What does it take to build a strong team-style partnership? Why do so many entrepreneurial types rely on teamwork in their careers, but struggle to be a team player at home? Renowned therapist and co-founder of The Couples Institue, Pete Pearson, leads Jayson through a body-mind exercise that demonstrates ways to control reaction to stress in conflict and improve teamwork. What Catapulted Pete Pearson Into The Psychology World? [5:00] Why Entrepreneurial & Military Types Struggle With Teamwo...
Jun 27, 2018•55 min
Are you just defaulting to monogamy? Ever GENUINELY asked yourself, "Would a different sexual model work better for me?" Author, sex-advice columnist, podcaster and public speaker, Dan Savage, says we should all ask ourselves these questions regularly. Dan and his husband have chosen what they call a "monogamish" relationship. They've accepted that it's impossible to fulfill all your partner's needs and that's a message we can all learn from. We usually focus on monogamous long-term relationship...
Jun 20, 2018•1 hr 6 min
It's fair to say that relationship is a journey to discover and learn the answers to one love-related question after another. So, what better way to celebrate this in our 200th EPISODE than to answer as many of your love related questions as we can! SHOWNOTES: 200th Episode Contest Details! [2:00] Doing Partnership With Emotionally Unavailable People [11:00] How To Hold Your Partner's Feet To The Fire - With Compassion [20:00] Working Through Past Pain For A Better Relationship [24:00] How to Pr...
Jun 13, 2018•39 min
Couples therapy legends Harville Hendrix & Helen Hunt were told by THEIR therapist that they were the couple from hell . Since then, not only have they mended, they've gone on to write multiple best-selling books that have revolutionized the therapy field. SHOWNOTES: Understanding "Connection" [8:00] What Does 'Imago' Mean, According To The Word's Inventors [15:00] Harville & Helen's Response To Imago Therapy Criticism [20:00] How Harville & Helen’s Turned Their Relationship Around [...
Jun 07, 2018•1 hr
Having awesome friends is great. Having awesome friends that are ALSO on the personal growth path IS BETTER! Personal growth powerhouses Reuvain Bacal, Will Vanderveer, Keith Kurlander & Jayson Gaddis are longtime friends with a quarter century of coaching & self-improvement experience between them. Listen in on their convo! SHOWNOTES: Who Are These Guys? [9:00] The Value Of Community [13:00] How These Four Bros Get Through Conflict With Each Other [21:00] Things The Guys Have Called Eac...
May 30, 2018•1 hr 36 min
We all have a tendency to avoid things that are difficult but Human Connection Specialist and dating coach, Mark Groves, knows where there's pain there's gain. Let's take a look at our wounded, angry warrior sides and see what they have to teach us about loving well! SHOWNOTES: Are You Fixing People to Boost Your Control? [8:00] Overusing of the "Narcissist" Title [16:00] The Value of Accessing Your Anger [21:00] So Your Relationships Are Tough - Stop Running! [28:00] How to Tap Into Your Inner ...
May 23, 2018•1 hr 3 min
Who knew saying the words "I'm insecure" could be so sexy!?! It's time to uncover those insecurities, let go of the entitlement and celebrate where you're really at on your growth path. SHOWNOTES: Why Insecurity Gets a Bad Rap [2:00] Call B.S. on Your Insecure Friends! [5:00] What Does it Mean to be ”Entitled” [6:00] Your Action Step - It’ll Make You Look Sexy! [9:00] For the full Smart Couple Podcast webpage for this episode visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast196...
May 16, 2018•12 min
Coaches Neil Sattin and Chloe Urban are a great example of a couple getting it right in the face of some serious challenges. Listen closely and you can snag some of their most helpful relationship tools! SHOWNOTES: Chloe Urban and Neil Sattin’s Love Story [5:00] Advice for Couples When Step-Kids Are Involved [11:00] Why We Fail To Stand Up For Who We Are In Partnership [25:00] Primal Fears [27:00] How Does “Safety” Play a Role In Neil and Chloe's Relationship [31:00] Tip to Repair Relationship D...
May 09, 2018•1 hr 5 min
Jayson met up with renowned couples therapy expert and author, Ellyn Bader, at this year's Interpersonal Neurobiology Conference at UCLA. WOW, was she a treasure trove of insight. Not just theories and concepts, but insight that can be used every day. SHOWNOTES: Who is Ellyn Bader? [3:00] Anxiety vs Growth-Promoting Anxiety in Relationship [7:00] Three Different Decision-Making Strategies For Couples [16:00] Ellyn’s Insight for Therapists [21:00] Why Telling Your Partner What You "Need" Can be P...
May 02, 2018•1 hr 2 min
Right now, researchers and the public are fascinated with brain science and Dr. Dan Siegel is a legend in that department. Jayson and Dr. Siegel dig in deep in this one, discussing autoimmune disease, rewiring the brain, GMO food, struggles in the therapy field and so much more.d and so much more. SHOWNOTES: Why It’s Important to Have Healthy Adult Relationships for Good Health [12:00] Dr. Siegel's Thoughts on Epigenetics [15:00] The 5 Parts of Making Meaning [24:00] Emotion & The Importance...
