I'll outline all you need to know and give you my top 4 tips for how to help your partner through a midlife crisis. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Mar 17, 2020•47 min•Season 2Ep. 87
My goal with this first episode in my Best Relationship Advice series is to give you tips for quick wins that you can use right now to see positive results in a short amount of time. Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Mar 10, 2020•40 min•Season 2Ep. 86
Long distance relationships can actually be happier than geographically close ones but you've got to have the right tools. In today's show I'll lay out my top 8 do's and don'ts of having a relationship that goes the Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Mar 03, 2020•40 min•Season 2Ep. 85
Shame is amazingly destructive and is eating at the foundation of your relationship in ways you likely don't realize. It's affecting everything from your sex life to your emotional closeness. In today's broadcast, I'll break down shame and tell you how to move past it! Hosted on Acast. See acast.com/privacy for more information.
Feb 25, 2020•43 min•Season 2Ep. 84
