The final episode of self-abandoning. There are 14 core issues , I discuss the 8 I see most often in my clients or their partner/spouse. This can be a life-changing episode; it's up to you! Do not miss it. To watch my workshop "How To Stop People Pleasing & Honor Yourself," for FREE click here. To find out what triggers you , click here and download for free, now....
How can you avoid life's victim traps without resorting to victimizing behavior yourself? You are in trouble when you can only be happy when someone else is doing exactly as you want. Emerson said in Self-Reliance, "Nothing can bring you peace but yourself." Ready to start healing? Or maybe you're in a healing program, or you're in maintenance... click here to learn more and register for Healing Through Journaling and start today!...
How can you stop self-abandoning in your relationships? What are the fears and limiting beliefs that cause you to self-abandon? Self-abandoning is the cause of all unhealthy and toxic relationships. Healing Through Journaling is a 21-day challenge and healing journey that will uplevel your life. Click here to learn more, register, and begin today!
Should I stay or should I go? This episode discusses some of the most important things to ask yourself when you're in relationship ambivalence. If you need help finding clarity and are ready to get to work to, please click here and schedule your free clarity call.
What is self-love? What is it really about? How do you know if you love yourself? What is the difference between what many think is self-love and self-care? What truly happens to your life when you start loving yourself? If you are ready to begin healing, are on a healing journey, or are in maintenance... Click here to sign up and start your Healing Through Journaling TODAY! Use the discount code: RRP20 to receive 20% off....
Do you make extensive daily lists of things you should do but can't seem to get done? Do you nag yourself and your partner? Are you in a relationship with someone who procrastinates or constantly tells you what to do and when to do it? Or do you do that to yourself, procrastinate, and command another? If you answered yes to even one of those questions, there is a good chance you were raised with an overly coercive parent/s. Overcoercion is the most common pathogenic parental archetype. And it wr...
So many people ask me how a narcissist becomes a narcissist . Today I deep dive into the neglected inner child. You do not want to miss this! If you are ready to stop people-pleasing and honor yourself, click here and watch my workshop on how to not only stop people-pleasing and honor yourself but also how to implement boundaries the right way, be assertive, and determine if someone is speaking from their inner child, adult, or parent!...
You do not want to miss this episode! The "why's" are answered. Why we stay stuck in unhealthy relationships, what transference is, and why we react the way we do when we are in certain situations. I will give many examples and break it all down for you. Click here to set up your free initial clarity call.
Is your relationship causing you extreme pain? Are the messages becoming louder and louder to make a change? But you don't because when you try, you feel out of control? If you answered yes to even one of these questions, you do not want to miss this episode! I highly recommend ordering the book I referenced in the episode, Deadly Emotions by Don Colbert, MD. It is available in hardcover or paperback....
When the inner child is in control, your life is out of control. One of the things that keep your inner child stuck is people-pleasing. It is time to leave people-pleasing in 2022 and begin to Honor Yourself in 2023. Click here to sign up for my live 2-hour workshop, teaching you exactly how to stop people-pleasing and learn how to set boundaries, how to be assertive, and honor yourself. You want to attend; it is life-changing....
How does a couple start out in love, connection, and happiness and end up disconnected, lonely, sad, and angry? I deep dive into the abyss of relationship rumination. If you are ready to heal your relationship or gain clarity on what to do, click here to set up a free clarity call!
Should you stay or should you go? If your partner has cheated on you or had a long-term affair, you do not want to miss this episode. There are 14 questions to ask yourself when deciding if you should try to reconcile the marriage/relationship. Click here if you are ready to find self-love, confidence, and happiness while working through or leaving a toxic relationship. My DIY course, Tackling Toxic Relationships: The Road To Self-Love, Confidence, and Happiness, is $99 through November. Use cod...
There are 4 words I tell my clients when they're the cheater and are trying to reconcile their relationship: DO NO MORE HARM! If you are a cheater or have been cheated on, you do not want to miss this. If you have been cheated on, you must find self-love and confidence to move through this and make a healthy decision. Click here to learn more & begin my DIY course, Tackling Toxic Relationships: The Road to Self-Love, Confidence, and Happiness! Use code TTR50 to get the course for $99 through...
Most people in unhealthy relationships/marriages act loving only after they receive the love they desire. And that love is short-lived! In this episode, I will unpack how and why this never works. It is attainable but not sustainable. It's time to find self-love, confidence, and happiness within yourself. Until you do, you will stay stuck in this cycle. Click here to begin my DIY course , Tackling Toxic Relationships: The Road To Self-Love, Confidence, and Happiness, for $99! I am offering the c...