Apr 25, 2018•1 hr 11 min
A new study shows child abuse should be considered the second largest cause of illness in the U.S.. And yet, our diagnostic system ignores trauma completely. Listen to what trauma expert Bessel van der Kolk has to say about that and get his insight into turning traumatic pain into personal power! SHOWNOTES: Bessel Responds to The Allegations Against Him [10:00] 2nd Largest National Health Problem: Child Abuse [17:00] Avoiding Seeing Trauma Victims as Broken People [20:00] Why Meds Don't Cure Tra...
Apr 10, 2018•56 min
Men are getting their world's rocked by the #MeToo movement and the rapid change in gender norms. In this episode, Jayson taps into Adam Gilad's valuable insight on men in the modern world. SHOWNOTES: Who is Adam Gilad & What is Going on With Men Right Now [3:00] Men and the #MeToo Movement [8:00] Why Does the #MeToo Movement Make Some Men Defensive? [11:00] Why Male Identity Ultimately Doesn't Mean Shit [14:00] Mom Issues and Male Rage [18:00] Thoughts on Male Conditioning [20:00] How do yo...
Apr 02, 2018•37 min
This year's Interpersonal Neurobiology Conference at UCLA was a dream for a relationship research and brain science nerd! If you geek out on that stuff, you'll love hearing the highlights Jayson and his therapist partner, Ellen Boeder, have in their personal conference notes. SHOWNOTES: Antonio Damasio Highlights [5:00] Dan Siegel Highlights [8:00] Harville Hendrix and Helen Hunt Highlights - Safe Conversation [12:00] Crazy Listening Statistic [15:00] Secure Functioning Relationships and Other S...
Mar 29, 2018•41 min
If you're like most people, you spend FOUR HOURS A DAY on your phone and check it ONE HUNDRED TIMES! Is all that time improving your life and the lives of others? If you use social media and want to hear a unique story about rebuilding after a separation, this episode is worth every minute! SHOWNOTES: Who is Mark Shapiro? [5:00] Some Social Media Fails [12:00] Mark’s Extreme Social Media Experiment [16:00] Why do we Avoid Reaching out to Friends Online? [27:00] Mark’s First Marriage: Before &...
Mar 22, 2018•1 hr 11 min
In this episode, Jayson breaks down the three stages of long-term relationships, why they matter and what it takes to advance beyond the three stages to the ultimate partnership phase we all desire. SHOWNOTES: Relationship Stage One: Infatuation [4:00] Relationship Stage Two is Challenging! [8:00] Earning the RIGHT to Get to Stage Three: True Love [9:00] Jayson's Fourth Stage: Love 360 [11:00] To view this episode's webpage visit https://relationshipschool.net/podcast187...
Mar 13, 2018•15 min
Ever heard of a freak accident rocking someone's world and totally changing them for the better? Gay Hendricks has one of those stories! If you're interested in the mind-body connection and seeking purpose, a forever partner or a new you...listen closely and Gay may just share all the wisdom you need, without experiencing your own life-altering mishap. SHOWNOTES: The Gay Hendrick’s Story [15:00] Are You Having the Same Argument Over and Over? [23:00] Gay’s Second New Beginning [27:00] How to Bri...
Mar 08, 2018•52 min
Kids have been getting a lot of attention for troubling behavior recently...committing mass shootings, posting disturbing viral videos and lashing out at their parents with shocking rage. What is going on!?! In this episode, renowned author and counselor Kim John Payne clears up misconceptions about "disobedient" children and explains how you can bring a balance of power back to your household. SHOWNOTES: Be Inquisitive, Not Accusatory [18:00] When a Child is Distressed, Connection is Key [27:00...
Mar 01, 2018•1 hr 19 min
Seeking purpose, health and happiness? International educator, best selling author, researcher and human behavior expert Dr. John Demartini can help you find answers! Don't miss this diverse episode with one of Jayson's greatest mentors. SHOWNOTES: What we do vs. what we say [10:00] What's your strategy for achieving your goals? [13:00] So you think your job sucks, but does it really? [18:00] Illness, symptoms and the mind [20:00] Thoughts on reincarnation [26:00] Demartini's theories on the ris...
Feb 20, 2018•1 hr 29 min
Fighting in front of the kids is a major taboo, but should it be? What if we started treating each conflict in the home as an opportunity for relationship homeschooling? Jayson Gaddis has spent years teaching kids (including his own) about how to do conflict. News flash: Lectures aren't the answer. Leading by example is! In this episode, you'll learn how to take your family's authenticity to a whole new level AND ensure the young adults in your life learn how to do conflict from someone who care...
Feb 06, 2018•17 min
Not a fan of your inner critic? Want to get rid of it? What if that negative voice inside isn't your enemy but a valuable part of your internal family? Author, psychotherapist and founder of the Internal Family Systems Model (IFS), Richard Schwartz, says our true "Self" exists side by side with the many parts that make us who we are. The trick is putting the "Self" back in the driver's seat. In this episode, Richard and Jayson talk IFS and explore the concept that people are naturally multiple. ...
Jan 31, 2018•1 hr 7 min
Did you know around one in ten marriages starts as a long-distance relationship? Connor and Vienna are one long-distance couple on their way to marriage and, as professional mentors, they have many gems of wisdom to share. Find out what's working for them and see how their insight applies to you! SHOWNOTES Who are Connor Beaton and Vienna Pharaon? [7:00] Connor and Vienna's love story [10:00] This couple's tips for long-distance couples [20:00] The importance of communication in long-distance re...
Jan 22, 2018•1 hr
Wondering HOW The Relationship School® changes lives? If it's really worth it? Curious why more and more people are saying it's life changing and the best thing they've ever done? In this episode, we hear the honest stories of four Relationship School students, each living different lives with unique challenges. SHOWNOTES Who are these four women? [9:00] How The Relationship School did what therapy could not [19:00] Community & Commitment make it work [25:00] Relationship School and your kid...
Jan 18, 2018•1 hr 1 min
Happy New Year! In this special episode, Jayson shares his candid thoughts on what worked for the Smart Couple Podcast last year, what did not and the changes planned for 2018. We also get Jayson's top ten episodes list from 2017. SHOWNOTES The Smart Couple Podcast: Reflections on 2017 and Plans for 2018 [4:00] What's The Relationship School Have In Store for 2018? [12:00] Jayson's 2017 Top Ten Episodes List [17:00] Hidden Power Of Conflict – Annie Lalla – SC 88 How To Deal With An Avoidant Part...
Jan 06, 2018•26 min
Wondering what you can learn from a millennial couple? Turns out it's quite a bit! Kiyomi and Joel are a mixed-race millennial couple that discovers how much their culture plays into their relationship. These two high school sweethearts grew up together and their system for growing together as they mature (as we all do) is inspiring. Think where you come from isn't a big part of your love life? Uncertain a couple so young can offer profound wisdom? Prepare to be surprised! SHOWNOTES: Kiyomi &...
Dec 20, 2017•53 min
Couples that survive the toughest relationship challenges are so impressive! Leahnora and Noah are one of those couples. Cheating nearly tore them apart but they made commitments to change themselves and now they're stronger than ever before. What did they do? How do they handle the baggage of their past? Jayson explores the tough questions here. Also, Leahnora and Noah are still working through some common issues around sexuality and conflict and they share vulnerably about this as Jayson gives...
Dec 14, 2017•1 hr 7 min
Is your spiritual growth helping your relationship? Are you collaborating with your partner to better yourself as an individual? Or are you going to your corner of the house to meditate all by yourself? Their careers as therapists and decades of mediation experience have lead Jayson Gaddis and his wife Ellen Boeder to multiple spiritual development discoveries. Turns out even the most spiritually advanced amongst us struggle with relationships. Jayson and Ellen also encourage couples to discover...
Dec 06, 2017•43 min
According to John Gray, women are embracing their masculine side and men their feminine side more than ever before and our new behavior is significantly influencing our biology and the new challenges that we face in our most intimate relationships. John Gray, author of Men are From Mars, Women are From Venus , says that as gender roles change, so are our hormones, making many relationships ... well, complicated. As Jayson finds out in this episode, John Gray is willing to stir up controversy to ...
Nov 30, 2017•1 hr 32 min
The Smart Couple Quote Book is out! This is a relationship book unlike any other. Add tools to your relationship toolbox with just a minute of reading a day. You will learn radically simple ways to avoid pointless fights, have better sex, and build an indestructible partnership. Who is the Smart Couple Quote Book for: - Singles! - Couples! - Friends! - Coaches! - Yoga/Meditation Instructors! - Team Leaders! - Busy People! - Lifelong Learners! - Quote Lovers! and more.... Take a selfie with your ...
Nov 19, 2017•16 min
Unsure why certain interactions with loved ones get you so upset? Ever struggle to relate to the hardship of others? Psychotherapist Sharon Stanley says the issue could be trauma, trauma you may not even be aware you have. Once we assess our own trauma we can begin exercising our senses and become more compassionate to others. According to Sharon, we owe it to ourselves and to each other to consider the pain in our pasts, only then can we embody true empathy! SHOWNOTES Who is Sharon Stanley? [6:...
Nov 16, 2017•45 min
What is Zen Parenting Radio? Todd & Cathy’s story Cathy’s post-pregnancy identity crisis You can’t make your partner like what you like Todd’s wake up call When “husband’ is a loaded term The ugly side of “Happy wife, happy life” Getting out of your kids way Drop the parent “role” and be a role model Keep your parenting baggage to yourself
Nov 09, 2017•1 hr 2 min