Intimate relationships bring about the most pain and pleasure. How and if you work through the pain will determine if you find long-lasting pleasure. Download the free workbook, Unlock Your Secret To Love, I spoke of in the podcast by clicking here now!
In an unhealthy relationship, you will feel ineffective, sad, angry, and mostly frustrated and resentful. And if you stay, you will never fully heal. This episode touches on the question I receive repeatedly, "Should I stay or should I go?" I talk about habits, thoughts, familiarity, maladaptive neuroplasticity, why 80% of people who recover from depression and/or anxiety relapse, and how this is directly correlated to the health of your relationship. If you're ready to get off the crazy train a...
The 5 A's are needs that most of us were not given as children. To live a full, healthy, happy, and loving life, you must give them to yourself first, and then you can accept them and give them to others! If you're ready to change your life, click here to book your free 45-minute clarity call!
When we are ignored, devalued, minimized, neglected, and dismissed in childhood, often covertly, it changes our ability to handle emotions, stress, and life. And it creates a lifelong pattern of self-abandonment and anxiety. How do you think this plays out in our relationships and the workplace? Find out by listening now. If you are ready to stop the cycle of self-abandonment and instead bring in self-love, click here and set up your initial free 45-minute consult call....
Heather takes a deep dive at what happens once a pattern of withholding, withdrawing, and projecting has been established between the partners in an unhealthy relationship. Click here to learn more and register for the fall session of Heather's groundbreaking healing program, Living Your Highest Potential: Heal Yourself, Life, & Relationships! And don't forget to use the code EB50 to receive 50% off the course plus many other bonuses. This code is good for podcast listeners only! It will exp...
Take a raw and in-depth look into codependency. Heather breaks it down for you in layman's terms. Codependency circles the drain around 3 concepts. Learn what they are. Fall registration is open for Living Your Highest Potential: Heal yourself, life, & Relationships. Click here to learn more and register. Don't forget; podcast listeners get 50% off, limited to 10 people. Use the code: EB50 at checkout....
Out of your feelings come many addictions and faulty reactions. In this episode Heather will explore how false beliefs control your life. Enrollment is now open for the fall session of Living Your Highest Potential: Heal Yourself, Relationships, & Life! Click here to learn more and register now. All podcast listeners will receive an early bird discount of 50% off! The code is EB50. Plus, you will receive a plethora of bonuses. There is a limited amount of 50% off coupons!...
Healthy anger can create a deep connection between you and your partner. However, you must learn to control the reactions that create disconnection, not connection. If you're ready to begin healing but not ready for 1:1 work with me, or if you're in maintenance, my inner healing community is for you. Click here to learn more and start healing today!
Did you know anger is healthy? But what isn't healthy is being triggered and then reacting in anger abuse. Listen now and find out the difference between healthy anger and abuse. Click here to download a free PDF to help you identify your triggers. There are nine categories of triggers, with five examples in each category. Identifying your triggers is vital to healing.
Living in a relationship where two people are triggering each other, or one is constantly triggering the other, has severe consequences for our mind, health, and body. Learn the why's behind the triggers. If you are ready to heal and get off the train with no destination, click here for your free clarity call!
Are you reacting from your wounded inner child or responding from your conscious adult? In this episode, I go in-depth on how to tell if you are experiencing unhealed past trauma in a situation or just dealing with the present-day issue. If you are ready to heal yourself or want to see if you and your partner are a fit to work with me, click here for a free clarity call.
Are you an internalizer or an externalizer? I walk you through one of my favorite exercises to identify your healing fantasy and the other "role-self." And yes, the internalizers usually end up with an externalizer. This episode is powerful.
At the beginning of a break-up, you're barely hanging on. I am going to help you get through as best as I can through my podcast. Click here to apply for a spot in my upcoming program, "The Love You Deserve is 51 Days Away: Learn To Allow; not resist, and Let "The One In"
We all have two distinct aspects of our personality: the Adult and the Child. When these two parts are connected and working, there is a sense of wholeness. However, when these two parts are disconnected, because of being wounded, dysfunctional, or undeveloped, there is a sense of conflict, emptiness, and aloneness within. And those things sabotage your relationships.
Which type was your parent/s? You need to identify which type of emotionally immature parent you were raised by so you can start to understand your wounding at a deep level. Click here to download my PDF, The Codependent Bible; I created this years ago, and it is extremely helpful in helping you see your characteristics in 5 different patterns related to codependency.
Time is the wisest counselor of all. Lost time, it's never found again. Oh, the irony. My tagline came from my time as a child, and my discovery that my lost time was my greatest counselor. Because every relationship begins with you! www.HeatherCatherineCarter.com
